Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. This episode is a follow-up to last week’s episode on improving your relationships. Everyone struggles with relationships at times, be they romantic, familial, friendship, or work. If you’re not happy with a relationship but you don’t want to leave it, what can you do? In this episode, you’ll learn about another relationship concept: manuals. Listen in to learn what they are, how they can cause problems, and what you can do to prevent pro...
Jun 14, 2023•19 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. Everyone struggles with challenging relationships at times, be they romantic, familial, friendship, or work. If you’re not happy with a relationship but you don’t want to leave it, what can you do? In this episode you’ll learn three concepts that can help you shift your perspective and improve any kind of relationship – even if the other person doesn’t change. You’ll also hear an important additional suggestion and caveat about improving ...
Jun 07, 2023•23 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. When we face unexpected challenges, it’s normal for our brains to spin out in worry and fear about potential outcomes. This mental “spin cycle” not only hinders our ability to accurately assess the probability and severity of these outcomes but also impairs our prefrontal cortex’s problem-solving ability. If you’re faced with an unexpected problem and want to stop your brain’s spin cycle, what can you do? In this episode you’ll learn a po...
May 31, 2023•26 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. Outsourcing confidence is something all perfectionist women do. While there is probably a biological benefit to our brains doing it, it can be quite problematic. If you notice you’re outsourcing your confidence, what can you do about it? In this episode you’ll learn why we outsource confidence and self-worth and why it’s more useful to source them internally. Listen in to hear examples of how you might be outsourcing confidence and how yo...
May 24, 2023•23 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. Cognitive flexibility has a big impact on your emotional health and wellness. In a nutshell, cognitive flexibility is the ability to appropriately switch your thinking and your actions. It may not sound exciting or glamorous, but it directly impacts your creativity, resilience, and quality of life. The more cognitively flexible you are, the better able you are to respond to changes in your environment. So if you want to be more cognitivel...
May 17, 2023•27 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) , nearly 58 million U.S. adults live with mental illness like anxiety and depression. In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month , I’m dedicating this episode of the podcast to a coaching tool known as The Model. This tool helped me improve my mental health and learn to better manage my brain. Can it do the same for you? Listen in to learn the relationship between your thoughts an...
May 10, 2023•33 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. Women face a host of physiological, neurological, cultural and other factors that inhibit their confidence. Beyond the strategies discussed in last week’s episode, what can women do to overcome specific confidence blockers? Listen in to learn why confidence is especially challenging for perfectionist women, six confidence blockers all women should watch out for, and practical strategies to combat each one. Get full show notes and a transc...
May 03, 2023•28 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. Confidence is foundational to accomplishing goals and dreams in life, but it doesn’t come easily to most women. This is due to a variety of reasons – some biological, some environmental, and some cultural. So, if you’re a woman who wants to improve her confidence, what can you do? In this episode you’ll learn the challenges women face in developing and maintaining confidence, why confidence comes more easily to men than to women, and six ...
Apr 26, 2023•23 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. Most people struggle with difficult coworkers at some point in their career. Conflict and tension are natural components of all human relationships. What can you do when the conflict or tension undermines your ability to do your job or negatively impacts your mental state? How can you handle a difficult coworker in a way that decreases stress and frustration? In this episode you’ll learn a variety of ideas and strategies to help you handl...
Apr 19, 2023•25 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. Everyone experiences hard things in life. Sometimes we choose the challenges (like when we go after a goal or try to learn something new) and sometimes we don’t (like when we experience natural disasters, job loss, or the death of a loved one). Whether they’re of our choosing or not, what can we do to better handle them? In this episode you’ll learn a strategy I call “choosing your hard” that you can use to better handle difficulties in l...
Apr 12, 2023•20 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. Every day our amazing brains automatically and subconsciously collect evidence from the world around us. They collect evidence of what is and isn’t safe, what works and what doesn’t, and what’s important and what’s not – all to help us survive and navigate the world. Our brains are better and faster at collecting negative evidence than positive, though, and the over-collection of negative evidence often causes us to believe things that ar...
Apr 05, 2023•23 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. We always think we want quick progress and that slow progress is bad, but what if that’s not true? What if slow progress is okay or even useful? In this episode we’ll explore why slow progress isn’t a problem, and I’ll share six tips to help you handle slow or even no progress. If you’re working on a goal, trying to change or build a habit, or going through a challenging situation and things aren’t progressing as quickly as you’d like, th...
Mar 29, 2023•31 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. Seeing others as God does can be challenging. Our brains are hardwired to make snap judgements of others based on their outward appearance and behaviors. How can we go beyond "looking on the outward appearance" and get closer to "looking on the heart" as God does (see 1 Samuel 16:7 )? Whether you’re Christian or not, this episode will help you be more open and accepting of others – even when you don’t agree with their political, religious...
Mar 15, 2023•27 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. If you set New Year’s resolutions or goals in January, there’s a decent chance you’ve already slipped up or abandoned them completely. But that doesn’t mean failure is inevitable. In this episode, we’ll explore three common obstacles to achieving goals and resolutions and three simple strategies you can use to overcome them to make success inevitable. If goals and resolutions feel overwhelming or heavy or frustrating to you, if you don’t ...
Feb 23, 2022•38 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. This episode is part three of a three-part series on the Lies of Perfectionism. Do you identify as a perfectionist? Do you think perfectionism helps you do better work and be a better person? Perfectionism pretends to be noble. It pretends to help you improve and grow. But for a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism isn't helpful. For a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism creates crippling self-doubt and leaves them feeling an...
Dec 15, 2021•27 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. This episode is part two of a three-part series on the Lies of Perfectionism. Do you identify as a perfectionist? Do you think perfectionism helps you do better work and be a better person? Perfectionism pretends to be noble. It pretends to help you improve and grow. But for a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism isn't helpful. For a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism creates crippling self-doubt and leaves them feeling anxi...
Dec 08, 2021•20 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. This episode is part one of a three-part series on the Lies of Perfectionism. Do you identify as a perfectionist? Do you think perfectionism helps you do better work and be a better person? Perfectionism pretends to be noble. It pretends to help you improve and grow. But for a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism isn't helpful. For a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism creates crippling self-doubt and leaves them feeling anxi...
Dec 01, 2021•29 min
Have a comment about the episode? Send us a text message. Have you ever found yourself thinking you’re not good enough, you don’t fit in, you’ll never be able to accomplish your goals, or that life shouldn’t be happening the way it is? Most of us have limiting and painful thoughts like those that we automatically accept as true and feel powerless to change. But what if you didn’t have to accept them? What if you could question your brain’s authority, challenge the thoughts, and choose to think s...
Nov 19, 2021•29 min
