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Past Chaos

April Kirk & Roy Farnerwww.pastchaos.com
April and Roy, stars of TLC's "You, Me & My Ex" and the hosts of Past Chaos, take you on a journey through marriage, divorce, coparenting and so much more! Listen as this ex-wife and ex-husband discuss the trials, tribulations, and triumphs they encountered while they built a positive relationship and productive communication after divorce. These two exes can be like oil and vinegar, but at the end of the day they share a very strong bond - parenthood. Together they want to build a community of blended families that focus on putting the children’s needs above their own. Parenting presents its own challenges, add in filming a reality television show – you have yourself a whole new set of issues. Unfortunately, divorce happens, but it does not have to place lasting and damaging effects on children. Past Chaos was created in hopes of shedding light on positive co-parenting and advocating for better communication for the parents of children in broken homes. April and Roy hope you will join them on this adventure of proving that blended is better! Past Chaos is a weekly podcast that is available wherever you prefer to listen. Please subscribe.
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Episodes

You're Gonna Need To EX-plain

It's time for more EX-tra Chaos? Here is your recap of "You, Me & My Ex" Season 2 Episode 5! April is joined again by special guest host - Caroline Hines. We open up with De'Andre and his jewelry line party it. He admits maybe he wasn't at his best when he was with Rowan, and that's why he wants her to be included in his success now. Rowan admits it bothers her a bit that De'Andre didn’t do some of the things he does with Elodie, when they were dating. At the party, De'Andre is eager to intr...

May 25, 202346 minSeason 4Ep. 177

What To EX-pect

Are you ready for some more EX-tra Chaos? Here is your recap of "You, Me & My Ex" Season 2 Episode 4! April is joined again by special guest host - Caroline Hines. We start out with Matt, Kenzie, & Chelsea. Matt discusses the pressure of getting engaged, and maybe he had a poor choice of words to describe the situation. We find out that three is a crowd when it comes to blow-up yard pools. Still, Chelsea was living her best life and showing off her "breast" assets. However, even the kidd...

May 19, 202331 minSeason 4Ep. 176

Waiting To EX-hale

Are you ready for some more EX-tra Chaos? Here is your recap of "You, Me & My Ex" Season 2 Episode 3! April is joined again by special guest host - Caroline Hines. This week, we start off with Matt, Kenzie, and Chelsea. Matt drops the bomb to Chelsea that Kenzie's parents are coming over for a BBQ. No need to unpack your bags, Chelsea, you need to go to an awkward dinner so Matt can throw you to the wolves. In Florida, De'Andre and Elodie are chilling by the pool. De'Andre informs Elodie tha...

May 09, 202337 minSeason 4Ep. 175

Un-EX-pected News

Are you ready for some more EX-tra Chaos? Here is your recap of "You, Me & My Ex" Season 2 Episode 2! April is joined by special guest host - Caroline Hines. This episode is a little late because April received some terrible news last week. Her grandmother passed away, so she rushed back home to Tennessee to be with her family. Things are getting back to her version of "normal", and the ladies are getting caught up with the drama. In episode one, we meet a new group - Chelsea, Matt, and Kenz...

May 05, 202338 minSeason 4Ep. 174

Great EX-pectations

Are you ready for some EX-tra Chaos! April and Hayli dive in to the Season 2 premier of "You, Me & My Ex". After a wild weekend of full mom-mode - soccer tournaments and prom night, April gives details about her trip to Florida for the premier party. In episode one, we meet a new group - Elodie, De'Andre, and Rowan. De'Andre's mom is still rooting for him to get back together with Rowan. But Elodie is here to show everyone who is in charge! Next up is Alex, Caroline, and Stephen! Caroline an...

Apr 24, 202336 minSeason 4Ep. 173

What Really Matters

We are happy to be back...again! After an emergency trip to her hometown, April has time to reflect on a BIG question. "What really matters in life?" This week, the women talk about reflection and forgiveness. In life, we face so many obstacles. At the end of the day, we have to focus on what's most important. April discusses her feelings on the premier of their reality tv show. She reveals that several of the other cast members will be making guest appearances on "Past Chaos". The women also ad...

Apr 10, 202330 minSeason 4Ep. 172

Do Other People's Opinions Matter

We are feeling better after a stomach bug wreaked havoc on most of our family! This week, April's son-in-law gives the podcast a review. That opened up a whole can of chaos. It made us think, why do we mostly review things we don't like instead of making sure people know when they are doing something good? There have been a lot of unforeseen changes lately with the podcast. Since they weren't planned, we picked up the pieces and moved on. After all, the show must go on! We started this podcast t...

Mar 27, 202327 minSeason 4Ep. 171

Do You Silence Your Children

Do you ever wonder if you are hindering your child's ability to be themselves? This week April is joined by her oldest daughter. They discuss allowing your children to have individuality, while still maintaining the reigns as a parent. April asks her daughter if she feels that she was allowed to have a voice as a child and how that affected her becoming an adult. Is there a fine line between allowing your child to be an individual but not allowing young minds to make big adult decisions? Also, f...

Mar 13, 202333 minSeason 4Ep. 170

Were We Good Parents?

This season of Past Chaos is coming in hot! Thank you for the love you have shown us with all the new changes. We appreciate it so much! BIG NEWS...our TLC show, "You, Me, & My Ex" was renewed for a Season 2. The show will premiere April 17th at 9pm on TLC! Last week April and Roy pondered whether or not they were good parents. This week, their two oldest daughters, Hayli and Taylar, join April to answer that question. First things first, what do April's and Roy's daughters think of their pa...

Mar 06, 202348 minSeason 4Ep. 169

New Beginnings and Happy Endings!

Welcome to Season 4! It's been a LONG time coming, and worth the wait. This week, there are some new things happening on Past Chaos. We have a new co-host joining the show. When one door closes, another door opens. April got a new job and is entering a new phase of life and she couldn't be happier. BIG NEWS - Roy has joined the conversation! April asks if he was scared when he decided to marry a woman that already had 2 daughters and an ex-husband. Find out Roy's shocking response that left Apri...

Feb 27, 202335 minSeason 4Ep. 168

Can We Confess

There was so much to unpack, we didn't even have time to unpack it all! During this busy week, we celebrated a birthday for one of our middle children. Find out what people do in pictures that really bugs the women. Loren has a confession for April. This leads to a discussion on Loren's habit of running from her relationships, and why April thinks it is perfectly healthy this time. Then, April has a little confession for Loren. Hear why it was difficult for her to decide the right time to tell L...

Jan 23, 202330 minSeason 3Ep. 167

Do You Relate To Your Kids

This week has left us feeling like we were on autopilot! There's always something crazy going on in our home. Right now, April is scared for her life because Loren is trying to quit a bad habit. Are you superstitious? Find out if the ladies are and which superstitions they believe in most. April and Loren have a strong discussion on whether or not they believe a place of employment should be able to dictate what you do on your personal time. The big topic - do you have a hard time relating to yo...

Jan 16, 202330 minSeason 3Ep. 166

Are You Ready For A New Year?

After a rough start, April and Loren are back and ready to take on this new year! Are we a shit show? We are really questioning ourselves, especially after finding out what some of our neighbors think of our lifestyle. This revelation makes Loren reveal what an ex referred to our house as. April had an epiphany that has her rethinking the way she handles things in her life. In this episode, April and Loren discuss 2022. They talk about the good and bad parts and what they learned from it, both a...

Jan 09, 202337 minSeason 3Ep. 165

How Do You Handle Holidays

After surviving the world's longest week, the women are preparing for the holidays. While attending their child's orchestra concert, the ladies were recognized as "the girls from TLC". April shocks Loren by telling her that she was pulled over by the cops this week. To kick off the weekend, the women attended a concert that gave them high school nostalgia. The ladies discuss meeting in-laws and how they felt meeting the parents. April divulges her feelings of being on the other end of that scena...

Dec 19, 202236 minSeason 3Ep. 164

Are You A Crazy Ex

After listening to the start of last week's episode we realized it sounded like we were having our toenails plucked. Sorry for that, because we are in fact not miserable! This week we brought our positive attitudes and good vibes. Do you drunk shop? One of the women admits they do, while the other shops enough sober. Also, are you aware of your surroundings. April admits that she has become much more situationally aware, while Loren says when she feels safe, she lets her guard down. April talks ...

Dec 12, 202239 minSeason 3Ep. 163

Demanding Respect In CoParenting

The ladies are in rare form this week. How do they feel about accents, and which ones do they think they have? Do you wish life had a "try-on" option? If so, what would you like to exchange? April and Loren talk about the magic surrounding the holidays. They discuss the importance of family time and holiday traditions. Find out why Loren sent an SOS during her visit with family. And learn what April thinks about being friends with benefits. The hot topic this week is dealing with disrespect in y...

Dec 05, 202237 minSeason 3Ep. 162

Is CoParenting Always Perfect

April and Loren discuss their personal experiences with anxiety and depression. Is it hard being positive for others when you are not feeling yourself? How about dealing with anxiety in motherhood? If given the chance, would you look through your best friend or significant other's phone? Find out which one of the women did and what she found out! April and Roy had a heated argument over a coparenting issue. Listen as the women discuss the difficulties of parenting in a blended family. Also, is i...

Nov 28, 202238 minSeason 3Ep. 161

What's Going On With Roy

Are you ready to unpack a whole lot of family drama? We sure hope so, because that's what we are doing in this episode. Roy, aka Papa Gator, is in town for a visit. What better way to get the scoop than from the horse's mouth. April and Loren put Roy in the hot seat this week. They find out what's been going on since the show aired. What were his true feelings about being on a reality show? Did he have a best and worst part of filming? Do April and Roy get into a heated debate on the things he d...

Nov 14, 202236 minSeason 3Ep. 160

How Do You Help Others

After surviving a house full of sick children, the ladies were ready for the weekend. Loren had a first time experience...she attended her first body building show. April was glutton for punishment and chose to stay home and play monopoly with the kids. It was not a tragic ending like most monopoly games. This week, April and Loren discuss helping others when you have no experience in the situation. The women also take a listener question. Turns out, they know a thing or two about marriage, divo...

Nov 07, 202230 minSeason 3Ep. 159

Can You Balance Love and Friendships

After a two week break, the women are back! April and Loren admit that even though they see each other every day, their lives are still so hectic that they sometimes only have time for a quick hi and bye. Why has April been feeling 'mom failure' lately? What do the ladies have planned for Halloween? In this episode, April and Loren discuss being in relationships and still making time for friendships. Should you just dive head first into romance and forget about your friends? Hear what the women ...

Oct 31, 202228 minSeason 3Ep. 158

What Is Our Relationship Really Like

Our lives are so chaotic that even this episode was unplanned! The topic we were supposed to discuss got lost in the mess. However, you are in for a treat. You're invited to listen in on one of our regular, day to day conversations. April admits that she actually does need help in one area of her life, after Loren calls her all the way out. Listen to the embarrassing event that took place in their neighborhood - as if they need to give the neighbors another reason to dislike them. Loren tells us...

Oct 10, 202237 minSeason 3Ep. 157

How Big Is Too Big

After a couple of hectic weeks, the ladies are getting back to their routine. All the house guests have left the building, which means it is back to business as usual. This week, the women answer the age old question..."Where do you see yourself in five years?" The ladies also talk about what they feel is one of the more difficult aspects of blended families - getting the children back on a schedule after visits with the other parents. In true April and Loren fashion, keeping it on the fun side,...

Oct 03, 202230 minSeason 3Ep. 156

Giving Advice to Moms

It's been a long week! From surviving another week of school, to remaining calm amidst the slew of house guests we've had, it is amazing they are still somewhat sane. In this episode, April and Loren discuss giving unsolicited mom advice. They are all for accepting help, especially from good, seasoned moms. The issue is getting unwanted wisdom from the not so wise. The ladies talk about their night on the town, how important cleanliness is in their world, and speaking of unsolicited advice - Apr...

Sep 26, 202235 minSeason 3Ep. 155

After the Breakup, Before the Blend

In this episode April and Loren share an exciting goal they reached together. The women survived another week of school, but which one of their children decided to raise Hell? The ladies talk about having tact and agree on the one that has a tad more tact than the other. The big discussion this week is breaking old relationship habits before getting into a new one. Listen to their opinions on being independent versus being in a co-dependent relationship. Also, April and Loren express their conce...

Sep 12, 202241 minSeason 3Ep. 154

Do You Want To Open Up

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the first week of back to school for their kids. They also talk about whether or not they would recycle a previous romantic partner. The women dive deep into the topic of open relationships. Have they ever been in one? Would they ever be in one? Are there rules or boundaries? Also, is a "vanilla" sex life ok? Hear what the ladies have to say about this and so much more! Find out what happened this week that lead to April's question for Loren at the end of...

Sep 06, 202236 minSeason 3Ep. 153

What In The Motherhood

In this episode, April and Loren discuss several topics in motherhood and coparenting. There's a lot of chatter in Hollywood surrounding coparenting. What do the ladies have to say about that? Do you think it is ok for someone to call out your child on social media or a public forum? Hear what the women have to say about a situation that recently happened in their neighborhood. A listener wrote in for advice on her coparenting situation. Since it was a scenario they are very familiar with, they ...

Aug 29, 202229 minSeason 3Ep. 152

Did We Just Breakup

In this episode, April and Loren finally discuss Loren's most recent breakup. After giving a brief update on what's been going on in their lives, the women realize they left out a big chapter of their story. So, April put Loren in the hot seat and asked very personal questions about the relationship and why it ended. Listen as Loren shares very intimate and personal details of her breakup. Since Loren seems to be such a professional at ending things, April requests her help in how to let men dow...

Aug 22, 202238 minSeason 3Ep. 151

Do You Want To Come Out

In this episode, April and Loren give an update on what's been going on this summer. They have a lot to catch up on after their "mental vacation". The ladies will answer some burning questions. Also find out why they have been causing such a stir on TikTok. The big secret...Loren updates us on her dating life. Who, What, When, Where, and Why is she dating! The second most asked question - are April and John still married? Listen now to find out this and so much more! Remember, you can now stream...

Aug 15, 202236 minSeason 3Ep. 150

Could You Survive Life On The Road

In this episode, April and Loren interview a very special guest. Sarah and her husband made a big decision to go against the grain. After her husband's retirement from the military, Sarah decided they should purchase a giant RV and take their 3 daughters and pet children on the road for a year. Listen to the interesting details of her travels and how she stays sane during her journey of life on the road. Can you guess the "spicy" question April and Loren are dying to know from Sarah? Also, find ...

Jun 27, 202244 minSeason 3Ep. 149

Let Kids Be Kids

In this episode, April and Loren unpack A LOT! School is out for the summer, and the ladies contemplate whether or not they are bad moms because summer with a house full of boys is maddening! Also, would they choose their moms all over again, given the chance? Find out what "wild" thing each of the women did when they first left home. The women discuss their custody battle and how important it is that you do not put your kids in the middle. They also discuss different ways they parent in order t...

Jun 13, 202236 minSeason 3Ep. 148
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