Do You Struggle to Trust Yourself?

It was really a fun week but very , very busy with work and all the things and I decided to restart yoga this last week I started on the first .

I ended up doing eight out of nine days which I was really proud of myself for and totally celebrated , because I could have gotten upset with myself and ripped myself apart for missing a day and then just completely stopped .

But I decided not to do that because the one day that I missed was the day I went and saw pink and I didn't get home until like one in the morning and I had been awake for like 21 hours and I decided that it was more important for me to get some sleep . So I celebrated and it was kind of like what I was talking about last week .

You know , celebrate yourself along the way and show yourself some compassion and be kind to yourself . So that was really exciting and I've been feeling amazing since I started doing yoga again . So , okay , we're going to start today's episode and pulling a card from the magic of what if ? Card deck , and then I've got a few other things to chat about today .

So here we go , and I've got a few other things to chat about today , so here we go . This is hilarious . I had , literally , I had started recording and then I like went down a path and I was like that's not really what I want to talk about . And so the card that I pulled is what if I easily step into my magnificence ?

And I literally , less than five minutes ago , shuffled the deck , pulled a card , and this is the card I pulled so clearly . That is the message for today . What if I easily step into my magnificence ? I know that I've had people tell me that I am magnificent and I don't always believe it , but I think we need to start believing in our magnificence .

We are here to grow and evolve and expand and do amazing things . Even if the amazing thing that you do today is smile at somebody and make their day , you just never know . You just never know . So what if I easily step into my magnificence ? I love that . The universe blows me away all the time , literally .

And there's 44 cards in this deck people , 44 cards , and I shoveled it and pulled the same freaking card again . So step into your magnificence and don't be afraid . Don't be afraid because you truly , truly are magnificent . So what I want to talk about today ? I want to talk a little bit about trust .

It has been said to me that all trust is self-trust , and when I first heard that , I was like I don't really believe that . And then , the more I thought about it , I was like you know , it's kind of true . It's kind of true because it's not really what other people are doing . You know what I mean .

Whether it's in a romantic relationship or a friendship or everything really comes down to do . I trust myself and the question is do you trust yourself to handle and move through whatever happens , regardless of the outcome , even if the outcome isn't what you wanted , expected or desired ?

Do you know and trust yourself that she'll be okay , that you will be okay , no matter what ? It's taken me some time to get to that point , but there's little things that you can do if you don't trust yourself , like a lot of people don't trust themselves . I know that I have historically made some poor decisions in my life .

I don't regret the decisions Let me take that back . They're not necessarily poor decisions , they're just decisions . There's no good , bad . They're just decisions that I've made that have taken me down various paths and those paths have created my experiences that have brought me to where I am today . So no regrets about those decisions .

However , life has not gone the way I expected and that's okay , because it's pretty magnificent in all kinds of ways . Don't get me wrong . There is shit that comes up , for sure , but for the most part it's magnificent .

I just got to do two concerts this week and go to a football game and hang out with my friends and my sister and my niece , and it's fun because I intentionally create fun in my life , because it's important to me . It's important to me to have a good time . So trust what are ways that you can build trust within yourself and your decision-making ?

One of the things that I've been doing is yoga , right , so I'm doing yoga and I'm trusting myself that I'm going to do it because it's important to me . I made the decision , I made the commitment to myself and so I'm choosing to do that .

So , even when you're doing small things and proving to yourself that you can do it things and proving to yourself that you can do it , that you will do it . It's those little things .

Those little things build trust and the belief that you need to have in yourself , whether it's choosing to drink more water every day or choosing to speak up for yourself when something comes up . I guess the question to ask yourself is do I trust myself and why would I put my trust ? This isn't coming out the way I want it to .

I feel like I have told myself that I don't trust myself because of decisions that I've made , but that's not true . There are reasons why I can actually disprove that . Huh , that's interesting , isn't that interesting ? See , I have these thoughts that come up and then I start to get curious about them and go is that really true ?

I don't know that that is really true . There are some areas of my life that I don't feel like I trust myself .

However , I'm starting to believe yeah , I now know that , no matter what happens in my life , I know I'm going to be okay , and that has taken time to learn how to shift that belief about not trusting myself , because I used to think that the trust was outside of me and trusting that other people were going to make me happy , or trusting that other people were

going to make me happy , or trusting that they weren't going to hurt my feelings , or trusting that they were going to show up for me , and putting all of that on other people . And I don't want to put that responsibility on other people because it's not fair . It's not responsibility on other people because it's not fair .

It's not their responsibility to create my happiness , to create my belief in myself . But I have choice . If someone isn't treating me the way I feel like I deserve to be treated , if someone isn't speaking to me the way I want to be spoken to , I can choose whether or not I want that person to be a part of my life and my experience .

I choose to surround myself with people that I know love me and care about me and challenge me and help me to grow . Those are the people that I choose to have in my life , and I get to decide that , and so do you .

So I also know now that , even if things don't work out the way I would like or the way I hope or the way I desire , I know that I'm going to learn something from it . It's going to help me grow as a person and I know that I'm going to be okay .

I know that I'm going to be okay no matter what , because I'm not looking outside of myself for people to create my happiness . What ? Because I'm not looking outside of myself for people to create my happiness . I create that within myself , for myself , and I want people in my life that are going to contribute to that , not be solely responsible for it .

I know you've heard me say that before , but that was a huge shift for me that I made a few years ago and it was a pretty monumental shift . I was taking a class one time and one of my mentors said self-trust is that knowing that I've got this , no matter fucking what .

And again , it's not just that you've got it , it's that you know , regardless of what happens , you're going to be okay . So that goes along with the mindfulness in your growth journey allowing yourself to learn to trust yourself . If you don't trust yourself .

I was talking to somebody today and something had come up for them and they were starting to feel really emotional and wanted to cry . I was like that makes me feel , like I want to cry and I said cry , your body needs that release . So if things come up for you and you feel like you need to cry , that's your body telling you you need to cry .

You need to express , you need to release and do it . Allow yourself to cry If you need to allow yourself to scream , if you need to allow yourself to do those things , because those thoughts , feelings and emotions get trapped in our body and we need to release it . And I don't know about you , but I always feel better after a really good cry .

Sometimes we just need to do that and , like I said last week , do it without judgment , Be compassionate with yourself and loving , because you are magnificent , and allow yourself to step into your magnificence . All right , friends , that's what I've got today . If I can be of help or if you have any questions , feel free to drop a note .

In the show description there's a place where you can text me . I can't respond in the text , but I would absolutely answer your question on the show . So I hope you have a beautiful , beautiful day and an amazing week . Much love .