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Past Chaos

April Kirk & Roy Farnerwww.pastchaos.com
April and Roy, stars of TLC's "You, Me & My Ex" and the hosts of Past Chaos, take you on a journey through marriage, divorce, coparenting and so much more! Listen as this ex-wife and ex-husband discuss the trials, tribulations, and triumphs they encountered while they built a positive relationship and productive communication after divorce. These two exes can be like oil and vinegar, but at the end of the day they share a very strong bond - parenthood. Together they want to build a community of blended families that focus on putting the children’s needs above their own. Parenting presents its own challenges, add in filming a reality television show – you have yourself a whole new set of issues. Unfortunately, divorce happens, but it does not have to place lasting and damaging effects on children. Past Chaos was created in hopes of shedding light on positive co-parenting and advocating for better communication for the parents of children in broken homes. April and Roy hope you will join them on this adventure of proving that blended is better! Past Chaos is a weekly podcast that is available wherever you prefer to listen. Please subscribe.
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Episodes

Nothing's Gonna Stop Us Now

In this episode, April and Loren recount the events of the last year. They discuss the highs and lows, the ups and downs, but most of all - the victories they have had while co-parenting past the chaos. The wives share their hopes for the future and what they wish to share with other families going through a difficult custody battle. Support the show

Jun 28, 202036 minSeason 2Ep. 57

Should I Stay Or Should I Go

In this episode, April and Loren discuss their thoughts on couples that choose to stay married for the sake of the children. They talk about their personal experience with this, in their previous marriages. The women are joined by Missy, who describes her childhood with parents that chose to remain married even though their relationship was volatile. She joins them on the day of her parent's long-awaited divorce - 32 years in the making. Support the show...

Jun 21, 202037 minSeason 2Ep. 56

Mad Momma

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the very sensitive, but relevant topic of Mental Illness. More specifically, the women dive into the topic of motherhood and your mental health. They discuss their experiences with depression during their divorces, while trying to maintain sanity so they can still be great mothers. The women are joined by April's youngest daughter, and she discusses her diagnoses of mental illness. Support the show...

Jun 14, 202043 minSeason 2Ep. 55

The Ex-Wife's Guide To Surviving Divorce

In this episode, April and Loren discuss their actions while going through both of their divorces. They talk about how they behaved and what they wish they would have done differently. April and Loren developed their own Guide to surviving divorce, which they discuss during this episode. This episode is sponsored by Masami Hair Care products. Support the show

Jun 07, 202040 minSeason 2Ep. 54

I Need You

In this episode, April and Loren discuss parental alienation. The are joined by Stefanie, a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in the state of WI, who holds a master’s degree in Forensic Psychology from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology . The women get professional insight on the tough subject of parental alienation, while discussing their experiences in the matter. Support the show...

May 31, 202033 minSeason 2Ep. 53

Everything's Gonna Be Alright

In this episode, April and Loren discuss how divorce and positive co-parenting affect children. They talk about their individual experiences as well as how their children are coping today. April and Loren are joined by special guest and fellow Podcast host, Melissa Brown. Melissa is a mom and stepmom, and she hosts "The Blended Family Podcast". Together, the women discuss the affects divorce and blending families can have on children. Support the show...

May 24, 202028 minSeason 2Ep. 52

You're My Best Friend

In this episode, April and Loren discuss being best friends with your new spouse's ex. The women recount the beginning of their relationship, recalling the ups and downs. They talk about the benefits of having such a strong friendship as wife and ex-wife, mom and stepmom. This episode is sponsored by Aila. You can shop Aila at www.meetaila.com. Be sure to use our code - PASTCHAOS20 - at checkout for 20% off your order! Support the show...

May 17, 202026 minSeason 2Ep. 51

World's Okayest Mom

In this episode April discusses the difference between co-parenting infants and teenagers. She is joined by a special guest co-host, Leslie. The women talk about the struggles and joys of being a stepmom. They explain what they feel has been the most difficult age to parent and co-parent their children. Support the show

May 10, 202029 minSeason 2Ep. 50

Travelin' Momma

In this episode we discuss long-distance co-parenting. We talk about the three tips we believe are important when co-parenting from afar. April is joined by a special guest, her ex-husband, Jerry. Together, they discuss how they were able to positively co-parent while living on opposite sides of the country. This episode is sponsored by Podcorn. Support the show

May 03, 202051 minSeason 2Ep. 49

Teacher's Pest

In this episode, April has a guest co-host to help her discuss becoming a stepparent. She is joined by her ex-husband, Roy, to help shed light on what you can expect when you become a stepparent. They offer advice and tips on how to peacefully blend your family, while maintaining your sanity. Support the show

Apr 26, 202045 minSeason 2Ep. 48

Make A Difference

In this episode, April and Loren discuss different styles of co-parenting. They talk about all the types they have tried in their personal dynamic and what has and has not worked for them. They are joined by special guest, Tabitha, who shares her emotional co-parenting journey. Support the show

Apr 19, 202041 minSeason 2Ep. 47

Raw and Unfiltered

In this BONUS episode, April and Loren give insight into what has been going on in their co-parenting relationship lately. They go into detail on the changes that will be coming in their journey as well as a brief recap of what has already happened. Support the show

Apr 17, 202023 minSeason 2Ep. 46

Boundaries of Love

In this episode, April and Loren discuss boundaries in your co-parenting relationship. They talk about setting boundaries and the ones they feel are important for their family dynamic. Joining them to give a professional opinion on the topic, Stefani adds a therapeutic insight on why boundaries are important and how to have the sometimes difficult talks about setting them. Check us out on the Top Co-Parenting Podcasts you must follow in 2020. https://blog.feedspot.com/coparenting_podcasts/ Suppo...

Apr 12, 202047 minSeason 2Ep. 45

You Saved Me

In this episode, April and Loren discuss co-parenting with an addict. They talk about the experiences they had growing up with family members who suffered from addiction. Since neither April nor Loren have co-parented with an addict, they have very special guests to shed light on the subject. Leslie is married to Jennifer's ex husband. Together, they co-parent two daughters. Throughout their relationship, Jennifer suffered from addiction. Leslie and Jennifer have since developed a very strong bo...

Apr 05, 202051 minSeason 2Ep. 44

God Gave Me You

In this episode, April and Loren discuss co-parenting a child with a very unique behavior. They talk about the challenges they face when trying to forge a positive co-parenting relationship, while simultaneously parenting a child that had a much different behavior than they had ever dealt with before. The women have a surprise guest join them, their son Jackson. Support the show

Mar 29, 202029 minSeason 2Ep. 43

Goodbye, Jealousy

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the ugly truth that is...jealousy. They tell us examples of how jealousy affected them during their divorces and early on in their co-parenting relationship. April and Loren also give listeners three ways to combat jealousy, in order to preserve your relationship and yourself. Support the show

Mar 22, 202028 minSeason 2Ep. 42

Co-Parenting Past Coronavirus

In this episode April and Loren discuss co-parenting plans during the coronavirus epidemic. They talk about alternative measures you can take in regards to your parenting plan while dealing with this crisis. Support the show

Mar 19, 202029 minSeason 2Ep. 41

Let's Stay Together

In this episode, April and Loren discuss relationships and intimacy. They talk about the importance of keeping the romance in a relationship when you are going through stressful situations, such as a bitter custody battle. The women are joined by special guest, Rabbi Manis Friedman, to discuss the art of maintaining an intimate relationship and just what that means. Support the show

Mar 15, 202034 minSeason 2Ep. 40

Let It Go

In this episode, April and Loren discuss co-parenting with a narcissist. They talk about five tips they feel are important to consider when co-parenting with a narcissistic person. Support the show

Mar 08, 202030 minSeason 2Ep. 39

Lean On Me

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the benefits of having a tribe of friends that you can count on. During their divorces and co-parenting journey, the Wives have been surrounded by their village. Their friends, Amanda and Heather, join them to discuss parenting with a village and talk about how important it is to embrace the help that your group of friends can provide during the good times and bad. Support the show

Mar 01, 202036 minSeason 2Ep. 38

Happiness, Party Of One

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the importance of being alone after divorce. They talk about how it is pertinent for your mental health to know more about your true self, before you expect anyone else to be able to do the same. How can we expect someone to love us, if we do not truly love ourselves? This episode is filled with the empowerment you need to become comfortable and confident on your own. Support the show

Feb 23, 202038 minSeason 2Ep. 37

Together Is Better

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the concept of co-parenting with a stepparent. They explain that in some relationships, communication between the ex spouses is so toxic, that is healthier for the stepparent to aide in co-parenting until the biological parents can reach a more peaceful existence. Support the show

Feb 15, 202032 minSeason 2Ep. 36

For The Love Of Peace

In this episode, April and Loren discuss creating a peaceful co-parenting relationship. They are joined by Kathy Hammond. a 27-year veteran stepmom, writer, speaker, and award-winning author, with over 2 decades of stepmom experience. April and Loren go into detail on topics covered in Kathy's latest book, “How To Kill Your Husband’s Ex, Attorneys, and Then Some”. This amazing read, gives wonderful advice to women on how to survive being a stepmom. Support the show...

Feb 09, 202043 minSeason 2Ep. 35

You Cannot Tame A Wild Woman

In this episode, April and Loren discuss when men marry a strong-willed woman and attempt to change her. April recalls that no man has ever tried changing her, but she has put pressure on herself to fit into what she feels the man wants her to be. Loren tells us that she feels the majority of the men she has dated all want to tame her and place her in a box that she never fits into. Support the show

Feb 02, 202032 minSeason 2Ep. 34

My Dearest Mother

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the hot topic of "Mommy Issues". They talk about how their relationships with their mothers have affected their parenting style as adults. The women are joined by a special guest, Ally, to give her insight on her issues as a child growing up with "Mommy Issues". Support the show

Jan 26, 202037 minSeason 2Ep. 33

Stronger Tomorrow

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the heavy topic of mental illness in mothers, while going through a divorce. They both talk about their personal mental health while attempting to hold things together and parent their children while surviving their divorces. April and Loren talk about how important it is to open up about your mental health. Support the show

Jan 19, 202040 minSeason 2Ep. 32

Perfectly Imperfect

In this episode, April and Loren discuss mom-shaming. The women talk about how they have both been mom-shamed, as well as admitting they have been guilty of judging other moms in the process. April also shocks Loren with a revelation about how she feels about women that do not have children becoming part of their blended family. Support the show

Jan 12, 202051 minSeason 2Ep. 31

The Beginning Starts Today

In this episode, April and Loren discuss their co-parenting relationship and how it has evolved in 2019. They also discuss their goals and hopes for 2020. April talks about how her highs and lows of the previous year and where she hopes the co-parenting relationship will go in the future. Loren tells us how their co-parenting relationship has affected her life as a whole and what she hopes will come of it. Support the show

Jan 05, 202026 minSeason 2Ep. 30

Filtering The Truth

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the pressure of portraying the 'perfect' life on social media. They talk about how this relates to co-parenting and the instances that occurred in their real-life custody battle. April and Loren go into detail about how society and social media place stress on individuals and families to maintain a 'perfect' appearance in order to fit in with the rest of the world. Support the show

Dec 22, 201938 minSeason 2Ep. 29

No Looking Back

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the process of letting go and moving on. They talk about the three steps of acceptance, healing, and forgiving and how they used them during their divorces in order to strengthen their co-parenting relationship as well as themselves personally. They are joined by a prior guest and good friend, Heather, to give her perception on the topic. Support the show

Dec 15, 201942 minSeason 2Ep. 28
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