¶ Impact of Confidence on Relationships
Welcome , welcome , welcome . Welcome back to another episode of the Peace and Prosperity Podcast . Y'all we today we're talking about confidence and the impact confidence can have on relationships .
Y'all know a lot of times when we talk about confidence here , we talk about it from you know how it impacts the individual , whether that be your anxiety level , your stress level . You know how you want to avoid burnout . We talk about those things but we forget if you don't have the right level of confidence it will do disasters in your relationship .
Disasters in your relationship . So I'm going to break it down in a couple of different ways on how your confidence especially if you have lack of confidence or low confidence how it can really derail your relationship . The first way is that you will run into communication challenges .
Think about a relationship that you had where you know maybe you're having some arguments , you're getting into it about this or that and you try to express yourself and either you don't have a lot of confidence or maybe your partner doesn't have great confidence .
So they're continuously trying to prove their point without hearing what you have to say , because they're like if I over talk you , then I can kind of overpower you in a sense , not physically , but in the context of this argument and you end up with a lot of communication issues . You're not hearing them .
They're not hearing you because you feel like I just got to get this out . I got to get this out because if I don't , then it means that or you're telling yourself it means something about you if you can't articulate your point in that moment . Or vice versa , your partner may feel like if I can't get it all out right now , you know it's over .
You know you're going to sit down and listen to me and initially this can seem like solely a communication issue . But if we dig deeper , we'll probably see that somebody or both parties are dealing with low confidence , maybe low self-esteem , and this could have stemmed from issues way before the relationship . But now we're showing up Right .
So sometimes when we don't deal with past issues , past hurt , past trauma , it'll rear its head in our current relationship . So that's the first way y'all we got to be mindful of those communication issues and how they show up when there's a lack of confidence .
The second thing that will happen you will find yourself with poor conflict resolution , because now you can't really resolve things . Conflict resolution because now you can't really resolve things . If it doesn't go your way .
You're like you know what I'm done , because you're taking it very personally when things don't go your way so you don't end up resolving any conflict . That's a confidence issue , because you want to be able to say you know what ? Let me take accountability . This was my bad , I got this wrong , I didn't empathize with you .
But you won't be able to do that if it's all about you or you feel like if I say that it was my fault , then that means I'm not enough . Excuse me , right . So you become super , super defensive and nobody likes when they're being attacked or when you can't even take any type of constructive feedback about how you're showing up in that relationship .
So confidence is tricky because in so many ways that we don't always think about , it'll show up and hit us there too . So the third way confidence or lack of confidence can show up in a relationship is insecurity . Okay , yep , I said it , we definitely go in there . Insecurities , and this one is huge .
It is huge because when someone is insecure , that means that they're not sure of themselves . They may not feel like they are enough . They're looking for external validation , and this can do a couple of things . One it could mean that your partner is now stepping out or you . You're looking for validation .
Your confidence is not great , so you're looking for other people or other experiences to validate you . That's going to be a problem , particularly if you're in a committed , committed relationship or vice versa . If your partner is seeking external validation , you may feel like , well , how come I can't get this right . And it's not you .
It's that this person's insecurity is starting to cause more problems in your relationship . You ever seen where you out and about and you'll see a couple and I'm not , I'm not judging , but you'll see a couple , maybe somebody's just a certain way , and you're like , dang , hold up , what type of attention are they trying to get ?
And you'll think , well , how come he or she , why did they let them leave the house like that ? That may not have anything to do with that partner . It could be that person saying you know what ? Let me , you know , show that I still have it . So I want more attention . Because , you know , attention from my partner is just not enough .
I'm still feeling like I need more validation . My partner's hitting all my love languages , but that's not enough . I still need more . These are some of those deeper seated issues that definitely need to be addressed , but they wreak havoc on the relationship itself too . So , yeah , insecurity y'all that's a big one .
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¶ Setting Boundaries in Relationships
Another way that lack of confidence can really mess up your relationship yeah , I would say it'll mess up your relationship is you won't have any boundaries . What does that mean ? Anything goes . You don't know when to say yes , you don't know when to say no .
You just have like no backbone because you're like , well , I don't want this to you know , I don't want to say no and now I don't end up , I don't have a relationship .
So you're letting things go or letting things fly in the relationship that normally you wouldn't , because you would be much more assertive about some things or certain things , but because you are nervous that this person could tiptoe and walk out your life , you say yes to everything and then you look back and say , dang , I know that's not me , I know I wouldn't
want my partner to spend all my money to disrespect me , to not make , you know , not us have an official title or Other things are going on in a relationship that are just not something that you would necessarily go for , but because you're operating out of fear . You let these things happen . You let this person talk to you a certain way .
You let this person not uphold your values . Because you don't want to be alone . You think that if you do speak up for yourself , it's going to mean well , this could be the last person I get Right . I don't want that for me . I've seen it happen with my mom . I've seen it happen with my dad .
I saw what happened when they tried to stand up for us as kids or when they tried to say this is what they didn't want or did want in a relationship . So now your boundaries go out the window because of things that you've said or seen before .
So be mindful of just how much are you putting up with , because your confidence is not where it should be , your self-esteem is not where it's not at a healthy level . So so many things in a relationship you're letting it fly . Yeah , let's pause on that . You deserve better .
You actually deserve whatever you want , you know within reason , but you definitely don't deserve to be disrespected or to be walked over out of fear .
Ask yourself , when something happens to you , when you let something slide , ask yourself am I operating out of a place of fear , and this is why I'm letting this happen , or am I truly okay with this situation , right ? Only you can answer that question , but I want you to take a pause and do it .
So , the last thing that I want to say on confidence and how it will show up and impact your relationship or prevent you from being in a healthy relationship , is that the lack of confidence can result in a fear of rejection In your mind . You can think nobody wants me , I'm not worthy , I'm not getting picked .
So because of that fear , or the fear of not getting picked again , you change , and not in a way that is progressive for you . You change in a way that you're ashamed of . If you're wondering like , okay , am I this person ? Is my confidence impacting how I'm showing up in relationships , ask yourself do you have boundaries and are you reinforcing the boundaries ?
What are your communication ? Issues like how is the communication in a relationship ? Are you operating out of a fear of rejection ? And , lastly , how are y'all resolving conflicts ? Or are you just throwing your hands up and saying you know what ? I can't do nothing about this . You can , you can , but you probably don't feel like you can .
So because you don't feel like it , you're taking that as a fact . I want to say managing confidence in a relationship and really thinking about how , when you build up your confidence , just how empowering it will be for you If you have family or kids , how empowering it will be for them to see you operate out of a space of confidence .
That in itself can be motivating to take the stance or take the initiative to really do something about it and pay attention to how you showing up . Are you being too passive , are you being too aggressive , are you snapping and , lastly , are you operating out of fear of being alone and because of that , you're just settling ?
All right , y'all , we're gonna have to do a part two . I'll probably , uh , bring a relationship expert on here to really dialogue on some ways to to address this , but I wanted to give you some things to think about on how your confidence , or lack of confidence , could truly be hurting your relationships . All right , y'all . As always , be blessed Peace .
¶ Managing High Functioning Anxiety
Thank you all for listening to another episode of the Peace and Prosperity Podcast . Again , if you are feeling like , hey , I'm experiencing high functioning anxiety , don't beat yourself up about it . It is okay .
We all experience anxiety from time to time , and I gave you a couple of things that you can do on your own , but don't hesitate to reach out to a professional to better manage what you're going through . Okay , and lastly , make sure , if you have not like , share , subscribe to the podcast and send this out to a friend .
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