Ep.3: Listen to this to Increase your Confidence!

Where episode number three with your girl Hills. Hey, y'all it's the motivation, babe. In the end, I am so jazzed for today's episode because it's one that was the most commonly requested topic we talk about and have a discussion around. And that is confidence. And I cannot tell you how important confidence is. Y'all. It is like the bread and butter of building your dream life. Confidence is truly in all of us. We just have to learn how to tap in to our confident version.

Unlock it, unleash it and embrace it. Are you with me? Can I get an amen? Let's dive in. All right . Y'all before we get started, I like to start our episodes with some affirmations . So this might become a thing really quick. If you're with me here right now. Thank you. I honor you. I want to give us this time to come together and take a deep breath in really the day everything that's happened and I want you to repeat after me. I am confident. I am confident in myself.

I am confident in my dreams. I am confident in my ideas. I am a magnet for confidence. I am a natural born winner. I am destined for great. Yes . I love affirmations. Y'all like, it's like a massage for the soul. Tell me you don't feel good right now. Tell me affirmations. Like don't work. Tell me that . Come at me. Um, affirmations truly were a critical part in my journey of self discovery and self growth that have led me to change my wife. I love affirmations.

And I'm so glad you were able to take part of that with me. All right . Y'all so for today's episode, when it comes to confidence, I actually, I want to share my story and my journey of finding confidence because I think good . So that'd be great context for everyone. If you are early on in your self growth, self love, self self discovery, or if you've been doing this work for a while , or heck if you would be like say I'm expert level, I am a confident AAF type of person.

I think everyone who grabs something, I think we can learn a lot from each other, basically. So I want to share my story if you would allow me and I'll keep it short and quick, but I'm going to, I'm going to go back three years ago , three years ago, three years ago. I, I was not this person. This person was always within me though. And that's the beautiful thing about confidence is the person, the most confident version of you. She is there. She is just waiting to come out.

She was waiting for you to give her space to thrive, right? And for it to, to be in your best interest because you'll, I want to disclaim really quick. Confidence can be seen. We've all heard of confidence being, you know, very egotistical, a little cocky, you know like, oh, who does she think she is? It's like, no , no , that that's, I don't know where we got that from.

Perhaps maybe we'll use confidence in the wrong way, but that's not , not at all what we're trying to talk about here or emulate or become. I want us to unlock the confident woman in ourselves. Okay. But helps people that helps ourselves grow and others. So three years ago, I, I started a business. It would be getting of all my stories. I where my money business, my career, it changed my life because it taught me so much. Y'all my business has given me so freaking much. I it's priceless.

So when I started my business, I was not confident in what I was doing. I had no idea in what I was doing. And I was so busy looking around to every one else. And that right there, y'all when you are so busy and comparison mode, and you're not staying in your lane, that's the number one confidence killer. You can not be in comparison mode when you were building the confident woman and you, the confident woman and you is staying in her lane, the confident woman, and you is focus on herself.

The confident woman believes in herself and her abilities. And doesn't look around at any one around her. The competent woman is confidently pursuing her dreams. That gave me chills. That , that , that spoke through me through something. But you know what I mean? I was so busy looking at everyone else that I wasn't taking time to acknowledge those things were within me. So that was step one. Step one is to quit. Stop the comparison mode . It's not serving you.

It's not helping you get get over that. All right. Don't mean to be harsh, but Hey, I'm , I'm , I'm being real and raw here. Step two was a , a truly took a mindset shift to let go of the old stories. This was an episode two of last week's podcast. We talked about those stories, AKA the lies, AKA, the limiting beliefs that no longer serve you. We create this sense of identity around these stories. Y'all and if they're not helping you grow, why do we hold onto them?

Why do we find truth in the lie? Build the new truth? Okay. So step two is letting go of the stories of, I can't do this. This is hard. It works for everyone, but me. Um , right? Like those thoughts, those beliefs. That's just a story you made up in your head. Who said they were true? No one. All right. So step two is letting go of the stories and creating the mindset shift.

Okay. Truly replacing the negative thought with a positive thought, is everything a confident woman does a confident woman doesn't have the time she cannot afford to think negatively about her. She could only believe in the positive empowering person. She is heard. Number three, focus on your strengths. I don't know where, like we made up like focus on like, what does it like, what? You're not good at? Like, why?

I mean like make some self improvements , some adjustments, but like, heck if you're good at something, go all in. You know, in my business I realized, oh, I really like branding and marketing. Like, I may not be the top recruiter, but I really love to serve my clientele. I really love to make aesthetic content. So let me get really good at this. And I will always have recruiting as my self-improvement area. Okay. So focus on your strengths because that's what makes you feel good.

That's where you can add value upon others. And a confident woman is consistently adding bounty to other people's lives. All right . Now, the last thing I want to talk about is one of my favorite confidence hacks. This is a way to immediately implement, to have confidence within you this right, Barry . Second, are you ready? All right. Y'all I want you to look at your physical state. Where is your body right now? Where are your shoulders? Where is your back? Where is your chin, your chest?

What is your physical state of your body? Would that be a confident woman? State? A confident woman will have her shoulders rolled back. Her chest out her chin up. She may just bro , like a few inches because you just stood up a little taller. You sat up a little taller. So this is a way to immediately implement confidence. If you are in a situation, if you're in a room with people, like just check in with your body. Yeah. Okay. I love to do this.

When you change your physical state, you change your physiology. You're changing your energy. And once you change that energy, it helps you create the mindset shift. All right. Into the confident version of yourself and hack. Give her a name. Okay. Caitlin . Give the competent version of ourselves. A name like we can tap into her golf herd. We often calls herself Sasha fierce when she gets on stage . And we sure as heck know , she is a confident a woman on that stage when she is singing.

So channel your inner Beyonce babes . All right . Well , I want to keep this short and sweet. I hope that this helped you in terms of confidence and confidence building and sharing my story. Y'all remember it comes down to just pursue your dreams. Do what sets your soul on fire set goals. Don't compare yourself to anyone else and focus on your strength. Use affirmation, surround yourself in an environment where you thrive. That's helping you build and grow confidence.

Compounds y'all confidence does not occur overnight. This is a journey. Give yourself grace on your journey. You know the number ones have, it can probably close y'all with be confident when you may not feel confident, like show up confidently when you may not feel like it , that that will make you grow. Okay. That is such an important reminder show up confidently. Even when you don't feel like it. I promise it's going to be a game changer for you. All right.

Y'all thanks for tuning in, please, please, please. If you like what you hear and find someone to listen to the podcast, share this with family, friends. I would appreciate it. If y'all left a review, a rating, subscribe, follow, whatever it is, make sure to follow me on Instagram at motivation, babe, underscore where I share my everyday life on stories and my grid is full of positivity, positivity, and empowerment. I love you guys so much. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Until next week, I'll see other sending you light love and abundance.