Are you someone who avoids making decisions until the last moment ? Are you someone who just likes to go with the flow and not have too many rules? If you said yes to these questions, the chances are you value freedom but you find it difficult to discipline yourself. And it’s not because there is a problem with you. It’s because you are not managing your brain right. In this episode I talk about how making decisions in advance is the best thing you can do to not only increase your belief in your...
Jan 25, 2021•26 min
Do you feel out of control in your life sometimes ? Do you have results in your life that you don’t like? Then you must listen to this episode This episode shows you how thinking at a higher level gives you complete control to create the results you like. No matter where you are in your life, thinking at a higher level will help you create better / higher level results. You will hear a number of examples of situations where me and my clients changed their thinking to a higher level and created a...
Jan 18, 2021•32 min
Are you too busy? Do you feel rushed? Do you feel like you don’t have enough time? We often believe that the output we produce is dependent on the time we spend. Well that's not true because it doesn’t take into account the magnificence of your brain. Your brain has huge capability and you aren’t even utilizing a fraction of it. This is the reason when I tell women I can help them free up 10+ hours each week for their personal goals, they seem shocked and don't believe it's possible And yet, few...
Jan 11, 2021•36 min
Growth requires change. When we grow, we change into a different version of ourselves who thinks differently, feels differently. However often we try to change by taking a lot of action, but our actions are not aligned with our identity and don’t produce the results we want. Those actions prove ineffective because they are in conflict with the identity your brains associate with. This is why focusing just on action and not on changing the mindset is the hard and long way of getting to your goals...
Jan 04, 2021•41 min
“The best way to predict the future is to create it” – Abraham Lincoln. And I couldn’t agree more. Which is why I bring to you 3 steps that will help you predict and create your desired future in 2021. 2020 has not been a predictable year so far, but that no longer needs to be the case for 2021. New year resolutions break, new plans quit but if you do the 3 things I share in this episode, you can ensure an amazing 2021 for you no matter what. As I talk about these I will also apply these live on...
Dec 28, 2020•35 min
2020 has been a very interesting and unique year. It has been such a unique experience. It has given us many unique lessons that we have never really learnt before. Before you get ready to bid farewell to this year 2021, I invite you to take some time to reflect on what this year has really taught you. In this episode, I share with you 3 questions you can ask yourself to capture the essence of this unique year while getting ready for an amazing new year. I also talk about my reflections and answ...
Dec 21, 2020•31 min
What is failure to you? Is it not being rich or not being in shape or not raising smart kids or not achieving a level in your profession? None of these are failures. I believe the biggest failure is when you don’t enjoy the process called ‘LIFE’ You may end up achieving so many goals but if you haven’t enjoyed the process of getting there, then it is just a list of accomplishments that have no real value for you and you will question why you even did it. Failure is only when you give up. Until y...
Dec 14, 2020•27 min
Do you wonder whether you have it in you to achieve your dreams (e.g. becoming a CXO ?) You may think that people who achieve extraordinary success are special. But that's not correct. Those who become successful aren’t special. There is just one big difference in them though – They choose to think differently. They choose to be self-confident rather than self - doubting. We all experience the world based on our thoughts. Both self-doubt and self-confidence comes from your thoughts. You feel sel...
Dec 07, 2020•31 min
Each of us want same things from any relationship i.e. to feel heard, understood, accepted and loved. Yet, we don’t do these for others. We put conditions on our love for others. We withdraw our love from others based on these conditions. This is what causes relationship issues. This is the reason our relationships drain us and aren’t as fun. In this episode I talk about the power of unconditional love – the power of loving unconditionally. Unconditional love for others not only feels amazing fo...
Nov 30, 2020•32 min
Yay it’s our happy birthday. This episode marks the completion of 1 full year of Mind Tales podcast. Amazing isn’t it? This episode is dedicated to celebrate you beautiful audience. We sometimes think other people who achieve success are gifted. It’s not true. Each of us are highly capable but we don’t focus our energies on the most important things and that stops us from achieving our goals. I share with you 3 most important skills that you need to achieve any goal in life. If you refine these ...
Nov 23, 2020•36 min
Women I coach experience guilt when they spend time on themselves. They feel it’s selfish to do it. But is it really? In this episode, we explore what selfishness really means. And what the difference between being selfish, self caring and self-negligent is. You will learn how to use your guidance system i.e. your emotions to know whether you are being selfish, self caring or self negligent When you are self-negligent, not only do you feel terrible, you limit your contribution in the world. But ...
Nov 16, 2020•29 min
This episode is special. It has to be. After all, it marks completion of our amazing journey together for 50 weeks. To make the podcast even more fun, exciting and transformative, I bring to you a fun packed conversation with a special guest Ritika Goyal. She is an incredible woman just like you. She is a manager at Deloitte, an artist on the side, a proud mum and my awesome client. Join in our conversation to hear about the struggles Ritika faced in balancing expectations of different roles she...
Nov 09, 2020•46 min
Overeating is one of the most common forms of buffering. Almost everyone buffers with food. While food is meant to nourish our body, we are using food to escape our negative emotions. We buffer /with food to get momentary pleasure. e.g. when we are feeling emotionally drained, we eat food to help us feel better. This pleasure from food comes at a cost. When we keep buffering, we end up being overweight, feel lethargic and suffer from severe health issues. Food also becomes a distraction. It dist...
Nov 02, 2020•36 min
Do you drink when you feel frustrated ? Do you eat ice-cream when you feel sad ? or Do you scroll endlessly on social media when you actually want to be working? Then you are buffering,. Buffering is when you do something to escape your negative feelings so you can feel better in the moment. But this creates a negative consequence for us. We end up paying a huge price for feeling better momentarily. What’s worse - It shifts our focus away from the real problem and solving it. In this episode, yo...
Oct 26, 2020•25 min
In last week’s episode, you learnt about the Model – the amazing tool which helps you see how you are responsible for creating every single result in your life. In this week’s episode, you will learn three ways in which you can apply this model to transform your life with real examples to bring it to life for you. We often chase big goals in life, we want to gain more materialistic possessions. Why? Because we think those things make us feel happy, secure and fulfilled. But this model teaches us...
Oct 19, 2020•29 min
This episode is special. I am sharing with you the most precious gift I have received from my coach. I am teaching you the most important tool I learnt in life coaching which changed my life and gave me the clarity I was so desperate for. And I promise you it’s going to change the way you look at your life too. I know it has transformed the way all my clients think about their lives. You have probably heard these words several times – “You create your reality” but most of us don’t really believe...
Oct 12, 2020•37 min
How often do you think about your future ? The future that would be amazing for you… Not very often ? Well, then you will find this episode quite useful as I share why it is so important to stay focused on our future and how to do it. We can either use our brainpower to think about our past which is going to keep us small and limit us or we can use it to create an amazing future for ourselves. Which one would you choose? Staying future focused doesn’t happen naturally. By default, our brains lik...
Oct 04, 2020•29 min
One common challenge moms face today is dealing with kids. It gets frustrating when kids don’t listen to us and follow the rules we set. Our efforts to discipline them don’t work as we intend them to and we can’t figure what to do differently to get our kids to listen. If you face this challenge, you are going to love this episode. In this episode I share how your current approach of discipling your kids is having the opposite effect than you desire. How the way you are raising your kids is sett...
Sep 27, 2020•34 min
Overthinking is disastrous for our well-being. When we overthink, we are basically letting our brains work against us. Our brain power gets used to create the opposite of the results we want and it feels terrible all throughout. It literally has no upside, but only has downside. In previous episode, we talked about how overthinking affects our physical health and productivity. In this episode, we talk about how overthinking hurts our relationships and impacts our mental health. It’s our choice w...
Sep 20, 2020•28 min
Overthinking is one of the common problems women I coach face. Often women come to me seeking help to stop overthinking. They are aware that overthinking is the reason they feel unhappy, dissatisfied with their life. Yet they don’t know how to change it. In this episode we will define overthinking, understand what it is and look into ways it affects us. negatively. Awareness of when you are overthinking is the biggest hurdle in stopping overthinking. This episode will help you cross that hurdle ...
Sep 13, 2020•25 min
Most women managers don’t appreciate themselves enough. Seeing flaws in our work, seeing what’s not working, what needs to improve comes naturally to us but it’s easy for us to dismiss all the things that are working, all the things we are doing well, all the things that are worth appreciating in us. What we don’t realize is how it affects us negatively. Because we don’t appreciate ourselves, we not only curb the momentum that self-appreciation can bring, we also increase our dependency for appr...
Sep 06, 2020•23 min
When was the last time you had a lot of fun? Like really – fun the way you like it. Not the way your spouse or your friends like it. We all love fun. We keep telling us we don’t have time for fun. We have responsibilities, we have work to do, we don’t have time for fun. When you start having fun, everything else becomes easier. You become more creative, you start accessing your brain power, you think at a higher level and you even end up saving time because your productivity is higher when you a...
Aug 30, 2020•24 min
We all walk around in this worked with a very string idea of what’s right / what’ wrong, what makes us better or more worthy than others or even what’s good or bad. Have you ever wondered how this thinking affects us? This is what we dive into in this episode. We talk about how this strong notion of right vs. wrong, good vs. bad is what spoils our relationships, how we feel about ourselves and our experience of life. This is one of the biggest areas I got clarity on through coaching. As my coach...
Aug 23, 2020•26 min
One of the major obstacles that stops us from expressing ourselves fully is the fear of what others will think, the fear of our reputation. This fear contracts us, stops us from enjoying this beautiful amazing opportunity called life. It causes us to have a suboptimal life experience. It even becomes the reason of our self- imposed misery but we end up thinking this is how life is supposed to be. We take it for granted. Acting out of that fear, making decisions from that fear becomes normal for ...
Aug 16, 2020•25 min
Decisions are daily choices we make. This series of choices we make define our life experience. Often we end up either wasting too much time on making small choices or we end up making a big choice in a hurry that we later regret. Decisions are time consuming. If you don’t have a framework for making decisions, you are going to end up wasting two of your most precious resources – your brain power and your time. In this episode, I share the framework I use for making decisions as well as help my ...
Aug 09, 2020•26 min
Time management is not just a nice to have skill anymore. It is one of the most important skills you need today if you are ambitious and want to achieve big goals. The way you use your time is the biggest contributor to extraordinary performance. We all have 24 hours in a day and we all have equally smart brains. But the way one uses those 24 hours is what differentiates someone who continues in same role for long vs. someone who uses the same amount of time to rise up the ladder and become a CE...
Aug 02, 2020•38 min
I am busy, I don’t have time. Do you say or think this often ? We think of time as a limited commodity that we need to manage well. We organise our life around wanting to make the most of this scarce thing called time. We feel busy, we measure everything in terms of time it will it take. But have you thought of why we don’t have time ? Why do we always feel so scarce? Is time our real problem or is it something else? In this episode, we talk about how lack of time isn’t the real problem we face,...
Jul 26, 2020•23 min
Imagine a CEO making decisions based on what employees think vs what they think is right for company. That company is doomed. Yet, this is what many working women are doing today. Each of us is the CEO of our life. While we are well educated, financially independent, smart and ambitious we are not truly living as the CEO of our lives. We are living a borrowed life, where we are making choices to meet other’s expectations of us. In this episode we talk about 8 skills that make a good CEO – 5 of t...
Jul 19, 2020•26 min
In my coaching of working mums, one thing we talk a lot about is husbands. Because what husbands think matters a lot to my clients. It’s not easy for my women to handle disagreement gracefully. Even though they are independent financially, they are dependent on husbands for approving their choices. They don’t feel comfortable making choices if husbands don’t see them as good choices. So what it means is that this constant need for approval from husband becomes a reason these women don’t end up m...
Jul 12, 2020•24 min
If you are a working mum, you likely feel some flavour of guilt in your day to day. In my coaching of working mums, I found guilt to be the top most emotion that women experience – though it comes from very different thoughts for all women. I found a correlation between perfectionism that women experience and guilt that we experience. I was also able to find why is it that women are more prone to perfectionism and guilt vs men. It traces back to how girls are raised vs boys. Tune in to know what...
Jul 05, 2020•24 min
