The single life can be either be one of liberation, excitement and creativeness - or one of desperation, anxiety and full of fear of being 'left on the shelf'. In this closing and penultimate podcast of the Relationship Coaching series I've been doing, I've focussed primarily on the singles by offering a message of hope and challenge for moving forward with more passion, vigour and anticipation for what will some day be your turn. Enjoy! I'll look forward to starting the next programme next week...
Jul 18, 2014•13 min
Over the last few months I have released these podcasts, centred around the theme of Relationships, how to get the most from them, how to enhance them, and how to build them based upon foundations that will outlast the test of time. This may be the last in this series, although it also may not be - I might have one FINAL bonus audio for you next week to 'wrap' everything up for one final time. It would be great to hear your thoughts and any questions you have about the last 18 podcasts I've prod...
Jul 11, 2014•10 min
If you decided that you wanted to go back to education and train to become a pilot, would you expect to have a few years of hard work to do? It's highly probable that you would, and I'm also presuming that you know it would take at least 5 years of commitment and dedication to achieve these qualifications and reach the level of skill necessary for you to fly a passenger filled aircraft! What about if you decided that you wanted to be able to play the violin at orchestra standard? Again, it might...
Jul 04, 2014•7 min
This is a practical exercise which gives you an opportunity to consider and apply some of the key principles and stories I've shared throughout this Ultimate Relationship Coaching Programme. It would be great to get your feedback on the changes you intend to make and also about your overall thoughts on the entire programme. I'll look forward to hearing from you soon, Kain http://www.kainramsay.com
Jul 04, 2014•7 min
Some of the biggest challenges we can face in our relationships stem from the fact that many people enter into a relationship motivated by what they can get and attempting to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take. I've never met anyone who's ever claimed to be content with surface level, shallow or superficial relationships and in this v...
Jun 27, 2014•17 min
A strong and healthy relationship can be one of the most effective supports in your life. Good relationships improve all aspects of your life, strengthening your health, your mind, and your connections with others. However, if the relationship isn't working, it can also be a tremendous drain. Relationships are an investment. The more you put in, the more you can get back. Everyone’s relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. But there are some things that good r...
Jun 20, 2014•21 min
Have you ever found yourself self sabotaging a relationship? And have you ever thought for a moment as to why you would even do this? One of the things that may help you to recognise self-sabotaging behaviour is to recognise that you are actually trying to protect yourself rather than sabotage yourself. We all have a survival part that is programmed into us, psychologists refer to this part of us as our defence mechanisms. They get activated by fear and go into action in the attempts of protecti...
Jun 13, 2014•15 min
The core beliefs of many religious groups alongside many of the world's greatest writings and literary works are based upon the ongoing struggle between good and evil that happens inside every one of us and is as old as mankind itself. Yet, while we're generally fully aware of our own personal inner struggles, we can be very quick to condemn others for theirs. Many of the world's greatest Psychologists tell us that there is no such thing as a bad person; there are only bad thoughts, actions and ...
Jun 06, 2014•15 min
'One day you'll find the right person at the right time and place, then wonder why it took you so long to find the right companion when they've been there all along.' Sometimes as you journey through life you can meet the right person at the wrong time for you, and other-times you'll meet the wrong person at a right time. The trick of life is being emotionally available enough to be able to identify the right person at the right time whilst being completely able to understand the difference. Kai...
May 30, 2014•7 min
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” C Jung Relationships are the 'Cornerstone' of life and no matter what we say or think about them, we all need and crave them. It's not those superficial or meaningless relationships we crave, but the ones of meaning and depth in which we are able to be free and fully be ourselves. These kinds of relationships can be few and far between! In this Lecture I've attempted to illustrate where the stress that many...
May 23, 2014•24 min
Some relationships flourish, some survive in name alone and some will completely fall apart. In our current Western culture, relationships are often seen to be successful if partners stay together, whereas those relationships that break down are considered failures. This is despite the fact that many so-called successful relationships continue even though neither partner is committed to the relationship. Likewise, ending an unhealthy relationship is ultimately a choice and not a necessity which ...
May 16, 2014•22 min
Sometimes it can feel like a distance or a void is growing in what may have once been a good relationship or friendship. In this video I have attempted to explain what this void is, where it comes from and how growing apart from some people can merely be 'Just a part of Life'. 'The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.' Each of us have a wide range of relationships with other people which can form in either a family, intimate or a social context. Each of us also have casual ...
May 09, 2014•20 min
Relationship forms the core of our experience as humans. We define ourselves and are defined by the nature of our relating. There is a universal concept called “interdependence” which would suggest that nothing exists independently. Everything exists interdependently. In applying this concept to relationship, we do not and cannot exist independently of one another. It is through relationship that we come to know ourselves. It is through relating that hold up a mirror to others for them to come t...
May 02, 2014•20 min
To "put things in perspective" means to see them from an objective viewpoint (or one that is generally different from your own and not based upon your emotions). For example: A young person may be emotionally devastated by a breakup with a boyfriend or girlfriend. The best way for that person to get over the hurt, is to see the relationship from the viewpoint of his or her whole life, rather than just for the present. While no one should deny that a breakup always result in hurt feelings and a s...
Apr 25, 2014•15 min
Your perspective is the way you see something. If for example you believe that toys corrupt children's minds, then from your perspective, a toy shop will be an evil place! Perspective has a Latin root meaning "look through" or "perceive," and all the meanings of perspective have something to do with looking. If you observe the world from a dog's perspective, you see through the dog's eyes. When drawing a picture, perspective gives your drawing the appearance of both depth and distance. If we say...
Apr 18, 2014•21 min
This Lecture incorporates a story of 'Margaret's Bird', which tells about a bird who chose to value the security of his cage over freedom in the context of his very own life. Although security is most people's first choice in life, it may not be the option that provides us with the outcomes we truly want! A common problem that many of us face in life and our relationships, is our innate desire to please other people in order to be accepted by them. The reason why this is a problem, is that if ou...
Apr 11, 2014•14 min
Your time is here on Earth is limited, so don't waste it by trying to be someone that you're not. It's true that if we don't know who we are in life, we'll never fully know how to effectively act, behave or build the depth of healthy and authentic relationships that we long for. The root cause of many of the challenging emotions we face in life throughout life can be found in our attempts to be accepted, liked and loved by other people - when often, we may not have even paid that very compliment...
Apr 04, 2014•20 min
Choose Life, Choose a job, Choose some mixed up priorities, Choose to conform to the rules of others, Choose to not speak up, Choose to pay high interest rates the bankers, Choose to conform, Choose Choice, choose some new toothpaste even ...... Choose Life! In free Life Balance Coaching podcast I've tried to share with you in a slightly different way about the extent and variety of the choices we have in life and the about the rules that we choose to conform to. Choosing life is about choosing ...
Mar 09, 2014•6 min
So shoot me for what I'm about to say, but unfortunately for many it's true. Isn't blaming other people, our parents, the boss, society, the Church, circumstances or God!!! for the emotional challenges we face and experience throughout life a cop out! It's absolutely true that we have absolutely NO control over the things that happen to us in life, the things that people say to us or the things that people do. However, there isn't one person on the face of this planet who's not 100% in complete ...
Mar 03, 2014•11 min
The start of each year in the time where we contemplate change, doing new things, we dream dreams and develop hopes and plans for what the year will bring. New years resolutions are the means by which many of us make some degree of commitment to making change, things we'd like to alter and things we'd like to resolve - however, could many of us be aiming too low or too insignificantly? It's true that we all hope for deeper feelings of security, a more enhanced feeling of self worth, esteem and c...
Feb 24, 2014•9 min
In this short podcast, I'll ask you a series of profound and brutally critical questions as to the reasons behind 'WHY' you do the things that you do in life. King Solomon, son of David, the once King of Israel wrote 'Without vision, man perishes'. Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple during its initial startup said, "There's something going on here... something that is changing the world... and this is the epicentre". Now whatever these men's perspectives were on life, they have both impacted the w...
Feb 10, 2014•6 min
You Tube Video Link: http://youtu.be/wIAtjp0qkK4 No-one's content with staying the same, day in, day out, and we all want to change in order to live bigger and better lives. Becoming bigger on the inside benefits everyone. Human beings are the greatest invention in the world, however, they are also one the most undervalued and unrecognised inventions in the world. Having travelled the world with the good fortune to experience a wide range of the differing cultures, I have grown to recognise ONE ...
Jan 20, 2014•4 min
You Tube Video Link: http://youtu.be/bvIF6czcZj4 Kain Ramsay is one of Scotland's most dynamic and transformational Life Coaches who offers a fresh and unique approach to Life Balance Coaching by focusing on the Core Identity (Core Identity Coaching) through which he integrates a variety of models and practices from the fields of Therapeutic Counselling, NLP and Life Coaching. Whether you are attending one of Kain's workshops or events, his programmes, or whether you are woking intimately with h...
Jan 20, 2014•1 min
