“Waking up to who you actually are (Self Concept) requires you to begin letting go of whoever it is that you imagine yourself to be (Self Esteem).” I’ve heard the statement “just be yourself” so many times throughout my life. It sounds like such an amazingly simple thing to do, but in all honestly, it's taken me YEARS to be able to fully understand what this means. In my quest for answers I’ve found that it is very much possible to just be yourself. The person who is a jerk to others and the per...
Nov 03, 2014•20 min
How often do you not say or do something because you're worried about how it'll be perceived? For most of us, myself included, this happens more often then we'd like to admit. We live in a culture that is starving for authenticity. We want our leaders, our co-workers, our family members, our friends, and everyone else we interact with to tell us the truth and to be themselves. Most important, we want to have the personal freedom and confidence to say, do, and be who we really are, without worryi...
Nov 03, 2014•15 min
If you don’t believe it yourself, don’t ask anyone else to do so! It is virtually impossible not to transmit your doubts and insecurities to others through body language, tone of voice, inflection, word choice, and other subtle characteristics. When you show by your actions that you lack self-confidence, other people also begin to doubt your ability to perform even the most insignificant of tasks. To gain the respect and confidence of others, begin by making a list of all the attributes that mak...
Nov 03, 2014•16 min
Don’t look to the stars for the cause of your misfortunes: look to yourself to get better results. There are many things you cannot control, but you can control the only things that really matter: your mind and your attitude. External forces have very little to do with success. Those who program themselves for success find a way to succeed even in the most difficult of circumstances. Solutions to most problems come from one source and one source alone: yourself. Living life to the fullest is a l...
Nov 03, 2014•15 min
Human beings possess the unique ability to engage in emotional time travel, mentally fast forwarding through time to envision how they will feel in future situations. Emotional time travel is not without its pitfalls. At the most obvious level, people may make inaccurate predictions about how they will feel in a situation because the situation unfolds differently than they expect. Yet, even if the situation people experience objectively matches the situation they imagined, people face a fundamen...
Nov 03, 2014•13 min
For many people, emotions can be an inconsistent daily NIGHTMARE that we often just don’t know what to do with or how to handle. So we turn to the only strategies we do know. If you’re a man, you might distract yourself by playing video games, building something new or even by going to the pub or the gym, and if you’re a woman, you might head to the shops or eat a whole load of chocolate! Turning to these things occasionally is OK, but making them part of your regular coping repertoire might not...
Nov 03, 2014•16 min
Your self concept (or self image) is the sum total of all the knowledge and information that you currently have about yourself - it's the person you know you can be, could be, ought to be and want to be. It includes things like your gender, name, personality, physical appearance, race, likes and dislikes, beliefs, values, social history, nationality, schooling, family, career, accomplishments, failures, skills and talents. Your self-concept also includes who you think you might become and what y...
Nov 03, 2014•17 min
Every day of our lives, we are being constantly programmed (taught, influenced, impacted and conditioned) by the world alongside everyone and everything that lives in it. Our beliefs are always being moulded and manipulated (for better or for worse) by other people in their attempts to have us ‘join their team’ without us even being aware of it. Most of our beliefs are formed over many years, which is why they can become such a firmly entrenched and non-negotiable part of our mental and emotiona...
Nov 03, 2014•14 min
Would you like to experience a deeper clarity of who you are and peace and freedom for within, even in the midst of what may be highly challenging circumstances? The Inside Out Revolution offers an understanding of how life works in a way that turns more traditional forms of psychology on its head. This revolutionary approach explains where our feelings come from (whether good or bad), and how our experience of life can change for the better within only a few moments. Understanding these princip...
Nov 03, 2014•12 min
Is there anyone occupying a space in your head that they haven’t paid any rent for? If your peace of mind and your achievements in life are dependent upon someone else’s actions, that person is in complete control of you and you have freely given them your power. The same principle applies to our expectations of money, materialistic possessions and promotions at work, status, rank or our achievements and failures. How many environmental circumstances and situations play a frequent role in determ...
Nov 03, 2014•13 min
One way to grasp an understanding of how we are made is to be able to recognise that there are three parts of us, which are all perfectly interconnected. Firstly, we have a material part, which prevents our blood, bones and organs from simply becoming a pile of ‘mush’ on the floor, we call this our Body. However we also have two immaterial parts, which we’d call our soul (where the thoughts come in) and our spirit (which gives us our conscience). The following is my best possible effort at expla...
Nov 03, 2014•16 min
The Internal Vs. External Locus Of Control People who base their success in life upon their own efforts and believe that they are in complete control of their life outcomes have what we would call an internal locus of control. You might be able to recognize someone with an internal locus of control through his or her relentlessly stubborn and highly driven nature (of which I can often be found guilty). In contrast to this, people who will assign their successes and failures in life to other peop...
Nov 03, 2014•16 min
Whether you believe that your self confidence and trust is broken by a loved one having an affair, a destructive addiction, or the departure of someone’s interest in you, it requires a radical shift in your worldview to get things back on track. Emotionally adjusting takes time and energy, but is worth it as it builds maturity and a commitment to being responsible for you. If you have ever truly trusted someone and went on to learn that they weren’t deserving of it, you might be likely to swing ...
Nov 03, 2014•13 min
Many people in the world today live out their lives making their daily decisions based upon the decisions they made about themselves years ago. We develop core unconscious beliefs about ourselves as children; it’s in our childhood we determine our self-worth and value, our beliefs about who we are and what defines us – ‘the Glass Ceiling’ as it were, which often, we will often ‘unknowingly’ allow to cap our potential. These beliefs mould us as humans, and give us the rules we live by. Some might...
Nov 03, 2014•7 min
Here's a modern adaptation of a very old story .... And so, a conversation between two of the worlds greatest philosophers, Socrates and Glaucon went something like this .... Socrates: "Why do people think that Personal Development is meaningless? Let me put it this way - imagine you're in a cave, all chained up so you can't turn your body at all, and all you get to look at is this one wall. Some assholes behind you are making shadow puppets using the light from a fire and making echo noises and...
Nov 03, 2014•14 min
FACTS, FAITH or FEELINGS ... What are the foundations of YOUR life? These three things are absolutely vital in determining the quality of our lives. It’s hugely important that we know something about each of them, but it is even more important that we get them in the right order and keep them there. Most people will generally put their feelings first and in turn make the quality of their feelings provide a basis for the quality of their life, but that's like trying to build the roof of a house b...
Nov 03, 2014•20 min
“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” - Abraham Lincoln The lumberjack story is has been made popular by a reference to it in Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits due to the messages it carries with it. Like many stories this story has a specific meaning, the version I tell in this video carries a key message about the value of continuous personal development and the importance of using our brains sometimes ... opposed to our brawn!
Nov 03, 2014•9 min
If you were to begin to define yourself differently, in a way that’s more empowering and accurate for who you are today, how would you describe who you’ve become? If you're unsure of how to even begin answering this question, the video should be able to offer you a few suggestions as to how you can begin doing this today!
Nov 03, 2014•9 min
TRUISM: Its tough to enjoy life when you’re not particularly confident in who it is that you are! People who haven't learned to accept and get along with themselves tend to have more difficulty accepting and getting along with others. I personally spent years having a hard time getting along with people, until I eventually grew to realize how the difficulties I had with other people were actually "rooted" in the difficulties I had in accepting myself. A wise man once suggested that “a good tree ...
Nov 03, 2014•11 min
There are two sides of risks. Before Risk (where we find security and safety), and after Risk (where we find a sense of achievement, excitement and freedom). On the before side of Risk, you will experience: * fear * trepidation * hesitation * anxiety * doubt * sweaty palms * excuses * research and analysis, followed by more research and analysis (aka PROCRASTINATION) * the status quo * temporary comfort * a dead-end job On the after side of risks, you will find: * glory * victory * elation * the...
Nov 03, 2014•11 min
Some of the world’s greatest architects might suggest that the greatest prisons are those that have been built of cast Iron, reinforcement and concrete. However, I’m going to suggest that the most enslaving prison man can be kept in — is the prison of his own mind, the prison of his beliefs, the limitations of his thinking, and the nature of his own relative subjectivity. The mind can be humanities own worst enemy with it’s self defeating conversations with itself alongside its limited understan...
Nov 03, 2014•10 min
Many people in the world of business and in life choose to ignore the value and importance of personal authenticity. Companies will invest hundreds of thousands of dollars, even millions, to portray themselves as creative and as glamorous to consumers and on an individual basis, millions of people all around the world will attempt to portray themselves across the social media's as far more enhances versions of themselves than what they actually are. The increased number of people who use social ...
Nov 03, 2014•18 min
In order to act, you must have a purpose. If you want to act successfully in all but the most mundane affairs, you must embrace that purpose with a burning desire. Many people think they want to be successful, but since they do not back that thought with an intense drive, they never achieve success. Cultivate your desire. Feed it with thoughts of yourself enjoying whatever it is you seek. It’s like stoking the furnace of a steam engine. You need to build up enough pressure to carry yourself over...
Nov 03, 2014•9 min
The thing about kids is that they often don't develop their fears and insecurities until they've been TAUGHT how by their 'often' insecure parents. Sure, some of the kids already have more natural ability than others, but from between the years of birth to around about 6 - 7 years of age, everyone is at the same starting line. It is only as we get older (more mature, wiser, longer in the tooth and 'experienced') that we begin putting people into buckets. i.e. He’s a marketing guy. She went to a ...
Nov 03, 2014•11 min
(Snippet taken from an article written by Lynn Hirschberg for Vanity Fair magazine in 1991) In 1990, Forbes estimated Madonna's pre-tax income to be $39 million (and her earnings since 1991 at $125 million); her Blond Ambition tour sold out in twenty – seven cities; her concert on HBO was the highest-rated non-sports event ever on that network; and her albums went double-platinum. “But at what cost?” asks Christopher Ciccone, who was the art director of Madonna's Blond Ambition tour that same ye...
Nov 03, 2014•11 min
Perhaps the most powerful influences in your relationships, on your attitude and in your personality is what you say and believe about yourself in private. It is not what happens to you in life that’s important, but how you respond internally to the situation you find yourself in and what happens to you, that determine your thoughts and feelings, mind power, and, ultimately the actions you take in life. By learning to police your thoughts and control your inner dialogue, or “self-talk,” you can ...
Nov 03, 2014•16 min
Here is one of my favourite inspirational tales and I hope you find it insightful: It wasn't long after the Gods had created humankind that they very soon realised that they had made a huge mistake. The creatures that they had created were so adept, so skilful, so full of curiosity and the spirit of enquiry that it was only a matter of time before they would start to challenge the Gods themselves for supremacy. To ensure their pre-eminence, the Gods held a large conference to discuss the issue. ...
Nov 03, 2014•9 min
We all think that we'd know confidence if we saw it ... right? Isn't it what the person who speaks first and longest at the office meeting has? Isn't it what your friend who always seems so sure of their opinions has? Despite common cultural beliefs and opinions, Confidence isn’t about throwing your weight around or talking over people or always being the first to jump in. Confidence isn’t an attitude at all. You know that old expression about something being all in your head? Well, when it come...
Nov 03, 2014•10 min
Confidence is one of those rare commodities that successful people seem to have in spades, but then there are people who are very low in self-belief and who struggle to get anywhere in life. As I considered how to get more confidence and better results, I wondered to myself, “What comes first?” Do you need confidence to get results? Or do you feel good about yourself because things have gone well for you? And what if you lack both, so you don’t know where to start? As I began to consider my own ...
Nov 03, 2014•11 min
The ULTIMATE Confidence Coaching Program has been specifically designed in view of empowering you to maximise your personal confidence, transform the quality of your relationships, enhancing your communication skills with others and increase your Self-Esteem by giving you deep insights into who you truly are. This High Impact Coaching program will enable you to achieve the life results you really want by teaching you life changing truths and principles that if you apply, stand to completely tran...
Nov 03, 2014•4 min
