This ONE Thing Made The Biggest Difference (2060)

It's not that I hate it , but I have that so often where it's like I really don't want to do this . But here's a list of five reasons I should , and when I do that I'm more successful .

This is part two , based on what we did yesterday . This one thing made the biggest difference for us . We finished yesterday's episode and I said Alan , I still have one more I want to add . So the thought was , yesterday's episode was the truth about what you need to change in order to be more successful . This is probably the biggest one .

I had a moment Saturday . Okay , so last week was a freaking busy week . Friday worked 6am till 6pm and I count the gym as work . If you don't and you think that's wrong , I don't care , I have to count it . It's part of the brand and it's work . It is it's work . So , 12-hour day Drove an hour and a half down to Matt's , stopped and picked up food .

Got five guys Ate within my calories though , so all good , stayed up until midnight , played some Call of Duty . No fries , I did get fries . I got one burger and fries Kind of sucks . I was freaking , starving after .

It's like what it's like . No , I can't eat . I can't eat soggy beef especially when it's extra calories . It's tough . I thought I took it off , hadoukened it right into the right .

If I don't work tomorrow , I'm gonna , I'm in trouble

. Alarm goes off at six and I was like fuck this , this is terrible news for me and I had you ever have a list of stuff ? That's like you have five things that are like really deep work and they take a long time to get into and there's just like you can't hit flow because there's so many things you have to do within the thing .

All the time I had like five of those and I had a moment at like 6 30 when I had a coffee in hand ready to go where I was like I do not want to do this today at all . I do not want to do this at all . This is freaking terrible . And then I had this moment where I said , well , this you have to like nobody else is gonna it .

You said yes to all of these things Like you have to push through and you have to do it . And I think that's probably the biggest differentiator between where I used to be and where I it off , and I put it off until I my back was against the wall and I had to study because I just didn't want to study .

So I just kept pushing , putting it off , putting it off . You can't really do that when you're chasing your dreams , because you'll put it off forever . There's no , there's no deadlines , there's no one there to tell you to do it , and it doesn't seem like there's an immediate downside , but the immediate downside is happening all the time

. That one thing , whatever that is , you can say F your feelings , whatever the label is for you , right ? I don't ? That sounds toxic , I don't mean it in that way , but the ability to know that something must be done and for you to do it even when you just don't want to .

There's something to that and I think that's the thing , because , as a dream chaser , we fall into this . Well , I only want to do what I want , or the reason I started to be a dream chaser so I could do what I want .

I understand Same , and I do get to do a lot of what I want , but what I want to do is always surrounded by a bunch of small things that I don't , and I think that's like a master skill if you can get there .

Yeah , there's no way you cannot achieve big goals without doing things you don't want to do . I don't think so . No , I'll go into the gym and Emilio will say what are we doing today ? Because she'll lead , or I'll lead , depending on who has more in the tank Usually me , because I'm ahead in fitness .

I've been doing it a lot longer and it depends on who's in the gym , it depends what's taken . So the moment I get into the gym , yeah , I have an idea , I have a roadmap , but the moment the squat rack is taken or the bench is taken , I have to pivot . Okay , we're doing dumbbell today instead .

I don't want to , but we either do chest day push day is what we call it or we . There's a question that one of the Kevin and I were on a podcast . We had him on our podcast too . Do you remember the question , guy ? That's good branding right there , the fact that you might come up with it , mark . Champagne Nice , that's good branding .

The question guy .

yeah .

Okay , so let's bring this back to the interview . So this is part two . The last episode was yesterday , and I've done back-to-backs yesterday and today , so catch me up . So the first thing you said was your relationship with failure .

And he said why is fitness so important to you ? And I said because it's proof positive that discipline works . It's like proof positive . Am dieting and there's a bunch of things that I want to eat . Like I wanted to get two burgers and two fries and a hot dog , but I I didn't . I wanted to . It's not that I didn't want to .

I went and picked up the food and I literally I told matt when I got to his house I was like dude , I had a fry in my hand , I was gonna eat it in the car and I was like I can't , I gotta wait till I get there so I'm not gonna miss , but that's , that's a gentle a , that's a little example .

It's not that serious , but that's like it's the principle of it . It is serious , the principle . Well , I think the principle is serious , not that actual . The principle underneath it is more serious than the practice that I , that I showed everything .

Super growth is also dangerous and it's a spectrum and they all have their own limiting beliefs associated with them . So fixed versus growth , mindset is number one . And again , this is again this is me priming myself as well . I'm interviewing you about you eight years ago . What you needed to change to get here ?

Essentially Because , quite frankly , you are honest enough and humble enough to say , hey , I was not going to be this successful unless I changed a lot of stuff , for sure , and your changes will pay dividends forever . It will skills , monetize forever who you become . You can use forever the , the version of kevin

. Eight years ago , when we first started working together , the , the biggest client we have , that's working with you they wouldn't work with that guy . No , they would notice okay , he's a mess . We can't work with a mess . Oh , let's have him run our scope of work . No way , why would they do ?

And I wonder if people fully understand I don't mean people , but I wonder if we make it clear enough how important that is . If you can't take care of your own finances , why would someone else trust you If you can't take care of your own health ?

I said this in book club and I don't want anyone to take this the wrong way , but I remember I got I won a personal training thing free raffle and the head trainer there was very out of shape and I didn't like him . I knew him from the past and I thought he was a dingus . But I said I want Nate .

Nate was the best trainer there and he was jacked out of his mind . I mean , he was just next level and I was like I want Nate . She's like , well , nate's not is the head trainer . He's the head trainer , he's a , he's higher than nate . I said don't care , I'm good , this is my time , I'm not gonna waste my time . She's like , well , it's free .

I'm said no , it's not , it's my time , but anyways , uh , to bring this to you . So fix versus growth mindset , your relationship with failure . And then this last one is just self-discipline your relationship with failure .

Like strong work . I enjoy the gym most of the time not all the time , but most of the time I do . When I know I'm going for a workout Like today was back day I was like excited to do back . Hell , yeah , let's go do back .

Like I do a lot of stuff for that big client that I don't want to do . I've learned a lot of stuff , but it's always like , yeah , well , this is what you signed up for and there's a reason you signed up for it , so you got to do it .

We're in a different position as a business where there's people on the team that are better at way better at things than I am . So I can have a conversation with them and say , hey , I think it's time for you to take this over . You're better at this than I am , but I mean , I think that's kind of it . You and I , in the beginning , fell into roles .

I was going to do the audio editing , I was going to do the video editing . I was going to do the thumbnails . I was going to do certain things you were going to do , certain things neither of us guests really wanted to do that . Yeah , that was just the requirement .

I think I last thing , and I'll kick it to you it's very easy to start dream chasing and say , oh yeah , I used to have a job . I hated listening to the boss . Your , your dreams are the boss now , not you , your dreams are the boss and you work for your dreams , and I think that's the best way to think about it .

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The link will be in the show notes . The last episode we did and we still have plenty of time we got six minutes here . Plenty , plenty of time , plenty of time . Yeah , it's all relative . The last time , the last episode , part one , I asked you these questions because I didn't understand . I said we're all playing not to lose .

I was playing not to lose relationships . Unconsciously , I didn't want to lose any more friends , I didn't want to outgrow family , I didn't want to lose people and I felt really good at success , but not good at relationships . You felt the opposite . I was afraid of success , you were afraid of failure .

Okay , for new listeners , I know I'm paraphrasing and not doing a great job explaining . This is similar and I'm going to say this , even though I'm afraid to say it I have never once said I want to achieve a result without predetermining in advance that I am also signing up for everything that it takes to require it .

Like to me and I said this to Kevin behind the scenes and I'm going to share it here and I will explain it after I say it it doesn't fucking matter whether or not I want to do it , it doesn't matter , it's completely irrelevant to whether , if I want to achieve X result , it doesn't fucking matter that I don't want to do Y , a , b , c

, d and this is a better metaphor If I want D result , it doesn't fucking matter that I don't want to do A , b and C . It's irrelevant .

I want to try my best to be me but also be centered . I don't understand why you would set a goal and then be upset with what it takes to achieve it , because that means you set a goal having like . Did you actually think you'd like it Like ? Setting goals is terrible . I was hopeful .

The people sitting on the couch for too long including myself in the past , the people climbing meaningful mountains were always the envy , and so I always say climbing mountains sucks . When you're on the mountain and you're sweating and you're struggling and it's raining and it's pouring and you feel like crap , but you're always glad you climbed .

It's better than sitting on the couch .

There was a time where I was like I'm going to order phone cases from china and I'm going to have my own little ebay business and then when I started it , I was like I don't want to learn how to do all this fuck , that I thought it was going to be easier , and then I just stopped doing it , that I think that's the norm , that's how it works , that's

how it worked , that's how it worked for me .

No , you should look for a new job .

There are no safety nets that I think that's one of the reasons it's so hard to be a business owner , because if you are not disciplined , it's it is nearly impossible to win . It is nearly impossible because you're competing against people that are super disciplined . Nice , if I say this in group coaching we have , we have a call tonight .

You're competing against alan and I now I'm it's .

I'm not saying it has to be a competition there's plenty of listeners like I'm not saying it from from the ego place but like you're competing against people like us who have traded a lot for this and I know you've traded a lot too but you can't be skipping episodes and you can't say I don't really feel like no , no , no , this is serious business okay , did

you understand ?

No , don't want that life , Because the truth is you wouldn't go back Because this is better . I'm telling you my schedule's full , but this is better than the alternative .

Like that sucks . That part , I don't know . You get better at it . It gets a little bit easier . It's easier anyway because it's aligned . So even the hard days are still more aligned than an easy day doing what I used to .

Because I love this , I love the grind , I love being in business , I love podcasting , I love speaking , I love coaching , I love helping people . So even on the hard days , it's a little bit easier . Discipline starts very small , just like everything else does that you you start by setting and keeping the small promises to yourself .

That's probably the simplest answer , especially when you don't want to . We are really good at finding excuses really good . I mean , humans are really good at solving problems . One problem is I don't want to do this . How do I make myself not feel guilty about it ? That's raining , it is raining , yes , it is . So I won't do that .

You're gonna feel like shit about that . You can only do that so many times before you start to understand you're making excuses . So I think you have to start from a very , a very , very small place of discipline is what I would say I know you gotta go I do you ?

I still love Mondays , one of my favorite days of the week , but I , it's fucking hard . And there's very people say like well , you got to let go . I've tried it , it didn't work . No , I got to hang on , because if I let go , who's controlling it ? It's just , it's just going to happen . I don't , I can't believe that . I've tried it , I .

It didn't work for me . So I think discipline is one of those things that is a necessary suck , just like a lot of things are . Tracking habits is kind of a necessary suck for me at least . Right , I'm you , do you , you can do whatever you want out there . This is what has suck for me , at least .

Right , I'm you , do you , you can do whatever you want out there . This is what has worked for me . That's a necessary

suck . Getting up at six is a necessary suck , it's just , that's the way I have to do it . It is what it is , and all of those things require discipline because , very honestly , none of you would know whether or not I did it . You would have no idea whether or not I did the thing I said I was going to do .

You would would have no idea if I didn't . I could be lying this whole time . Oh yeah , I sleep , I get up at nine . I'm just going to go on the podcast and say I sleep , I get up at six . I can do that and nobody would know . I would notice .

Oh , I know , I know I study you , I know it sucks and oftentimes it sucks , but I'm telling you I think that's the thing , that is the equalizer . The people that are more consistent are more disciplined and they design their , their environments better . Right , that's a piece of it too Discipline and design that .

Yeah , yes , every dollar you spend is paying for someone else to do something for you . So if you want to make money , you have to do something for someone else and get paid for it . That's what discipline is , and it has to be something the other person doesn't want to do that they'd rather pay money for . I wonder if that's .

I wanted to take that opportunity to bring that in , just because I obviously have a sneaky goal to teach economics .

We'll have the link in the show notes for our private .

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