Separation and divorce are a harsh reality for some on the road to recovery from sexual addiction and betrayal. We talk through how to handle the shame, if it affects our relationship with God, maintaining sobriety throughout, and more. RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) EPISODE 070 – STORIES OF HEALING: MIKE MAXWELL GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire ...
Oct 01, 2019•57 min•Ep. 117
Sexual Addiction Is About Sex = Myth. We sit down to talk about why sexual addiction is not about sex, what it truly is about, how to find freedom, and how to help others avoid buying into the myth. RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) UNWANTED: HOW SEXUAL BROKENNESS REVEALS OUR WAY TO HEALING by Jay Stringer GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Gro...
Sep 24, 2019•32 min•Ep. 116
Our guest hosts dive right into some of the most frequently asked questions when it comes to love, sex, and dating. Questions like: how far is too far? When is the right time to discuss my sexual history? What are some practical boundaries to keep my relationship pure? And even more. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Face...
Sep 17, 2019•41 min•Ep. 115
We see in Scripture that Generational Curses are a part of sin entering our world. But are they still a thing today? How do we know we are suffering from generational curses? How do we break free from them? We talk this and more on today's episode. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Follow u...
Sep 10, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 114
We have a surprise for you on today's episode. Two guests take over the podcast and talk through frequently asked questions from women regarding sex. This is an episode you won't want to miss! RESOURCESContact Info: Heather Kolb [email protected] Ashley Jameson [email protected] SEX DURING RECOVERY – EPISODE 057 MOMS & SEX BLOG UNRAVELED: MANAGING LOVE, SEX, AND RELATIONSHIPS GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn S...
Sep 03, 2019•36 min•Ep. 113
We sat down with Scott & Cassie Spicer to hear their story of overcoming addiction and betrayal in their marriage. We discuss when they realized it was a problem, how they finally found freedom, and the impact it has made on their lives. This is a beautiful story of redemption and hope. RESOURCES REGIONAL GROUP ADVISORS PD-LEADERS PROGRAM 7 PILLARS OF FREEDOM BETRAYAL & BEYOND PURE DESIRE COUNSELING PURE DESIRE GROUPS EXPOSED by James & Teri Kraft GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Un...
Aug 27, 2019•1 hr•Ep. 112
Leading group members through the disclosure process is a very difficult thing for a group leader. Today's episode, we dive into how to handle it, what are do's and don'ts, and what the role of the group leader is in the disclosure process of the group. RESOURCES EPISODE 106 – FULL DISCLOSURE THE DISCLOSURE PROCESS GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online...
Aug 20, 2019•42 min•Ep. 111
Pornography is becoming more and more mainstream in our culture. As parents, this means we cannot disengage the topic and hope for the best for our kids. Today's episode, we dive into what parents need to know about porn, how to talk to your kids about it, and what your role looks like in the sexual health of your kids. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire O...
Aug 13, 2019•47 min•Ep. 110
Being a Pure Desire Group Leader is hard work. And because of the nature of the work, developing as a leader is a necessity. Today, Nick and Trevor talk to Ashley Jameson about what it looks like to get better as a PD Group Leader. RESOURCES REGIONAL GROUP ADVISORS (RGA’S) REGISTER YOUR GROUP RECOVERY ACTION PLAN (TOOL) PURE DESIRE CONFERENCE UNWANTED (BOOK) – JAY STRINGER RETHINKING SEXUALITY (BOOK) – DR. JULI SLATTERY GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: ...
Aug 06, 2019•35 min•Ep. 109
We talk to Dr. Juli Slattery about what she calls "Sexual Discipleship." She describes the difficulty of talking about sex in the church, how it changes the church, how sexual discipleship changes the culture, and how it all should look in the church. RESOURCES AUTHENTIC INTIMACY WEBSITE RETHINKING SEXUALITY (BOOK) JULI SLATTERY ON FACEBOOK GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation...
Jul 30, 2019•51 min•Ep. 108
Sobriety during the summer is oftentimes a difficult task. On today's episode, we talk through 5 tips on how to maintain healthy sexuality through the summer months. RESOURCES FULL EPISODE VIDEO (YOUTUBE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Follow us on X (Twitter)...
Jul 23, 2019•28 min•Ep. 107
Disclosure is a part of the recovery process. It's a very difficult one, but very necessary. We talk through the definition, purpose, and benefits of a full disclosure. And we also talk through what a proper full disclosure should look like. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Follow us on X ...
Jul 16, 2019•50 min•Ep. 106
Scripture describes sexual sin as one that uniquely affects the body. Today's episode, we spend time talking through Soul Ties. Diane Roberts joins us to talk about what Soul Ties are, how to identify them, and how to break free from them. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Follow us on X (T...
Jul 09, 2019•51 min•Ep. 105
Everyone wants a healthy sex life. Period. But what does it actually mean to have one? How often should married couples have sex? What qualifies as good sex? How do you improve the health of your sex life? GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Follow us on X (Twitter)...
Jul 02, 2019•44 min•Ep. 104
Relapse often becomes almost a swear word in the journey to recovery. But what qualifies as a relapse? How should we view relapse on the recovery journey? Can we use relapse for future health? Should we disclose every relapse? All these questions are answered here! RESOURCES EPISODE 008 – 3 CIRCLES (RELAPSE PREVENTION TOOL) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desi...
Jun 25, 2019•49 min•Ep. 103
Gratitude is a topic most of us know well. But how does it benefit us? What role does it play in recovery? How do we develop it? This and more on today's episode! GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Follow us on X (Twitter)...
Jun 18, 2019•27 min•Ep. 102
Today's episode is audio from Trevor and Nick's recent Q&A at a men's breakfast. They talk about length of group, neurochemistry, disclosure, and more! GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Follow us on X (Twitter)...
Jun 11, 2019•42 min•Ep. 101
WE MADE IT TO 100 EPISODES! We spend some time chatting about the past 99 episodes, Trevor's favorites of Nick's intros, and some cool stuff Pure Desire has going for the future! RESOURCESFAVORITE EPISODESTrevor’s: EPISODE 015 – PERSONAL PROMISES EPISODE 032 – SINGLENESS & ADDICTION PT. 1 EPISODE 033 – SINGLENESS & ADDICTION PT. 2 EPISODE 041 – MISTAKES CHURCHES MAKE EPISODE 043 – GROUP GUIDELINES EPISODE 087 – SWORD DRILL Nick’s: EPISODE 068 – FATHER WOUND EPISODE 044 – PASTORS & PO...
Jun 04, 2019•35 min•Ep. 100
Why does pastoral moral failure happen as often as is does? Is there anything we can do about it? Will it always be this way? If it does happen, how are we to respond? Today's episode is a heavy one, but it needs to be talked about. GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram Follow us on X (Twitter)...
May 28, 2019•51 min•Ep. 99
"Counseling" can seem like a taboo topic in the church world. But does it need to be? What if counseling is the one thing to help break those negative habits in our lives? Today's episode we discuss 5 primary reasons to consider getting counseling on your journey to sexual integrity. RESOURCES PURE DESIRE COUNSELING GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Onlin...
May 21, 2019•28 min•Ep. 98
The idea of promoting groups for sexual purity and betrayal in the church is not an easy or necessarily fun one. Today we talk about what the best ways are to promote Pure Desire groups in a way that catches more people and gets them the healing they need. RESOURCES REGIONAL GROUP ADVISORS REGISTER YOUR GROUP GROUPS FINDER MAP GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure D...
May 14, 2019•42 min•Ep. 97
Is it even possible to own a smartphone and be sexually healthy? The answer is a huge YES! In this episode, we talk through 5 purity hacks to owning and operating a smartphone. RESOURCES TECH ACTION PLAN EPISODE TECH ACTION PLAN TOOL COVENANT EYES: use “PureDesire” promo code to get the first month free! ACCOUNTABLE 2 YOU EVER ACCOUNTABLE GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation J...
May 07, 2019•32 min•Ep. 96
What does it look like to have healthy relationships? Is true pure love possible? How should sexuality play out in my life? We spend time talking through our newest women's resource: Unraveled, and what life change women can expect to gain from it. RESOURCES UNRAVELED GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook Follow us o...
Apr 30, 2019•40 min•Ep. 95
Are wet dreams sinful? How do you manage sobriety on sick days? Why don't we offer same-sex attraction groups? Do we always need group? These are only a few of the questions we address in our newest FAQ episode. Submit your questions for future FAQ episodes: Email your question to: [email protected] DM/Message us RESOURCES SEX DURING RECOVERY (PD Podcast) SAFE by Nick Stumbo DIGITAL NATIVES by Bryan Roberts & Heather Kolb MENDED (Marriage Resource) PURE DESIRE COUNSELING FASTER SCALE TO...
Apr 23, 2019•31 min•Ep. 94
The Commitment to Change (C2C) is a weekly tool that Pure Desire groups use on the road to recovery. But how do we unlock the vast potential of this tool? What makes a C2C effective? How can it help us develop holistic health? Listen in to find out! RESOURCES COMMITMENT TO CHANGE GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook...
Apr 16, 2019•28 min•Ep. 93
Creating a plan for when temptation or triggers show up is always better when done in times of clear thinking and done with brutal honesty. What should this plan look like? What makes an effective escape plan for maintaining sexual integrity? We talk these and more. RESOURCES ESCAPE PLAN 7 PILLARS OF FREEDOM 8 PILLARS TO FREEDOM UNRAVELED RESOURCE GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consu...
Apr 09, 2019•37 min•Ep. 92
What do we do if we are caught in our porn/sex addiction? What's the first thing we should do? How can being caught be a good thing for our recovery? These questions and more are answered in this episode. RESOURCES PURE DESIRE COUNSELING 7 PILLARS OF FREEDOM 8 PILLARS TO FREEDOM CONQUER SERIES STORIES OF HEALING: ERNIE & JACKIE’S STORY GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation ...
Apr 02, 2019•49 min•Ep. 91
What do we do if we catch our spouse in a porn/sex addiction? What's the first thing we should do? What are some major pitfalls in how to respond? These are just some of the questions we address in today's episode. RESOURCES STORIES OF HEALING: ERNIE & JACKIE’S STORY BETRAYAL & BEYOND (GROUP RESOURCE) GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group...
Mar 26, 2019•45 min•Ep. 90
Do women struggle with porn or sexual addiction? How do churches help women who do? What does recovery look like for women? How can we diminish the shame women addicts feel? We answer these questions and more in this episode. RESOURCES UNRAVELED STORIES FOR WOMEN BEHIND THE MASK GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation Join A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALS Follow us on Facebook ...
Mar 19, 2019•30 min•Ep. 89
What does it take to lead men through healing from sexual addiction? What do I need in order to lead these men? What kinds of support and resources do I need to effectively lead men into sexual integrity? We answer these questions and more in today's episode. RESOURCES SEVEN PILLARS OF FREEDOM SEVEN PILLARS OF FREEDOM LEADER’S GUIDE GROUP GUIDELINES RECOVERY ACTION PLAN FASTER SCALE COMMITMENT TO CHANGE GET STARTED Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedo...
Mar 12, 2019•45 min•Ep. 88
