¶ Introduction to Forgiveness Conversation
Hey , mindful Partners , it's another episode with me Uluwa Tumishe Ola Dapokuku and Mindluwa Tumishe Oladapokoku unmindfully with Tumishe . When I was rounding off last week's episode , I did say that I was going to have you know who to help explore the beginning of this new season . So how are you new ?
you know who I thought that I thought I had a response um for that , but no but it's good to be back in the studio yeah , and not virtual no , no , no , no , it's good to be back yeah feeling , the microphone feeling my voice you guys trust me , it's gonna be a very interesting and solid conversation , but you know , when acting or light is in the studio
until we start talking is not serious , so apologies is not serious .
So apologies , like like I said before , we started the streets , so let's get this started , because we promise some people on your posts that we're going to have this conversation , and you and I saw a video of a family where the matriarch of that family right , uh , lied to her children for 25 years and how people have polarized the man's response about whether
it was right for him to withhold forgiveness . Honestly , as a journalist , I want to get into that you know , but as mindful to which I don't want us to , and I even want to get into that polarity , because that's life , there'll be polarization , yeah , um .
So I , like I said earlier , I think the post on the question of forgiveness and how it is processed , or not processed , is more quaint for our conversation . So here's how I'm going to start . Of course , you do small question answer , so here's where I'm going to start . When you hear forgiveness , what's the first emotion that surfaces for you in Hawaii ?
Yes , no , there's no hope is an answer .
Peace . You get it . Right peace . And I say that because , rightly put , rightly put , whether we forgive or not , what I see for um , unforgiveness us is , um a cage , which it truly is , whether we admit it or not is is allowing ourselves , um to hold on to the hurt that somebody has done , done , done to us , allowing ourselves to be held by that .
That's what I
¶ The Complexity of Forgiveness Process
see on forgiveness , as when we come over to forgiveness , I see it as letting go , you know , because of me , really not because of them , but because of me . Um , that's the way I see forgiveness . That's the simplest .
I'm making it sound very simplistic , but that's , that's not what it is yeah , because that comes up as oversimplification , to be honest yes , I agree with you , but but the idea is um , just because something , okay , so a brain doctor goes into the surgery and comes out and the person's okay doesn't mean that that surgery was easy or simple right , the neurons ,
the nerves that they had to deal with , and it didn't mean that that was easy or simple , but they found a way to make that complex process seem to be easy by the fact that this person came out the way they wanted person to come out and not , and sometimes not well , sometimes the same thing with forgiveness .
Forgiveness doesn't always turn out , you know , the way we wanted sometimes , which is again I'm going to have to jump the gun here where we talk about um making people forgive , you know , I , I think I used to be there , you know , just forgive and let go . No , when I , maybe when I had um .
I can point to two major issues as um , aside from the one I had with my father , because , looking back now , that wasn't any issue compared to that right , because of course I had to live with my father , so that level of unforgiveness could not really exist . It shows up when you don't have that kind of , maybe that level of contact . I don't know .
You're sharing your story and the first one I want to talk about .
The second one was not recent one was not , so not recent , um , and and I'm talking about it because I I thought that at that time I'd learned how to forgive , because after the first one happened , I got that unforgiveness or well , not having my peace , even though I'd said that forgiving lasted almost seven years .
Every time I think of that person , or somebody talks about that person or something happens like I just feel upset okay , so you just feel upset .
So so , um forgiveness , to be honest right stares up a myriad of emotions . Yeah , forgiveness does stare up a lot of emotions . Yeah , and , like you said , it is in the oversimplificated yeah but it is just peace .
But what I think , just like you said now , that we tell just forgive and let go , when people we tell people forgive and let go , I I don't think I ever was there at that sport , laugh if you want .
But and and you know it comes of when people ask me and like I was here in the studio and she was asked , she was asking me how I could , and I had a couple of people , especially those who know a bit about you know who , to me she is like how , and for me it is I can't help them to carry their load together . Will I process the hurt ?
Will I process the pain ?
I will , but holding on to them and I've had like , of course , like you said , our parents will maybe not be able to say you know , but I've had friends who I don't want to say , I don't even want to say I didn't want to say stop , we just had miscommunications or I elevated oh , I , yeah my perceived roles in their lives and there was miscommunication .
So it's always or I'm the one will hurt them . Yeah , right , by being mean right right . So , um , when people get to the point where , because I was listening to someone when I was listening to that podcast , it was a , it was that it was someone in the Middle East , very popular couple , the Middle East .
They broke up and then she had this interview and on the interview the presenter asks if she forgives . She said no , I forgive nothing . Fast forward and they asked her why doesn't she forgive him ? Because she said she now said that because she knows that she's done her best , so anybody will hurt her is because , do you understand ?
right and I'm listening to that and so the you know and she is from the other faith , because we have to look at it
¶ False Simplicity of "Just Forgive"
through the letters of faith , yes , religion faith yes , even our , even our indigenous religion is faith and fast forward to Ramadan of that same year , or that was this year , last year , and she's trending again and she's like the first thing that came to my mind . It might not have come to anybody's mind , but the first thing that came to my mind .
It might not have come to anybody's mind , but the first that came to my mind was you said you couldn't forgive .
hmm so yeah , for good for giving up at that time , or she wasn't the guy already has a second wife .
Third religion allows it already has a second wife . But they're true , they have children , see girl the co-parent and she was making a baby . She was telling him I made up because of you , I put myself together because of you , because you were coming .
And it goes to show that when we , or science , when science says that the first emotion , it takes 90 seconds , I don't know how true that is , I heard it emotion .
It takes 90 seconds , I don't know how true that is .
I heard that it takes 90 seconds for us to process any emotion . Whatever you're feeling after that 90 seconds is the memory , right , the memory of that event is what you're either worshiping or holding on to , but to process it , bring processes at 90 seconds . Now there is no one , maybe Jesus or some prophet .
I remember a prophet that told people that they should burn out because they called him bold . But there is no one who , I think , can process in 90 seconds and not carry the memory of a pain . So it's now how we navigate or romance this memory that would or could lead to unforgiveness or forgiveness of unforgiveness .
Unforgiveness If you stay in that silt for too long or in that suit for too long , you are then carrying . That is my opinion . You're just carrying the person's load and the other person is the one who has character questions . And this is where you know I love him , somebody . I said to he should be , I should be his influencer .
Domigo Ruiz's four agreements number two is my favorite and do not take anything personally . So I think that the major question is , while we process , while the brain process that pain in 90 seconds , we do not honor the hurt , the memory , the yeah , the hurt that memory is going to . We're going to have to navigate to get to the point of forgiveness .
So do you think that we don't we rush into forgiveness without honoring that hurt ?
That makes a lot of sense you know , because I'm thinking back to you . Know I told you about two different incidences you know . The first one was where , when I thought I'd learned how to forgive , it took me about . It took me almost seven years . I'm not kidding . The first one was when I thought I'd learned how to forgive .
It took me about seven years , I'm not kidding . The first three years I was almost in constant pain . Physical pain . I would remember it and I would be depressed . And it wasn't like we had . It was just a case of I felt I was loyal and the person was disloyal .
This person was older than I am and it took me that length of time I served this person and it took me that long , but in that process it was .
You know , god , I'm trying to forgive , get this thing out of my mind If I close my eyes and I sit up in my prayer store and eventually I was , I was at a place where I could , I , I saw the person after that and I I felt nothing and I knew that I was free , right , and during that time I had I learned to start saying I forgive you .
When anybody does anything to me I don't like , like , I forgive you , I forgive you , even though it was possible that at that moment I hadn't . Yeah , yeah , but because I was using that phrase
¶ Personal Stories of Forgiveness
, I think they didn't allow those hurts to take root , right , because what happened much later , which is the second one , was and it was just this morning I'm on this bible study group and we're talking about esther and then we're talking about um was a private study on book of esther . We go to that place of how we , how we can allow um content resentment .
I can't , I don't like this person to build up into it when we don't deal with it that I realized that this second one happened because I stopped saying I forgive you because to your , to your brain , yes , yes , yes , yes , yes you know , because it wasn't like I knew that this person did anything until much later .
We had a conversation and this person didn't take accountability for what they had done , and then he hit me .
I'm like oh no , and then it took me another one and a half years yes .
To fully get to that place where I could say you know what I feel that I've forgotten . How did I know ?
I said to this person I miss you and I didn't feel any pang I just felt , oh , I couldn't say that and I knew then .
That was the point I knew .
Okay , so , since we're sharing stories , let me share one , because sometimes , sometimes we mistake speed for strength . We mistake the speed at which we say I forgive you just like you know for strengths um , but with strength is death . And I'll give you an example .
Of course , for those who know , I stare for it , but they're there when I say I'm a survivor of sexual molestation . You know at least it's not one person . And it was in a community . It was in a community and before my parents transitioned , I would go to events that had to put all of us together .
and I'm on the edge right , I'm on the edge because some of them , like you said , I hadn't taken accountability .
One person actually walked into me and tried to hit on me again and my mother was just about two tables away , married with two kids I , that is , I'd be married to kids and I just thought my mom and there to go and she was like I said I have to go , who's going to drive you , that she gets me to drive her . So I had to go .
Then my parents they were all there to at my parents funeral . My mother's funeral it was a big shaker because I didn't see anyone . My mother's funeral it was a bit shaky because I didn't see anyone . My father's funeral I was out for war , yeah .
Then just this April I was in another forum where all of them were and for the first time , for the first time , I had peace . I sat down . I was seeing everybody . I saw a handful of them and I sat down and I was smiling . I was like , oh , I'm in a better place than these people , and I'm not saying that out of pride .
I'm like no , no , and it was not because I had in quotes , because I always say to people when people ask me a question , how are you ? Yeah , because I know that . I say to myself it's easy for me to say that I forgive this person . I can't let go because in my head we were all died for .
And if this person dies before me and they repent with their last breath , they will get to heaven before me . And they repent with their last breath , they will get to heaven before me . And I'm still here struggling . I'm telling you . That's how I rationalize why I can't let go easily . I can't let go easily .
But then the process is in my head was sitting down this April , just just as this last I was in God . My husband was supposed to go with me to that event , but for some reason I knew I don't believe in coincidences for some reason , very , very mundane reason , they couldn't go .
So I was the only one who went , and this particular family very , very close to my dad , and so I don't know what , whether because this family was close with us and there was no um , there was no member of that family that messed up with me , whether as friends , or maybe that was what gave me the peace because I could see my friends , like I could see
my friends are like oh yeah , those are my friends and we grew up together and all of that , so it was sitting down at that event this April made me think , oh , you really really a better person and and it's , it's .
And there was one person they put a call through that normally I would have , because the person never , because I confronted this person and they never , never . In fact , what the person said to me was to me she let it go . Now you know things that we've done .
There was no acknowledgement , do you ?
understand , just let it go . And I'm like the hell you know , but they put a cop through him through drawing that and I'm like , oh whatever whatever , um . So I think that you know we get to the point .
What happens is when people saying I have forgiven you , we think the speed of that is strength , but the real strength is sitting with after I have forgiven you and dealing with your emotions .
Whether you're going to use faith but they're going to use journaling , whether you're going to use praying and please don't go and you shop or no , you don't you know , because , yeah , these are things that does .
There's a point a person can hurt you and the pain that comes from that , just like Hagar , the pain that came from seeing her son that , forgetting that she was what I , that was rude to her mistress but do you get it ? The pain that comes from that is what we must come to acknowledge . And it takes me back to the story , the video that started this .
And then , when Yalavanzad said to the , the man you don't have to forgive , which is the born of contention here you don't have to forgive , I'm like , yeah , it's not that inyala was telling him not to forgive . What he was saying she was saying to him is process it plus .
The lady was , I think it was missing was now yes I don't know if that would have made sense to people that didn't like yeah , but I think if that you you don't have to forgive now
¶ Honoring the Hurt Before Healing
it would have changed the con . I I think it would have changed the context because it would have meant that you know what . Sit down with what it is that you said , think about it , allow it to simmer . I'd be upset , be angry , but put yourself in a time , time space to allow this not to become toxic to you .
Sit down with it , think about it , but don't let it be for you , because that that that you don't have to forgive it seems like full stop Rather than comma . Do you understand ?
But , man , there's a lot to process there . There's a lot 25 years . Yes , three girls , three girls . That middle child was like mama , you do better , you better . You know , because that middle child had the agency to trust her father . Imagine , and then she comes back with you should have fought for the girls . They haven't fought for her .
You know what I said she's an evil , wicked person .
Against the lie that you have . How was he supposed to defend himself ? She's an evil , wicked person , just against the lie that you have . How , how was he supposed to defend himself ? So when , in that kind of situation ? Because I know these days , but again .
you should talk . How did she get there there ? How would you allow resentment become contempt that you now hate ? Get to the point .
You don't hate so muchex King's . Healing is the new high , preparation for this conversation , and there was a story . Of course we are you and I read into many right now , but I don't think I've told you about . Healing is the New High by Vex King and there was a story in there . A girl , perfect family .
They brought them up well , no wahala , like good , fine , like good upbringing . And then one night she went down and she's violently raped hmm , and then she gets back home . She just stays on .
She didn't know what to do hmm , there was too much good in her , like that evil was not something that she could shed experience you know , and and she stayed under the blanket and um she told her parents and because the parents also didn't know how to deal with it , and you know , I know what that means .
When that story came up , so she , she , so they kept telling her you have to get back out there . You have to get back out there you have to get involved . Yeah , you know you know that evil is always . You can't stay inside all the time .
Of course she did go back out , but she said that , ruining with energies that were against the energies with which she was brought up with . You understand , there was rebellion , basically until and she went into drugs . She went to , just to get an attempt , get her parents attention that , look , I'm dying here . Eventually she got a therapist and all that .
Of course , we all know that healing is not a destination . It's , trust me , it is a way of life .
It is not destination it's a life journey , it's like it's deeper than a life journey .
But when something like that , like that video happened , where there are children involved , where there's conditioning , where there's , where do we begin then ?
You know , I'm just thinking about the man and again I'm thinking about his personality , right , I think , as the laid back , quiet kind of person . And she's the choleric , she wanted a fight , yeah .
She , you know , I don't know , some people don't like peace , no , but I think that because even just that few minutes showed how they would be in the house , she would want to wear the pants right and the man would be just calm down . Because how can you say to somebody you've accused for 25 years that why didn't you fight ?
I wish I could stretch my hands and give her a slap like how ? Like you've been caught in the act . You've been , you've just been caught with that name . They asked you two questions on the line detector , line detector , and you were . You were caught . You were , there was a court and you're still there saying why . You know , I I was stuck at that .
Why didn't you fight for a while ? Because up till now I still don't know where that . Why didn't you fight ? Come ?
from . So let's go back to the comment on your post . Um , when , uh , when I said , um , I think a friend of yours said it's okay to forgive what it's not okay , it's not a lot of person process , and I said , I agree , we shouldn't got defied and , um , we shouldn't got to fight . We shouldn't ?
you don't know what I was going to remember when I saw her comment what was going to happen ? I was going to do it , but the initial comment threw me off . The initial comment threw me off because , for me , what I'd seen was not where she was coming from .
She was coming from a , a I don't want to jesus kind of from shop , just forgive she was coming from . That first sentence sounded like just forgive , just and and I know that sin I didn't I didn't watch that video , no I didn't , I didn't , I knew I was , I knew I'd . And if she had started with the last sentence ? It would have made a lot of sense .
But you know , I typed it though . I typed it , I typed it , I just cancelled . I'm like what would . Jesus do ?
What would Jesus do ? So it's imperative to say here , as we continue this conversation , that healing demands expression , not suppression , and I know there's four ways . Yeah , even if you're a non-confrontational person like me , yes , believe it or not , everybody listening my voice sounds like it . So just , I'm extremely non-confrontational .
Until they push you to do well , yes , until .
I get to the wall .
But I would rather not yeah .
I would and I know that it because because of that I would write more . And the motion that I cannot write somebody is something hurt me and I cannot write about my journal or I cannot make a post about it or do something about it . Then I mean the deep
¶ Forgiveness Without Reconciliation
, then that makes me stop and say , okay , what's going on here ? What is this , you know ? What is this here to teach ?
you . This thing you're saying is what we have to deal with in that process of going from the hurt to forgiveness . If we don't ask ourselves why did this thing hit me this badly ? To find the root , because there's always these things just don't happen . There's something that has been sown that is now maybe an Iroko tree or a bamboo . They need to find .
How did it get into your life ? Where did it start from , I think . What did you allow Exactly ? Until we get to that place , in that journey , that process of healing Cannot begin .
And this leads me to this In the process of healing , when you think somebody or you perceive somebody has offended you , forgive yourself first .
You have to if you don't forgive yourself first because you think that you allow or you know that you allow this thing to go on and on and then , like you said , until they push you to the wall you have to get a point when you where you forgive yourself first . It's see if I'm going to say what forgiveness is .
It's the ultimate self-preservation to me , because for me to say I've , I don't even know like and I'm not trying to be spiritual about this thing like it's too much . Lord , like my mama , my mom , my mom , there was something that happened towards the end of her life and we had put a call through to someone and I was so upset the way .
And then she turned to me and she said you have a right to be upset , but I was still she . It's his load , it's his question , don't help him answer it . Probably one of the no . She said a lot of things towards the end of her life , but that particular one , it hit me in such a way that okay .
So now imagine me finding Domega Ruiz and the four agreements and exactly what my mom said . Anyway , it never back me me finding the mega Ruiz and the four agreements in exactly what my mom's everything about me . So I had to get to the point where I forgave myself truly , truly and truly , and I can .
When somebody says this is like where were you when I was good , to be honest when somebody says ah , don't you , is he little sad stories that you have in my head , like we were was a teenager . When I was a young adult , when I was a child , when I was going through this , you were not there .
You didn't know how , you don't know the agency that I had to tap into right . But that statement , that statement that my mother made , changed everything for me , every me , my bad be , ah okay . For those who don't understand Yoruba , it's Lord , don't carry it on their behalf .
I was going to say something , but this ties into it . Everything we do in life requires everything that gets us from one point to a higher point in life requires reflection . Reflection is mostly mixed with our beliefs .
Reflection is this is what happened to me oh my God , yoruba is deep and then you're coming to a place where you have a belief system Right , for example , this is a belief , it's a belief system , right and you're not coming from a place of somebody has hurt you and you're mixing it with this belief system that says to you this is not your problem , this is
that person's problem .
it allows you to have a different perspective to someone who doesn't have that belief system , to somebody who thinks they hurt me , I allowed them to hurt me , just and I was thinking about it when they're like yes , most of the outcomes of our lives is based on our memories , like it's past event , right , but if we develop and usually there's nothing we can do
about that usually but if we develop the right kind of belief system , it allows us to be more comfortable , right , with a lot of the things that has happened to us in the past . Right , allows us to , allows us a different passage of the processing right into a much higher , higher how do I describe it ? a much higher being of who we currently are .
See , I think that we'll go to boundaries and forgive , because people one thing that comes up , especially when people come to my coaching table , is can forgiveness happen without reconciliation and boundaries and all that ? We'll get that in a moment done without reconciliation and boundaries and all that We'll get that today .
But I think that , because forgiving yourself as a person is hard , it's probably why forgiving others is also hard , if you can look at yourself and truly look at yourself and say that , oh , yes , I love this , but that was how much I knew at the time and if I had known better , I probably would have done better and then move on from there .
But we get stuck in that place of oh , I should have done better , yes , you should have , but did you know to do better ? No , you didn't , no , you didn't . And this comes to it's like you're not taking accountability for your actions when people , even in relationships , they saw all the red flags .
You know , I don't even know what red flags are , but the thing is right . So there has to be some red flags in any relationship right , yeah there has to be some red flags , because , because , if it is perfect , then something is wrong .
Everybody has red flags .
Everybody has . You don't know the red flag that you are flagging and he doesn't know the red flag you are flagging to him and he doesn't know the red flag . You know TBT . It is getting to the point of understanding that how much of this person's TB can come and join my theory hmm , how much of this person's good is going to make my bad ?
but , how much of this person's hat is going to make his good , but chips that ? So these are the questions that I never want to do there . So do you think we can forgive and still maintain boundaries ?
Yeah . If in fact you said , forgiveness cannot happen without reconciliation , I don't think so .
Okay If forgiveness Reconciliation with self , reconciliation with the other person .
No , no , no . You don't reconcile with self . How can forgiveness happen ? Again ? It's not . Oh , I wish that . So what I tell myself now , even when I do what I shouldn't do , is I did it Okay .
So what's going to happen ? Are you going to die ? I did it , I did it . I Are you going to die .
I did it . I did it . I said to myself , like , oh , I did that . Okay , we move on , I'm not going to , I'm not going to Take the lesson and just move . And that's part of it doesn't mean that I'm I'm being responsible , because it doesn't mean that I won't do it again , but it just means that that particular time I'm not going to kill myself .
I'm going to kill myself . I'm going to take the lessons , begin to look for how to improve , get better . I think you know so when you say yes , I believe that we can forgive and creep , in fact , if there's . I was telling my mom recently I'm like , and she knows everybody . She just complained . I said I don't know .
My only is I don't know , everybody's fine . No , everybody will be fine . No , I can't even why . Because I moved and the funny thing is that I'm very comfortable there . I used to be that kind of person that I used to worry a lot about people . Why ? Why people like this ? Why people that you trust , people that you expect to be there for you ?
Now I'm very comfortable . You're not being there . No , the level of peace that I have achieved I've attained by just not having that expectation of you .
Oh , you see this expectation you were saying to me . I was saying it in one episode no , no , no , no .
We should have you have it . See , that's an expectation , I will have an expectation of you . It will just not be like if I'm , if I'm in friendship with you , I expect that it's reciprocated oh , no , no , no , no , you can't be , no , you can't be my friend . What kind of friendship is that ? There are no levels of expectation .
No , let's not even go there , oh , my goodness . Let me go back to forgiveness . So , um , yeah , we can
¶ Building Healthy Boundaries After Forgiveness
, because , again , like I I said , peace is like uncaging yourself , like forgiveness is like uncaging yourself . So what you can do is , rather than have the cage around you , you just have boundaries with whoever that is . I'm okay , we're good .
Oh , hello , hi , but let it be , we're just we're actually fine , I hope , but you know there's a level of of availability that'll not be available .
That's it , and there's space . And that's good , we should be comfortable , see , we should be comfortable with the fact that people that used to be in our inner space are no longer even in the outer court .
I we should . What manner of violence is this ? No , no , but that's the truth . I don't . We should , I'm , I'm . What manner of violence is this ?
but that's the truth . I I don't believe that I'm in all the inner cults of people . Oh , definitely that I used to be , definitely , yeah , so why should I be upset that somebody ? Why should anybody be upset with me that they used to be close to me . They're no longer close to me .
Yeah , problem 10 year at least we're on the same page with that . Oh , my goodness . So this is how I'm going to . Before I do the call to action , what will be your final not final words ? I'm so , you're right , but you're not last words either . How would you tie this up ? Yeah , how would you tie this conversation ?
oh god , I'm so , you're back , yeah so when to me she said we should do this thing in forgiveness , and like I still said to her when I got into the studio , they're just , they're just topics that we touch but we can't , really , we can't finish because we , because you think that you understand forgiveness , until you see somebody who understands forgiveness ,
somebody who , so I would think I understand forgiveness and I talked to to michelle , and then I know that I don't understand .
I really don't understand forgiveness , because you having conversations with your parents and then there's I saw a video of someone who killed somebody's brother and then the brother said I forgive you and then asked to forgive , please , please , I've forgiven you , but now I want to hug you . Do you realize that forgiveness is in levels ?
Maybe your being born again is not born again . No , so that's why I said it's a belief system . That person's belief system must definitely be stronger in terms of how they see and perceive life . You know , and that's how I think . So my , my partner words would be um , our world view is not the only view .
Yeah , and doesn't necessarily mean it's the best view . Yes , the best thing we can do for yourself , for ourself , is to develop a belief system that is valuable , that is worthy of , of existing right , that allows us to process things holistically rather than from just one one less .
Yeah , all right , my closing reflection I found the word because I was the last one . My closing reflection will be that forgiveness isn't about rushing past the pain . Um , the last episode I said something about you do not walk around the thing . You do not get your heal when you tiptoe around the pain , but when you walk through it .
It's about giving ourselves permission to feel , to heal and to free our hearts when they're truly ready .
Healing is not a race it's a rhythm , it's a dance there are times they are going to be they're going to feel like and there are times you know it's a dance- it's a lifelong thing .
Trust your own pace because somebody else is going to do something to you that reminds you of that thing . Yes , so you're good . Yes , and then yes , hence the stop . Breathe , notice , reflect , respond and resolve of living mindfully , like in this past month . I have learned to live by that all over again because at some point I did forget so .
Thank you for listening . If today's conversation has said something to you , please do not rush past it . Sit with it and , if it feels right , share this episode with someone you love , someone who might need a reminder that healing is a journey they don't have to walk alone . Yeah . Love yourself , Love your neighbour , love your country .
Above all of this , love God . He is the essence of your being . Follow us on all socials . I am Uluwatsumishi Ola dapu kuku , and you know who is .
Ola .
Until next week .