Have you ever felt at your wit's end trying to understand why your teen is so angry? In today's episode, Mark explores the underlying reasons for teen anger, such as a lack of control over their lives, feelings of shame and unmet desires. He provides practical advice for parents on how to better understand and address these emotional outbursts. By observing, asking and listening, parents can get to the heart of their teen's issues, fostering a deeper connection and helping them manage their emot...
Jul 31, 2024•17 min•Ep. 1073
It takes a lot for most teens to ask for help when they're struggling — and many of them won't say it out loud. That's why cultivating a genuine relationship and being a listening ear for your teen is so crucial! In today's episode, Mark shares some interviews he did with two teens who've battled depression for most of their lives. In Jordan's case, it culminated with a harrowing suicide attempt. Both teens provide great insights into the often hidden world of teen depression, offering hope, les...
Jul 30, 2024•21 min•Ep. 1072
Teens, like all of us, want to feel appreciated. Adolescence is when the quest for identity is toughest. They often feel awkward, out of place and desperately need reassurance. In today's show, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd talk about how we can give our teens that sense of value. Sharing personal stories and practical advice, they explore the emotional rollercoaster of adolescence and the indispensable role parents play in providing a nurturing, value-rich environment at home. Don't miss thi...
Jul 29, 2024•14 min•Ep. 1071
In today’s episode, Mark Gregston tackles pressing questions from parents who are struggling with how to get their teenagers to be more self-sufficient with chores, homework and personal care. He dives into practical advice, emphasizing the importance of stepping back, allowing natural consequences to teach valuable lessons, and understanding that sometimes, humorous honesty and a bit of sarcasm can go a long way in communicating with your teen. Whether it’s dealing with hygiene issues or managi...
Jul 26, 2024•7 min•Ep. 1070
With the rise of internet access and the bombardment of information, our teens are navigating a landscape that is vastly different from what we experienced growing up. In today’s episode, hosts Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd tackle the challenges parents face in an increasingly exposed world. They discuss the impact of this overexposure on teens, from increased anxiety and depression to the premature loss of innocence. Tune in as they explore practical strategies for parents to remain proactiv...
Jul 25, 2024•10 min•Ep. 1069
Parenting effectively in today's digital age means becoming a wellspring of wisdom rather than just another source of information. As Mark shares in today's show, we need to help our kids navigate life with insights drawn from experience and reflection. He discusses how the relentless influx of data impacts our children's lives and shares some advice on how parents can shift to sharing applicable wisdom. Communicating this way will provide meaningful guidance, and ultimately, deepen your relatio...
Jul 24, 2024•22 min•Ep. 1068
Substance use and other poor choices are often hiding deeper issues in our teens — it's important to make sure your child knows your listening ear is always available. In today's show, Mark sits down with two more Heartlight teens, including Tyler, who shares his experience growing up with his grandparents after facing challenges due to his parents' struggles with substance abuse. He opens up about his early exposure to drugs, the impact it had on his life and how he's grown at Heartlight. Check...
Jul 23, 2024•23 min•Ep. 1067
In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd explore the importance of building genuine connections with your teenager in an era dominated by digital communication. The discussion emphasizes the value of face-to-face engagement and meaningful conversations, and Mark shares practical tips on fostering connection while also navigating conflicts. Join us for insights on how to bridge the gap between you and your teen, creating a relationship grounded in trust and mutual respect. For more paren...
Jul 22, 2024•13 min•Ep. 1066
In today's Q&A episode, Mark Gregston tackles one of the most frequently asked questions: "When is it time to send my child to a residential program like Heartlight?" With over 40 years of experience, Mark shares 15 key indicators to watch for, from drastic mood changes to dangerous behavior. He also offers guidance on alternatives and supporting resources for struggling teens and their families. Don't wait until it's too late — take the steps now to ensure a better future for your teen. Hav...
Jul 19, 2024•23 min•Ep. 1065
Is more parental involvement always better? It's all well-intended, but where do we draw the line? In today’s episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd explore how hovering too much can actually stunt a teen's growth. They discuss the impact of over-involvement versus under-involvement and how each shapes your teen's ability to make decisions. Remember, it's all about preparing them for the real world, allowing them to learn from mistakes and giving age-appropriate freedoms. Tune in to discover ...
Jul 18, 2024•11 min•Ep. 1064
Teens crave control in their lives. As our kids get older, it's crucial to balance your guidance and rules with trusting them to make their own decisions — it's how they'll grow! In today's show, Mark explores the challenges that arise when well-intentioned parents try to micromanage their teen's life. Highlighting the importance of building a strong relationship, he shares some practical advice on relinquishing control and fostering trust. Tune in now! Is your child in a downward spiral right n...
Jul 17, 2024•22 min•Ep. 1063
If there's one thing we know about teens, it's that they are going to mess up. They're going to have setbacks. But how you respond to them as a parent can make all the difference! In this episode, Mark talks with two young ladies from Heartlight, including Lauren, who reminds us that bumps in the road are part of the journey. From initially resisting help to battling loneliness and slipping back into old habits, Lauren looks back on her 15-month stay at the boarding school. Don't miss this episo...
Jul 16, 2024•20 min•Ep. 1062
Teen grief isn't solely about losing loved ones. Divorce, break-ups and fading dreams can also create emotional wounds. In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd tackle the often-overlooked topic of teen grief. Drawing from Mark's extensive experience at Heartlight, they delve into the various types of grief teens may encounter, and discuss practical ways to help your teen process these complex emotions. Your patience and presence are crucial. Don't miss these insights! Want to learn som...
Jul 15, 2024•15 min•Ep. 1061
In today’s episode, Mark Gregston dives deep into the challenge of teen anxiety, sparked by a heartfelt question from a brave high school senior named Cheyenne. He discusses the root causes of anxiety in teens and provides 11 actionable steps to help combat it. From building strong friendships to finding ways to laugh more, these insights aim to empower both teens and their parents. Listen now! Have a question for Mark? Submit it here: markgregston.com Parenting Today's Teens is a part of the Ch...
Jul 12, 2024•21 min•Ep. 1060
Modern teens may seem endlessly connected through social media, but these aren't the deep connections that matter. True connection requires meaningful engagement. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd tackle the challenges parents face in connecting with their teens amid cultural confusion and digital distractions. They discuss the importance of genuine connection, the art of asking open-ended questions, and the power of listening without judgment. You'll also hear practical tips ...
Jul 11, 2024•13 min•Ep. 1059
Teens might mask their pain with anger, humor or avoidance. Often, their seemingly rebellious acts are cries for help and understanding — but it's up to parents to hear those cries. In this episode, Mark talks about the complexities of understanding teen behavior beyond its surface manifestations. By sharing a personal story, Mark illustrates the importance of recognizing the underlying emotional needs that drive both positive and negative actions. He emphasizes the necessity for parents to deve...
Jul 10, 2024•26 min•Ep. 1058
Behind every addiction lies a root cause — for many of our teens, drugs offer an "escape" or a way to feel like they're taking back control from their parents. In today's episode, Mark speaks with two more Heartlight teens, including a young man who opens up about his battle with drug addiction, the challenges of intensive outpatient programs and finding a healthier path to sobriety with his family's support. It wasn't until he addressed the pain behind his addiction that he found recovery. List...
Jul 09, 2024•24 min•Ep. 1057
Do you have an older teen who seems WAY too comfortable at home? Not every teen needs to move out at 18, but they should be looking ahead to the future. In today's show, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd tackle the increasingly common issue of teens who struggle with the transition to adulthood, often referred to as a "failure to launch." They discuss the importance of setting expectations early, providing a structured plan and encouraging responsibility to ensure teens are prepared for independe...
Jul 08, 2024•20 min•Ep. 1056
In today’s episode, Mark Gregston answers a range of questions sent in by parents seeking biblical wisdom and actionable strategies in regard to raising their teens. From handling habitual lying to finding ways to connect with a distant daughter, he offers practical advice rooted in both experience and empathy. Mark also addresses more complex issues, such as dealing with a 22-year-old who's struggling with school and substance use, and a 14-year-old granddaughter lacking confidence. Tune in now...
Jul 05, 2024•26 min•Ep. 1055
When parents separate, kids suffer. It may seem obvious, but we often underestimate the depth of that suffering. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd lay bare the challenges teens face, from feelings of abandonment to the struggle with self-worth, and offer practical advice to parents on how to mitigate these effects. Whether you're navigating a current divorce or dealing with its aftermath, this episode provides compassionate guidance and crucial strategies to help maintain a st...
Jul 04, 2024•16 min•Ep. 1054
Our teens are wrestling with the pressures of their world. They don't need more “you should do this” lectures — they need your listening ears and sometimes, just your silent support. In today's episode, Mark talks about the importance of understanding the changing dynamics in your child's life and the critical need for parents to offer support and compassion rather than judgment and criticism. He emphasizes how maintaining a nonjudgmental and nurturing relationship can help teens navigate these ...
Jul 03, 2024•18 min•Ep. 1053
Assuming we know all the challenges in our teens' lives can be a big mistake — many teens WANT to talk to their parents, but don't feel like there's an open door for dialogue. In this episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight teens whose stories stress the significance of creating an environment where kids feel loved and valued. Mandy, a 15-year-old, opens up about the challenges she faced with communication, her involvement in risky behaviors like sexting and how being adopted influenced her ...
Jul 02, 2024•25 min•Ep. 1052
What do you REALLY want for your kids? It’s about more than clean rooms and not driving fast. As parents, we should also be focused on helping them develop a good, godly character. In today's show, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd delve into the essential character qualities parents should aim to instill in their teenagers. From fostering competence and discernment to cultivating compassion, caring and self-control, discover practical strategies to help your teen develop into a well-rounded adul...
Jul 01, 2024•18 min•Ep. 1051
In today’s episode, Mark Gregston discusses the critical balance between loving your child unconditionally while setting firm boundaries, the importance of allowing adolescents to take control of their lives, and why parents need to shift from a purely instructional role to one that promotes independence and responsibility. He also touches on navigating tough conversations about dating, privacy and balancing control with independence. Through personal anecdotes and heartfelt insights, he stresse...
Jun 28, 2024•39 min•Ep. 1050
Ever wonder what kind of legacy you'll leave for your grandchildren? It should run deeper than pie recipes and family traditions; It's about the love, wisdom and memories you create together. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss the importance of engaging with teenage grandkids in a way that demonstrates love, support, and wisdom, even when faced with generational differences and opposing beliefs. Tune in to discover how grandparents can leave a lasting legacy that is che...
Jun 27, 2024•13 min•Ep. 1049
Teens hear people's opinions all day long, but what they truly need is your perspective, shaped by the lessons you've learned throughout your life. In this episode, Mark explains the differences between giving an opinion versus a perspective. By comparing his struggles to those of others, he also underscores how a shift in perspective can cultivate gratefulness and resilience, even in the face of adversity. Tune in to discover how adopting a wider viewpoint can strengthen your relationship with ...
Jun 26, 2024•17 min•Ep. 1048
No matter how happy or outgoing a teen may seem, appearances aren't everything. It's important to recognize the signs of a teen who's quietly struggling with their mental health. In today's episode, Mark chats with two more teens from Heartlight who reflect on the internal struggles they face. Sixteen-year-old Carson opens up about his battle with depression, feelings of being a burden and the haunting thoughts of not being good enough due to his parents getting divorced before he was born. List...
Jun 25, 2024•23 min•Ep. 1047
Struggling with giving effective feedback to your teen without causing friction at home? In today's show, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd tackle the delicate art of correcting teens. They emphasize the need for timing, intentionality and the right motives while offering constructive criticism. Mark shares practical tips on how to make corrections without overwhelming teens, ensuring that home remains a peaceful retreat rather than another source of stress. Tune in now for some helpful tips! Is ...
Jun 24, 2024•17 min•Ep. 1046
In today’s episode, Mark Gregston addresses some tough questions posed by a parent dealing with a 15-year-old son facing numerous behavioral and emotional challenges. Mark emphasizes the importance of establishing clear boundaries, effective consequences and fostering a relational atmosphere in the home. He also discusses the critical role of counseling and how to assess its impact. Drawing from real-life scenarios, Mark offers practical, heartfelt advice aimed at helping parents navigate diffic...
Jun 21, 2024•28 min•Ep. 1045
Parenting isn't just about setting rules; it's about defining the limits that help parents and teens understand who they are, what they stand for and how they relate to each other. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd explore how setting boundaries differs from imposing rules and why they are essential for both parents and teens. They share practical steps on how to set clear, respectful guidelines that empower you as a parent and help your teen grow. Don’t miss out on these valu...
Jun 20, 2024•16 min•Ep. 1044
