After an unscheduled and longer-than-planned hiatus WE ARE BACK! with a chat about boundaries: what ARE boundaries? What are our boundaries? And is there a difference between a boundary and something you simply don't want to do?! Though we've been away from the main feed, there have been weekly episodes going up on our Patreon! Catch up on those here: patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – you'll get a bonus episode each and every week, ad-free regular episodes AND access to our exclusive close friend...
Jun 11, 2025•28 min•Ep. 214
Alternate title: Got Milk?! (We're sorry) Join our Patreon! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – bonus content, ad-free listening and more. And if you have questions, email us! notwithoutmysis@gmail.com . While you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those. DM us on Instagram @notwithoutmysister . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Apr 11, 2025•25 min•Ep. 213
Things we discuss include: Snowflakes Embryo Adoption & Donation (a division of Nightlight Christian Adoptions) I haven't listened to this NPR podcast yet , but they get actual professionals to discuss whether or not we should let our kids quit things, and that seems like it would be valuable Join our Patreon! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – bonus content, ad-free listening and more. And if you have questions, email us! notwithoutmysis@gmail.com . While you're at it, leave us a five-star re...
Apr 02, 2025•31 min•Ep. 212
In Paris, an Irish billionaire was charged with violent assault for shouting "fuck you, bailiff!" at, er, a bailiff. We discuss cursing: is it really that bad? Have we ever screamed "fuck you" at anyone? And is it ever okay to curse in the workplace? Join our Patreon! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – bonus content, ad-free listening and more. And if you have questions, email us! notwithoutmysis@gmail.com . While you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those. DM us on Instagram @notwit...
Mar 26, 2025•32 min•Ep. 211
It's not just presidents who make bad ethical decisions around here, you know… Join our Patreon! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – bonus content, ad-free listening and more. And if you have questions, email us! notwithoutmysis@gmail.com . While you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those. DM us on Instagram @notwithoutmysister . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Mar 14, 2025•33 min•Ep. 210
…because it simply wouldn't do to say "I'm between stylists right now". ALSO! The best eyebrows in the world by Shaughnessy @ Studio Sashiko ; John Proctor is the Villain (perhaps not suitable for 11-year-olds) Join our Patreon! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – bonus content, ad-free listening and more. And if you have questions, email us! notwithoutmysis@gmail.com . While you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those. DM us on Instagram @notwithoutmysister . Hosted on Acast. See acas...
Mar 05, 2025•33 min•Ep. 209
Instead of telling us he’d change nothing about us, we are 99.9999% sure OUR Dad would suggest these small – but significant – improvements. The article in question : "My father had plastic surgery. Now he wants me and my mother to get work done." (By the excellent Jessica DeFino, whose Substack you can read here .) Join our Patreon! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – bonus content, ad-free listening and more. And if you have questions email us! notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. While you're at it, leave...
Feb 26, 2025•33 min•Ep. 208
Having taken a job in Tennessee, Beatrice is getting ready for another big move – we talk about how this all came about and, most importantly, how Rosemary feels about it. Join our Patreon! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – bonus content, ad-free listening and more. Show less And if you have questions email us! notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. While you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those. DM us on Instagram @notwithoutmysister . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more informat...
Feb 19, 2025•37 min•Ep. 207
Rosemary has begun a foray into TikTok and let us tell you for nothing it is NOT making her more popular with the Americans! Follow her here ! If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that right now on bookshop.org , Amazon.com or from Barnes & Noble . And if you have questions email us! notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. While you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those. DM us on Instagram @notwithoutmysister . Join our Patreon! patreon.com/notwithout...
Dec 18, 2024•31 min•Ep. 206
Rosemary sat down to talk to career coach Jane Downes about making big career changes, rejigging your CV, what's changed in the 20 years since she started her coaching business and what to do if YOU'RE the micromanaging maniac. Jane's website is here , and you can buy her book here . And DON'T WORRY! Beatrice will be back on Friday. She's in Knoxville, learning to line dance and eating all the grits she can get her grubby hands on. If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book,...
Dec 11, 2024•32 min•Ep. 205
Things we discuss include: Is the silent treatment a form of emotional abuse ? Rosemary's very low-cut jeans . Adam Brody's Stylist cover. Brian Jordan Alvarez , everyone's favourite English Teacher . The dark stalker fantasy Rosemary read is called Lights Out by Navessa Allen . Content warnings abound. Lee Child's decision to hand his Jack Reacher series over to his brother . Karrie Locher, who Rosemary loves, on Instagram . If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you c...
Dec 06, 2024•38 min•Ep. 204
This episode contains discussion of sexual assault, rape, murder and coercive control. It won't be suitable for all audiences. Please, look after yourselves first – if you don't feel able for this discussion, maybe skip this one. xo R&B Things we mention include: the civil case taken by Nikita Hand against Conor McGregor the murder of Laiken Riley Gisèle Pelicot and the mass rape trial in France involving 50+ men from of her own community Germaine Greer, shutting down the idea that a woman s...
Nov 28, 2024•33 min•Ep. 203
We're planning our Thanksgiving dinner (lunch, Beatrice would call it) while lamenting a dental calamity that has befallen poor Tilip and arguing about whether or not Rosemary has ever heard the phrase "derring-do" (she hasn't). If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that right now on bookshop.org , Amazon.com or from Barnes & Noble . If you have questions email us! notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. And while you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love th...
Nov 20, 2024•30 min•Ep. 202
We're talking about some of our best recent purchases – and they are, er, decidedly more middle-aged than we'd accounted for. Things we mention include: Martha Stewart's toile test: Give me the definitions of toile, tulle, tool, tuile, toyle, and toil John Derian's cabbage leaf gravy boat , and stunning turkey serving platter the metallic knee-high boots Beatrice bought from Target Laidback London's moccasin booties Rosemary's beloved Gaiamika mugs Cecilia Blomdahl on YouTube Kinvara hand cream ...
Nov 13, 2024•37 min•Ep. 201
Now that Beatrice is back in the workplace, our listeners have a lot of work-related questions for her to answer. If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that right now on bookshop.org , Amazon.com or from Barnes & Noble . If you have questions, queries, comments, critiques, email them to us! Get us at notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. And while you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those (and those who post them). The best time to join our Patreon w...
Nov 08, 2024•32 min•Ep. 200
Beatrice has a new job! By the time you're listening to this episode, she'll be deep into her first week so please send her alllll the good vibes and pray she doesn't have any broken zippers this week of all weeks. Things we mention… In case you wondered, Rosemary is knitting the Seahorse blanket from We Are Knitters , which seems no longer to be available on the website. This is what the finished product is supposed to look like; if you'd like to give it a go, just DM Rosemary on Instagram and ...
Oct 31, 2024•34 min•Ep. 199
Does this make us terrible friends, terrible women, or both?! If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that right now on bookshop.org , Amazon.com or from Barnes & Noble . If you have questions, queries, comments, critiques, email them to us! Get us at notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. And while you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those (and those who post them). The best time to join our Patreon was yesterday. BUT THE SECOND BEST TIME IS TODAY! pat...
Oct 25, 2024•32 min•Ep. 198
With special guest Sophie White. You can follow Sophie on Instagram @sophwhitewhoop , read her work on Substack here , listen to her podcasts The Creep Dive and Just Write the Thing wherever you get podcasts, and Mother of Pod exclusively on Patreon, and buy her books wherever books are sold – but Gutter Bookshop is a good place to start if you want to support an indie bookshop . Yes, she's irritatingly prolific. If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that ri...
Oct 16, 2024•44 min•Ep. 197
Could Chat GPT get the best of Philip Mac Cabe? Why are children so efficient at picking apples? Should there be more team spirit at running competitions? And does cutting prices hurt the pumpkins' feelings?! If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that right now on bookshop.org , Amazon.com or from Barnes & Noble . If you have questions, queries, comments, critiques, email them to us! Get us at notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. And while you're at it, leave us a...
Oct 10, 2024•36 min•Ep. 196
(Rosemary's the babysitter) If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that right now on bookshop.org , Amazon.com or from Barnes & Noble . If you have questions, queries, comments, critiques, email them to us! Get us at notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. And while you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those (and those who post them). The best time to join our Patreon was yesterday. BUT THE SECOND BEST TIME IS TODAY! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – patr...
Oct 02, 2024•37 min•Ep. 195
Beatrice had a near disastrous wardrobe malfunction but thank crunchie she had her beloved Flexifits on and her modesty was preserved. Unfortunately she did NOT have her Balenciaga towel-skirt handy … and proof, if ever you need it, that Rosemary truly has no qualms about who sees her bare breasts . If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that right now on bookshop.org , Amazon.com or from Barnes & Noble . If you have questions, queries, comments, critique...
Sep 25, 2024•32 min•Ep. 194
What is it that's driving Beatrice to revisit old frenemies – and what could she possibly get out of it? Will Rosemary ever get a resolution for any of her past problems? And has Demi Moore REALLY moved on from the male gaze? Spoiler alert: WE ANSWER NONE OF THESE QUESTIONS! If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that right now on bookshop.org , Amazon.com or from Barnes & Noble . If you have questions, queries, comments, critiques, email them to us! Get ...
Sep 19, 2024•35 min•Ep. 193
In case you're interested in the A to Z of Irish design, here it is ! If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that right now on bookshop.org , Amazon.com or from Barnes & Noble . If you have questions, queries, comments, critiques, email them to us! Get us at notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. And while you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those (and those who post them). The best time to join our Patreon was yesterday. BUT THE SECOND BEST TIME IS TO...
Sep 11, 2024•34 min•Ep. 192
Join us on the Patreon! It's where all the fun happens. Patreon.com/notwithoutmysister Things we discuss in this episode include: Beatrice's #1 obsession, Stuart Mackey ( not Stuart Mackenzie) Padma Lakshmi (above) licking yoghurt off her paw Cher's chicken shop date Sarah Manguso's Guardian interview on her new book, Liars Earth Breeze laundry detergent sheets If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that right now on bookshop.org , Amazon.com or from Barnes &...
Sep 04, 2024•44 min
(Guess which sister said THAT.) And let us know what you have grudgingly spent YOUR money on recently! If you're in the US and would like to pre-order Rosemary's book, you can do that right now on bookshop.org , Amazon.com or from Barnes & Noble . If you have questions, queries, comments, critiques, email them to us! Get us at notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. And while you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those (and those who post them). The best time to join our Patreon was yesterda...
Aug 28, 2024•32 min•Ep. 191
A clip has surfaced from a recent Chappell Roan concert where the singer had a little moment on stage, tearfully explaining to concertgoers that she was feeling overwhelmed by life recently – and asking their forgiveness if the show wasn't up to scratch. So we're asking, have we got to a point where public displays of emotion like this are expected, welcomed and lauded? Is there a performative aspect to crying in public? And is it finally okay, in 2024, to cry at work? If you're in the US and wo...
Aug 21, 2024•43 min•Ep. 190
Someone start preparing our Nobel prize… If you have questions, queries, comments, critiques, email them to us! Get us at notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. And while you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those (and those who post them). The best time to join our Patreon was yesterday. BUT THE SECOND BEST TIME IS TODAY! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – patrons get bonus content, ad-free listening and more. Email us notwithoutmysis@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram @notwithoutmysister . Hosted...
Aug 14, 2024•32 min•Ep. 189
But it's okay, Beatrice does it enough for both of us! If you have questions, queries, comments, critiques, email them to us! Get us at notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. And while you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those (and those who post them). The best time to join our Patreon was yesterday. BUT THE SECOND BEST TIME IS TODAY! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – patrons get bonus content, ad-free listening and more. Email us notwithoutmysis@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram @notwithoutmys...
Aug 07, 2024•32 min•Ep. 188
If you have questions, queries, comments, critiques, email them to us! Get us at notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. And while you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those (and those who post them). The best time to join our Patreon was yesterday. BUT THE SECOND BEST TIME IS TODAY! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – patrons get bonus content, ad-free listening and more. Email us notwithoutmysis@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram @notwithoutmysister . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more...
Jul 31, 2024•28 min•Ep. 187
(We truly wouldn't have a clue – they're all green, green, green, baby!) If you have questions, queries, comments, critiques, email them to us! Get us at notwithoutmysis@gmail.com. And while you're at it, leave us a five-star review! We love those (and those who post them). The best time to join our Patreon was yesterday. BUT THE SECOND BEST TIME IS TODAY! patreon.com/notwithoutmysister – patrons get bonus content, ad-free listening and more. Email us notwithoutmysis@gmail.com or DM us on Instag...
Jul 29, 2024•30 min•Ep. 186
