Many leaders and church-goers buy into the myth that sexual addiction doesn't impact their churches. Today, we dive into this myth and unpack why it is that we ignore the reality of sexual brokenness in our churches. We also talk through what someone can do if they see the reality when their leaders do not, and why it's so essential to have a recovery ministry for those impacted by sexual brokenness. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom F...
Apr 28, 2020•44 min•Ep. 147
As we begin Pure Desire groups in our churches and communities, it's so important how we communicate them, making it clear what purpose they serve. On today's episode, we talk about the importance of a groups launch night, what the night should look like, and what major things to avoid. RESOURCES MEMO OF UNDERSTANDING MEMO OF UNDERSTANDING (ONLINE GROUP) FASTER SCALE PURE DESIRE ONLINE GROUPS LEGAL ISSUES IN GROUP (PODCAST) LEGAL ISSUES IN GROUP (BLOG) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understan...
Apr 21, 2020•37 min•Ep. 146
We sit down with Dan and Jenn Howie to hear their incredible story of healing from the pain and trauma of sexual addiction. They describe how it affected their previous marriages, how it impacted their kids, and what they've learned throughout the process of healing. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on...
Apr 14, 2020•52 min•Ep. 145
How do our relationships change when we begin our recovery journey? Do we share our process with everyone? No one? How do we be open and honest about our process while protecting our confidential groups? We talk all this and more on today's episode. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Follow ...
Apr 07, 2020•52 min•Ep. 144
Everyone wants a healthy marriage. And all of us, if we could, would go back and prepare ourselves better for walking into marriage. On today's episode, we talk to Drew Boa (founder of Husband Material and a licensed PSAP) about the why, the how, and the benefits of getting healthy sexually before marriage. RESOURCES DREWBOA.COM HUSBAND MATERIAL For Husband Material scholarships – email Drew: [email protected] GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 S...
Mar 31, 2020•58 min•Ep. 143
Sexual fantasies are a difficult topic to dive into. Whether it's shame or the uncomfortable nature of sharing them, this is an area for many men/women that is avoided. Our guest, founder of Husband Material, author, and a PSAP, Drew Boa talks us through the power of wading into our fantasies and the health that's waiting for us on the other side. RESOURCESDrew’s Resources: HUSBAND MATERIAL SEXUAL FANTASY FRAMEWORK FLOSS METHOD Pure Desire Resources: EPISODE 060 – AROUSAL TEMPLATE CRASH SITE ANA...
Mar 24, 2020•50 min•Ep. 142
In the midst of a world crisis, it's easy to slip back into unhealthy habits and behaviors. In today's episode, we give 5 tips on how to stay healthy even in the midst of the COVID-19/Coronavirus pandemic. RESOURCES GROUP GUIDELINES – EPISODE 043 LEADING BETRAYAL & BEYOND GROUPS – EPISODE 079 LEADING 7 PILLARS GROUPS – EPISODE 088 LEADING CONQUER GROUPS – EPISODE 065 GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15...
Mar 17, 2020•32 min•Ep. 141
Having a safe place to be open and honest about our struggles is so essential to healing in the area of our sexuality. Our guest, the founder of Samson Society and author, Nate Larkin, tells of his experience as a sex addict growing up in the church and ministry and shares how he finally found freedom. RESOURCES SAMSONSOCIETY.COM SAMSON AND THE PIRATE MONKS (NATE’S BOOK) I AM SECOND (NATE’S VIDEO) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From...
Mar 10, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 140
Too often in the church, pornography and sexually compulsive behaviors are viewed as just a man's issue. But our guest today, New York Times Best-Selling Author, Mo Isom, blows up that paradigm and presses into her own story and how the culture in the church around sexuality must change. RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) MOISOM.COM SEX, JESUS, AND THE CONVERSATIONS THE CHURCH FORGOT (MO’S BOOK) SEX AND JESUS (VIDEO COURSE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free...
Mar 03, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 139
Having difficult group members is a potential for any Pure Desire group. Today, we address the infamous group member known as The Slacker. How does not doing our group work hurt the group? What do we do if we're a group leader of a slacker? How do we help ensure all members do their work? RESOURCES COMMITMENT TO CHANGE TOOL GROUP GUIDELINES GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation...
Feb 25, 2020•46 min•Ep. 138
Having difficult group members is a potential for any Pure Desire group. Today, we address the infamous group member known as The Advice-Giver. What do we do if we have a group member always giving advice? What if we are the advice-giver? How do we create a group experience without advice-giving? GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Foll...
Feb 18, 2020•47 min•Ep. 137
Having difficult group members is a potential for any Pure Desire group. Today, we address the infamous group member known as The Late-Comer. What do we do if we have someone in our group who's always showing up late? How do we help if we're the leader or a fellow group member? How do we change our own lateness issue? GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Onl...
Feb 11, 2020•39 min•Ep. 136
Having difficult group members is a potential for any Pure Desire group. Today, we address the infamous group member known as The Over-Talker. What do we do if we have an over-talker in our group? What do we do if we're the leader or just a group member? What do we do if we're the over-talker? GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow ...
Feb 04, 2020•35 min•Ep. 135
We see that as we grow in our health, there are layers to even more freedom to be experienced. What if we feel stuck in our recovery? How do we break out of that stuckness and get to those next layers of freedom? How do we know we've reached a new layer? We talk all this on today's episode. RESOURCES FASTER SCALE UNRAVELED (Recovery Resource for Women) 7 PILLARS OF FREEDOM (Recovery Resource for Men) BETRAYAL & BEYOND (Betrayal Resource for Women) HOPE FOR MEN (Betrayal Resource for Men) GET...
Jan 28, 2020•49 min•Ep. 134
We see that self-awareness is one of the biggest keys to growing in any area. So, with this new decade upon us, what does it look like to grow in that self-awareness? How do we find areas where we need more of it? How do we practically grow in it? And is there such a thing as "too much" self-awareness? We talk this and more! RESOURCES THE SOUL OF SHAME by Curt Thompson FASTER SCALE RECOVERY ACTION PLAN ESCAPE PLAN ENNEAGRAM INSTITUTE GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Traum...
Jan 21, 2020•51 min•Ep. 133
When creating new goals, we rarely focus on our relationships. It's easy to create goals/rhythms that are measurable. But creating goals and achieving them in our relationships is much tougher. Today we talk about what, how, and why of creating goals for renewed relationships in 2020. RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desir...
Jan 14, 2020•51 min•Ep. 132
With the start of a new decade, many of us are trying to maintain the goals we've set. But what if, instead of creating new goals, we focused on implementing new rhythms? On today's episode, we discuss the difference between rhythms and goals, how we know what areas we need growth in, and how to create sustainable change in our lives. RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free ...
Jan 07, 2020•44 min•Ep. 131
As we end a new decade, it's easy for us to focus on the future. Questions like, "Who do I want to become?" or "What growth do I need?" are quick to come to mind. Today, we cover some thoughts on what it looks like to start a new year and a new decade right! RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Foll...
Dec 31, 2019•31 min•Ep. 130
It's Christmas time! Every Christmas, the act of giving easily becomes primary in our minds. But what sort of gifts are we giving? Are they small and short-term? Or are there gifts that we can give others that create new trajectory and health in our lives? We talk through the greatest gift you can give others! RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Cons...
Dec 24, 2019•31 min•Ep. 129
Ben Bennett, author, speaker, and leader of a new initiative with Josh McDowell, joins us today to talk about shame. We walk through 5 steps to dropping shame off of ourselves and how to live a shame-free life. RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) SELF-IMAGE: FIVE STEPS TO OVERCOME SHAME (Ben’s blog) LIVING FREE by Ben Bennett (College Age resource) UPRISING WEBSITE GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Mi...
Dec 17, 2019•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 128
What does sexual health look like? Is it sobriety? Or is it more? On today's episode, we discuss the difference between holistic health and sobriety, and how pursuing each plays out in recovery. RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) FASTER SCALE (TOOL) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Fol...
Dec 10, 2019•37 min•Ep. 127
"Intimacy" has become a junk-drawer term today. What does it really mean? Why is it important in relationships? And how can it be created and maintained in our relationships? We talk through these questions on today's episode! RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) CONNECTED (Marriage Resource) HLP EXERCISE GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group S...
Dec 03, 2019•53 min•Ep. 126
We know that addiction is a part of this world. But there seems to be a tension between being a Christian and also struggling with an addiction. Today we talk through why the church is afraid of the word "addiction," understanding God's power in addictions, and steps needed to break free from addiction. RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultatio...
Nov 26, 2019•34 min•Ep. 125
We have a new resource out for parents! A book simply titled, How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex . We sat down with the authors, Rodney and Traci Wright to discuss all things this book. We explore this tough topic and give a peek inside the book! RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) HOW TO TALK WITH YOUR KIDS ABOUT SEX (BOOK) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pur...
Nov 19, 2019•53 min•Ep. 124
With the recent news of another public figure in the Christian realm admitting to destructive sexual behaviors, we find ourselves asking, "Is this going to keep happening?" On today's episode, we discuss why this seems to keep happening, how we should respond, what we should do about it, and more! RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join...
Nov 12, 2019•38 min•Ep. 123
Promoting groups for sexual brokenness and betrayal is not an easy task. How do you invite others in? What is the best way to do sign-ups? Where should we announce them? In this episode, we jump in on how to best promote Pure Desire groups in your church or community. RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) PURE DESIRE ONLINE GROUPS GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A P...
Nov 05, 2019•44 min•Ep. 122
There is tremendous power in sharing our story of God's healing. We discuss 5 tips on crafting a powerful telling of the healing we've experienced in ways that diminish shame, paint a real picture of healing, and invite others into their own healing. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Follow...
Oct 29, 2019•34 min•Ep. 121
Pure Desire now offers a BRAND NEW way to find healing from sexual brokenness and betrayal: ONLINE GROUPS. We talk about the new online group system and format, we talk about the Certified Group Leaders who lead them, and what you can expect in a Pure Desire Online Group! RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) PURE DESIRE ONLINE GROUPS GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join...
Oct 22, 2019•40 min•Ep. 120
We find that isolation is the breeding ground of shame and addiction. So, what is isolation? What does it look like? How do we know when we're isolating? If we are, how do we break out of isolation? We talk all of these things on today's episode! RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Fac...
Oct 15, 2019•30 min•Ep. 119
Is demonic possession present in sexual addiction? When do you disclose to a boyfriend/girlfriend? Are sexual aids ok in the marriage bed? How much is too much to share? These questions and more on today's #PDFAQ episode. Submit your questions for future FAQ episodes: Email your question to: [email protected] Use the subject line: PD PODCAST DM/Message us RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom Fro...
Oct 08, 2019•41 min•Ep. 118
