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Past Chaos

April Kirk & Roy Farnerwww.pastchaos.com
April and Roy, stars of TLC's "You, Me & My Ex" and the hosts of Past Chaos, take you on a journey through marriage, divorce, coparenting and so much more! Listen as this ex-wife and ex-husband discuss the trials, tribulations, and triumphs they encountered while they built a positive relationship and productive communication after divorce. These two exes can be like oil and vinegar, but at the end of the day they share a very strong bond - parenthood. Together they want to build a community of blended families that focus on putting the children’s needs above their own. Parenting presents its own challenges, add in filming a reality television show – you have yourself a whole new set of issues. Unfortunately, divorce happens, but it does not have to place lasting and damaging effects on children. Past Chaos was created in hopes of shedding light on positive co-parenting and advocating for better communication for the parents of children in broken homes. April and Roy hope you will join them on this adventure of proving that blended is better! Past Chaos is a weekly podcast that is available wherever you prefer to listen. Please subscribe.
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Episodes

The Strong One

In this episode, April and Loren discuss dating as a single parent. April talks about her experiences in dating after her first marriage, while being the single mother of two daughters. Loren tells us about new-age dating as a single mom, while co-parenting three children with her ex-husband and April. Support the show

Dec 08, 201936 minSeason 2Ep. 27

Walk The Line

In this episode, April and Loren discuss knowing when it is time to end a marriage. They talk about how and why each of their previous marriages ended and what made them know it was time to walk away. They invited a special guest on their show to recall her shocking story of her marriage and what let to its demise. Support the show

Dec 01, 201948 minSeason 2Ep. 26

Father Of Mine

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the effects that absentee parents inflict on the children they abandon. The Wives recall their personal childhood experiences involving their family dynamic. With a special guest, April's son-in-law, they get a male perspective on the topic of growing up with and absent father. Support the show

Nov 24, 201938 minSeason 2Ep. 25

The Truth About Boys and Girls

In this episode, April and Loren discuss gender bias in co-parenting. They talk about parenting roles they experienced during childhood, and they give their opinions on the same roles in their adult lives. With a special guest, they delve into the different aspects of gender bias between step-parenting and biological parenting. Support the show

Nov 17, 201936 minSeason 2Ep. 24

Meet Me In The Middle

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the three guidelines they believe are important to consider when you are introducing a new love interest to your children and ex spouse. The talk about timeline, approach, and expectations. With a special guest, their friend and neighbor Heather, they recall a personal experience of April's ex-husband introducing her and their son to his love interest - Heather. Support the show

Nov 10, 201957 minSeason 2Ep. 23

Call On Me

In this episode, April and Loren give the details of the call that Loren made to April that began the friendship they have today. Loren discusses the heartbreak and devastation that led to her reaching out to April for help. April tells us about her feelings on receiving the news from Loren and how that affected her outlook on their friendship and co-parenting relationship. The women reveal how one simple phone call built the bridge that constructed an extremely strong bond between them. Support...

Nov 03, 201943 minSeason 1Ep. 22

The Crazy Wakeup Call

In this episode, April and Loren discuss what led up to the call that changed their relationship forever. They talk about returning home to find the devastation that the hurricane left in its path. April explains how she was able to build a stronger marriage in the process, while Loren discusses the demise of her relationship. Support the show

Oct 27, 201934 minSeason 1Ep. 21

Happiness and Motherhood

In this episode, April and Loren discuss one final attempt at creating their own custody agreement sans attorneys and the courtroom. They also give listeners an insight into their last mediation, and how pointless in turned out to be. Loren discusses her struggles with her oldest son and how the divorce and custody battle affected their relationship. April talks about the day her oldest daughter revealed that she was gay, and how she handled the news. Support the show...

Oct 20, 201940 minSeason 1Ep. 20

Lovie Thy Enemy

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the first culminating event that aided them in developing a positive coparenting relationship. Loren explains the importance of communication and compromise while building a good relationship with your counterpart. April discusses how imperative it is to rebuild trust in a relationship and how it correlates to positive coparenting. Support the show

Oct 13, 201950 minSeason 1Ep. 19

Strange Money

In this episode April and Loren continue the custody battle sage with a new court hearing. This time, the judge orders Loren to pay child support to John. During court, she also comes face to face with a long time friend turned foe. Loren discusses the advancement of her romantic relationship and where it is headed. April tells us about her feelings in the child support hearing, as well as the issues with John's attorney's office. She learns that her pregnant daughter has decided to get married....

Oct 06, 201942 minSeason 1Ep. 18

Hopelessly Devoted

In this episode the Wives discuss the continuance of their unproductive co-parenting relationship. April recalls an incident where Loren attacked her insecurities, by insulting her recent lip injections. April also continues the saga of her pregnant daughter and the drama behind that situation. Loren remembers how difficult her life was when she felt alienated from her children's lives. She takes us back to the relationship she was in and recalls just how serious things were becoming. Support th...

Sep 29, 201947 minSeason 1Ep. 17

Who's Your Momma

In this episode, April and Loren discuss their views on children calling stepparents 'mom' and 'dad'. They explain their take on the topic by giving insight into their individual childhood situations, as well as their current position. The Wives are also joined by special guests, John and Roy. The men give their opinions on the topic and offer a few laughs to lighten the mood. John describes his feelings on his children referring to April as 'mom'. Roy explains how he felt when April's daughters...

Sep 22, 201939 minSeason 1Ep. 16

Boyfriend and Baby on Board

In this episode April and Loren discuss the first major shared holiday in their co-parenting journey. Loren also discusses the details of her first serious relationship after her divorce from John. April tells us the struggles she had when she and John discuss having and child of their own, and then drops the bomb on who is expecting a baby. Support the show

Sep 15, 201942 minSeason 1Ep. 15

Wedding Bells and Stories to Tell

In this episode, the Wives continue to discuss the negative co-parenting relationship they maintained. They talk about how difficult it was to communicate in all aspects. April describes her wedding day and shares a secret with Loren that has them both in tears with laughter. Loren also tells us about the new love interest she met during that time in her life. Support the show

Sep 08, 201957 minSeason 1Ep. 14

The Aftermath

In this episode, the Wives discuss the aftermath of the verdict. They also discuss their friendship and co-parenting relationship and what they believe got them to the positive place they are in. They laugh and gasp at their parenting and relationship stories, while explaining what they hope listeners get out of hearing their stories. Support the show

Sep 01, 20191 hr 7 minSeason 1Ep. 13

The Verdict

In this episode, the Wives talk about the initial court case that decided custody for Loren and John's three boys. We hear about the emotional details during the trial and how the outcome affected their family. The Wives are joined by John, April's husband and Loren's ex-husband, to give his first-hand account of the events that transpired that day. Support the show

Aug 25, 20191 hr 1 minSeason 1Ep. 12

Lies and Ex-Wives

In this special edition Podcast released in honor of reaching 500 Facebook followers, the Wives sit down with Jessica, the wife of April's 1st ex-husband to discuss their co-parenting dynamic. April and Jessica take a trip down memory lane to the beginning of their tumultuous relationship, and how they overcame the odds to provide a stable and positive atmosphere for their children. Support the show

Aug 24, 201939 minSeason 1Ep. 11

The Beginning Of The End

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the aftermath of the email that rocked their worlds. They go into detail about the start of the custody battle that lasted over two years. This is where things begin to get extremely difficult and emotions that have been buried, never to be seen again, rise to the surface. Support the show

Aug 18, 201952 minSeason 1Ep. 10

Receiving Love and Sending Wrath

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the catapult into their messy relationship. They will talk about the email that began the horrible custody battle that lasted over 2 years. Loren discusses her move back to Georgia and how that affected her relationship with John. April discusses the beginning of her relationship with John, and how they fell in love while he was away for training. Support the show

Aug 11, 20191 hr 7 minSeason 1Ep. 9

Where There's Smoke, There's Fire

In this week's episode, April and Loren discuss the culminating event of the finale of Loren's marriage to John. April discusses how her feelings for John began to grow stronger. You will hear about the lies, betrayal, family drama, and so much more! Support the show

Aug 04, 201938 minSeason 1Ep. 8

Bang Is The Sound Of Revenge

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the continuing saga of their rollercoaster relationship. It seemed like they had made a mends, but it was short lived. The drama continued over the friendship that April was building with John, only causing Loren to dislike April even more. Things came to a head when April discovered a text between Loren and Roy regarding the night they "ended it with a bang". Support the show

Jul 28, 201939 minSeason 1Ep. 7

The Story of Greener Grass

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the infamous 'watering can'. As April and John's friendship is progressing, Loren returns and things start to heat up. The tension between Loren and John is at an all-time high. As a storm rolls into town, Loren decides to confront April about her relationship with John. Support the show

Jul 21, 201949 minSeason 1Ep. 6

How I Met The Guy Next Door

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the night they first met. April also discusses how her friendship with John began. She describes the moment she found out that Loren had moved out and John was getting a divorce. Loren talks about why she left and how she felt about April when they originally met. She also opens up about what things were like inside their home that led up to her leaving. Support the show

Jul 19, 201930 minSeason 1Ep. 5

The Husband I Never Knew

In this week's episode, Loren and April go into detail about the bombshell that was dropped on Loren early in her marriage with John. They will discuss infidelity, secret children, and working through heartache and pain. April will ask Loren tough questions on what it was like to find out that the father of her child also had a child with someone else. Join them as the secrets are revealed firsthand! Support the show

Jul 14, 201939 minSeason 1Ep. 4

How We Survived Affairs and Child Brides

In this episode the April and Loren discuss their first and second marriages. Loren goes into detail on her first marriage and how she believes he was her one true love. Will they find their way back to one another? She also discusses her second marriage to John, who is April's current husband. Loren talks about how her marriage to John began as an affair. April discusses her first marriage that began at a very young age. She talks about the domestic abuse she encountered during that relationshi...

Jul 03, 201934 minSeason 1Ep. 3

And So It Begins

April and Loren take it way back...back to the beginning. They dive into their childhood of divorce, blended families, abuse, alcoholism, and teen pregnancy. The 'Wife's' take you on a journey to where it all started for them. In this episode you will learn how their upbringing molded them into the women they are today. You will also gain a better understanding of how their past has and continues to affect their future. This will be an emotional journey for them, so join in while they laugh, cry...

Jun 14, 201929 minSeason 1Ep. 2

The 5 W's: Who, What, When, Where, and Wife's

In this episode April and Loren introduce themselves and give listeners an insight into who they are, what listeners can expect to hear, when they will be podcasting and blogging, where they will podcast and the significance of the place, and most importantly - the reason the Wife's decided to join forces and tackle this journey together as a TEAM! Support the show

Jun 04, 201921 minSeason 1Ep. 1
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