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Not As We Planned

Tash Gershfield,Carly Harrispodcasters.spotify.com

When two single mums come together to talk about the realisation of their marriages ending. Chatting all about the new challenges faced as a single parent, coparenting, dating again in your 30s and everything in between. We love hearing from you about your stories, dilemmas, dating disasters, happy endings (both kinds) so email us on notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.com


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Episodes

95. The Signs Of An Affair

When you hear from the other woman who tells you all about the affair, a man who needs our help, and yet another affair with you guessed it… ANOTHER ONE Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/pri...

Jun 25, 202544 minSeason 1Ep. 95

94. A Massive Orange Dildo

When your boyfriend has an issue with your baby daddy, an update from a man whose wife cheated, the massive orange dildo, and proof that no consequences means no changes Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. ...

Jun 18, 202548 minSeason 1Ep. 94

93. I Thought He Would Change For Me

When a short situationship does a lot of damage, your partner tells you it’s you or the dog, and when your ex has moved on but you weren’t ready for this change Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast...

Jun 11, 202542 minSeason 1Ep. 93

92. Describe Your Ex As a Brand

We share the hilarious comparisons of brands that remind you of your ex, if it’s too early to date an old flame straight after a separation, and watching your partner VANISH out of nowhere!!! Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/...

Jun 04, 202540 minSeason 1Ep. 92

91. She’d Flirt With a Pint Of Milk

We hear from a woman who’s tried everything to make her marriage work, a man who’s wife cheated on him with her best female friend and an update from the woman who was comparing herself to the girl her partner cheated on her with. Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)http...

May 29, 202542 minSeason 1Ep. 91

90. You Hooked Up With a Murderer

It’s time for an overdue dating episode and you’ve delivered the goods!! The 15 minute date with a drunk, when your situationship prioritises spiders over you, having sex in his single bed and we share some weird prompts on the dating apps Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND...

May 22, 202546 minSeason 1Ep. 90

89. It’s Giving… Love Bomb

We share a story from a girl who tash met, when you realise you are with a serial cheater and the confessions of a micro penis Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

May 15, 202541 minSeason 1Ep. 89

88. I Tried To Tame a F*** Boy

We speak about being married to an addict and how that can impact your life, when blaming the other woman won’t make your problems go away and realising he’s not going to change!! Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted ...

May 08, 202542 minSeason 1Ep. 88

87. Comparing Myself To The 'Other Woman'

We both share our realisations from our previous relationships, we give some rare advice and suggest a reconciliation, and the dangers of comparing yourself to the other woman Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on A...

May 01, 202534 minSeason 1Ep. 87

86. Catfish and Chlamydia

We discuss how Staying for the kids and for financial stability doesn’t need to be a thing, finally getting that lightbulb moment and filling for divorce, and how a cheeky bit of milk can go a long way! Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/lice...

Apr 24, 202538 minSeason 1Ep. 86

85. Things Just Got Juicy

Finally getting confirmation that your cheating suspicions were correct, being the new partner and having to deal with an uncomfortable coparenting relationship, and being torn whether to leave my partner although there’s been no pinnacle event! Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC...

Apr 17, 202539 minSeason 1Ep. 85

84. How To Text a Guy

We discuss how it’s sometimes better raising a child on your own than allowing a toxic parent to be a part of their life, realising you’re not yet ready to date yet and never settling for someone who isn’t willing to put in the work! Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)h...

Apr 10, 202537 minSeason 1Ep. 84

83. He Had a Whole Other Family

We talk about how you shouldn’t blame yourself for him cheating, finding out he had a whole other family, we see the definition of bread crumbing and for the first time we feel uncomfortable to give advice….. Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.or...

Apr 03, 202541 minSeason 1Ep. 83

82. My Gut Told Me To Look At His Phone

We discuss the danger of staying in a relationship just because there’s no infidelity, when you catch your husband cheating on you, and wanting some reassurance from us about making that decision to leave! Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/l...

Mar 27, 202540 minSeason 1Ep. 82

81. Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

We talk about the difference between mums and dads and how men get praised for doing the bare minimum, getting told your marriage is over with a letter left in the kitchen and we give advice about that first break up after divorce Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)http...

Mar 20, 202543 minSeason 1Ep. 81

80. Are They Swingers?

We discuss the clues of trying to spot a swinger, finding out your friend was having an affair with your husband and realising it’s time to call it a day with your cheating partner! Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hoste...

Mar 13, 202548 min

79. Something Is Wrong With Me

We both deeply reflect on our previous relationships after divorce and how we came to accept they weren’t right for us, and we also discuss why it’s important to know as single mums what we offer to the table, knowing our kids are not bagge but a privilege! Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 ...

Mar 06, 202539 minSeason 1Ep. 79

78. His Accountant Sent Him Vagina Pictures

Finding out your husband is having a fling with his accountant! Having to come clean to your ex about your secret new partner and learning to finally DO THE WORK! Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See aca...

Feb 27, 202542 minSeason 1Ep. 78

77. Me and My Boyfriend Broke Up

Carly opens up about her break up, we explain how to move forward and let go of feeling attached to your ex, and managing someone with an addiction. Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shop Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy...

Feb 20, 202542 min

76. Are We Dating The Same Guy?

Carly shares an emotional update, we hear from the woman who cheated, we get a lovely update from a listener and the dreading question of are we dating the same guy? Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Feb 13, 202537 minSeason 1Ep. 76

75. Get the F*ck Out

Would you go back to a relationship where there’s no trust? Learning to set boundaries when coparenting, how to help your children handle big emotions about your divorce and finding pills for herpes. Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com...

Feb 06, 202540 minSeason 1Ep. 75

74. He Was Messaging Other Girls On OnlyFans

We talk about managing your kids emotions and feelings after a break up, having to watch an affair unfold in front of your eyes and catching your partner on ONLY FANS! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....

Jan 30, 202541 min

73. He Has 6 Girlfriends

Trigger Warning: Rape When a man gets caught with 6 girlfriends, hitting rock bottom after finding out about your husbands infidelity and trying to work out if you’re the toxic one! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more ...

Jan 23, 202551 min

72. He Cheated On Me With My Midwife

We dive into the daily mundane life with young kids and how that can impact your relationship with your partner negatively, but how it can be improved. When you take him back time and time again, and you want our advice if he deserves one more chance?? And finding out your partner cheated on you with your midwife! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attributio...

Jan 16, 202546 minSeason 1Ep. 72

71. We May Be The Villain But They Are The Clowns

Tash shares a big update in her relationship, we are hit with a dilemma when you find out your partner cheated on you 2 years ago at the beginning of your relationship, a thank you from a grateful follower for repairing her marriage and realising you chose the wrong man to have a baby with! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported ...

Jan 09, 202541 min

70. If She Asks, Say I Was With You!

Happy new year you to all our amazing listeners! We kick off our first episode of 2025 seeing cracks beginning to show in a new relationship and if someone can really put on a front for a year? Going through a breakup after divorce and wondering how to trust again and it’s time to write down that one goal for 2025!! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribut...

Jan 02, 202544 min

69. He’s Unstable

Our last episode of 2024, we discuss our 2025 goals, we get a final update from the fuck buddy situationship, knowing you should run a mile but can’t seem to stop and finding out your husband is gay. Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com...

Dec 19, 202450 min

68. And People Say Men Can’t Multitask

When you find a new partner but you’re missing the bad boy, a segment of women in male fields, struggling to let go of your abusive ex and we finish with a gorgeous happy ending after a narcissistic relationship. Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. ...

Dec 12, 202439 minSeason 1Ep. 68

67. He Would Shag His Mum If He Could

When your partner just ups and leaves for no reason, talking about how divorce doesn’t fuck up the kids, when he leaves you for his ex and hearing from a man who wants our advice on coparenting Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/priva...

Dec 05, 202441 minSeason 1Ep. 67

66. I’m a Girlfriend

Tash makes an announcement about her relationship, Carly has an emotional birthday, we share some epic hacks you’re going to want to know and a fiancé gets up to no good on his stag! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more...

Nov 28, 202443 min
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