Kathy interviews her grandson, CJ Bruske, a true Facilitator. CJ explains what life is like as a Facilitator by bringing up examples from past experiences. They discuss the great impact facilitators have, even though most of their efforts go unnoticed. Show Notes: 0:00 Intro 00:41 Facilitator CJ Bruske 02:00 What is it like to be a Facilitator? 06:00 Quick Overview of Kolbe Modes 07:20 What makes a Facilitator move? 10:30 How to study as a Facilitator 12:18 Do you NEED to be a nice person? 15:30...
May 22, 2019•35 min•Season 1Ep. 28
Elizabeth McNamee is a consultant and Life Fellow of the American College of Healthcare Executives. Elizabeth is especially skilled in consensus building among diverse groups as well as in the development of solutions to complex health care issues. She truly understands the amazing potential of collaboration and how to get there.
May 15, 2019•42 min•Season 1Ep. 27
Kathy Kolbe and Sterling Loucks, discuss some common misconceptions about Fact Finders. They get rid of the myth that knowing more facts means a higher IQ. Show Notes: 00:00 Intro 00:30 A Sequel to the Quick Start Myths 01:05 Definition of Fact Finder 03:28 Fact Finders are all brilliant, right? 05:00 IQ is evenly distributed across all modes of action 06:05 How Fact Finders see the world 06:42 How can you see Fact Finder? 08:30 Fact Finders make great excuses 10:00 Affect always comes first 13:...
May 08, 2019•21 min•Season 1Ep. 26
Kathy Kolbe and, Dr. Ned Hallowell, a New York Times Bestseller and ADHD expert give their views on ADHD.
May 01, 2019•22 min•Season 1Ep. 25
Kathy Kolbe and, Harvard alumna, Kay Corbin go behind the scenes of the Harvard interview process. What kinds of things do Harvard interviewers look for in an applicant? The answers may surprise you. Show Notes: 00:00 Intro 00:28 My good friend, Kay Corbin 03:25 "The Post" in real life 08:21 The Harvard acceptance rate 10:44 Behind the scenes of the Harvard interview 13:09 What makes applicants stand out? 16:50 Interviewing kids in their own environment 18:30 Are bribes really that common? 19:55...
Apr 24, 2019•30 min•Season 1Ep. 24
Kathy talks with David Kolbe, CEO of Kolbe Corp. David explains the new "Takes Two" program for intimate partner relationships. They also discuss their own conative conflicts, respect, business ethics and the future of the Kolbe Theory. Show Notes: 00:00 Intro 01:00 Future of the Kolbe Theory 03:45 Takes Two for intimate partner Relationships 05:53 Our conative conflict 09:15 Can we separate business from personal? 10:00 Respect is the key 11:35 Obstinate about priorities with resistance in Foll...
Apr 17, 2019•23 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Kathy talks with Sterling Loucks, Vice President of Dynamynd, Inc. about being obstinate in learning your way. She offers tips to help you memorize and access memories for learning at school and in the workplace. Show Notes: 00:00 Intro 00:50 I don't do memory 02:25 Memory for detail or essence? 03:50 I remember eyes 05:00 How a Theorist memorizes 06:30 I don't remember saying that 08:11 Is memory Cognitive? 10:07 How you memorize is based on your M.O. 13:24 Quick Start method 14:15 Fact Finder ...
Apr 03, 2019•33 min•Season 1Ep. 22
In the last episode we talked about being obstinate in business. Now, join Brian Burkhart and Kathy Kolbe as they discuss the not-so business side of life. Is a flourishing personal life an indicator of a successful business life, or are the two truly separate? Show Notes: 00:00 Part 1 Recap 01:00 Intro 03:00 You are the business 05:50 How do you sustain your obstinacy? 08:00 Balancing life and business 11:45 Love is the foundation 14:23 End...
Mar 27, 2019•14 min•Season 1Ep. 21
Brian Burkhart, noted keynote speaker, Shark Tank coach, TED presentation advisor and communications guru talks with Kathy Kolbe about his obstinance, challenges and what makes him tick. Show Notes 00:00 Intro 01:45 Who are you? 02:45 Pain in the ass! 03:30 Hogwash 06:20 Go work at McDonald's 07:25 You suck...and here's why 08:30 Eccentric act 10:50 Arrogant SOB 14:00 Poor Meghan 15:30 Send her something 17:25 Felt misunderstood 19:00 Not in my face 20:20 I don't need to win 23:00 Don't back dow...
Mar 20, 2019•38 min•Season 1Ep. 20
All Quick Starts are not made the same! In this episode, Kathy debunks false stereotypes about people who initiate in Quick Start. These individuals are often viewed as more creative, more energetic and prone to ADHD. Kathy provides clarity about this most misunderstood of the 4 modes of action and gives insight on how the other modes of action come into play. By gaining a deeper understanding, Quick Starts will be better able to play it big, with a better chance of success. Show Notes: 00:00 In...
Mar 04, 2019•21 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Listen in as Kathy talks with Nicole and Sterling Loucks, the two senior managers at Dynamynd, Inc, the company through which Kathy and her team create new products and programs. They discuss persistence and obstinance in the workplace and life. What does it look like, and when is it appropriate? Show Notes: 00:00 Intro 00:45 No one liked the name 01:45 Is obstinance negative? 03:30 Example of strength 05:00 Respect 06:00 Example of how to stay in your game 08:45 Where it doesn't work 09:45 Quie...
Feb 27, 2019•26 min•Season 1Ep. 18
At 3 years old doctors believed Jake Scott would never speak again, by age 5 he was diagnosed with severe autism. Few believed Jake would finish high school on time, if ever. Thanks to support from his family and knowledge of his conative capabilities, Jake persevered. He not only spoke and graduated high school in four years, he delivered the commencement speech for his graduating class. Jake and his mother, Heidi, visit with Kathy to discuss how he succeeded, his goals for the future and the f...
Feb 20, 2019•44 min•Season 1Ep. 17
The conclusion of Kathy’s interview with Joe Polish. Includes more of Joe’s marketing wisdom and Joe’s dating ad! 00:00 Intro 00:40 First business mentor 03:09 Eating or starving 05:16 Immersion method for Quick Starts 06:30 Results focus 07:40 Joe’s Dating Ad 21:21 More than I could handle 26:00 Don’t forget your pain 31:13 End
Feb 13, 2019•31 min•Season 1Ep. 16
In this episode Kathy Kolbe interviews Joe Polish, a carpet cleaning entrepreneur who went from rags to riches. Literally. 00:00 Intro 01:06 "The King of Networking" 04:01 The ad that started it all 06:55 The theory of reciprocity 11:00 What makes you different? 15:30 Get out of your comfort zone 17:45 You are either in communication or trying to escape 20:30 Joe's drug addiction 22:46 How did you learn to trust? 27:01 He who has his health has 1000 dreams 29:18 How would you define selling? 33:...
Feb 06, 2019•39 min•Season 1Ep. 15
Kathy discusses the relationship between dieting, exercise, wellness, and your conative strengths. Some things just don’t work for some people. We’ll teach you how to be succeed with any M.O. in health and wellness! 00:00 Intro 00:20 The one thing to be obstinate about 02:55 Advice for insistent follow thru 03:35 Advice for the rest of us 07:26 Fact Finders 09:00 Implementors 10:46 Eating is fun! 12:53 Quick Starts: Binge Eating 14:47 Eating for Implementors 15:25 Dieting for Follow Thrus 16:34 ...
Jan 30, 2019•25 min•Season 1Ep. 14
What’s wrong with just trusting your gut? Kathy offers a no-holds-barred analysis of President Trump’s leadership style in a non-political assessment of leadership, collaboration and compassion. 00:00 Intro 00:40 Perfectly obstinance or not? 02:00 It’s not about politics 03:10 Empathy and compassion 04:20 Teaching humble obstinance to children 05:40 The art of the compromise 06:30 Lesson for an early entrepreneur 10:00 Leadership 11:20 Will praise his talents 12:25 Trust your guts is not enough ...
Jan 23, 2019•17 min•Season 1Ep. 13
Kathy has a wide-ranging conversation with podcasting guru Paul Colligan on a number of topics including "should you podcast," obstinance in presentations, instincts and what talents entrepreneurs need on their team. Includes a giveaway and resources at perfectlyobstinate.com/paul . 00:00 Intro 00:45 Entrepreurial zeal 06:55 Knowing when to quit 10:55 On humor and its place 16:02 Charisma 16:55 All of me 20:54 End of the Creative Process 26:38 How Technology frees me 30:00 Constraints 32:48 Surr...
Jan 16, 2019•55 min•Season 1Ep. 12
Kathy Kolbe interviews international thought leader in K-12 education, Diane DeBacker. Together they explore leadership, obstinancy and conative truths. 00:00 Intro 00:50 Sneaky obstinance 02:35 Freedom to be yourself 03:53 My M.O. 06:00 Making a major change 09:30 Dealing with obstinance 11:00 Toughest problem I faced – Students with disabilities 13:15 Thank goodness you’ve arrived 14:48 Leadership through building teams 15:22 Bertrayed... 16:00 Don’t give up on it 17:15 That one moment.... 18:...
Jan 09, 2019•27 min•Season 1Ep. 11
Kathy interviews Bret and Sterling Loucks, a father and son with very different action oriented instincts. 00:00 Intro 00:33 The knack for hands on action 02:18 Not what I had imagined 03:20 Different approaches 05:04 Quality turn off 06:15 Working together – Sort of 08:05 Why bother? 10:30 Communicating through haptic talent 12:50 How resistance to haptic can help 14:00 Obstinate about quality 15:00 Three different talents in haptic 17:29 End...
Jan 02, 2019•18 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Kathy offers wisdom on the topic of New Year’s Resolutions. 00:00 Intro 00:30 Resolutions are conative 01:28 Resolution vs. desire 02:00 Must stay true to who you are 03:16 What you need from a gym 04:25 Habits 06:25 Resolution trap 08:20 The problem with expert advice 10:00 No excuse, find a work around 11:50 Financial resolutions 15:25 Time and energy and Venn diagrams 17:21 Use the creative process 19:00 Is it even possible to keep our resolutions? 20:44 End...
Dec 26, 2018•21 min•Season 1Ep. 9
Kathy continues with her gift buying tips based on the recipient’s natural creative process (M.O.), beginning with those who have no mode where they initiate action – the facilitators. She gives warnings about gifts to avoid for those with resistance in a mode and finishes by explaining how your method of shopping is a demonstration of your conative talents. 00:00 Intro 00:56 Gifts for Facilitators 02:43 Gifts to avoid for those with resistance in Fact Finder 03:35 Gifts to avoid for those with ...
Dec 19, 2018•21 min•Season 1Ep. 8
Kathy provides tips for finding the perfect gift to match the recipient’s personal creative process. Finally some relevant advice for giving the perfect gift that will be appreciated and utilized. 00:00 intro 00:18 You shouldn’t have... 01:12 Picking the perfect gift 01:34 Gifts for detail oriented Fact Finders 02:26 Cones of Dunshire example 04:16 Gifts for neat and organized Follow Thrus 05:20 Video Game Collector example 06:50 Gifts for Quick Starts that seek the unusual 09:20 Gifts for the D...
Dec 12, 2018•16 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Kathy explores a unique talent for collaboration and offers her perceptions in a celebration of the life of President George H.W. Bush. Audio Clips of President Bush from: George H.W. Bush Library Center 00:01 Intro 00:18 Every organization needs a facilitator 02:00 George H.W. Bush 03:02 Reunification 03:55 Desert Storm 07:54 Not seeking the limelight 09:18 Leading without initiating actions 10:36 No second term 11:45 Joining hands with competitor 12:40 Greater peace 13:40 Honor 14:21 End...
Dec 05, 2018•14 min•Season 1Ep. 6
Kathy talks with Dr. Andrea Kayne, Director of the Doctoral Program in Educational Leadership at DePaul University College of Education. Dr. Kayne is also an award winning author and thought leader. She is a master at using her unique natural abilities to make an impact in a wide area of pursuits. It’s a fascinating discussion about how to find your path to excellence. 00:00 Intro 01:35 All skills are necessary 03:36 Making law school work for me 05:00 Too far out of my game 06:55 Finding my nic...
Dec 05, 2018•14 min•Season 1Ep. 5
Mordechai Friedman tells the story of how learning how to manage his instinctive creative process has impacted his ability to work without burn-out days. 0:00 intro 0:47 I had this dark secret 1:25 This is not a joke 2:16 The key to freedom 3:05 Blowing my brains away 3:52 Give me the freedom to be myself 7:13 The solution was right at home 7:40 It’s a different story 9:10 Fight for your freedom to be yourself 9:52 End
Nov 28, 2018•10 min•Season 1Ep. 4
Kathy talks with Jerry Lujan about how success and leadership is dependent on the levels of effort people are willing to contribute. How to identify where people are and how to increase their levels of effort. 0:00 Intro 0:37 How to look at the 3 parts of the mind to make teams 1:50 Level of Human effort is an important factor 2:30 Difference between being successful and being a leader 4:10 How to assess what level of effort to expect from people you hire 5:40 Example of questioning technique 6:...
Nov 21, 2018•19 min•Season 1Ep. 3
Kathy Kolbe describes her new podcast and what to expect in future episodes 0:00 Intro 0:40 Kathy's mother was obstinate 1:00 Why obstinance can be positive 2:00 What does Kathy mean by the term conative? 2:40 Get busy! 3:30 Free to be yourself 4:50 Kick it down the road 5:00 Sneak peek 6:00 Who it's for 9:30 What's worth fighting for? 13:21 Your obstinance stories are important!
Nov 16, 2018•13 min•Season 1Ep. 2
It's about time obstinate people get a little credit for being willing to take a risk and being fearless when it comes to making a difference. if we're going to get rid of the status quo, we better be obstinate. Meet Kathy Kolbe ...
Oct 23, 2018•17 min•Season 1Ep. 1
