Today, Dan and Stephanie talk about a topic that is listener-requested! Many listeners asked to talk about pornography, sexual addiction, and autism. Today we have as our guest Dr. Jake Porter for this discussion. We will discuss: What is the difference between porn use and porn addiction? What is sex addiction? If a spouse acts out sexually or with porn, is that the spouse's fault? What is betrayal trauma? How does porn use and sex addiction impact the spouse? What about 1 Corinthians 7 and "yo...
Feb 19, 2024•54 min•Season 12Ep. 4
Join Dan Holmes (husband of Dr. Stephanie Holmes) and Just the Guys with a group of men on the spectrum, and they talk about Valentine's Day and showing love to their spouses. Just the Guys get together and talk about topics from the spectrum point of view. Today a few tips on what they used to believe about Valentine's Day and how to show love the way their non-autistic spouses want to be loved! Disclaimer: Charity, don't listen to the show until after the 14th! Jeremy reveals his Valentine's D...
Feb 14, 2024•44 min•Season 12Ep. 3
Today, Rev. Stephanie C. Holmes interviews Pastor Jamal Baker, a former licensed professional counselor and sex therapist. This podcast is a module from a module that is on sale this month. The usual price is $129. https://courses.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/courses/topics-in-nd-relationships Pastor Jamal Baker is the lead pastor of the Atlanta location of Chapelhill Church. Pastor Jamal was trained in his counseling practice in the specialty of healthy sexuality under the late Dr. Doug Ro...
Feb 12, 2024•1 hr•Season 12Ep. 2
Today it gets a little personal Hopefully, without being cringy, we will share how we took our physical and sexual intimacy level to the next level. We talk about what kills sexual intimacy and what you need to know to build sexual intimacy. We will define intimacy. We will talk about what builds intimacy and what destroys intimacy. Find out why Stephanie says, "If I can't trust you bringing home the milk, I don't trust you with my private parts!" Tips we give for books to read: Great Sex Rescue...
Feb 05, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Season 12Ep. 1
Dr. Holmes and Jeanetta talk about uniting resources for families through accessibility to resources! Searchable - unites professionals and parents Access Ability will help you navigate the new autism diagnosis and explain "alphabet soup." Loveable- working through challenges and crisis moments! Her new venture- I want a Buzz TV Exploring the Spectrum. Check out Jeanetta interviewing Dr. Holmes https://iwantabuzz.com/community/explore-the-spectrum-with-stephanie-holmes-from-neurodiverse-christia...
Jan 29, 2024•34 min•Season 11Ep. 11
Many of you have asked for podcasts about aging or retirement and the neurodiverse marriage, so today is one of those days! We have four guests with us. Carol and Greg are newly retired. You may recognize Greg’s voice, who has been on several of our Just the Guys segments. Greg is 63 and retired after a 35-year career as a consulting geologist. Married to Carol, he was diagnosed around age 55. Carol and he have three children. Carol is in her fourth year of retirement after a 32-year career as a...
Jan 22, 2024•57 min•Season 11Ep. 10
The guys talk about Theory of Mind
Jan 17, 2024•54 min•Season 11Ep. 9
Many of you have asked for podcasts about aging or retirement and the neurodiverse marriage, so today is one of those days! We have four guests with us. Carol and Greg are newly retired. You may recognize Greg’s voice, who has been on several of our Just the Guys segments. Greg is 63 and retired after a 35-year career as a consulting geologist. Married to Carol, he was diagnosed around age 55. Carol and he have three children. Carol is in her fourth year of retirement after a 32-year career as a...
Jan 15, 2024•54 min•Season 11Ep. 8
Alix Generous is an autistic behavior analyst with five years of clinical experience and a master’s from Pepperdine University in behavioral psychology. She lives in Los Angeles, CA., where she works as a remote clinical supervisor for families in the southeast region of Washington State. She is the founder of Global Behavior Consultants, LLC, an international behavior analysis company that supports families and individuals to receive affordable care. She also provides consultation with Diversit...
Jan 08, 2024•40 min•Season 11Ep. 7
Dan had read a book for a business leadership class called "Immunity to Change." This is NOT a marriage book. It is a very dry organizational leadership book, but many points are worth discussing. Why, if you want change, there is immunity to it. We will revisit the stages of change. Based on an addiction model for change, so much can apply when couples enter coaching/counseling in different stages of the change cycle. https://sphweb.bumc.bu.edu/otlt/mph-modules/sb/behavioralchangetheories/behav...
Jan 01, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Season 11Ep. 6
If you have followed us, you know we are fans of LifeModel Works and the work of Dr. Jim Wilder. Key components of LifeModel Works is Immanuel- God is with us, but do we invite Jesus into the marriage? Do we build joy with God and each other? We were also asked to talk about keeping Jesus in the Christ-mas season. We are sharing our Christ-mas traditions and when we felt Immanuel with us in tough times and growing our marriage.
Dec 25, 2023•47 min•Season 11Ep. 5
Today, we talk about IEPs and civil rights compliance with Martin Chen. A little about Martin Chen: B.A. - Vanderbilt University J.D. - Georgia State University College of Law 30+ years with the U.S. Department of Education, Office for Civil Rights His position ensured that recipients of federal financial assistance from the Education Department complied with civil rights laws which prohibited discrimination on the basis of race, color, national origin, sex, age, disability, and equal access to ...
Dec 18, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 11Ep. 4
The Guys talk about various Christmas topics, including gift-giving, receiving, and routine changes.
Dec 13, 2023•50 min•Season 11Ep. 3
Join Dr. Holmes and Dr. Whitney as they discuss key moments from his keynote presentation: Short and Long-term consequences of COVID-19 on individuals with ASD and his workshop presentation on changes in criteria from DSM IV to DSM 5. Many topics are discussed on life transition and changes needed to understand better and accommodate those on the spectrum. About Dr. Whitney: Dr. Whitney received his Psy.D. in Clinical Psychology in 2001 from the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology (FIPP)...
Dec 11, 2023•45 min
Today, Dan and Stephanie will discuss Stress and how it manifests in the NeuroDiverse Christian Couple (NDCC). We will talk through points from the Equipping Tools Called Stress by author June Hunt of Hope for the Heart.
Dec 04, 2023•43 min•Season 11Ep. 2
Today, Dr. Holmes talks with Jeremy and Ilana from mybestsociallife.com. We talk about belonging and learning the skills young adults on the spectrum need to create the social life they desire without getting overwhelmed. Podcast Description: Jeremy and Ilana Hamburgh are friendship and dating coaches who teach the strategies and skills that empower autistic and neurodivergent adults to find community, make friends, start dating, and build relationships. Ilana has over 16 years of experience as ...
Nov 27, 2023•48 min
Join Dr. Holmes and Meredith Sinclair of Life Behavior Consulting as they discuss the need for support and adaptive skills for adolescents and young adults on the spectrum. Life does not end when school ends; however, supports often do. Social skills are needed for job interviews and career development. Meredith and Life Behavior Consulting focus on these skills. It is located in Atlanta, GA, but is now available over Zoom outside of GA. You can find out more at https://lifebehaviorconsulting.co...
Nov 20, 2023•47 min•Season 10Ep. 12
Talking about friends. Everything from high school to now.
Nov 15, 2023•46 min•Season 10Ep. 11
Dan and Stephanie set this podcast up with their podcast on Jan 2nd and Jan 16th of 2023. You will want to review this podcast before you hear today's podcast on escaping enemy mode. We took questions from our listeners and those in our coaching courses based on Wilder's work. Some questions that came in: How is attachment and hesed related? How is attachment related to enemy mode? What is a fear bond, and if you have PTSD or have been damaged by a relationship, can you achieve a love bond? What...
Nov 13, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Season 10Ep. 10
Ron Sandison works full time in the mental health field. He is an advisory board member of the Art of Autism and the Els Center of Excellence. Sandison has a Master of Divinity from Oral Roberts University and is the author of A Parent’s Guide to Autism. He is the founder of Spectrum Inclusion which empowers young people with autism for employment. Sandison speaks at over 70 events a year including 20 plus education conferences. Ron and his wife, Kristen, reside in Rochester Hills, MI, with thei...
Nov 06, 2023•44 min•Season 10Ep. 9
Today, we have a bilingual podcast to connect Spanish speaking listeners to a Spanish special edition of Exceptional Needs Today magazine. www.exceptionalneedstoday.com Hoy, la Dra. Stephanie y sus invitados Erica y Luis les cuentan acerca de una revista de edición especial que estará disponible en español. A continuación se muestra una carta de la editora de Exceptional Needs Today, Amy Tobik. ¡Es gratis! ¡Visite www.excepcionalneedstoday.com! Desde el escritorio del editor Cuando publiqué la r...
Oct 30, 2023•43 min•Season 10Ep. 8
Join Dr. Holmes and Dr. Fisher as they discuss Dr. Fisher's model of medication for working with the spectrum population. Basics on types of medications and their functions are discussed as well as the dangers of stacking meds and drug-drug interactions often missed. Dr. Fisher completed his General Psychiatry residency at the University of Texas-Galveston and a Child/Adolescent Psychiatry Fellowship at the University of South Carolina. He serves as the Medical leader of Springbrook Autism’s Res...
Oct 23, 2023•50 min•Season 10Ep. 7
The guys talk about how groups have changed their perspective on issues, themselves and others.
Oct 18, 2023•45 min•Season 10Ep. 6
Dr. Stephanie and Abby talk about challenging and complex ND marriages and aspects such as rigidity and need for sameness that can make the NT family members feel trapped or controlled in a ND marriage or family. About today's Guest: "Abby" Abby has two decades of personal and professional experience with neurodiverse marriage, and autism-impacted family dynamics. She is the mother of three multiple neurodivergent children, and formerly married to an autistic spouse. Drawing from her extensive w...
Oct 16, 2023•54 min•Season 10Ep. 5
Dr. Holmes and Tosha discuss what clinicians need to know about working with individuals on the autism spectrum. The importance of competency and training in working with the Autistic Community. Bio: Tosha Rollins is a Licensed Professional Counselor in South Carolina, owner of Rollins Counseling, LLC, autism advocate, public speaker, published author, and podcaster. She is dedicated to serving the autism community and teaching others how to navigate through the world of autism with ongoing educ...
Oct 09, 2023•35 min•Season 10Ep. 4
Today, our focus is more than ND marriage but the neurodiverse family system. We have on the show with us both daughters, Sydney and Erica. We share about our new book coming out later this year. The family discusses their lived experience from their lens and what they learned about others in the family system, reading chapters each has written from hindsight learning. Themes of today's show move from regret and missed opportunities to forgiveness, reconciliation, and hope! Find out more about t...
Oct 02, 2023•59 min•Season 10Ep. 3
Guest: Dr. Celine Saulnier Assessing ASD over the LifeSpan Guest Bio: Dr. Saulnier obtained her doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the University of Connecticut. She trained and worked at the Yale Child Study Center’s Autism Program for nearly a decade before relocating to Emory University School of Medicine and the Marcus Autism Center in Atlanta, GA, where she directed a large-scale clinical research program from 2011 to 2018. In 2018, she opened her own company, Neurodevelopmental Assessme...
Sep 25, 2023•51 min•Season 10Ep. 2
Dr. Stephanie heard Dr. Lucking speak at the ND Love Conference earlier this year. Stephanie and Dan talk through some specific points about Christianity and the Spectrum and NDCCs. Topics we cover today: Christianity on the Spectrum The power of religious thoughts and rigid thinking Relationships and Visual vs Auditory Processing What we can learn from churches to help families using XYZ Families Practicing social skills at church How can a Christian therapist or coach support a closer relation...
Sep 18, 2023•52 min•Season 10Ep. 1
Just The Guys talk about their approach to parental discipline.
Sep 13, 2023•45 min•Season 9Ep. 14
Jill Jones, LISW-CP Join Dr. Holmes and Jill Jones for an introduction to Polyvagal theory and the Safe and Sound Protocol that stems from PVT. You can find out more about Jill Jones at www.baylaureltherapay.com Jill Jones Biography: Jill Jones, LISW-CP, grew up in a neuro-divergent household and taught in public schools for 14 years before getting her MSW degree in 2002. Since then, Jill has been a clinical social worker for various agencies, including the lead therapist on the team that develo...
Sep 11, 2023•44 min•Season 9Ep. 13
