NeuroDiverse Christian Couples

Autism Q&A with ND Clinician & Coach David Glick

Today, Dr. Stephanie will bring an autism Q&A with Dave Glick. Dave is a neurodivergent clinician and an autism advocate. Dave Glick is the founder and director of Triad Psych, P.C., and has been working in the combined fields of behavioral health, special education, and disability services since 1993. Originally trained at Boston University, he has worked as a special education teacher, behavior analyst/specialist, clinical director, disability consultant, and advocate. He holds a master's ...

Contempt Combining Gottman Research and Bible Project Wisdom

On a recent road trip, we were listening to the Bible Project's Sermon on the Mount Series. This episode: Episode 10, March 4, 2024, Bible Project Sermon on the Mount Series: How is Anger the Same as Murder? Spoiler alert- when Contempt enters the picture. What does the Bible say about Contempt? https://bibleproject.com/podcast/how-anger-same-murder/ Short animated clip: Anger, Wrath, Contempt: When is Anger the Same as Murder https://bibleproject.com/explore/video/matthew-521-22-murder-and-cont...

Navigating the Maze of Executive Function Differences ASD, ADHD & AuDHD with Robin Tate

Join Dr. Holmes as she interviews Robin Tate, a life coach and NeuroDiverse Couples' coach. Today, we discuss Neurodiversity and strategies for executive functioning. We talk about the chapter in which she contributed to our new book. Find out more here: https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/uniquelyus Robin describes a little about herself: I am a professionally trained teacher and coach passionate about providing my clients with the best experience. As well as training, I have an in-de...

Abuse, Divorce, Recovering from Marriage with Rev Iris Knapp

While Dan usually joins me, I am solo today with Rev. Iris Knapp as we talk about abuse in the neurodiverse marriage. We cover Leslie Vernick's signs of repentance and why apologizing is difficult for people on the spectrum. About our Guest, Rev. Iris Knapp Women’s Life & Discernment Coach Iris has over 50 years of ministry experience and is now a Life Coach. She was raised Jewish and came to know Jesus as Messiah in 1969 during the “Jesus Freak” revival. She is certified with Light Universi...

JTG - Now or Never

Dan Holmes, the Just the Guys host today with Perry, Jeremy, and Greg, discusses learning to get things with executive functioning differences. Sometimes, it is now or never!

Distinguishing Autism ADHD and_or Trauma with Kelley Ryals

I met Kelley Ryals at the AACC conference during her poster presentation on Autism and Trauma. I wanted to have her as a guest to discuss when it is autism & trauma and when trauma is misdiagnosed as autism. Kelley's bio in her own words: Her focus is on helping you navigate the difficult times in life. Her biggest joy is watching an individual become happier, healthier, and more productive. She is 58 years old, a mother of five, and a grandmother of 2. She is pursuing a Ph.D. in Counselor E...

The Role of Shame & Blame in Blocking Change in your NeuroDiverse Relationship

Today, Stephanie and Barb talk about Shame, Blame, & Trauma. The key point is that all of us deal with shame at some point in our life, but not dealing with shame will ultimately lead to the death of something. About Barbara Grant: Barbara Grant, CAS, NCC, is a Certified Autism Specialist (IBCCES) and certified Neurodiverse Couples Coach (AANE) and has completed her Master's in MFT (Marriage and Family Therapy.) She has been trained through the International Association of ND Christian Marri...

Navigating Traveling as a NeuroDiverse Couple

In June, we talked about what we have learned on our road trips about ourselves, each other, our faith, and our relationship with God. We got some requests about actually handling or navigating the traveling as a neurodiverse couple and family. To see why Stephanie sticks out her tongue at Dan, you will have to see the YouTube video. In this podcast, we discuss: Accommodating each other, seeing the marriage/family as a system, and sharing the mental load. Breaking down the steps of planning, hav...

Champions Club Becoming a Church that Never Turns a Child Away with Pastor Craig Johnson

Today, Dr. Stephanie Holmes speaks with Pastor Craig Johnson of Lakewood Church about creating inclusion for kids, teens, and adults with needs and differences. Their core value is "We never ever turn away a child no matter the need!" Find out about your church or organization that can be trained and host a Champions. Club. Dr. Stephanie reads an excerpt from her daughter's chapter in their new book about her church experience; you can get that book at https://amzn.to/46W7LgN About our Guest: Pa...

Professional and Personal Experience of Diagnosis Bias & Autism

This week is Juneteenth! It feels most appropriate to discuss autism and special needs from the perspective of people of color. We welcome back Dr. Mary for this discussion. Today, our guest is a pediatrician and mom who will give us great insight into this perspective through lived and professional experience. About Dr. Mary Jones: I am a physician and PCCI-trained life and leadership coach. I believe there is greatness in each of us, and I’m passionate about equipping and empowering women to r...

JTG Sharing My Later in Life Autism Identification

You asked for it! We are answering listener requests. In 2022, the original JTG crew did a show on processing a later-in-life diagnosis. Several listeners asked that other men and women be on to process their later-in-life diagnoses. Don't worry—the original JTG crew will be back! This Special Edition looks at Greg, Brian, and Kevin's later-in-life Autism Identification. Check out Brian's book Intentional Marriage AND Kevin's wife, Shawna Meek's book: Determined for More...

Happiness, Well-being, Emotional Processing and the Autistic Brain

Today's guest has been on the podcast before when we discussed predictive error coding and the autistic brain; Dr. Peter Vermeulen Peter is the founder, director, CEO, lecturer, consultant, website developer, and secretary. Occasionally, Peter even cleans the office of Autism in Context, the senior Autism lecturer and consultant for Autisme Centraal, and the Chief Editor of “Sterk in Autisme!”, a bimonthly magazine of Autisme Centraal. Autisme Centraal is responsible for autism awareness campaig...

Roadtrippin' & Righteous Relationship Building

We have been taking many road trips these past four years in the quest to visit all 50 states! We listen to podcasts, and podcasting and learning from podcasts has become a shared activity of connection! We start our discussion with the real definition of righteousness: returning to Eden and being naked and unashamed. What is an Ezer Kenegdo? Your neurodiverse relationship can be healthy when you first get in the right relationship with God and each other, rule together and not apart, and advanc...

Memory, Motivation, Identity & Video Games with Dr. Kevin Hull

Today, Dr. Stephanie and Dr. Kevin discuss a few topics. The blogs Dr. Stephanie mentions come from Dr. Kevin's blogs on his site. We talk about: Autobiographical memory Identity and Autism Neuroplasticity Videogaming- the good, the bad and the therapeutic About Dr. Kevin Hull: Dr. Kevin Hull owns and operates Hull and Associates, P.A., a private practice in Lakeland, Florida. Dr. Hull is a licensed counselor who has worked with children and adolescents and their families on the Autism spectrum ...

Should Women be Silent with Bruce Fleming

Join Rev. Holmes and Dr. Holmes as they interview Bruce C.E. Fleming. This is our 3rd interview with Bruce an today we will discuss 1 Timothy and "let the women learn in silence." How does this reflect back to the creation of women and the role of women in the church world. About: Rev. Bruce C. E. Fleming holds three graduate and post-graduate degrees in theology: an M.Div. and Th.M. from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School and a D.E.A. from the University of Strasbourg, France. Ordained by the ...

What Even IS Neurodiversity

Dan and the guys (Clay, Greg, Jeremy, & Mark) discuss their views of neurodiversity. What is it? Is this movement a good thing or not? How do you define it? Is the term useful? Dr. Holmes adds she prefers the Harvard Medical School definition of neurodiversity, which describes those with neurological differences such as autism, ADHD, learning differences and delays, and other developmental differences.

Fruit Filled Co-parenting as a NeuroDiverse Couple with Team Rochford

Charity and Jeremy Rochford have contributed to the upcoming book: Uniquely Us. Watch the countdown as: https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/uniquelyus Dan and Stephanie have a family book out right now that was mentioned! Great insight into parenting, what we did right and hindsight learning. Erica speaks to what it is like having a dad on the spectrum at : www.christianneurodiversefamilies.com Find out more about Team Rochford: Jeremy and Charity, Team Rochford, as they are affectiona...

Q&A with Dan and Stephanie

We (I Stephanie) asked listeners on social media, "What would you like to ask us or what would you like to know about Neurodiverse Marriages?" Several questions came in, and we got to about 2/3 of them! Questions such as: What are realistic expectations for a successful ND marriage? What does maintenance look like? Is having a diagnosis helpful? Why or Why Not? Dan, do you struggle to start deep conversations with your wife and girls? What tools have you found helpful? A few more!...

Navigating a Complex and Adversarial NeuroDiverse Divorce with CDFA Rhonda Noordyk

While we are pro-marriage and pro-covenant. Sometimes abuse, unrepentant addiction, and adultery break the vows and can lead to divorce. Divorce from a Christian AS man can get very adversarial and messy. If you have wrestled through and find that you have peace and release to divorce, you may want a CDFA, like Rhonda, on your side of Women's Financial Wellness Center. A CDFA®, which stands for Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, is a financial expert who specializes in helping women navigate t...

A Story of Determination with Divorce, Remarriage, Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma and Autism

Today, Dan and Stephanie talked with Kevin and Shawna Meek. Their story of divorce and remarriage to each other through infidelity and discovering their neurodiversity. Stephanie and Shawna spoke back in February about her betrayal trauma with the infidelity. Today, they share their determination for marriage and offer hope for those who have had similar challenges in a neurodiverse marriage. Kevin & Shawna Bios As a husband and wife determined for more in their relationship, Kevin and Shawn...

JTG An Intentional Marriage with Brian Hight

Just the Guys has its first guest, author Brian Hight. Brian and the guys talk about his book and being intentional! Brian Hight has a career dedicated to servicing marine and laboratory electronics, where he honed his understanding of technically intricate systems. Outside of work, his passions include hiking, electronics, and clay and stone carving, forming a blend of technical precision and creative exploration. He lives in New Zealand with his wife, Sheila, and has one daughter. You can find...

Minding your Joy Gap in your NeuroDiverse Marriage with Chris Coursey

If you have been following our podcasts for a bit, you know we are fans of Dr. Jim Wilder, and we talk about joy, hesed, group identity, and healthy correction often. Today, we have with us Chris Coursey, who has authored and co-authored several books on Joy using Wilder's principles and theoretical foundations. Today we discuss? What is Joy? Can I have Joy while things are bad? What is a Joy -Gap? How are quieting and joy related? What is the difference between solitude/isolation and quieting m...

True Transformation & Building Your Relational Skills with Michel Hendricks

If you have been following the podcast, you have heard Dan and Stephanie talk about joy, hesed, group identity, and healthy transformation. Today, we talk with Michel Hendriks, the co-author of The Other Half of Church. About our Guest: MICHEL HENDRICKS (MDiv, Denver Seminary; BS, University of Colorado) has been a teacher and trainer for more than twenty-five years. He is the former pastor of spiritual formation at Flatirons Community Church in Lafayette, CO. He has also served and trained peop...

Receiving Feedback: Do you have a Fixed or Growth Mindset?

Today, Dan and Stephanie talk about blindspots, receiving feedback, perspective-taking, and the Johari window. What is the Johari window? Listen to find out! If you really want to do a deep dive into Feedback skills- take our course as a self-study or reach out for coaching! www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com Group Coaching- Select Receiving Feedback and Relational Skills

From TBIs to TIAs, and Personality Pathologies & Autism

Today, we talked about TBI, TIA, and when autism is combined with personality pathologies such as narcissism. From Jodi's website about her: Throughout my journey as a therapist, educator, and coach, I have amassed more than 20 years of experience helping people with a multitude of challenges, including autism, ADHD, anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, trauma, abuse, and codependency. I completed a bachelor’s degree in psychology in 1997 and received a master’s degree in counseling in 2000. I...

Processing my New NeuroDivergent Identity with Kristin Walker

Today, Dr. Stephanie interviews Kristin Walker about her later-in-life autism diagnosis. About Kristin: Kristin Walker is the founder of the Mental Health News Radio Network and the Autism Podcast Network. With over 75 individual podcasts covering all aspects of mental health, she continues to host her own podcasts. She nurtures others who want to spread awareness, inclusion, and knowledge of their mental health journeys via their podcasts. Disclaimer: When we have guests on the ASR podcast, the...

JTG Summer (in)Sensitivities

Co-Occurring Issues with Autism Dr. Ratliff Schaub

Join Dr. Holmes and Dr. Ratliff Schaub as they discuss differentiating autism from other issues as well as the prevalence and genetic issues associated with Autism. Dr. Karen discusses common medical issues that may also occur for her patients on the spectrum. Bio Dr. Ratliff-Schaub is the Medical Director of Developmental Pediatrics and Program Director of the Developmental-Behavioral Pediatrics Fellowship at Prisma Health Upstate Children's Hospital. She is an Associate Clinical Professor of P...

The Lost Art of Relationship Conflict Resolution with Dan Chrystal

Today, Dan and Stephanie talked with Dan Chrystal about the complexities of communication. We talked about basic communication skills and complexities in neurodiverse relationships. About our Guest, Dan Chrystal: Dan Chrystal, MBA, is a husband, father, author, speaker, and life coach. He has over 28 years in executive leadership and relational coaching, including six years as an administrative officer of a large faith-based nonprofit organization, and also served as the Director of Sponsorship ...

Betrayal Trauma, Addiction, & Neurodiverse Marriage with Shawna Meek

Usually, Dan co-hosts the podcast, but today, Dr. Stephanie interviews Shawna Meek on betrayal trauma. She will speak to us from her personal and professional experience. This is part 1 of 2. of her story. In part 2, her husband will join Dan and me to discuss their processing of healing in their neurodiverse marriage. About our guest: Shawna is an author, a Professional Certified Coach through ICF, a member of the board of directors, and a coaching supervisor with the Association of Partners of...