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Past Chaos

April Kirk & Roy Farnerwww.pastchaos.com
April and Roy, stars of TLC's "You, Me & My Ex" and the hosts of Past Chaos, take you on a journey through marriage, divorce, coparenting and so much more! Listen as this ex-wife and ex-husband discuss the trials, tribulations, and triumphs they encountered while they built a positive relationship and productive communication after divorce. These two exes can be like oil and vinegar, but at the end of the day they share a very strong bond - parenthood. Together they want to build a community of blended families that focus on putting the children’s needs above their own. Parenting presents its own challenges, add in filming a reality television show – you have yourself a whole new set of issues. Unfortunately, divorce happens, but it does not have to place lasting and damaging effects on children. Past Chaos was created in hopes of shedding light on positive co-parenting and advocating for better communication for the parents of children in broken homes. April and Roy hope you will join them on this adventure of proving that blended is better! Past Chaos is a weekly podcast that is available wherever you prefer to listen. Please subscribe.
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Episodes

Are You A Born-Again Virgin

In this episode, April and Loren discuss authentic friendships, and the undying love they have for their true friendship. The ladies are also joined by one of their very best friends, Heather. Heather has recently celebrated a very important anniversary - she has gone an entire year without sex! Loren is baffled, and April is perplexed. The women also discuss how to define where a relationship is going, and if or how you decide to place a label on your relationship. A big THANK YOU to That's It....

Jun 06, 202238 minSeason 3Ep. 147

Are Your Kids A Reflection Of You

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the behaviors of their children and ponder the question...is it a reflection of their parenting? April talks about an incident with Tanner on the soccer field that opened her eyes to a different perspective. Loren reveals a parenting mishap with Jagger and how she stuck with her consequences for his negative behavior. The women also make a big confession about their relationship - do they ever argue with each other? A big THANK YOU to That's It. fruit bar...

May 30, 202237 minSeason 3Ep. 146

What's Going On

In this episode, April and Loren discuss what's been going on lately. They took a hiatus; they were on a break! But why? Don't worry, they always kiss and tell! The women give a bird mom update. You will also hear some really exciting news that involves a new family member. Which child has been giving them a run for their money lately? Also, find out what happened recently that made the women question what is and isn't being taught to their children in school. April asks Loren if she thinks thei...

May 23, 202239 minSeason 3Ep. 145

How To Take Accountability

In this episode, April and Loren discuss taking accountability. Both women recall the time in their lives when they began taking accountability for their actions, behaviors, and choices. Sadly, some people never learn this art or do it far too late in life – which causes their ability to have healthy relationships nearly impossible. Hear the women's advice on how to take accountability, in order to live a more productive and peaceful life. Also, listen to the update on Loren's dating life. This ...

Apr 18, 202241 minSeason 3Ep. 144

Is Your Life Fulfilled

In this episode, April and Loren discuss living a fulfilling life. However, this is not what they were supposed to be discussing this week. This was supposed to be a break-up episode, but that is a tale to tell for another time. Are you fulfilled? Listen to what the ladies have to say about their lives and where they find fulfillment. Also, get an update on the sugar daddy search. Loren ends the episode with a dating life update. Hear the deep question she has for April. Remember, you can now st...

Apr 11, 202238 minSeason 3Ep. 143

Have You Been Relationship Conned

In this episode, April and Loren discuss relationship cons. It's like being catfished, but worse! Both women admit to their biggest relationship con. They also reveal who they feel was the one man that brought the biggest con to them. Loren announces a major scare she recently had. She brings us up to speed on her dating life, while reminding us to stay off the internet when drinking wine. April confesses to an awkward internet search. Ironically, this episode also contains a lot of embarrassing...

Apr 04, 202228 minSeason 3Ep. 142

What Is Self-Destructive Behavior

In this episode, April and Loren discuss self-destructive behaviors. The ladies are vulnerable as they divulge their individual patterns they experienced when going through their divorces. April opens up about her vices while attempting to heal from heartache. Loren talks about the scary truth behind her healing from the pain of her divorce. Remember, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+. A big THANK YOU to Kindred Bravely for sponsoring this episode. Visit them onl...

Mar 28, 202234 minSeason 3Ep. 141

Are You Ready To Give Birth

In this episode, April and Loren talk about birthing stories. Loren goes into detail about all 3 of her births, including the shocking conception of her first child. Hear the scary details of her second and the almost home birth of her third. April tells us all about her first teen pregnancy, and if that wasn't enough, she manages to do it all again...still as a teen! Her third and final was full of delivery room surprises. Listen to find out what happened that kept her from sending our birth an...

Mar 21, 202243 minSeason 3Ep. 140

What Do Women Really Want

In this episode, April and Loren discuss what they think women really want. What do they want out of life, relationships, or just for themselves? You are sure to learn a lot, and you are sure to relate a lot. April reveals that she had a procedure done this week and gives a PSA on what lead to the decision. Loren gives an update on her dating life. Listen to hear all this and so much more. You can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+. Support the show...

Mar 14, 202240 minSeason 3Ep. 139

How to Survive Raising Teenagers

In this episode, April and Loren discuss how to survive raising teenagers. They have six children, they have successfully raised two teen daughters, but will they survive these boys? April confesses something that she is sure she will be mom-shamed for. Loren divulges a secret from her childhood that she feels bad about now. In this week's dating escapades, April reveals that she had a date! Loren also tells us that she was just invited on an out of town date. How does April feel about that? Lis...

Mar 07, 202238 minSeason 3Ep. 138

What Are You Giving Up

In this episode April and Loren talk about giving up. More specifically, what they have given up for marriage, motherhood, and careers. Listen as the women discuss things they missed out on in order to have a happy marriage, be great moms, and have a successful career. Loren rates her date! Hear the most recent date Loren went on and they outcome. Will there be a second date? Listen to find out! Remember, you can now stream the full season of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+. A big THANK YOU ...

Feb 28, 202236 minSeason 3Ep. 137

Why Did I Get Married

In this episode, April and Loren discuss the reasons they got married. Loren talks about both of her marriages and what made her decide to take the plunge of matrimony. April divulges the reasons she got married each time. The women are celebrating one of their children getting married this week. In honor of the event, the ladies give advice on what they would have wanted someone to say to their younger selves, Why do people get married? Love, money, children? Listen as April and Loren go throug...

Feb 21, 202233 minSeason 3Ep. 136

Is Dating Fun

In this episode, April and Loren discuss dating disasters. The women each talk about a past date that did not end well. They also tell us how they feel about being set up on blind dates. For research, the ladies took to the dating scene at their favorite bar. Listen as they describe their mission in detail! Did anyone get lucky? Find out and hear their advice on new-age dating. Remember, you can now stream the entire season of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+. Support the show...

Feb 14, 202238 minSeason 3Ep. 135

Do You Believe In Fate

In this episode, April and Loren discuss fate. Do you believe in fate? Is it written in the stars? Is our path mapped out before we know it, or do we make decisions as we go that set the stage for the rest of our lives? Could one mistake take you down the wrong road, altering your life forever? Listen as the women introduce their beliefs on the topic. Hear which events in their lives led them to where they are today. Remember, you can now stream the entire season of "You, Me, & My EX" on Dis...

Jan 25, 202228 minSeason 3Ep. 134

How Strong Is A Woman's Intuition

In this episode, April and Loren discuss a woman's intuition. To start, the women tell us their first impressions of the ex and current meant in their lives. What did Loren first think about John? How did April first feel about Roy? Do you have a strong intuition? Find out what the ladies think about intuition and how it has helped them in their relationships. Also, listen to how these women have used their intuition to grow personally. Don't forget, you can now stream the full season of "You, M...

Jan 17, 202231 minSeason 3Ep. 133

Can You Escape Your Past

In this episode, April and Loren discuss getting closure from your past. April reveals some big family news, while Loren divulges some huge upcoming changes in her relationship. Can you ever run away from past mistakes and experiences? Find out what the women think as they take a deep dive into their former lives. What has Loren been running from? How has April struggled to overcome? You will hear all about it in this episode. Also, the women end the episode with a "bang". Don't forget, you can ...

Jan 10, 202237 minSeason 3Ep. 132

New Year, New You

In this episode, April and Loren discuss setting intentions for the new year. Do they have a New Year's resolution? Not so much. But they do have intentions set for 2022! The ladies recap 2021 by indulging in what they learned and how they've grown. They talk about what they want to bring into this new year and what they hope to leave behind. Also, Loren gives us a steamy recap of an embarrassing sex-capade! Remember, you can now stream the full season of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+. Sup...

Jan 02, 202249 minSeason 3Ep. 131

Let's Talk About Sex, Baby

In this episode, April and Loren dive into the topic of SEX! The women discuss how the sexual experiences they've had throughout their lives have changed the way they communicate with their partners. April admits that this is a very uncomfortable topic for her, but she knows Loren will offer her 'SEXpertise' on the subject. Find out what the women really like, and also the things they are not a fan of. There will be no new episode next week. The women will be taking the week off for Christmas. T...

Dec 20, 202133 minSeason 3Ep. 130

Can We Modify Ourselves

In this episode, April and Loren discuss making modifications in themselves. April had an epiphany while traveling and wants to make some changes in the way she handles certain situations. Loren offers advice from her own journey of self-discovery. Will Loren be able to take what she has learned and help find solutions for April's dilemmas? Will April accept the help and be willing to make the necessary changes in her life to rid her of some self-imposed stress? Don't forget you can now stream t...

Dec 14, 202135 minSeason 3Ep. 129

Are Your Words Damaging

In this episode, April and Loren discuss how damaging it is to your children to speak negatively about the other parent. The women recall their childhood and how they learned from their parents' divorces. They talk about how talking about the other parent in from of your children can be considered parental alienation. This type of negative talk can have lasting effects on your children that will present problems in adulthood. The ladies also discuss their holiday travel plans and what they are l...

Nov 26, 202132 minSeason 3Ep. 128

Are You Scared Of Aging

In this episode April and Loren discuss sexual bias in aging. Why are women so afraid of getting older? Why is it considered "sexy" for men to age but women are scrutinized for the same thing. Loren embraces beauty in her age and urges all other women to do the same. April admits that she has struggled with aging but is trying to accept the blessing it is. Reminder, you can not stream the full season of "You, Me & My Ex" on discovery+. Support the show...

Nov 14, 202134 minSeason 3Ep. 127

Is Giving Your All Too Much To Handle

In this episode, April and Loren discuss feeling burn out but still pushing through. The women talk about how hard it is being in a slump, yet being required to do all the things expected of you as a mother. These two always put it all on the table, but sometimes they are limited to what they are able to divulge. Rest assured, it will all come out in the end. April and Loren are working on a BIG project and have some announcements to share SOON! Remember, you can now stream the entire season of ...

Nov 07, 202136 minSeason 3Ep. 126

Do You Have Mom Envy

In this episode, April and Loren discuss good mom envy. Do you look at other moms and think they are doing a much better job than you? Do you ever wish your motherhood looked more like someone else's? Listen as the women compare their motherhood to others that seem to be more successful at it. The women also talk about their crazy week where they played neighborhood watch. April spills the beans on what Loren did to cause low flying helicopters in their neighborhood! Remember, you can now stream...

Oct 31, 202135 minSeason 3Ep. 125

Are We Hurting Our Children

In this episode, April and Loren discuss how divorce can cause parenting challenges and how it affects children. April explains how each of her children handled her divorces very differently. Loren worries that her divorce will have greater lasting affects on one child more than the others. Find out why the friendship between April and Loren could end their romantic relationships. Also, is it ok to be honest when your friends are messing up their lives. Hear what the women have to say about that...

Oct 24, 202132 minSeason 3Ep. 124

Do You Suffer From Relationship Trauma

In this episode, April and Loren discuss relationship trauma. Loren reveals how trauma from sexual abuse leads to problems in her current relationship. April talks about how abuse and infidelity from her first marriage has created issues in her relationships since then. Find out which child was brought home by the sheriff and which child is in the hot seat this week! You can now stream the full season of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discovery+. Support the show...

Oct 17, 202143 minSeason 3Ep. 123

High Conflict CoParenting

In this episode, April and Loren continue discussing high conflict coparenting. Loren reveals more of her paranoia and why she has cell phone trauma. April talks about her close call last week and how Loren is her go-to during a crisis. The women dive into how they have both been guilty of being high conflict coparents in the past. They also give advice on how to recognize and defuse high conflict situations. Remember, you can stream the full season of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+. Suppor...

Oct 10, 202141 minSeason 3Ep. 122

Are You Married To The High Conflict CoParent

In this episode April and Loren get real personal! The women talk about a topic that is most requested by their listeners - high conflict coparenting! More specifically, the women discuss being married to the high conflict coparent. Loren stumps April with this week's "What Would April Do". However, April gets a little payback when she reveals exactly "who" they will be discussing during this week's topic. This episode may require more than one glass of wine! Don't forget, you can now stream "Yo...

Oct 03, 202144 minSeason 3Ep. 121

Do You Keep Secrets In Your Relationship

In this episode, April and Loren discuss relationship secrets. Should you keep things private or be open? The women discuss how they feel about filtering the truth on social media, when it comes to their significant others. April reveals that it is hard for her to understand the concept of staying in an abusive relationship, now that she is on the other side of the situation. Loren talks about speaking the hard truth and how women should use their voice to stand up against domestic violence in r...

Sep 26, 202143 minSeason 3Ep. 120

Are You In A Codependent Relationship

In this episode, April and Loren discuss codependency. April realizes that she has suffered from codependency for a very long time. Loren, on the other hand, is the complete opposite in that scenario. The women talk about a parenting issue that they are not necessarily on the same page about, but discuss healthy ways to solve it. Listen to how they explain the closeness of their relationship and the relationships they have with some of their exes. You can stream the entire season of "You, Me, &a...

Sep 19, 202139 minSeason 3Ep. 119

Have You Experienced Mom Burnout

In this episode, April and Loren discuss mom burnout. After two weeks of quarantine, this conversation is so relevant. How have the women handled coparenting with two family members testing positive for Covid? Listen to Loren's experience of being exhausted in motherhood, especially after a bitter custody battle. Hear April's take on being a young mother and now stepping into a big role as bonus mom to very young children. Remember, you can now stream the full season of "You, Me & My Ex" on ...

Sep 12, 202142 minSeason 3Ep. 118
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