¶ World-Class Feedback Takers Win
We just got a new client and she evidently is a very successful lawyer in one of the parts of her life . She's also the founder of a company in another part of her life and now she is a podcaster and I have been on the phone with her Zoom three times and she is world-class at taking feedback .
And after our call yesterday I got off and said , one , what a great person to work with . And two , she's gonna win . Because she literally says tell me what I'm doing wrong .
It's very important to know when you do know what you're talking about and when you don't . And it's even more important to know what other people actually know versus what you think they do , and you cannot take guidance and feedback from someone who has never accomplished the thing you're trying to accomplish .
And feedback from someone who has never accomplished the thing you're trying to accomplish . Welcome to Next Level University . I'm your host , kevin Palmieri , and I'm your co-host , alan Lazarus .
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Welcome to Next Level University , next Level Nation today for episode number 2102, . Can you win without feedback ? I told Alan right before this I said there are certain people who , as podcasters and has , as clients and people I get the privilege to work with , that I know can win and most likely will win .
And there are also right and there are also other on the other end , where there are some people that whether they just don't have the self-belief yet , whether they don't have the self-worth yet , whether they're naive , whatever it is , I just can't give them the amount of feedback that they need yet Now maybe that's how can you tell .
Isn't that an interesting thing ? You can always tell yeah , they're not ready to hear this , they're not open to this Fragility .
How fragile is somebody in ? Terms of how do you tell ? How do you there's tells uh , a lot of . It is just the way they react . Okay , great example this person is on the upper end of financial abundance so they went out and bought . They bought like a two thousand dollar camera . They just went all out . They have so much equipment .
I was like you don't need all this equipment , just so you know . But whatever you can you can use it if you want . Good for them , man , and in real time . Something happened with their mic and I was trying to help them fix it and it was just clear the way that I could say no , I'm trust me , I'm certain , it's not that , I'm just , I'm certain .
She's like all right , it's not that cool , what's next on the ? And it's just . There's other people where you almost let them take the line out . Okay , I'm just gonna let you do your thing . Let you do your thing . When you get tired , you'll say what do you think , kev ?
This person is not that they , this person is not that they want to optimize their time . They want to get as much done in as little time as possible and they want to be accurate more than they want to feel good . So I think there's a lot of tells with , when you test giving feedback , how somebody responds . That's probably the best answer I have .
Well , I'm fighting everything in me to not go down a different road than Kevin intended on this episode . So we're , going to do a hybrid model here . We're going to do what Kevin wanted and what I wanted , and hopefully it will be a combination of what the listener wants and needs . Let's do it , let's see what happens , we'll see .
So you said fragile , how fragile they are , and I thought about a concept called anti-fragile , which apparently so .
It's a book by Nassim Taleb and it's this idea that the more you attack someone , the more you attack something , the stronger it gets , and we talked a little bit about that in the last episode is the more you bully someone , they get up , aim higher , work harder , get smarter and they get up stronger and faster each time .
They get up better each time , and that is what I recommend for everybody . Like , life is going to throw shit at you feedback , positive and negative . If you get up better every time , in the long run you become something extremely empowered .
What else came up for me is and this is kind of where I want to take the episode and we'll hybrid with what Kevin wanted you and I can both tell at this point who will be successful and who won't , and I'm talking about external results . I'm not talking about intrinsic spiritual value .
I'm talking about when it comes to whether or not they will get the outcome they actually want . I have a , really I have one client I'm thinking of right now . I said you are winning . Isn't it so awesome to finally be winning at life ? Before you were playing short-term games perception , status , this , that survival . Now you're actually winning at life .
You used to make so many irrational choices , you used to be so emotional . Now you're . So she's just winning at everything health , wealth and love . She's winning in all three categories and well , technically two but self-love , so three self-love , and it was really cool . I said it's really awesome to see , because back in the day I was so concerned for you .
I was so concerned like
¶ Antifragility and Success Prediction
I'm not trying to be some preachy guy right now , but I can I have a pretty strong understanding of whether or not someone is aligned with their potential and a bright future . I've always , whenever I meet someone , I always think about their thinking .
What they say , think , do , feel and believe is an indicator of whether or not they're on the path , and the path is a metaphor for somewhere great reaching your own unique potential , growth , impact , profitability , being successful , healthy , wealthy and in love . I can keep going , but that's a gift .
I've always honed that and right now Kev's on the path Zero to 10 . If 10 is perfect alignment , you're very close to 10 . You're the closest to 10 you've ever been , for sure , I'm certain of that . So your future right now , your trajectory . I always say trajectory matters more than present results . Why ?
Because the future is going to be the present soon and I'm always looking at trajectory . I never look at the now . Okay , your birthday Great , you had a great weekend . That doesn't mean your future's bright , having a blowout birthday party when I was 26, . We went to Mohegan , we ran amok .
If you looked at just my life in that weekend , you would have thought I was on cloud nine best life ever . But that's not true . My trajectory was actually down , not up . I think it was up , but definitely down . In some ways , I care about trajectory way more than current results , and so I want to talk to you a little bit about how can we tell ?
Because if we can tell number one , they might not be ready to hear it . I pulled up a readiness score by Aura and the readiness score tracks your resting heart rate , your heart rate variability , your recovery index , your sleep . The readiness score is a metaphor for hey , I get an 85 .
It says optimal you are ready for a tough workout , you got great sleep , you're hydrated . Let's rock and roll , let's get after it . In coaching there's a readiness score . There's someone I was on a free session with I'm like , honestly , she's like well , how do I work with you , like how much does it cost ?
I said , to be completely transparent with you , I'm not even sure I want to work with you . You're already resistant to everything I'm saying . She's like no no , no , no , I'm not . No , you are . It's okay . This is a free session . We're good , like we can go our separate ways after this , but I'm not going to try to coach you .
This is going to be terrible . You're not open , you're not humble , you're not ready . You you're momming me Like listen , I'm leagues ahead of you in every area and you're still trying to tell me stuff . You're not humble enough to be coached and I'm not interested . I've spent too much of my life coaching people who don't want to be coached .
I'm fucking done with that . But how do you know ? Like , what are the tells ?
I don't know if I have a good answer , a fairly high . It's either a fairly high personal development set point or a fairly high humility set point . I think those are probably the two best answers I can give , because you and I have both worked with people that aren't super into self-improvement or personal development .
They haven't done a ton of work , but they're very humble , awesome , great . That usually works really well . And then how do you tell humility ? You can just tell by the way they respond to what you say . I think I don't know , I don't . I think it's as much a feeling as it is a knowing . I know that's , you know .
I think it's as much a feeling as it is a knowing . I know that's , you know . I feel I don't know . There are certain people that I can just tell are super humble .
Can you give me a hypothetical example ? Maybe change the name or give just a first name of someone who you know can't win ?
Yeah , they're not humble .
They probably don't have high work ethic , like I can guess the character traits of this person .
it's not even that they know they have high work ethic , that they're relatively humble . They're not interested in hearing the inconvenient truth , they're interested in hearing convenient truths only . And that that's fire , that is . I think that's what it is they want . They want accuracy . Again , I go back to no , no , they don't want accuracy .
Sorry , they want certainty , they don't want accuracy . That , what's that book ? Uh , shit , morgan Housel , same as ever . Yeah , yeah , yeah .
Same as ever ? No , yes , same as ever . Same as ever by Morgan Housel yeah , great book .
Could I tell you what it's about ? Not really , but it's essentially about thinking more accurately Right here , baby . And there is a quote
¶ Certainty vs Accuracy in Thinking
in that book and it's the best quote I've ever heard in any of the books I've ever listened to or read . Certainty more than they're looking for , accuracy Meaning if I tell you something and it's not true but you believe it's true and it makes you feel some type of way , you'll latch onto that , even if it's not real .
Okay , I usually go into the car metaphor self-driving car metaphor . Yeah , yeah , I'm not going to Okay , because our listeners have heard that a thousand times . Okay , if you're a new listener , I apologize in advance . I'm not going to share it again . What is your way to explain ? I am obsessed with accurate thinking .
If my mental map does not match reality , I know I can't make good choices . It's like thinking the bishop can do what the rook does in chess . You can't win the game . You can't win the game if you don't understand the rules .
Explain why accurate thinking matters so much , because you are someone who I think didn't understand a lot and I know people think I pick on you . I'm not trying to be mean , I just you didn't understand how the game worked fully . And now you understand way better not fully , but way better and now I think you're going to be way more successful .
And it's very clear now in hindsight that you couldn't have been successful without learning how it all worked . Is that obvious ?
Right , not only podcasting , but Not to the degree . No , I mean to some degree , but not to the degree I desired for sure .
Okay , right , how do you explain why accurate thinking matters so much ? Because I think that's the main reason people are not successful they just don't think accurately . The scientific method can't work if you're wrong about everything .
Because there are things out there that have relatively concrete answers and if you don't have the relatively concrete answers , you can't be successful in it . There are certain ways . What's an example of that ? Getting in shape Perfect . Certain ways . What's an example of that ? Getting in shape perfect ? There are certain .
There are certain physiological fundamentals that are what they are . It requires progressive overload to build muscle . Calories in versus calories out matters way more than most people want to admit . Is it everything ? No , is it ?
a giant portion of it , for sure .
Yes , yeah , 100 yes we can't say 80 and then 100 , yeah , 80 , but there are . There are certain things that are concrete . You're not going to be successful at business if you don't do it consistently . That is factual . Yeah , or at least let's make this factual . You will be less consistent . You will be less successful if you are less consistent .
That is factual . It's just an input versus an output thing . That's why I love math . It makes sense . Math is mathematically .
I can show someone the math . Remember when I did this with you ?
Yeah .
You put a dollar in a bank account for a certain number of years , it comes to a certain amount . If you put it in for 50 years , $1 , grow it by 0.1% For 50 years you can do this . It grows to $84 million . I round it up $84 million If you take weekends off .
I showed Kev it's so insane you can't even . I could not even fathom the guess . Like well , $84 .
I think it was really . I think it was 470,000 or something . I can do it , it was drastically less than I expected . Yeah , it's not even close , just for weekends off .
Because if we talk about what really matters when it comes to accomplishing , it's accurate expectations , accurate approach , accurate time perspective . All that is is awareness . It's accuracy Not . I feel like if I do it once a week , that'll be enough . It might feel good and it might be fulfilling and you might enjoy that , but that might not be enough .
Exercising once a week is a great place to start , but it's most likely not going to get you the body of your dreams .
No , it definitely won't , brother , it definitely won't .
Unless the body of your dreams is not super high . That's where things get wonky .
Brother once a week . It's not going to get me . You're shitting on me for a half hour a day , every day .
You want to live until you're 120 and you want to be the most aesthetic natural physique who has ever lived , You've got to exercise 14 times a week , never mind seven .
Yeah , yeah .
Fair , is that why ?
you're harder on me Because of the goal . That's it 100% . Is that simple ? Yeah , my goal's not as high as yours . Well what if I said I want a mediocre physique ? Would you be proud of me ?
I'd say take every other day off , you're good .
You're on nice , everything's based on the goal . Yeah , that's hilarious .
Well it's , doesn't it have to be ? I guess I feel like it has to be , yeah , but there are some things that just have actual answers . That's , it's that I can I challenge that ?
everything does , everything does . I know , you just don't know the answer that .
So there are some things that are like well researched answers yeah , like the world is not flat , despite what people think .
Yes , there are certain people that still think that , which is mind-blowing to me .
We have lots of proof , yeah , lots of . We have a lot of proof .
Lots of uh . Water is h2o . Gravity is 9.8 meters per second , squared right . So there's certain truths that are just true . And when did they invent gravity ? What ?
year , was it , I think ?
I believe it was circa 1973 . Yeah , a man by Newton Isaac Gerard Gravitae . Yeah , he invented gravity .
And then before that , what happened ? Did people just float it around and shit Mostly yeah Cool , Mostly just floated around , but they were certain about it so that's good . Look , this is a dangerous game . So that's good . Look , this is a dangerous game .
It's a dangerous game to just seek certainty , because certainty can be found in misleading things , and it is all the time .
Banjo , minnow baby Banjo .
Minnow the microwave bag where you can get crispy bacon . Didn't work .
What else the Wonder Mop ? No , I think the Wonder Mop actually worked pretty well .
Oh , did it work ? Yeah , I think it actually worked pretty well . I think the wonder mop actually worked pretty well .
I think it actually worked pretty well do you when I say things that are too good to be true are usually too good to be true . Do you agree with that ? I do .
If it sounds too good to be true , it is yes , and we're trying to build a business where that is true . So I'm when I say to somebody , this is it , this is what you get , this is how much it costs . I want it to sound too good to be true , and then I want it to be so good , so I would say so , everyone but us .
I would say more often , more often than than not . Yeah , like by 95 of the time .
Yeah I think that maturing in life is the stripping away of almost all naivete . You just when , when you're young , you , you're so naive . I was so naive , I didn't mean to be , I just didn't get it right . And I don't think I was any more naive than other kids , definitely not .
But it's important that I say that , at the end of the day , this woman that you're referring to , the client that you know will be , she has a high statistical probability of success , right Zero to 10 . In podcasting , yeah , yeah .
You've been coaching . How many in podcasting ? Yeah , yeah , you've been coaching . How many podcasts ?
have you coached I don't know . 500 , okay , of the 500 , where would you put her top one percent one ?
percent , top one percent . Okay , give me three reasons why she's already successful . So she already has so many of the success fundamentals . That's one . She just takes action . You tell her to order something . She does it right . Then and she says , okay , well , I'll set up a call when it comes in . Awesome that .
And she knows what she doesn't know and she's humble enough to take feedback on what she doesn't know . And she's open to constructive feedback . Those are the three Fire , next level , nation feedback . Those are the three 90 days .
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The group fills up and they can't do it , and then they end up regretting that . So please head over to the website . The link will be in the show notes and we would love to see you there . What's the point in hiring a coach if you don't let them tell you the fucking truth ?
What's the ?
point . It's like hiring a chef and then saying like , honestly though , you know , I got tuna little paprika yeah , no , we don't know paprika here ? Well , it's , it's in the recipe , not here , it ain't okay . Well , uh , what are your thoughts on chicken ? No , no , we're not gonna do that either . Well , you're
¶ Consistency and Mathematical Reality
really handcuffing me here . What do you want me to make you a fucking hot pocket ? What are we doing ? What do you ? What do you want ?
well , this is the challenge , and this is the challenge and I've been working on this since I started becoming a coach which is how do I gain permission to share the hard truth with someone ? Yeah , there are certain things that I've come at you with , for lack of better phrasing , that I had to wait years for .
Did you actually have to or do you think you had to ?
I think I had to . How much earlier could I have shared what I've shared with you ? I don't know , dude , I don't know , did I ?
overcook the Turkey ? Did I undercook it ? If you do it in the right way , I think it always has to be attached to the goals , kev . If you do you really want what you say you want , yes , then this is something I need to tell you . That's really gonna suck . Do you want to hear it ? Yes or no ?
Yeah , now that you frame it that way , let's , let's wait a couple years , thanks , yeah I think that's the best .
Actually say that , though . No , that's the problem .
No one wants to say that no , I would say I would probably ask for context , like give me , can you give me context , like what does it involve ? And then maybe , depending on that , one of the hardest conversations up . Good , I was just gonna say I think you have to let the person admit that they want the feedback or admit that they don't .
And again , as somebody who is giving feedback , I think it's better to undercook it , lead light , and then you can get heavier as you go . If you lead heavy , you can't , it's already out there . You can't take feedback back like wait . If you lead heavy , you can't , it's already out there . You can't take feedback back Like wait .
Did I say oh no , I didn't mean that . I didn't mean that . Did I say that ?
to you . I meant to send that to somebody else . I said it with utter surety , but I didn't no , I never said that . No , I never said that , I but so I have a client who has been working with me for a while and she said can you just tell me what you really think she's like ? Just tell me what you really think . I said are you in a good state ?
Like , how are you feeling ? Are you okay ? She's like I'm great . Just fucking give it to me . Listen , there's implications . You can't just do that . This is the client that said to me years ago . She said , alan , I want you to be as hard on me as you are on yourself .
And emilia knows this person and I told emilia that and she's emilia immediately turned to me and said she would die . Well , it's your job to know that but , dude , it's so hard to know where that fucking line is , man , and you end up under and I end up over . Real quick , I'll share this conversation .
We got 12 minutes , one of the hardest conversations I've ever had in coaching . I kid you not , brother , if the person is listening . You know I care deeply about you . I'm a huge fan . I want to see you win . That's actually why I had this conversation with you .
Okay , if you're not listening , then we're good , but even if you are , I would say this to you If you're not listening , then we're good , but even if you are , I would say this to you I pulled up our trajectory in business because they have a company that is very similar to ours . It's trying to help people reach their potential .
Okay , and I know what it's taken for you and I to get where we are . I know pretty intimately what it's taken of you and of me and of our team and of everything .
And at this stage , this client of mine had never I think they had $500 a month coming in 500 euros a month in their entire business and I pulled up our trajectory , which is significantly more than that right Well over a million dollars grossed even at this stage in our business .
So we have grossed over a million dollars in our business and it's you know we . We started with small numbers and they grew . Okay , now , remember , this is gross revenue , this is before expenses , this is , this is total in .
And I pulled up our trajectory and I said , if I'm going to coach you on how to be successful , I have to help you do what we've done , or at least some unique flavor of it . When it comes to the fundamentals , you can make it unique to you with your brand and your goals and you and your business partner .
But , at the end of the day , this has you have any idea what this has required of Kevin and I . And she said and I kid you not , she said , alan , to be quite honest , I'd be disappointed with your trajectory . I'm not kidding Kev . I was like , oh , you have , you have not , you're not even I'm'm .
I'm a hundred times more successful than you and you'd be disappointed with my results . And she said , alan , you trade your time for money . I'm not interested in that . And I said , okay , and in my head this is . I didn't say to her , but I said in my head you're 27 , what do you mean ? Everyone trades time for money .
Is there anyone out there watching or listening who doesn't trade their time for money ? that's not a thing , not well , you know so it's the owner of amazon makes money by working , yeah well , it's just so I understand what she meant passive income . Yeah , the passive income , yeah , yeah , the . But passive income isn't passive .
You have to build something and then sustain it and maintain it and manage it and then lead the people that do manage it . I want a self-managing company . There's no such thing . I have a client , uh , who is on the board of directors . He still has to direct . That's like buying a home and then not taking care of it at all .
Okay , well , I hire people to take care of it . Okay , well , who takes care of the people who hire ? Who pays the ? Who pays the invoices ? Who , like you're gonna have to do something . You do more than that . So at the end of the day , no worries , I don't coach this person anymore .
But I remember thinking to myself I think I'm just gonna call it , I'm gonna call it , I'm not gonna do this anymore . I'm not going to do this anymore , I'm not interested . And I told her . I said listen , I'm a business coach . I can't help you if you're disappointed .
You'd be disappointed with our results when you're not even close , like you got to go find someone else because I can't help you . Win if you don't want to work and I'm going to say this to all of our listeners . If you're not willing to work , I cannot help you win . There is no such thing as success without work . There's no such thing .
That's a fucking lie . It's a lie , and I I'm sick and tired of that dude , I can't even .
So we we had a potential client one time . He has 10 clients . They pay him $10,000 a month . So he makes a hundred thousand dollars a month , 1.2 million dollars a year just from that . He has other stuff too and he's like so how fast can I get to a hundred thousand ? Listens like first couple months ? I said I do , depends on how much you want to work .
He's like well , you know , you can like pay to be in forbes and that type of shit . I said I don't do that shit . So if that's what you're looking for , you're looking for somebody to pay to play . I ain't the guy and I never heard from him again .
That was the last time I ever heard from him .
And now you're now you're understanding why kevin and I have to work , so hard he , he gave us , he gave us a thousand dollars signed up and then never . I can't get over the end . I can't get all of them , them . That was the end . I can't get ahold of them .
You know . I just want to share this too , and I've been much more honest now about certain things with the listeners and on other podcasts . And I say this to people because people always say where can people find you ? And I say listen . I just want to be very honest with you . Kevin and I are strivers . We're not arrivers .
We don't talk from some mountaintop of we've already arrived and we know everything . Like if you want next level university , you're going to be on a growth train with us . We're not gonna . Yeah , we'll have insights that we've learned from the past , but we're not done . This is not . You're not coming here for some guru . I don't have all the answers
¶ Hard Coaching Conversations
. What I do know is that striving we're strivers , and I say this . I say , if you have high humility and high work ethic and you have a sincere interest to achieve real success in the real world with real people , you're going to love Kev , you're going to love NLU , you're going to love me , and I say this too .
This is the next thing I say if you want big rewards for minimal effort , do not reach out under any circumstances . It's going to waste your time and mine . Big rewards for minimal effort is not how I play . It's not real , it's not . Yeah , it's not real , it's not real . And these people have generational wealth or trust funds or they inherited their money .
There's a lot of inheritance People don't . I've come to understand . I coach someone at Mass Mutual . He's high up the amount of inheritance . I don't know if people are thinking about this . You have no idea how much inheritance comes from generational wealth . There's so much .
If I were to look at what percentage of wealth is from inheritance , dude , it's a huge amount . I mean , you can look it up . It's probably 50 plus percent of all wealth is inherited wealth . So when you see a 23-year-old with a Porsche , like that's , they didn't build that , they didn't . That's not a thing .
Emilia has a client who's in their early 20s with a Porsche . She isn't wealthy , she has no money . Her dad bought that for her and that's okay . Whatever Do you , but this misunderstanding of success is hurting us . It's hurting people . You and I didn't have generational wealth , dude . We had to build it ourselves . For sure .
Emilia and Taryn took a bet on us Big bet , you know . Big bet , yeah , and you know . I love that about us . I want to earn this . I don't want something given to me . What are we doing here ? I don't want something given to me . What are we doing here ?
I don't mind it you know , not a fan man , I don't ask for it . I don't ask for and I don't rely on it . It wouldn't stop me from working . But if somebody sent me you know , wired me a check for 100 mil , it'd be like that's pretty cool . I wouldn't take it , I know I wouldn't tell you there would be . There would be signs .
Hey man , where'd you get that ?
yeah , there'd be signs . Don hey man , where'd you get that ? Yeah , there'd be signs .
Yeah , it'd be a couple ATVs Don't even worry about it . Somebody I was on their podcast and again , I don't recommend doing this . Even I didn't even want to do it , but I did it . There was a back and forth . I checked in how you doing Long time no talk and he said it . I love it . How much do you want , dude ?
I love when you get that question how much ?
do you want ? I love it . I said , yeah , it feels like you're putting on a persona that comes from a place of insecurity .
I would just suggest that you Do I know this person ?
Yes , I would just suggest to you that you lose the safety net . And it would make for a more organic conversation .
Sweetheart too , make for a more organic conversation . Sweetheart too sweetheart . It's on such a show great person too much .
Great person , great person . And they responded . I think it said wow , thank you , and it was like I don't think that was a good .
Wow , she's not . She's not ready , but I've . She's asked me for feedback , but that was my .
That was a test for myself of you know what I'm gonna give maybe a little bit more than I would normally and I want to see what happens . Because if me saying you're amazing and you don't need to change anything is not going to help you , it's not going to help anybody . I'm not . I'm maybe I'm quote unquote amazing at stuff . It doesn't matter .
There's still a lot of work to do . I'm in the best shape I've been in a long time . I got a long ways to go . I'm the best speaker I've ever been . I got a long ways to all that stuff . I'm the most consistent . I've been good for you . Fucking get better . Awesome , love that . And I wanted to give some level of construction . Did I give too much ?
Maybe we'll see . We'll see in time . But that's a gentle , maybe a gentle truth that nobody else is going to see . Maybe that nobody else is going to give . And that's the conversation of responsibility versus choice . And you feel like it's your responsibility to give the people around you feedback . Do you feel like it's a choice ? Can you avoid it ?
That's a deeper conversation for a different day . All right , what's your next level lesson before we go ?
My next level lesson is that success it is I don't know if sneaky is the right word when you meet someone who is of success in a certain area health , wealth or love , or all three . Very rarely do you see all three . But try to understand . Taking advice about how to do something from someone who hasn't done , it is insanity .
How to do something from someone who hasn't done ? It is insanity . There's no . You have to take advice from someone who has actually done it and not someone who cheated their way or lied or stole or sold their soul . I'm talking someone who actually fundamentally , in the real world , created something .
You can take their advice and you can take it to heart and you can use it and you can implement it and you can make it your own . Be a great student , but don't be a follower . A follower is someone and this is what I was guilty of . I asked everybody everything . I wanted to learn from everyone and I did .
I took bad advice because I was asking people who I never should have asked , because they had no clue . They were lost , like a lot of people . So , at the end of the day , just make sure the feedback that you're getting is
¶ Real Success Requires Real Work
accurate .
Mine would be . Oftentimes probably more often than not , the truth is inconvenient , and the more you're willing to look at the inconvenient truth , the better off you're going to be , because that is lack of awareness . That is the blind spots . That's the growth opportunity . Now , I'm not saying it's easy , I'm not saying it's fun .
It does suck and it also sets you up for an opportunity to get better feedback forever . And I think it's . I think it's worth it in the long run . Cool , all right .
If you're looking for a group of amazing humans who are on this weird ass growth journey as well and they're focused on personal development and evolution and all that stuff , we have a private Facebook group called Next Level Nation . We would love to have you there .
We just started a new book called Willpower Nice by Roy Baumeister and John Tierney . This book is fucking awesome , great book . I was listening to it earlier . It is just amazing . So please join us . It's more accountability , next Level Books with Next Level People . We meet every Saturday , 1230 pm , eastern Standard Time . This book will change your life .
This book will increase your chances of success . I promise you Health , wealth and love , and we are there in book club . Do not come to book club unless you want to reach your potential , because I open every book club the same these days , which is hey , we are not here for fun . If we have fun , that's great .
I don't really care if we do or don't , but you better leave here better . It's all I care about .
No Harry Potter .
We're here to reach our potential . No , harry Potter . I am a huge fan of Harry Potter the films more than the books but no , we're here to reach our potential baby . If we're going to R&R , that's later , not in book club . We're not here to R&R . We're here to think differently and to reach our potential .
Respect that is how you get to the next level . As always , we love you , we appreciate you , grateful for each and every one of you , and at NLU we don't have fans , we have family . We'll talk to you all tomorrow . Keep it next . Next .
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