When Personal Pain Transforms into Public Purpose

And now , years later , we share something even deeper a passion for healing , for advocacy and mindful impact . Today's conversation is one of great , of grace and purpose .

We're peeling back the layers behind a woman who wears many hats , and I'm going to try very hard not to do this interview with a friend , but with the barrister , with the advocate , with the nurturer and the founder of super parent .

If you don't know , thank you , you're right , okay , oh , no , no , you know , like , okay , you guys could say that this was my teenage bestie , that's , that's as far as I can go for the essence of it .

But you see , like I said , it's a full circle moment because , even as we transverse the length and breadth of our culture , we didn't know that we're going to be advocates , we didn't know that we were going to be doing these things . Well , you knew what we were going to do , I didn't know . No , I knew if you didn't know .

No , I knew if you didn't know for you , are you serious ? You're natural . You've always been fighting those battles for us . I knew I've always been fighting , but a good fighter don't mind that I know I miss fighting people's battles . So I knew , well , yeah , and that is refined now , and I think that's also refined now . So leave your mind please .

What is refined now ? So advocacy and all that . So , like I said , I'm going to , I want to stay away from that . So , who ? I know , for the show again , at least , but this photo shot that has methamorphosed into foolish or guinea lias . Who are you when no one is watching ?

I'm just me , yeah , very simple , fully sure , the deep thinker , the passionate person . I'm just I can't give a definition of myself , but just me . What is the me there ? Okay , the emotional , yeah , so emotional .

The passionate one , the selfless one , and also , um , the ones that fight a lot of battle within , yeah , okay , I don't know whether we want to go there , but what was growing up like for you and I'm not asking you to go into details Okay , okay , but because you know we won't finish that , okay , I'm not asking you , but you know , but did

anything from that time . When I'm asking you this now , did anything from that time prepare you for the path that you are on now ? I think a lot . I think my old story , childhood story , prepared me . I saw plenty , I saw luck , I witnessed wickedness , I witnessed kindness . So I felt my old story had prepared me .

I never knew I would go specifically towards it , but I knew I was going to do something . I knew I was going to make impact . I needed to change narrative , I needed to do a whole lot , but I couldn't define it . So somehow I'm not surprised . I'm not surprised , but at the same time I'm still like how did I get here ?

Yeah , because you know I'm looking from okay . So yeah , like you said , you wanted to change your narrative . I would have thought that that would be the narrative . You're changing a better family for people and children going up and better relationships with their parents and all that . I would have thought that that would be the narrative you wanted to change .

You know giving what I know . So I think my question then is why it is not that narrative , why it is it about you know super parents . Actually , it's not the narrative why it is . Is it about . You know , super parents . It's actually , it's still the narrative . You know , it's just that super parents are just , you know .

But you know , even before I started super parents , I was advocating for children , and I still do . You know , um , child abuse , women-based gender , you know all that . I still do it , even from my post on facebook . You know , I'm firm about it . I'm firm about equality . I'm firm about treating people right . You know I'm firm about value , family values .

You know parents . You know caring for their children , not expecting the children to just understand and carry those bodies they are not supposed to carry . So I'm still vocal on that . Yes , and , being a lawyer , I've had a lot of cases . You know , when it comes to child abuse , when it comes to I take it up .

But right now , because I'm so involved in super parents , I do more referral . But my post reflects that . When it comes to family , it reflects . So I was going to , but , thank god , you went to law . Um , um , was that your first desire ? That what you wanted to study ? And is that what influenced what you want to study ? What ? I think ?

Medicine , something like that . I thought , okay , with medicine , I'll be able to help people . Yeah , that's it . Okay , you know , even you know that was Charlie's thoughts . I wouldn't even collect money . You know , I just do it for your thoughts . You know I've seen my mom , you know , go through some medical challenges and then she was a nurse .

Yes , and she was a nurse . You know , I've seen , even you know I've seen even you know I visit the hospital regularly and you know you see people outside seeking help , funds for their . You know , that's that's a part of me , that's no further pain . So it's fair to say that , you know .

Uh , going back to the question , I asked that everything that you saw shaped you being an advocate , but you just didn't know what you were going to be advocating . So what inspired the start of super parents ? Okay , so , like I said , um , um , I'm generally , I'm passionate about many things and changing narratives .

You know , every time when there's a child abuse case , people would tag me this one , they would tag me Anything that has to do with saving lives , you know . So , one day , as I was scrolling down the Facebook Facebook street I mean , what do they call it ?

Sugarberg Street so I saw a post and you know the woman was just writing , you know it was anonymous , she was not writing her pain , what she's she's a mother of a child with special needs , what she's facing with this , what she feels , and that she needed to get . Uh , what's this called the air hearing aid . And I was like one million naira .

I said , hey , this is something that should be accessible to everyone . You know , I saw that pain

deep . I said , you know , people were just saying it is well , go to this church , go to that . I was like , is that the solution , you know ? So I just wrote it that please , wherever you are , please , um , contact me . And so she contacted me . I know she's . You know we just , you know we had a relationship till midnight she was just be talking to .

So I I knew she was going through a lot . You know , I just thought this space needs to be filled . You know she was . This space needs to be filled . You know she was suffering . You know , stigma , discrimination from those that are supposed to support and love her .

You know , family members , in-laws even the system wasn't favorable and I didn't know all these things were happening . I thought that they were supposed to receive , um , what would I call it ? You know , favors from the government , from this . You know , in that , you know . You know special needs people are supposed to be taking care of , taking care of .

You know , and when I dealt into our world , I was like wow , so I just posted it in facebook . Please , if you're a parent of a child with special needs , can you come out ? I , I need you to share your story , and they were a lot and lots . So , super parent just started . Okay , there is a safe place , you know , for parents to talk .

You know , chat , you know , just safe space . You know you're um , they're not shutting you up , you know . The thing is that , you know . The thing is that you are not allowed yes , you know , no judgment . You are not allowed to speak about it . It's a shame , you know . It's not a place of shame . Just share the experience once .

Share your experience so that others can learn from it . You know , but unfortunately , unfortunately , sorry . You know was it is it ? Unfortunately You're not that old . Sorry , no , was it ? Is it ? Unfortunately You're not that old , though I told you it blew beyond my imagination . I think I can understand where the unfortunately is coming from .

Like , okay , this blew beyond my imagination . Do I have the capacity to do this ? Yeah , you're right . Yeah , that's just it . Do I have the capacity and this ? Yeah , you're right , yeah , that's just it . Do I have the copy ? And then people were seeking for funds . This is not what I imagined .

I just want you to talk so that you feel light , you understand you're not alone , you understand you're not alone in this and then get knowledge just to go to . You know stuff like that . But ha , you know they've seen that you are saying visiting the families , seeing all sorts of cases . I was like , okay , so I know you for it . I know you're a bit .

Uh , you know we'll get to that in a moment . Okay , okay , but because I would have thought , or somebody's asking , um , okay , is super parents a safe place for parents to just come and be parents with children with special needs ? What is the right term ? Is it children with special needs or children living with disability ? I think it's both .

There are children living with disability that do not actually have special needs . They can navigate themselves , they're independent . You know there's no special . It's like they don't need any special accommodation or special whatever to be there . You know , for example , like physical , some physical disabilities . You know they can . Some of them , not all , all .

You understand they can navigate . They can do a lot of things themselves without any help or special requirements or assistance , you understand . So those are , you know . But when it comes to , would I say , when it comes to cases like autism and all that , those are special cerebral products , you know .

You know they have some needs that they , you know they need to be supported . You know those are special needs , but somehow we just okay . So how do you balance ?

You know , because for me maybe that's why that's what you're saying that I've always been like this and um , and I know , sometimes , when people are listening to my information , where I'm talking or I'm talking something like why do you have a story for everything ? But you know , I don't know what I was telling .

I had a cousin um , I don't know whether she's still alive like cousin , cousin the same great grandfather , not the same grandmother , but we had the same grandfather , um and um . I was . I was never afraid to be around her , never afraid to be , and she she had . Of course , now I know it's cerebral palsy , but you know , we didn't know what it was .

The end even in , they treated her funny , they treated her , but she was in my head , she was my cousin and she just , she , just was , because I could see her emotions , I could relate to it . Funny enough , I think she's about two years older than I am . Okay , yeah , I don't know whether she's still there , because I laugh . I heard of her .

She just had a baby . Wow , oh , yeah , that this was way before I got pregnant and got married , right . So , um , she , she , like we , I could come , she , and she was nonverbal . Okay , she was a nonverbal CP person , but I could hear , I could hear . I remember my mum . She was like she won't go to the hospital . Yeah , I could hear her .

We could walk together . We could walk , and she was so badly bent , she was half bent . Yeah , she was half bent , but the light in her eyes was , ah , like I never have been able to be afraid of people who live with some sort of disability , and I've never been . I don't know what that is , because they're natural hemp , but it doesn't , you know .

Here's where the question is what then ? How then are you marrying the societal construct , because I think people are just afraid that you know this will pass on to my child or whatever . So how do you manage that cultural narrative with the obvious medical narrative that comes with children with . Okay , just like you said , you never saw any big deal .

It's just this is my cousin . That is how I felt that just maybe difference in a way , maybe fiscally or something . I've never saw the difference until I got involved . And you know , my best friend , second in school , okay , my , my best friend in secondary school , okay , my other best friend . You see the tea , the tea is for you . She , she , she .

She's a polo survivor , you know , and somehow I just relate with her and I allow her to do things Whenever she's trying to restrict herself . I said I don't see the difference in you . We will fetch water together . We'll do a lot of things together , do you understand ? Okay , when I need to help you , I help you .

But when I started this , I saw the way people react to you know persons or children living with disabilities , and it's because of is this ? I saw the way people react to you know persons or children living with disabilities , and it's because of is this , would I say , the African superstition , and also you know so many things .

You know and has been passed down from generation to generation . You know a lot of myth . There's a lot of myth attached to every disability . You know it's due to this , it's due to that , maybe a particular God , maybe a particular , even to the educated , they still hold on to their beliefs . They still hold on to their beliefs , you understand .

So you know there's just and of course , you see

, I'm being very careful because there's some supernatural . So you were saying there's some supernatural . Yeah , even as a Christian , you ought to know that we believe in that . But sometimes , when we dwell on that , you know , it kills the creativity to find solution . Thank you for giving me the right one . Yeah , do you understand ?

I don't like dwelling on that . We know that . It exists everywhere with us , do you understand ? But we would not dwell on that so that we find solutions . Yeah , that's what solutions are just physical , just a little bit of support . That's what they need to try to try . Yeah , you understand . So I , I don't like dwelling on that .

It's fine , I just , I needed to just play . Yeah , I know , I know I , I don't like dwelling . Okay , how can I help you ? How can I help you to navigate ? You know this terrain that you find yourself . You know , without needing my further support , it may just be a wheelchair , it may just be okay .

I need someone to have a communication , to converse with . You know , someone to um to make me understand that I'm a being , too , just like every other person . You know it may just be the tiniest thing you get , and thank God for advocacy . Thank God there's so much enlightenment and so much so people are not really seeing the difference .

Okay , they're not really- . Before we move to whether the narrative has changed , I'm wondering about the parents that you work with at the early days of Super Parents . How many years now ? I know you have a sixth inclusive party . I'm not good with math , that's why I'm helping you . No , the eighth inclusive party . So , eighth inclusive party . We started 2018 .

Yes , and that was when Super Parents Foundation was founded . Okay , you and I do no maths 2018 . Let's do the maths . Okay , 2018 , 2019 , 2020 , 2021 , 2022 , 2023 , 2024 , 2025 . Okay , so , 8 years . Yeah , wow .

At the beginning and this is me speaking as my infirmary when you started relating with these parents , what was the first questions that came up when you started talking to them ? You know because let me give you the background to what the question I'm asking we grew up when we're given birth . We saw them .

And then you have , you see people give birth and they give it normal . Normal , please , that is in huge parentheses for the sake of this conversation . It is not in any way a discriminating statement . Yeah , all right , you see that . And then you give birth to a child and that child isn't the definition of the world's normal .

So I I'm wondering what was the first hurdle that you had to cross with these parents ? Most of them were living in denial and it wasn't easy for them to accept that they have children , a child , sorry , that was not in the normal , yes , not in the normal , in the world's definition of normal , neurotypical . You understand . It wasn't easy for them to accept .

So a lot of parents lived in denial . Was it more denial or guilt ? And some guilt ? Yeah , denial is even different then give to the whole lot and some is a combo . It's a combo . And then when you're asking them okay , what have you done ? Have you helped this child or speech on it ? You understand ?

Um , turn it because in Kato show mom , you , you understand , you know nothing's wrong with my child . Oh , it's just a little bit of delay . I don't need to do that .

When I start doing that , it means that I believe there's something wrong with my child , where I said , taking my child for therapy and I started , it means that I , I , I don't believe you know admitted . And then some goes there , it's a spiritual thing , they're praying about it , they are . I say , hey , how do I help these people ?

You know , I needed to break that , especially you saying that they're coming to a place where there's no , no , no judgment . Do you understand ? And they're like , well , you know a lot of them , even without saying you know you can't understand , you don't have a child with disability , so how would you know ? How do you know how you're feeling ? You understand ?

So for me to be able to , um , convince them that I'm part of you , I'm just seeking a solution . It was hard , you know . Even some advocates that had children with disability like , what are you doing here ? You cannot , you know , you cannot understand . Until they saw , you know how I was .

It's not about me , it's about you , you finding a solution for yourself and me helping you with it . So denial , then guilt . Oh , if I had known I would have taken her to this particular hospital . If I had known , I would not have worked under this . If I had known , I would have done this , I would have put a pin on my knee .

If I had known I would have done this . If I had enough money , I would have done several CS and a whole lot of guilt , especially with cerebral palsy . With cerebral palsy , yes , a lot of negligence . It's just a second or two of just not oxygen and everything goes down .

So the cerebral palsy , a lot of it , is due to negligence , ignorance and all that you know . So the guilt is always so much so for them to help their child . There's always a lot of restrictions so you need to break that is always so much so for them to help their child . There's always a lot of um restrictions showing .

You need to break that mentality for that , for it has happened , it's not your . Now let's move on . Yes , let's move on . How do we so ? How has in the last eight years ? How is the advocacy that super parents is um championing ? How has that shifted the narrative in the society , at least from the metrics that he has and with special needs ?

Parenting is it . Is it more on the parents or more on the children ? On both , yeah , I can't really give a start . But are the parents better ? Now ? Parents are better . You know they seek knowledge . One thing I always tell them knowledge is key to healing . You know , say that again knowledge is .

You know , sometimes , when you get to know , you know that , oh , this is just what I need to do . You know it does not . It does not negate your faith yes , it doesn't . You know , you pray , you're believing in god . Even you can't do this without faith . You can never , ever do it without faith . I don't know .

I used to tell them that it's not about money , but it's the value you place on this child , that , no matter what you know , I'm going to help this child . This child is my child . You know , for example , I've seen , even I've watched film , true life stories and even I've gotten testimonies from parents .

You know , they can't afford this , they can't afford therapies , they can't afford medical , they can't afford that . But the children are doing well , afford this . They can't afford therapies , they can't afford medical . They can't afford that . But their children are doing well . How ? Because they believe in their child . They are positive .

So somehow , unconsciously , they are helping their children . They are in the kitchen , maybe they are teaching their child . Oh , this is how to do this . This is how to do this , involving their child . This is how to do this . This is how to do this . This is involving their child . This is how to do this .

This is how to do this involving their child , treating the child like a child should be treated and the child not knowing the difference , like , okay , maybe I can't just walk , maybe I can't , just , you know everything , but I'm still a child , I'm still loved by this woman . And then they're achieving milestones and then they are wondering but I'm

not going for this , I'm not going for that . So it's the first therapy . I don't know , sometimes I get to , it's okay , it's okay , like first therapy . I don't know , sometimes I get to , it's okay , it's okay . Like I tell the parents the first therapy , the first medication , is love , is love , just love that child . I'm listening .

No , no , seriously , just just love that child . The first therapy is to love that child . The first therapy Is to love that child . Once you love that child , I want to go somewhere , but I'm not going there anymore , because I want to say Do we see fathers more than mothers and super parents ? But I don't even want to , I don't want to go there .

It's essential . It's essential . Okay , go ahead , because he could say so , so he could minister to someone . Okay , so do . Okay , fair , fair . So how do ? Who manages it better ? Maybe that would make it much more . Who manages it better ? The fathers or the mothers ?

Because I know a couple of I've seen on social , like on um , I think , people under your um , your posts , listen . I don't want to say his name now because , um , you know , just to give him private privacy . I see the way he's passionate . I'm sure you know the person I'm talking about .

Uh , this starts with an A , okay , okay , I see how he's passionate about his son who is a CP , who's living with CP , and I'm wondering are all fathers like this ? No , no , you push your own statement . No , he is . We like to call it special . It's not supposed to be .

It's supposed to be normal for every father to be involved , but we know it's not supposed to be . It's supposed to be normal for every father to be involved , but we know it's not that way . He has a heart of a woman . I don't know if I can use that phrase . That particular , it's okay , you can use it .

That particular person you're talking about and many of them like that , or few of them , you know that are involved in the lives of their children , especially , they have this motherly , this motherly um , instinct , instincts , and , like I said , he loves his children . This man would do anything , just anything , for his children , special needs or not .

That is who he is . I hope I'll be able to get him here because I need to . No , no , I can't drag him . No , because I need to hear from him . I've been wanting to , you know , get into his head and like wow , what is happening , what is it ?

Because I know he bends back over , no , no , backwards , no , and then comes , no , no , that that is , uh , what would I call it ? No , no , no , no , that's , you know , when it goes on and on and on , and it's like I'll just say , man , relax , everything . You know you hardly see men , no , forget about special needs or something .

You hardly see men die so emotional , you know , about the children . They just want success , they just want the best for their children . You hardly see , no , I'm not saying they are getting involved , as in , you know , passionately involved in the lives of their children . They just want the best , you know .

So now him having a son , and that is his only son . That's the first born .

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no . Personal person your heart is always on your sleeves and all of that . So let's talk about you for a moment , as we're on this stuff here . So how do you balance the emotional weight of advocacy with your personal wellness ? Let me be realistic , it's the balance is not really balancing , but I try my best .

You know , being an emotional being , you know it takes a lot from you . You know it takes about um , but over the years I've tried , I'm learning and I'm still in the process of learning that I can't take it all . Just do what you can do . You know , compartmentalize , compartmentalize , compartmentalize that word is English , you know . And everything .

You can't do it all , even if you want to . There are other aspects of your life that needs you . You know the family and all that . At one point I was just mixing everything together and you know there was a lot of issues and you know I wasn't myself .

But now like , okay , this is family time , my business , my career , you know , and when it's time for SuperPay , it's time , and then I'm able to delegate . I have very good people that you know . I can say okay and do this for me , but of course my eyes , my heart , is still be there , but it's way better . It's way better .

What role and this is not because you're my friend or because you know me so what role do you think mindfulness and emotional intelligence can play in your life ? And then in caregiving ?

Mindfulness and intelligence , emotional intelligence in my life , it will play a lot , though you know it will for an emotional being like me , for an empath , for an empath okay , that's the word . Ah , emotional intelligence is key mindfulness , mindfulness , being intentional with you , with your life , with so many things .

If not , your life would just be a whole bunch of chaos and all that . You know you'd be wondering . You'd just be living life . Were you at this point at the beginning , of Super Parent , who you grew into understanding that ? No , I grew into it . You know , I was just doing everything . When I say something , let me upload , I was just doing everything .

At a point I just everything going out , I just went out . You know I'll just start crying , unnecessarily , transferring aggression

. You know it even affected my marriage , you know , and then I'll stop him . He's because he don't understand me . Do I even understand myself ? Do you understand ? I wasn't on this , I wasn't understanding myself , the level I was , until I said I was like no , be intentional , be mindful , you know , engage emotional intelligence . Thank God for you .

I can always cry to you and all that and you're helping me out and you know I don't want for therapy . Therapy is key . Don't think because you know it or you are strong .

You know it plays a whole major role in my life for me to be able , for my kind of being an empath , emotional and all that , for me to be able to sustain the foundation up till now and still my business and career and family . No , it's all up . Yes , hallelujah glory .

So before we go to the phone part , what is the number one misconception about special needs parenting ? You wish people understood Number one . I know there are plenty , but pick one , okay , you know . Are you talking about the society , or the parenting , parenting society , of the parenting ?

Because , whether so , like I said earlier , our mind is I'm going to get my , I'm going to have children , mm-hmm , you know that is going to be within the confines of the world's normal . And then there comes this twist , twist okay , that I probably not equipped to handle . So is it my faith ? Is it the idea I've hidden ? Is the idea easy ?

So what are the misconceptions of being a parent with a special needs child ? Okay , that in Africa . Okay , that in Africa . In Africa , sorry , I have to do because I know it's not universal that , okay , maybe there's something spiritually wrong with me . That is why I have a child with special , and you know , they keep hearing that thing .

You know the family , everything , it's not in my lineage . So that means there's something imperfect about me for me to be able to , you know , give birth to a child with special needs or with disability , you know , and that's a whole lot of misconceptions . I always tell them that even the westerners , even in india , even they have children with disabilities .

It's not that they don't believe in spirituality and all that , but that is not the call . What the the ? You know , they , they , they would investigate , they would do a whole lot of things . You know all like this , but in Africa , the first thing , I did not pray enough . I did not pray for the spiritual . There's something spiritually wrong with me .

No , there are a whole lot of reasons why you have a child with special needs , some we don't know . It could be genetics , yeah , it could be genetics . It could be genetics , yeah , it could be genetics . It could be genetics , yeah . So I think let me help people with this .

Your child , even you , you are an upgrade of thousands and thousands of your generation , oh , yes . So some things are latent , some things are dominant . We don't know why it keeps some people in some generations . Yeah , one generation .

But if we and this is why I always advocate that we understand our stories of origin we search our stories of origin because , trust me , someone in the family had had it , yes , yes , and he was either .

Uh , well , it's our stories of origin because , trust me , someone in the family had had it before and it was either well , it's Africa , even all over it was either , for example let me use mental health questions , like ill health , like bipolar , like schizophrenia and all of that it's actually very genetic .

So that a generation or two did not not have it , did not have it , does not mean that it is not still in the gene . Yes , and of course , uh , you are a new generation and all of that , and we're not . We're not saying that , uh , because you're under the on that grace and all that .

But then again there will have a Paul who we don't know his generation or genetic . We know that he died from a family or something , but he still had something that made what that God said to him . My grace is sufficient for you . I'm not going to take it away . I'm not going to take it away .

The reason this is there is for you to always come back to me , so I hope that helps someone out there . There is nothing that you have done . There is there's nothing you could have done to make it better . There's nothing that you could have . There are people who took all they had , the best of medical um help , and they had the best of it .

And the children still . You know , the best of the best . Uh , there are people with you know . There's just just a lot um on this side of eternity . There are some things we won't understand , yes , so when they have happened , the best thing for us is to stop , breathe , notice , reflect , respond and then resolve . That way it's easier for us to navigate .

I've always said it on the show that we are trained to know . Trained to know how to be happy . We don't know how to be sad . We don't know how to navigate when things you know , even motivations and all that we , everybody motivates you to get up at the side quickly . But sometimes it's in that darkness that is healing .

It's not darkness as a space , and if you're about to say to be that darkness that is healing , it's in that darkness that is peace , and if you're a practical say , that's what it means . So if we can enjoy Iri , why can't we learn to enjoy Ibi ? In this case , I'm not saying that special needs is Ibi , but contextualizing it .

Thank you so much Now that we are off with the serious one . So what's one lesson your work has taught you about humanity ? One lesson yeah , that you always find the help you always find . Don't close your heart or your mind to help . You will always find that someone that is willing to help you . Just open your heart .

I know that the world is dark , but there's always light , there's always help . It's a preacher in the house . If you could whisper one truth to every special needs parent today , what would that truth be ? Accept your new normal . Yes , barrister is preaching . Accept , once there's acceptance , I'm telling you you'll be , you'll even become the preacher .

Accept your new normal . Don't believe that the normal you see is the normal that should be Own your new normal . You have a child with disability . That is my new normal . Be comfortable with it , be confident in it . Accept it and I tell you , everything will just fall in place . Everything will fall in place to your coffee . Coffee .

The book that changed your life , a book . Why do I always forget her name ? I don't know . God , help me . She's a christian . She's um , this low cost , you should know . Choice maya , which is the title of the book . Hey , god , oh , battlefield of the mind . No , to say the truth , I've not finished the book till today .

I've not finished mine too , you well , I bought two that time . Yes , yes , just two pages was all . Yeah , just two pages , yeah , okay , are you ready ? Yeah , describe yourself in one Yoruba proverb .

So your final thoughts as we run off , my final thoughts , yes , on this conversation as we run on , okay , okay , just find you . Find you , and even with this conversation I'm finding me again . Find who you are wrong with it , passionately wrong with it , and guilt . Get help when you need it . You can't do it alone to fulfill your destiny . You can't do it .

Just find you . Thank you so much , barista folio show or guinea leo , I still wanted to find that , before you describe me that you're mad , you can still be thinking . When I round off , you can think of maybe to come to you , to come , or the ceo and founder of Super Parents .

Super Parents is a community for parents with children yeah , parents with children with special needs , and , like you heard I say , it's a place where you are allowed to be a parent , a person in the midst of people , where there's no judgment , where you're allowed to be .

Pollution reminds us that true strength isn't always loud , it is consistent , it is resilient and , like you heard us say earlier , it is rooted in love . The first therapy and drug is love . So , as we often , as we navigate the often complex rules of parenting , we learn from her journey .

Um , even as , even in the face of adversity , the community and compassion that can like likes the path forward . And as I say I used to think about you , forward . And as I say I used to think about you . As we're close to this episode , I'm inviting you , in the fashion of mindful utimishi , to pause and reflect .

Whom from your past reminds you of who you are becoming ? Can you trace any full circle moment in your life , those quiet nudges that connect your childhood dreams with your present purpose ? What have those moments taught you about growth , grace and timing ? So take a few minutes today as you're listening to this .

After you've listened to this , pick out a journal Voice note , if you want , you know , just write these reflections . Who are you becoming ? What are you becoming ? How are you chosen to become ? You might be surprised by what you uncover . You might be surprised by what you uncover .

Sometimes the seeds of who you are were planted long before you knew what they would grow into . So if this episode reminded you of someone special from your past , reach out , reconnect . It could be the beginning of another full circle moment . My name is Oluwadze Mishi Oladakwakuku . Love yourself , love your neighbor , love your country .

Above all of this , love God . He is the essence of your being . Follow me on socials and if this episode is touching in any way , leave us a note . Um dm . Share , follow would appreciate it . Like it helps the algorithm appreciate you . May you be well . May you be safe and free from harm . May you have peace all around .

Until next time , stay mindful , thank you .