How to Give Feedback Without Triggering Defensiveness — Backed by Science
Jun 07, 2025•35 min
Episode description
Most feedback fails not because it’s wrong — but because it triggers defensiveness.
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In this episode, cognitive scientist and author Therese Huston joins Kwame Christian to reveal the brain science behind effective, non-threatening feedback. You’ll learn why even well-meaning feedback can backfire, how to prevent emotional resistance before it starts, and what most managers get completely wrong when delivering hard truths.
Whether you're a leader avoiding uncomfortable conversations or someone who wants to build a culture of trust, this episode gives you practical, research-backed tools to speak up without sparking conflict. Discover the subtle shifts — from leading with listening to stating your intentions — that make feedback land with clarity and care.
🔍 You’ll learn:
Why your brain sees feedback as a threat — and how to override it
The “Jedi” feedback move that instantly lowers defenses
What to say before criticism to avoid sounding like an enemy
Why silence makes things worse — and how to break it safely
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