To the Open Late Community, I have a short but important statement that I want to share with all of you. I deleted some podcast episodes last week with an organization where we discussed play parties and their culture. After some new information came to light and I reflected on some of my own experiences, I decided that I was no longer in alignment with that organization, and I felt like I should delete these episodes. This podcast has been my baby for the last year and a half, and the community...
May 03, 2023•6 min•Ep. 94
In this solo episode, Jessica shares her steamy experience from Mexico. Jess and her husband visited an clothing optional couples-only resort for the first time! Jess talks about enthusiastic consent and the special areas and services the resort offers. Jess also opens up more about why the trip was so important and about connecting with her partner more deeply before they bring children into this world. In this episode of Open Late: • Adults and Couples-only Resort in Mexico • The importance of...
Apr 21, 2023•18 min•Ep. 91
In this episode, Jess takes us back to her last vacation in Asia when she and Pasha decided to have sex every single day of their 4 weeks together.. Jess talks about what led them to make this decision and why they took up on this "challenge." She shares what they learn from this experience and also about each other. Jess talks about how daily responsibilities can get the best out of you and how falling into the routine can be exciting in new different spaces. In this episode of Open Late: • The...
Apr 19, 2023•27 min•Ep. 90
In this episode, Jess connects and talks with Michelle Hy, a non-monogamy and polyamorous content creator from Polyamorous while Asian. Michelle opens up about her journey of realizing she is polyamorous with relationship anarchy leanings and what it actually means. They talk about cultural differences and mental and emotional programming. Michelle shares how she prefers to compartmentalize her personal life and her family life. You’ll hear how a pandemic hobby became the platform she uses to ed...
Apr 12, 2023•51 min•Ep. 89
We are introducing a new series called "Asking for a Friend.” In this series, Jess is not necessarily talking with sexperts or people practicing non monogamy but with very close friends and chosen family from her life, who share raw and personal experiences and also ask questions about Nonmonogamy. In this episode, Jess sits down with Lea Griffin. Lea is Jess’ former in-home assistant and remains a close friend of Jess and Pasha. Lea shares her first impressions and memories from when she starte...
Apr 05, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 88
In this episode, we pick up where we left off with Lolo Urbiztondo, Jess's love and cofounder of Sound Sutra who still plays a big role in her life. The girls talk about a lot of fun sex stuff and also hard topics. Lolo shares more about her photoshoots for women and how she feels about opening her work to a global market. She gives us insights and small secrets about her intimacy photoshoot for couples. Jess and Lolo talk about their experience of seeing love from the "fly on the wall" perspect...
Mar 31, 2023•43 min•Ep. 87
After a very long time today, Jess sits down again with Lolo, her other love and best friend. They shared their experience from Burning Man and much-needed decompression afterwards. Jess and Lolo dig deeper into the evolution of their relationship and how they realize things need a business “break up”. Jess talks about her experiences in Thailand, and Lauren shares her future travel plans. In this episode of Open Late, • Decompression after Burning Man Festival • Understanding the change and ope...
Mar 29, 2023•52 min•Ep. 86
Today Jess hosts Shelby Terrell, an intimacy coordinator and current MSW Candidate, on the path of becoming a sex and relationship therapist working with the LGBTQIA+ population. Shelby shares how growing up in the entertainment environment shaped her and why she decided to become an intimacy coordinator on sets. They talk about the importance of people being educated and how boundaries on set are misunderstood and often pushed far for the sake of a career. They discuss how working on many thing...
Mar 22, 2023•46 min•Ep. 85
Today on the show Jess interviews Roy Graff, a Relationship coach and Therapist from London who is also practicing Solo-polyamory. In this episode Roy shares his introduction to the open relationship world later in his life. They discuss a “savior complex,” codependency, and the importance of us knowing what we really want. Jess and Roy also share their opinions on jealousy and how they experienced it in past relationships. They unravel the topic of a monogamous person dating a poly person, what...
Mar 15, 2023•55 min•Ep. 84
Today Jess hosts Dr. Zhana an NYU Professor of Sex and Sexuality on the show. In this episode they discuss the various types of non monogamy. There are many reasons why some couples choose non monogamy, despite the common misconception that it is just a cover for infidelity. Jess and Dr. Zhana explore the advantages and disadvantages of relational styles and compare them to conventional monogamy throughout the conversation. Dr. Zhana offers some guidance to those in traditional relationships who...
Mar 08, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 83
In this Mini episode, Jess joins you from an Adults Only, Clothing Optional Resort just outside of Cancun, Mexico. She shares her first-hand experience and feelings about the place and the environment. She also updates you on her upcoming trips and plans. Would you like Jess to speak at the event in your hometown? Let her know! Email our team at lover@openlatepodcast.com In this episode of Open Late, • Visiting an Adult only resort • Embrace your fears of the unknown and explore • Jess’ upcoming...
Mar 03, 2023•10 min•Ep. 82
Love is hard to define. But, according to the book MARRIAGE: From Miserable to Magnificent, “Love” has a multitude of meanings and expressions across relationships In this episode of Open Late, Jess explains the different forms of love from the Greek language based on her recent reading MARRIAGE: From Miserable to Magnificent. She also provides clear examples of what each type of love means and how they can be expressed in various situations and relationships. Before getting into specific types ...
Mar 01, 2023•30 min•Ep. 81
In this episode, Jess and Meghana Raveendra continue their discussion about having children and their outlook of raising them without hiding your open relationship. They examine possible challenges children may experience and whether those occurrences could affect them in a positive or negative way. Meghana shares her personal experience of having multiple partners and her opinion about long-distance relationships. We discuss how labels can cause more issues than solutions at times and how the e...
Feb 22, 2023•38 min•Ep. 80
In this episode, Jess sits down with Meghana Raveendra to discuss her transition from monogamous marriage to solo polyamory. Meghana opens up about her experiences of telling her ex-husband and family and the struggles of navigating intimacy as a polyamorous woman. We spoke about the expectations and limitations that come with marriage in Indian cultures and what is needed to break the social “norms“. We touch on the importance of meeting like-minded people and the need for a supportive, open co...
Feb 15, 2023•44 min•Ep. 79
Jess is back to talk about her Dating Life- It’s 2022 Wrapped- make it Poly. In this episode you’ll hear who she’s dated, what her sex life is like and her intimate encounters even with friends. Part of Jess’ agreements with her primary partner is communication and honesty so she shares the importance of keeping them in the loop about what she’s doing and who she’s doing it with. Jess also talks about the dates that didn't work out but are still essential to her story. She explains why connectin...
Feb 08, 2023•35 min•Ep. 78
Jess is back with Anyeri and Jorge for round two! New to nonmonogamy, this couple has learned a lot over the last few years. Not only has opening up elevated their relationship, they have grown tremendously as individuals as well. It's been a roller coaster ride for them, and they don’t hesitate to share all the ups and downs. We’re getting deep and personal in this episode, so grab your headphones and share your thoughts with us once you listen! In this episode of Open Late, • How nonmonogamy h...
Feb 01, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 77
In this episode, Jess sits down with Anyeri and Jorge to talk about their newly open relationship and how it has affected their lives. We cover how they first met, what drew them together and the early infidelity in their relationship. These two truly demonstrate how you can grow closer when you share the hard truths. We touch on challenges like jealousy and insecurity and OF COURSE we love a good threesome story! In this episode of Open Late, • Staying together after cheating • How most people ...
Jan 25, 2023•59 min•Ep. 76
Jess is back to answer some of the recent Questions she’s received in Open Talks, our free WhatsApp community as well as from her Q&A’s on Instagram. To help demystify polyamory and dispel some of the misconceptions that abound, Jess speaks about her experiences and what advice she has for those considering it. This episode covers various topics, from dating multiple people simultaneously to communicating with her partners, to the challenges and rewards of maintaining a healthy relationship....
Jan 20, 2023•21 min•Ep. 75
In this episode, Jess answers some of the questions from our community WhatsApp group, "Open Talks." She talks about codependency and how to overcome it in your relationships. While, codependency is often seen as a negative, is something we’re born learning. Doing the work to be interdependent in your relationship is key. When we depend on others to regulate our emotions, we’re in trouble. In today's episode, we will talk about why we might become codependent and how we can overcome this in our ...
Jan 18, 2023•25 min•Ep. 74
This week on Open Late, Jess interviews Andre Lazarus to get his perspective on presenting men in society. The conversation goes deep and wide as they talk about Andre's challenges while serving in the military. He spoke about how "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" was repealed, allowing us to see more individuals feeling more comfortable. Unfortunately, the policy created a culture of fear that made it difficult for many people to live openly or honestly. But when did we stop being afraid? When did we sta...
Jan 11, 2023•59 min•Ep. 73
This week on Open Late, Jess sits with Andre and Susannah to get their take on being in an open relationship. They share their experiences, what they've learned, and the challenges they've faced while having an open relationship. If you're looking for a fun way to learn how real people handle this kind of situation—and if you want some solid advice for getting started on your own journey—this one's for you! In this episode of Open Late • Falling in love in midst of war in Afghanistan • Navigatin...
Jan 04, 2023•55 min•Ep. 72
In this episode of Open Late, Jess talks about ‘ relationship goals ’ for 2023. She shares some of the challenges she's faced in relationships over the past few years, and how she's learned to be more devoted to herself. She also discusses setting goals for 2023, including the desire to get the most out of her life, love life, relationships and career. In this episode of Open Late • Relationship goals • Devotion to yourself • Setting goals for 2023 • Getting the most out of your life, love life,...
Dec 31, 2022•19 min•Ep. 71
In this episode, Jess reflects on 2022. She talks about the ways she helped herself learn to listen to her own needs, and the ways she has held herself accountable for focusing on her own pleasure this year. She also shares her biggest takeaway from 2022: that having a committed relationship with yourself is just as important as having one with others. In this episode of Open Late • Personal 2022 wrapup and takeaway • Relationship and listening to yourself • How to help and educate yourself • Ce...
Dec 30, 2022•14 min•Ep. 70
This week on Open Late, Jess sits down with Anne Hodder-Shipp and talks about what it means when someone says that there are only five love languages in the entire world and the others don’t count (and how wrong they are). They also talk about how this idea of limiting people into these categories is harmful and damaging for everyone involved (including ourselves). In this episode of Open Late • Love languages • Sources of love • Different styles of giving and receiving love • How to grow and me...
Dec 21, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 69
In this episode, Jess sits down with us one on one to talk about coming out and what it means for you as an individual trying to navigate those waters. She also talks about what other people might think when they hear news like this—and how they might react. As you grow and as you get more secure in this relationship, it will matter less what people think about you. Just because you come out doesn't mean the work ends—even if it goes really well. In this episode of Open Late • Personal experienc...
Dec 16, 2022•19 min•Ep. 68
In this episode, Jess talks about the importance of setting the stage when you're coming out to your friends and family. This can be a really scary thing, but it's also an important part of being true to yourself. In this episode of Open Late • How I came out • How to deal with rejection from family and friends • Being intentional Connect with Jessica: • Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast • Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com • Youtube: Open Late Podcast • Wh...
Dec 14, 2022•31 min•Ep. 67
This week on Open Late, Jess sits down with host of Polycurious podcast Fernanda to talk all things from burning man, having a monogamous partner, and deciding if being open to your family and friends is right for you. Fernanda also shares her insight on NRE and clear intentions when dating with no intent to DTR. In this episode of Open Late • Finding community through Burning Man • Having a monogamous male partner • Confusing NRE with real feelings • Whether or not being publicly open is right ...
Dec 07, 2022•52 min•Ep. 66
This week on Open Late, Jess sits down with LMFT Danielle Golan to get her perspective on how to structure an open relationship from the start. Danielle starts off by challenging the initial reasons that makes people want to try out this relationship style. Tune in and ask yourself: what needs do I have that can and can't be met by my partner? In this episode of Open Late • Common themes that arise when opening up • Clarifying unmet needs before opening the relationship • Verbal and written cont...
Nov 30, 2022•55 min•Ep. 65
Leanne Yau, aka Poly Philia, joins us today to talk about her polyamorous journey. It began when she was 17 and heading off to college, and has now turned into a career and passion in the form of bite size education. Leanne and Jess challenge the mono-normative challenges that are creeping into the open relationship space and remind us its OK to want to be a unicorn that JUST wants to have sex! In this episode of Open Late • Links between ADHD and Polyamory • Unicorn Hunting • Toxic masculinity ...
Nov 23, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 64
LMFT Dr. Cat Meyer joins us today to educate us on the benefits of Ketamine therapy. She gives us the history on ketamine, the many uses, the legality, and the negative counterparts. Dr. Cat Meyer also explains the importance of vetting and carefully choosing your psychedelic facilitator. In this episode of Open Late • What is ketamine therapy • Couples therapy using ketamine • Integrating what you learn in a session into everyday life • Misuse of boundaries Connect with Dr. Cat Meyer: • Follow ...
Nov 16, 2022•53 min•Ep. 63
