Deleted Scenes (Season 1)

every answer. For the sake of sharing episodes with you that aren't too long, we had to leave some memorable moments on the cutting room floor, so today we're picking up those pieces. In this episode, I will share with you a few of my favorite answers that weren't in the original episodes to help close out season one of many questions. Think of them as deleted scenes. But don't worry. Season one is wrapping up and I'm off to film

a couple of movies. Many questions will return for season two very soon, and please be sure to let me know in the comments and reviews if there are new guests you'd like to hear. From now, let's get into some of these deleted scenes. Here is today's show anchor Herd to cut the what quality do you like least about yourself? I am two things that I wish I was less of. I'm super bossy, which is annoying to all, and I'm weirdly At the same time, I think I'm

a pleaser, A bossy pleaser. A bossy pleaser. Is that possible? I mean, my sister is like, okay, stop being so bossy, and I can't help it. Joel is he just like watches me spin around and call all the shots, and he must be like when it's all comes down, it's like, okay, now can we discuss you You're good? Okay? My conversation about it And I think at the same time, like I want to make people feel so comfortable that I sort of we'll turn myself into a pretzel to make

sure they feel good. That's interesting. I feel like it's a very female experience, that of turning yourself into a pretzel whilst also having to make ship happen. Yes, And that's really it, because I feel like I'm always trying to make the trains run on time and make sure we get where we need to get and do all the things we need to do. And at the same time, I find myself doing this And it's so funny because

the other day I must say sorry a lot. I don't even realize it, but cope, my two year old O, sorry, Mom, sorry. I'm like, oh god, you're too What am I doing? And I hear my words coming out? And then I saw my daughter was playing with a little boy. What she said, Calvin, what did you have for lunch? And he said, girl, cheese? And he said what did you have? And she said same like you but she didn't. And I was like, does this start? Now? What's how playing? Yeah?

I mean is that in her like She's already trying to make him feel like I'm like you. And I thought it was weird. But at the same time I was wondering, you know, I don't even know what I'm modeling at the time. I feel like I'm just living and maybe they see I don't know, you have to just live there. I mean, I'm all for self inquiry and you know, being aware of your behavior, but you simply cannot curate every second of what comes out of your mouth. I sort of wish I could, but it's

just not possible. But that is interesting about the same like you, because I remember doing that really young, particularly with boys, you know, as a identifying heterosexual, assist gendered woman, I learned to please boys really really young. Yeah, the bossy, I like the bossy. I think bossy is good. I think bossy should have another word. I think it should just be called excellent. Okay, I'll think that. I'll take that. Bossy is just like, I know what's supposed to happen.

Just let me make it happen. Shut up and let me do it. Everybody get out here, we go. I just need an open road and everything gets done. It's exactly right. I'm going to now say, holda, Oh yeah, holda, Why isn't she a bit bossy? Now she's a bit excellent. I like that. I'm stealing it. How good you can have it? Here is writer and global health advocate Chelsea Clinton. So love what relationship real or fictionalized? To find love

for you? I love my parents. I was really close to my grandmother, Um, who passed away almost a decade ago. I spoke to her at least try to speak with her every day. I love my husband we've known each other since we were kids, and we were friends for more than a decade before we fell in love, and you know, got me right. And now I've created kind of love and action in these three amazing beings that I just am so thankfully get to be their mom.

And so, for me, love is being able to love my children, to be able to care for them and hopefully make them laugh and pick them up when they fall down, literally and metaphorically teach them what's worth their tears and not so when they just sort of trip and fall in they're okay, like not worth their tears versus like if they're actually bleeding, worth their tears, or for the older kids and their baby brother like knocked down their magnetile tower, which happens, you know, fairly frequently,

Like I get that that's totally frustrating, but not worth their tears versus like you know, when they're missing their cousins and they haven't seen them for more than a year, Like, yeah, they can cry about that. That's painful. That's a lot. And so that to me is love. And my daughter Charlotte's obsessed with sharks and she wants to shave the sharks and so we talk a lot about the environment and how you know, I love for ourselves and love for each other also has to I think we love

for our planet. And she's six, but she can carry out the cardboard recycling or at least, you know, with some help. And so I think all of that is love, like you know, making them laugh, picking them up, teaching them to be good citizens, and how to love and how to love and how to love each other. I think, especially like I was an only child, and so like how they love each other as siblings has also been a new experience for me because I didn't have any

siblings growing up. My husband had ten siblings. Um, so I thankfully here's a lot of experience to draw from. So all of that to me is love. I love that this wonderful man called Mike Coots, who is one of the great environmental advocates for sharks. Okay, he was a pro surfer who had the lower half of I can't remember which leg it was a bitten off by shark.

And he suffs now, he stuffs still, But he is the most extraordinary advocate for these animals that changed this life definitively, but in a way that I mean, it's it's a really interesting and beautiful exploration of the extraordinary spect trum of love and fear. It's it's really amazing. He has an instagram that is quite beautiful, um and some videos that Charlotte might really like. Yeah, thank you, because she's love sharks now half her life. I mean, when she was three, we went to the New or

Aquarium and she just became mesmerized by these animals. I wanted to learn everything that she could about them, and thankfully she had a wonderful preschool teacher who read her books about sharks, and then we kind of checked some books out from the library, and then we bought more books, and she just really you know, if you ask her what she wants to be when she goes up, she says she wants to be a shark scientist. Oh my gosh. And she's had the same answer, whereas my four year

old has like different he wants to be. He also wants to be a scientists, but the type of scientist

he wants to be kind of changes every day. But for Charlotte, it really is like she I have no idea what should be when she goes up, but for now to have had this consistent passion and commitment, and she talks to all of our family about sharks, and she wants her cousins and her aunts and uncles, you know, about jerks, and to really appreciate them and not be scared about them, and to know why that the caretakers of the ocean, and why they're so fundamental to the

cycle of the ocean. I mean, really genuinely, that's so amazing that she's identified this thing that is a figure of you know, it has it has so much fair attached to it, and they are they are genuinely such necessary, beautiful, extraordinary creatures. Yes, yes, And and just that I've already learned so much from her, so fun as a parent, right that she's already taught me so much about about jerks. That's amazing, is awesome, That's amazing. Next up we have

actor and director Coleman Domingo. Perhaps you could tell me in your life something that has grown out of a personal disaster my my my writing, to be honest, the stories that I write and the place that I write, I think a lot of times sort of document or touch on something that I that I miss dearly, which is that little house in Philadelphia, where I was raised, where I felt tethered with all this love and hope,

that family unit that is no longer terrible tragedies. Because I lost my parents within six months of each other. It was one truly devastating year. But with that, I think I poured all my energy into my heart and then to my storytelling, because I like to tell stories that are complex and about who we are. I think they're always trying to bring people together. They're always trying to show people the best parts of themselves. They will

get through something. I think it's also possibly for myself, to be honest, to write it for someone else to actually get through that thing that you've got through, but you know it was harrowing, and you know that you could have fallen at any time. And that's the truth. I do look at my own tragedies that I've had as I guess things that it sounds weird, but things that they were mine. Not that I needed, but they were mine. They were mine, things to cross, They were

my gifts. In some weird way. We don't want these gifts, but they are gifts, and we take them with best and we hopefully make them transformative. We show other people the way. The thing that many of that I think I do recognize even more so, and I think we've been doing our work for a long time, is that it is work of the soul, and it said you have to pour it all in there, all the tragedy, all the good times, all of it, and it's going to help you establish a new truth and the truth

and creation I know. It's definitely the way I write, that way I create, the way I create opportunities not only for myself but for others. It's because of the tragedy that have a production company, because I want to make sure people taken care of. I feel like I don't leave it to everyone out there. I don't just writing a lot or getting upset about circumstances. I will create it. I will create the world that I think in the container that it should live in. And I

don't know where I get that from. Again, I don't know where I get this from where I feel like I think everything in my past would have set me up to feel like I didn't have agency in the world, but that's not the truth. I think it's my mother and the way she raised me. Believing that I can make a difference that although we've had we had no money, but everything was available to me. I never believed that something wasn't available, whether it was love or money access.

I've always walked into a room believing that everything was available to me, and you just leave with love, you leave with grace. I don't want and it seems to knock on wood when working out. Yeah, it's an amazing thing. Though to not come at any of it from a point of view of paucity, and also to come it from the idea that you can take things that are difficult and turn them into something else. I don't think

alchemy gets a big enough shout out. Frankly, alchemy needs to get the biggest shout out in the world because it is transforming that and it's always possible. Always It's just up to you. It really is up to you in the way that you see it, what you choose to do with that fuel, because it's all fuel, right, all of it. This next question is from my conversation with actor Anna Faris, all right, love, So what what

question would you most like answered? It is tough to think about potentially dying without without understanding a larger picture. I suppose I would love to be around for an extra terrestrial idea, for an interaction with an extra terrestrial it is interact. I just need to see it all the news, just of course, because you don't want to happen in my lifetime. You just wanted to happen. I think, I think that would be really fucking cool. Yeah, I agree, Mini,

What about you? Can I ask you? I mean it's I asked this question because I really am so I'm so interested. But I realized, and having asked it so much, because so many people then myself included, go well, I you know, I want to know what happens when we die. But really what it is is, I want to know

how to talk to the dead people. I really, I really feel like if what we're talking about is energetic frequencies and that you know, our bodies a matter vibrating at a certain level, that our optic nerves can perceive, and that if being dead is just being non physical, I really want to know how we can. I just want to speed up our evolution, in our advancement. I'd like to speak the head and see if we've we've developed these ways of dealing with the more subtle frequencies

does that sound bananas? It sounds kind of bananas, but I mean I think it's true. No, it will well sounds bananas. It I mean, I'm getting to the age and I know that you've experienced death of late, and I'm getting to the age where my friends and I our parents are becoming ill and we are thinking about these things in a in a slightly different way. Um, But I love what you told me on my podcast. I think about that a lot. You said that grief

is love amplified. It's an amplification of love. Yeah, it is. It is enormous and it is amazing, and it's kind of like the crone living in the scariest house on the block. Like everybody's frightened of her. Nobody wants to go in and talk to her, nobody wants to be a asociated with her. But she really has so much wisdom and there is so much life in grief. It's a really funny thing. And there's a there's regret two,

I would imagine, is there regret? Well? Yeah, I mean it depends and you're you know, when you start going through the litany of things that you wish she'd said or done differently, because you do. I don't know that it's regret exactly. It's more like you examine everything. You examine it almost like it's under a microscope. And then weirdly, the things that I just don't need to be held onto anymore are the things that fall by the wayside.

You keep shedding. I keep shedding layers of stuff that just was not interesting to keep alive when my mother herself was alive, and things that we talked about, and now the things that I think about are almost like the distillation of what I loved about her, and the distillation of our conversations and the things that she taught me. Because I feel like I look more like her. It's weird because I feel like I'm inhabiting more of what she meant and felt. That's kind of an amazing idea. Yeah,

it's really weird. It happened the other day, like I was looking in my rear view mirror and I caught side of myself and I got a shock because I I looked like her. It was it was really it's very strange. I mean, I'm sure it's all part of the kind of the psychological journey, but I would I

would love to know how we're going to evolve. I would love to know how human beings like, if we are actually going to develop more areas of our brain, if we are going to evolve beyond the kind of the hideous sort of warmongering and all of the cruelty that just has seemed to be this back and forth of the haves and the have nots and the powerful and the powerless. Will there ever change? I don't know.

I know I have quite a lot of questions that I'd like answered, but I think it feels it feels necessary. We'll probably have to go quite a long time into the future, probably, and well our general will probably have to take over. Yeah, oh probably. Oh my god. If it stills exhausting having to be in oh god. But seriously, it's going to be a matriarchy. Oh my gosh, exhausted. I'm not going to sleep as it is. Jesus, you do it, no you. And finally, here is former Prime

Minister Tony Blair. I will ask you very quickly, because I know you have to go. What would be your last mail? You know, I could go sort of really good fish and chips from my youth, and I would love that. I like a really simple pasta. It depends when my my last meal you can have you can have as many courses as you want, is your last male Yeah, that's so in that case, and it provided we're not going to go into sort of leger On booth style. So I would like a whole array of

different dishes, small small amounts. Japanese maybe, But look, you know, I think if one knew it was my last meal, my thoughts would be elsewhere they might. I could always I could definitely consider my my mortal coil and have an apple crumble like a whole one. Yeah, I could definitely think about spirituality and eat everything that you said. I'd eat all of that and then roast chicken apple crumble. My mom used to make great apple crumble mine too.

It's my favorite pudding. It's pretty English, actually, isn't it. Yeah, because you get good apples here. I mean not to disparage America, but I've very rarely had really good apples. You can't find cooking apples in America either. Rubob crumble that's good too. Well, there you have it. The deleted

scenes of season one. In listening to all of these again, I started to think back on why I wanted to start doing this podcast, and I've been reflecting on whether I've accomplished a piece of what I set out to do. You've heard me say this before, but my mission with this podcast was to create a cultural anthology, an investigation into the human experience, with each episode presenting a new guest, a new data point in this great experiment. And I'm

not done. Many questions will return for season two, and I hope three, four, or five, six, seven, eight, and on and on. One season does not a cultural anthology make, but I've gleaned an insight or two, and I hope you've been able to do the same. One I think about most often is whether you're a rock star performing for a stadium full of adoring fans, or a correspondent reporting on climate change, or a twelve year old trying

to go to school. A peaceful moment is usually a happy one, so I hope that until we chat again, you have many, many happy moments of peace. I also hope that you have a meal where you never get full and get to eat lots of oatmeal, fried chicken,

chocolate moose, and mashed potatoes without ketchup. In the meantime, be sure to follow me on Instagram and Twitter at Driver Mini and subscribe to Many Questions on the I Heart Radio app, Apple podcast, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts to ensure that you'll be the first to know about our new episodes. I really thank you with all of my heart for having listened and gone on

this journey with me. It's been an amazing experience, and I'm extremely grateful that I have the opportunity to do this and to share these conversations with you. Until next time, keep asking Many questions. I think you will find that whether your questions reveal similarities or differences, you will invariably what's the connection, Because I found it is our questions,

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