¶ Self-Assigning
Hold on now , give us a sec . All right , ready , here we go . Next level nation . Welcome back to another episode of next level University , where we teach you how to level up your life , your love , your health in your will . Alan is making me giggle . We hope you enjoyed our latest episode . It was episode number 1366 .
The 2d's of Consistency today for episode number 1367 why you're not building self belief ? I Was a really good baseball player when I was younger , but I never really felt like it . I never felt confident when I walked up to the plates . I never really felt confident in the field , even though I I remember making some really , really , really world-class plays .
I remember Alan . So this is what used to happen I was the leadoff hitter . So for those who might not know baseball people in other countries , people just don't know baseball leadoff hitter , you bat first . Okay , usually the person who bats first is somebody who is fast and gets a lot of hits , because if you get on base , you can run .
You're gonna be the first one on awesome . So what would usually happen is I would get on base , i Would steal for a steel second , i would steal third and then usually I'd end up scoring at some point . That usually happened and I was really . I was just really good . I was really good at baseball . I was really good in the field .
I remember one time this was I think this was in high school I think we were playing a game and I was on first base . Somebody hit into the outfield . I ran around second base , around third base and then I jumped over the catcher , i did a front flip and landed like on my back on home plate and I was safe . It was a world-class play .
It's world-class and of course I would do that . But I never felt it was reckless . Of course That was nothing . I was way more reckless than that , but I never . I never felt Confident . I would .
I would recognize myself doing these things , but it never connected to like the reason you're capable of doing what you're doing is because you're a really good baseball player . It never landed for me when I was up to the plate I've you've heard me say this many times I just felt like I got lucky more often than everybody else .
I never really connected with the fact that I'm a good hitter . I felt like when I made good plays was like , yeah , i got lucky , you know , and it worked . It worked nicely . The interesting thing is , when I made bad plays , i was like , oh , i'm the worst , yeah , that's , that's my fault , i am the worst .
The thing that I wasn't doing is I wasn't Taking ownership . I wasn't self-assigning the fact that , kev , you batted 400 , which means you got Four hits every time . You went up to the plate ten times , which is a really , really , really good batting average .
You never self-assigned that to yourself as a hall of fame for the MLB .
Yeah , yeah and again , i was playing in not I was playing in leagues that definitely weren't the MLB . But yes , as a as a suggestion , if you're batting 400 , you are One of , if not the best , players in the league , and if you do that for your career , you're one of the best , if not the best , players to ever do it . So it was , i was pretty good .
I was , i was a pretty good baseball player , but I never gave myself credit . Even that is crap . You were Baseball player I was , yeah , but I compared to you know , like Matt was better than I . There was definitely people I knew that were better than I was . What percentage ?
So what were you ? top 1% ? Yeah , I would say so Okay , then that's really good .
Yes , that's fair .
But even that , even even now take the ownership .
Well it's it's different because I never self-assigned it , so it's really hard to self-assign What it's it's hard to do it in In retrospect , in retroactively .
Why you don't want to self-assign ? that sure is it ? because fear of not wanting to appear arrogant .
I think it's just . I'm so disconnected from what it used to be like that I don't Remember it anymore . I don't remember .
Is there anything from your childhood that you have self-assigned as you were awesome like that you can honestly share with us ?
I , yeah , i was very , very , very athletic , like I taught myself how to do back flips . I Was a very , very athletic human being who was just . I knew You and I were talking about this We're talking about like intuition and I said you know You ever do stuff on the trampoline and you just know how your body moves .
You know if you throw it a certain way . We used to do like back flips off of rocks into leave piles And I used to do back flips off the monkey bars and all types of stuff . So yeah , i was a very athletic child , all right .
Why is that so easy to self-assign , but yet the baseball thing is not .
Because I don't know if there's any measure Against it . So , being athletic , it's me against me . Number one , it's not competitive Number two , and there's there's not a lot of like formal tests for it .
So interesting . There's not a lot of formal tests for a lot of things .
So there is for baseball , right , there is for baseball . It's almost like me self-assigned ?
No , but that wouldn't make sense because you're getting all the credibility External validation from baseball Yeah , but that's the interesting , Yeah the interesting thing is the the external credibility Does not matter unless you believe it .
So the point of this episode . Real quick . Just let me make sure this lands the point of this episode . We're talking about Self-assigning , so giving yourself the credit that you deserve based on the fact that you did something really positive . Right , i was not . I was not doing , i just want to make sure I got that out Why ? Because I never .
Okay , think of it this way . My mom made me play baseball when I was nine And I didn't want to play . I want to play soccer and I was really good at soccer . I was better at soccer than I was at baseball . But my mom's like , well , you should really play baseball . And I remember like crying and saying I'm not playing baseball .
But I end up playing baseball and the first , the first year , i ended up making the all-star team and that was the first time I ever played baseball . I , this isn't something like I wanted to do . I played , i made the all-star team and then I made every single all-star team from then on Little League all three years . What does that mean ?
Just statistically , so that the listeners can understand for people who don't know baseball You're one of the top Depends on the all-star team . I mean , when you're younger it's like Who do the coaches vote ?
the coaches vote for like the best player on each team , so that usually the best player from each team went to the all-star team . One or two , one or two , not just one , depends . Depends on the league too , and in Little League , who knows , who knows ? You know , i don't know .
I maybe my mom paid off one of the coaches , i don't know It could have been it could have been anything But .
I do know I got .
There was a couple like travel teams . I got scouted for I was in your play on another team . A couple , a couple threats .
It's very , it's very possible . It's very possible , it's very possible . I'm good .
Yeah , but I ended up yeah , i pretty much made the all-star team Every single year and then high school . It's a little bit different , but I was all like I was in the paper Fairly often for you know , batting average or getting hit , certain been at whatever being successful , like that was .
I have my grandmother made me a book with like all the cutouts of all the stuff , all the articles . It's awesome , but I never gave myself credit . Okay you didn't answer me . Why , well , you took me off the rails , you , son of a , b , why , i don't know , Because I don't think I chose in advance to be good at it .
Okay , but you think with soccer you would have self assigned .
I think so .
You know what I've realized ? This is such an interesting thing . I don't want to go down this rabbit hole too much You will , you will .
¶ The Three Steps to Self-Belief
Here's the thing I coach . I've coached a surprising amount of baseball players . Dude , i'm telling you there is a correlation with fear of failure . Baseball is all about don't make errors and don't strike out . Dude , i'm telling you There's a correlation of people's . their fear of making errors and making mistakes is higher .
Baseball players have a high fear of making mistakes and errors . Dude , that's got to be conditioning , that's . it makes sense .
It makes sense Probably . yeah , i mean , if you asked me today , what am I ? I'm a really good driver . I feel like we were talking about . we were talking about cars that drive themselves .
So why are you self assigning that but not baseball ? You didn't decide to be a great driver .
I don't know . I kind of did consciously Okay , because I know I'm in control .
But baseball same deal .
It's the exact same concept .
But I didn't feel in control . Oh , i didn't feel in control . So , for the listeners , this is the the triangle that I believe will change everything , if you really understand it . Because Kevin and I have been talking for six years now trying to figure out what makes the difference in people's lives , what .
What makes one person have a , have a sibling , and they both have the same childhood maybe abusive childhood And one ends up world class and the other one ends up struggle , bus . And that's not uncommon , by the way , that's like common , like what makes the difference ?
Self belief is the number one , most important indicator of future success , i believe , as long as it's true self belief and it's built and it's not ego . And we'll get into that . Self belief is built if and only when these three things are present . I think this is my current thesis , my current hypothesis .
Number one is state , not state like the state you're in , but like stating that you're going to do something . So I , kevin , paul , mary , am going to do a back flip And you decide in advance to do it . Kevin , you remember that court case you and I did in high school .
Why are you going to , why are you going to shovel up old stuff ? I got him , man , I got him .
So Kevin and I were in law class together . Alan's still salty about this , by the way .
If Alan won this court case , we might not know Alan Lazarus the way we do today . So I actually altered time in the best way possible , of course , altered history .
Kevin was on the jury And his best friend now , i realize , and someone he lived with at the time , i think . Was the alternate , the other lawyer in this court case , and I promised there's a point to all this , so bear with me .
In this court case mock court case I dressed to the nines , i'm in a suit And the client that I represent that I'm defending is a woman who had done some drugs during pregnancy And she was being accused of first degree murder , which means she decided I'm going to kill my kid , not true ?
She ended up being convicted of first degree murder Because this jury was being led by a popular kid named Kevin , who doesn't think he was popular , but anyways . So the opposite of first degree murder , or the difference between manslaughter and first degree murder , is manslaughter .
Is what she really should have gotten , which is I didn't mean to kill my kid , I was negligent . I just did drugs while pregnant , which you know you're not supposed to do , so it's manslaughter . She didn't try to kill her child . So , anyways , state is the first step . You have to premeditate it .
You have to decide in advance I'm going to get good at baseball . Or decide in advance I'm going to be a great podcaster , or decide in advance I'm going to do a backflip , whatever . So state , state's number one . Number two is prove it , meaning do whatever it takes to actually prove to yourself that you can do what you said you were going to do .
So I'm going to do a backflip , and then you have to go prove that you're eventually going to do it , even if you fail along the way , if you eventually lock in and prove that you can do it . That's step two . Step three is the most critical , and I realize now that not everyone's doing it . I was on the phone recently .
This person is so extraordinary And she sees herself as so ordinary . She's like there's nothing extraordinary about me . And I'm telling you , i'm certain that's not true . I can name the things you're extraordinary at . What does extraordinary mean ? Above average ? You are more consistent than anyone have ever met . That is extraordinary . But she doesn't self assign it .
So again , state , prove , self assign . Self assign is the third step . So Kevin says I'm going to do a backflip , goes and tries , fails a couple of times , eventually does a backflip . Once he does the backflip , does he unconsciously self assign it ? Does he go see ? I told you I could do it . That's me , i did that . I'm awesome .
Now that sounds arrogant , but inside of our own mind that has to happen . One of the things that I'm very , very grateful for in hindsight is that I did a lot of stating , improving and self-assigning . I decided to get great at math . I decided to go to WPI , i decided to start a podcast . I decided to be successful .
I remember being really poor when my stepdad left our family and I decided to be wealthy . I remember making the choice . I said I'm gonna do whatever it takes to be wealthy , and that took me off the rails when it comes to certain things . You know , i lost who .
I was in pursuit of that and now I'm more aligned with my core values and I started personal development , all that stuff . But the point is , the self-assigning thing was never an issue for me And this is the thing that I'm gonna share , even though I'm very , very scared to share it . I got here because of me .
Statistically speaking , the people who grow up in an environment that I grew up in , they do not make it here . Statistically speaking , this is an anomaly , but it's because I decided to make it here And I do self-assign that I mean no one else did it right Now . I had certain mentors , i had certain teachers , i had certain advantages .
I grew up in a free country . I get it okay , i do . But I decided to become successful . I decided to be an entrepreneur , i decided to go to WPI , i decided to get great grades in school , so it was all state-proof of self-assign . So here I am and I have a lot of self-belief . But I want that for everyone .
I don't wanna keep it all to myself .
I want everyone to have self-belief . I think more people having self-belief would change the world , and so hopefully our listeners are able to self-assign . Last piece , i figured out why this person isn't self-assigning And she's like listen in real time . I'm like I don't know the answer . I said try you might know .
She said okay , so maybe the reason I'm not self-assigning is because when I put when I self-assigned yeah , that was me and I decided to do that when the outcome is bad , or when I get judged , what does that mean about me ?
In other words , if she just well , i guess I just got lucky If she doesn't own the work , own the result , own the blog , own the YouTube video , whatever it is , then she doesn't have to get criticized . So it's separate from her . If you don't own it , you don't have to fail . You don't have to be a failure .
Whereas think about this , kev if I didn't get to where I am today , i would be a failure genuinely in my own mind , because I decided to get here and didn't , so I would consider myself a failure genuinely . I've told you that I've failed at so many things in my life .
I am a massive failure in so many ways , but I'm also very successful And I hold that duality , so I hope that our listeners can do the same .
I think there's an aspect of control when it comes to belief , though , too , i think there's an aspect of . I know I can handle my own in this situation . I think there's a piece of that that it's almost like , but again , i guess that's the question . Does it come from belief first ?
You have to prove that you can handle yourself .
Yeah , but sometimes you prove it from just doing the reps before you believe it .
¶ Building Self-Belief Through Practice
One of the reasons I'm a good driver is because I got a job that forced me to drive six hours every week . I drove through New York City and I drove to .
I drove . What are you doing if you're not state-proved assigned ? What's the formula you're running Prior to six years ago ?
Get results I don't know get results and then something leaks into your identity . Hopefully , hopefully . I don't know , i really don't know . I mean I've always been a really like , a really good driver I'm very conscious of . I don't , i'm not . I look , i see brake lights a mile ahead . I'm always looking to see where people merge .
My eyes are all over the place when I'm driving , but I don't know if that's just because I've . I mean just for context , for the listeners , i used to drive six hours Sunday afternoon . I would drive from Massachusetts to New Jersey , from Massachusetts to New Jersey .
Did you think you were a good driver before that ? Like when did you decide I'm a great driver ? You know what I mean ? It's just interesting . This is all identity stuff .
So for our listeners .
I want you thinking about your own identity here , like are you consistent ? Are you amazing ? Are you smart ? Like when did you decide that You gotta ?
reflect on this . I think when you start to feel like you can control it is when you start to self-assign it .
You can't get to the place where you can control it until you practice it .
Well , I know , but I think Which you won't do if you don't believe in yourself . Well , it depends on what it is . Some of us have to do stuff every day that we don't necessarily design . going back to our previous episode , It's like you know , I didn't want to drive , I just had to . I didn't want to drive the trailer . I remember ride drill .
we had a big , we had these big vans and we had this big trailer .
Did you think you could do it before you did it ?
Yes , but only because I had driven a truck before .
So I So it's almost like you're forced to do something you don't believe you can do and then later on you eventually realize that you can do it .
So it's almost like you get yeah , you get a level of proof and then you can build on the proof recent , relevant . That's how I've done it I look at the most recent and relevant proof of whether or not I can do something .
So when you said that it took you 160 podcast episodes to feel like a podcaster , that never lands for me whatsoever Understandable . But I want to understand why . Why it doesn't land for you . Why 160 episodes ? All of a sudden it's just like I'm a podcaster now .
I just finally felt confident as a podcaster . I think I'm comparing a lot to other people . I think that's part of it . Because , I don't- .
Who was a podcaster before you ?
I was probably . I mean our friend circle at that point was a lot of podcasters . You know we're hanging out with Mark Metri a lot back then . I think that early .
Now you do realize that he also wasn't that confident , right ? Yeah , yeah , that's fair And compare like who's more confident in podcasting ? now , probably me .
I'm like more reps , more coaching . Yeah , it makes sense . But again , that's the interesting thing , i didn't decide . I didn't decide to get confident , i just kept doing it . That's really . And again , i think I'm probably different in that I don't think that's the usual way , but for me , alan , this is the best analogy or , i guess , the best story for this .
So I was making $15 an hour doing home renovations with one of the guys , big Z , big tattooed metal singing guy , the scariest human you'll ever see in your life , but maybe the nicest person on the planet , great dude . He used to have me over for breakfast all the time . He's a great guy . I worked with him renovating houses , graduate the fire academy .
I'm all out of money . There's no more houses to renovate . I don't know what I'm gonna do . I ended up getting this job in this weatherization industry . I met my boss for a job interview And he's like hey , you got a really great personality , you're gonna fit in here . We'll be leaving in like a couple of weeks , awesome . I get a call from my boss .
He's ready to go . We're going to Delaware . We live in Massachusetts at the time . Delaware is like an eight hour ride . I get into a vehicle with my boss , who I've met one time . I drive with him .
Imagine how awkward this is An eight hour drive with a man you just met to move into a house with a bunch of strangers I didn't know to do a job that I had never done before , making $50 an hour .
Okay .
Why did you do that ? I wanted to be successful son .
That was it . No , I think you didn't want to be a failure .
No , no , for me it was the money . I remember when I went to like a it was kind of like a trade class for this And we got to the end and the lady who brought me in I was up in her office doing kind of the exit interview And she's like yeah , we have a really good opportunity for you . And I was like all right , let's hear it .
She said , well , first of all , they're based out of Boston . And at this point I lived like an hour outside of Boston And Boston was I'm not driving in Boston , you're nuts . And she's like so it's in Boston . And I was like I'm not interested . And she's like well , there's also a lot of travel involved . And I was like well , i'm definitely not interested .
And she's like but you can make , you know , $60 , $70 an hour . And I was like I'll give it a shot , i'll give that a shot , yeah that was it .
I'll give it a shot .
And then when I met my boss and he told me , when he said you're on , like , you're quote , unquote , hired , he's like but just so you know , you're going to be making $10 an hour less than everybody else . And I was like I knew there was a catch . I knew there was a catch And he's like so you'll be making $50 an hour . And I was like what ?
And he's like , yeah , you'll be making , And that was it . That was it for me . If I believe it will be worth it when it comes to that stuff , I'll do it . If I don't believe it will be worth it , I'm not interested , It's just got to be worth it .
So many things don't become worth it until you do them for a long time .
Well , that was interesting , that was instant gratification . Yeah , yeah , that was instant gratification , luckily , That's such a dangerous game .
It's interesting that you and I have partnered up . Bring it back to the listeners . So how do they build self-belief ? You have so much self-belief now , right , i mean .
Yeah , but nobody gets to see me . On the day to day , i think , yeah , i have a ton compared to where I have so much more self-belief than I ever had . It's weird for me to lie . I did a podcast pre-call the other day And for some reason , this person called me . They're like hey , can I have your number ?
And I was like , eh , i don't really , i don't give up my number , but , whatever , i'll do it for you . And it was very clear that like , oh , you're terrified to talk to me . Like this is nothing for me to have a conversation with you over the phone .
This is nothing .
I do this all the time . That was interesting for me , but that's just based on the fact that I've done that . I don't know however many hundreds of times at this point .
So then , how do you help the listeners get more self-belief ?
You start with where you are . I think the self-assigning part is big , because if you don't give yourself credit for it , it doesn't help your credibility with yourself . Maybe that's kind of the piece of the self-trust , the control aspect . If you feel out of control , it's very , very hard to believe you're going to do well .
Very , very , very , very hard to feel like you can believe in yourself in that moment . So it's almost like where do you ? what is just outside of your control ? What's just outside of your control ? I'm not good at this because I always go way , way , way , way , way outside of my control .
I just let things go And it's like I'll try to figure this out , even though I don't believe I can . I'll just suffer until I do . I don't think I'm a good example . With that I mean that job thing . That was one of the hardest things ever Traveling eight hours to a house And I couldn't afford to eat .
I went to the grocery store and I got deli meat And I just had sandwiches all week because I had no money . There was no other option for me .
Do you think there's value to stating and proving , even if it's small ? I do State , prove self-assign , like I'm going to do one episode I do , but but you and I were talking about this today .
How many people do you know that you used to spend time with ? who used to state , state , state , state but never prove ? I don't know if that's the way to do it .
Yeah , i didn't know You need all three . Yeah , i think you need to state , prove and self-assign . Or if you don't state and prove but you are getting results , you need to at least say it's not just luck .
You definitely need to self-assign . Yeah , because if think of it .
If anything , I consider myself fairly unlucky . My father passed away when I was two years old . I've had a lot of pain and hardship in my life . I don't consider myself lucky . I do when it comes to living in a free country . Like being born in the biggest economy on the planet is lucky , but everything else is not lucky . Like genuinely these people .
I don't like the whole luck thing . It's not true , kind of Did you work hard at baseball ? Did you ever miss a practice ? You probably never missed practice . Right , i didn't work as hard as I could have , no , but did you ever miss practice ? No ?
OK , But I never . I didn't work as hard as I should have Knowing what I know now , you know , like Mixed martial arts it was a joke how much I worked at that . in retrospect I could have been really good . I was good , i was , i was already pretty good , but I , i Didn't , i didn't Go after it more .
Yeah you know , because you didn't understand that stuff we talked about on the show .
I didn't know I needed it if you say , you say , if you have , this is the interesting thing , if you have somebody in your life who lights you up , i wonder , and I would be willing to bet It's most likely because they help you self-assign . You've done that . Yeah , yeah , you've done that for me for a long time .
Oh , what is ?
what is borrowing belief ? Just somebody else saying like , hey , let me shine this light on you that you refuse to shine on yourself because either you're embarrassed or you have negative , a negative association with giving yourself praise . It's yourself so that's part of it to be around people who Allow you to self-assign .
Do you consider yourself Lucky or unlucky in life ?
last question I don't , i don't really think about it If I say lucky , if I believe I was lucky to get that the job . I Was very lucky to get that job . Just circumstantially It's a very rare job , very , very rare , rare , rare job .
Okay , what about baseball In retrospect ? that wasn't luck .
Yeah , in retrospect It was . I was talented , was a talented baseball player , but that's only now because I I could say that about podcasting . I'm not lucky , if anything . Quite the opposite when it comes to this , but that's okay , i don't care , i don't want to be lucky , no wonder why you're good in belief now .
Yeah , you now believe you're unlucky if .
It's just , and the fact that we made it here is a miracle . Yeah , it feels like it doesn't it .
That's why you have so much belief , but in the reps .
Yeah , of course , in the reps . You can't , you can't really do something 1400 times and not believe in yourself . It's a some degree , i would imagine , you know .
I don't know .
I don't know but I think that's a huge part of it . You can't it's very hard to replicate the , the reps , yeah so what are you done ?
this ?
You Figure out what is just outside of your control , where you know you'll be okay . I Think I don't know if I can think of a better Here . This is last thing I'll say . And , yeah , this I think I'll try to make this land Tara and I Went to , we did a date day yesterday
¶ Believing in Your Ability to Grow
. There's a lot of port towns near where we live . We're on the east coast of the US , we live in New Hampshire and we went to this . It's called Newberry port . It was wonderful . We ate lunch , we went for a walk .
We were walking by these two ladies and they were getting ready to take a picture under the tree and I was okay , you want me to do that for you ? and She's like , yeah , i'd appreciate that very much . I was like it's probably gonna be terrible . I can't guarantee it's gonna be any good , but I'll do it for you . And I like did a little photo shoot .
You might say , kev , that requires a lot of confidence . That requires a lot of belief . I just know I can figure out the situation . I'm not worried about it . Number one , they're more insecure about it than I am . Right , like they're . They're more insecure about it than I am just taking a picture . It's not that big of a deal .
I'm really good with people . I can self-assign that I can have a conversation with these . Things can be fun , i can make them laugh , and I don't really care what anybody else thinks , because everybody Wishes somebody would come up to them and say hey , do you want me to take this picture for you ?
So in that scenario , i felt like I was in control , even though I was out of control . I Don't know if that'll land , but I think that's a bigger aspect of this than Your . Your . You have so much belief that , even if you don't feel like you're in control , you don't really care . In a way , you're just like I . Whatever , i don't know It's .
We're different . You're different with this , but so many people are so and again , myself included so certainty driven Where do we need to go ? What time are we leaving ? What should I pack ? How much should I pack ? When are we coming home ?
We're you know , then , like there's so many details that need to be checked off in order to have that level of control met , and I think that's a big piece of belief too but I I do believe I know we got a jump .
I do believe that one of the reasons why it appears like I'm So confident Is because I've done things similar a thousand times before and proven to myself that I can handle myself .
That's fair , and that's why the dark moments behind the scenes that no one sees , that are really , really hard , are where we grow , because it what is , practice right , it's controlled failure , it's , it's , this is , and I do think this is true I my adversity became my advantage , because with some of the things that I dealt with when I was young , everything
else feels really easy in comparison .
I have proof if I survived that .
I mean , making a million dollars is gonna be easy in comparison . So I think a lot of it is Proving to yourself that you can . I think of it as this you know awareness and capabilities When you're . I don't have any confidence that I can fix a car , but I .
But if you gave me six months , i could easily become an excellent mechanic Within reason , depending on who I'm comparing to , but like I could learn how to fix my car for sure . It's just I believe in my ability to adapt and learn and grow .
So when you believe in Your ability to grow and adapt and change and evolve based on proof of the past and that's what I hope This episode lands on instead of Alan's , i again , or whatever , i hope that everyone goes . You know what ?
What if I started believing in myself and my own abilities more , Then I would do more , and then , yeah , you will fail more . I'm not kidding , i have failed way more than most people in way more areas than most people .
I mean , i didn't figure this relationship thing out , intimate relationships until I was 30 , like I literally failed for 30 years and Eventually I figured it out , and now we're still figuring it out and but 30 years of failures a long time , and If it appears like I'm so confident , it's just because behind the scenes I've been failing and struggling for so long ,
and I hope that I do think that's true for everybody . I mean , if you look at who was an amazing mechanic , i guarantee you they were screwing it up for Years and years and years trying to figure it out .
You know , when you first started that job , i bet you you were pretty terrible , honestly , oh yeah , definitely you probably sucked Yeah everyone sucks at first . I think that we just have to learn that and Believe in your ability to grow . That maybe that's it . instead of believing yourself , believe in your ability to grow . I .
Think that's a really good frame . Okay , i do , i don't know . I now more than ever , i think confidence is your . I think Brennan Bershardt said it's your ability to figure it out . I to know that you can figure it out . Everything's figure-outable Eventually .
Yeah , keywords eventually , because if you think you can figure it out quick , you're in trouble . Yeah , yeah But .
I think it's in that moment of oh my goodness , I don't know what's happening , how do I figure this out ? I think that's confidence . The most confident person steps up and says , yeah , I can probably figure it out . That's it , That's all it is .
Yeah .
That's why you're a natural leader , because you're more confident , you believe in your ability to figure it out . So you'll step up , or I normally wouldn't . I'd shell up . Now , here's the thing . If I'm in a room of podcasters , i'm going to say I can probably figure that out . Right , that's it .
Yeah , i just have more Behind the scenes , yeah , and the reps , yeah .
The reps . My belief is appropriate for the amount of practice I put in . Yeah , Hopefully It's a good one . I'm glad we did this . Same brother , Where you mentioned a mechanic . We're actually going to talk about a mechanic on next episode . That was a very , very nice segue . Next level nation We have . Excuse me , I said nothing .
What was that noise ? I don't know .
Oh , okay , i think I might use a half sneeze . Yeah , it sounded like you scratched your face against the No , it has just nuzzle in the mic . If you are looking to get to your next level , whatever that means to you , and you're not in a place where you can afford coaching or group coaching or courses , whatever it may be .
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All right , Imagine I'm like , hey , i want to build a garden . I have no awareness in gardening whatsoever and I have no capabilities . Okay , awareness and capabilities . I would be terrible and I probably could not make that garden . It would take me a long time , i would fail forward . I'd probably take me five seasons . I'd have to read books .
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