Perfection in one area comes at the cost of imperfection in other area. This life is so abundant with possibilities that we get to choose where we focus our time and effort on. When we spend disproportionate amount of energy perfecting one thing, we are missing out on several other possibilities that are more important for us. This is what we talk about in this podcast episode. I will help you gain awareness of how perfectionism is affecting your life by asking 3 W questions of perfectionism – W...
Jun 28, 2020•26 min
What is your idea of perfection? Whatever you answer is, I can tell you that is likely to be different than what your boss or spouse will say. There is no consistently agreed or articulated standard of perfection. And yet all our lives we keep chasing some vague standard of perfection we have in our minds and often fail at attaining that. I used to take pride in believing that I am a perfectionist until with the help of my coach, I realized how much this was keeping me playing small. In coaching...
Jun 21, 2020•23 min
Can you imagine living without a smart phone? How difficult would that be right? Except that a couple of decades ago none of us needed it. This is how I feel about coaching. Until you haven’t experienced it, you are like why do I even need it? But once you have experienced good coaching, you want it more and more. This is what happened to me. Until a couple of years ago, I had no idea about how it works, what it could do for me. But since I started seeing the magic of it, I never stopped. Now it...
Jun 14, 2020•23 min
If you are a working mum you have probably heard it several times that ‘You can’t have it all’. Or worse – you even believe it. Well no matter how many times you have heard it or what your experience has been, I can tell you that’s a lie we have been told. Not only is ‘having it all’ possible for you, it is what’s key to living an awesome life. When you give importance to all your priorities in life, you create a balance that helps you perform extraordinarily. It propels you to do your best work...
Jun 07, 2020•22 min
Are you a working mother who feels guilty and stressed? Do you crave to find time for yourself but somehow can’t seem to? Even though you believe in women empowerment, do you often feel disempowered in your own life? If you can relate to this, you are going to love Episode 27 of Mind Tales podcast. As I coached men, women, kids and elderly people, I realized I enjoy working the most and am able to impact the most are working mothers who are managers and leaders in corporate world, partly because...
May 31, 2020•21 min
An authentic relationship by definition means a genuine connection. But are we really being genuine in our relationships? Do we have a genuine connection? Or are we putting on masks to please others and trying to control others, so we feel good? All of us do this in some ways. In this episode, I explain why we have such a strong need to be liked. And how this is coming in our way of having genuine connection and resulting in our relationships being more draining than energizing. An authentic rel...
May 24, 2020•23 min
Covid 19 situation has impacted our lives in a big way. It has affected our productivity. It has many of us freaking out due to the uncertainty involved and having us focus more on things we can’t control. This is a hot topic in my coaching and top of mind for many of my clients right now. In this episode I share an example from my recent coaching session. Coaching on this topic helped my client exercise her choice of what she wants to focus on. Each of us has the power to manage our mind in a w...
May 17, 2020•19 min
Do you feel competitive or jealous sometimes? Do you find yourself wanting to win more often? Then this episode is for you. I talk about why we are so competitive, how it impacts us and how best can we deal with this in way that serves us to live a more meaningful life. While competitiveness has been useful in some ways as it has helped us strive for excellence and is responsible for a lot of fast paced progress in our society and our improved quality of life, it also sometimes keep us limited e...
May 10, 2020•24 min
We all have stories about us. Stories about who we are, who we are not and how we became this person. We love telling these stories and we love listening to other’s stories. Have you ever wondered how these stories from past impact us? What we don’t realize is our brains are these super machines that are busy proving our stories right. Our brains have us act in accordance with stories we think about us .. so that our identity is kept intact. Even if we don’t like our own story, our brain is busy...
May 03, 2020•23 min
I believed in a lot of myths about acceptance. One of them was ‘When you accept something that isn’t right, it means you don’t care enough to change it’. Other one was ‘People who accept easily aren’t ambitious’ And because I was ambitious and I did not want to become this person, I experienced a lot of resistance in my life. After I met my coach, I was able to challenge these beliefs and see how these were causing resentment and discontentment for me. And changing those beliefs has given me pow...
Apr 26, 2020•22 min
Self confidence is the confidence in ourselves. It’s our trust, faith or belief in ourselves that no matter what happens, we are going to be just fine. When you choose self confidence, you no longer hide from your goals or live a small life. You no longer succumb to your fears and insecurities that keep you stuck and away from what you came to do in this world. How many times have you heard the term – ‘Be yourself’ or ‘Be authentic’. When I used to hear this, I would ask myself … Who is this uni...
Apr 19, 2020•21 min
Where does confidence come from? Chances are you said it comes from the experience of having done something before, having practice. If that is true, what explains two people having similar experience feeling completely different levels of confidence in their jobs. Well, confidence doesn’t directly come from our experience, it comes from our thoughts about our experience. This is good news. What it means is no matter what your facts are, you can always find a way to feel confident by choosing an...
Apr 12, 2020•23 min
Our state of mind is what our life experience becomes. No matter what the external circumstances are, what we think about them is what life is for us. The quality of relationships we have, the amount of success we achieve, the richness of life experience we enjoy are all direct results if what our state of mind is. Maintaining a healthy state of mind is what our mental health is all about. It’s a prerequisite for a great life experience. Tune in to this episode to know what does it take to care ...
Apr 05, 2020•55 min
We are facing a unique situation. Covid 19 or Corona virus is spreading in the world. These are uncertain times, we don’t know how this is going to pan out. People are getting infected, losing their lives, losing their source of income, economy is going down. There’s concern, worry and panic on what lies ahead of us. This uncertainty and fear of unknown is affecting our state of minds. Are you being a part of the solution or problem? In this episode I talk about how each one of us can be a part ...
Mar 29, 2020•22 min
You dream about a better life, You want to improve the quality of your life but are you investing in yourself enough to achieve that? Don’t know how to answer that? Take the assessment I have for you in this episode and you can find out. In this episode I cover two ways in which you can invest in yourself. One is by leveraging external resources like podcasts, seminars, self help books, videos etc. The other more important one is internal and requires thinking deeply about what you believe in, w...
Mar 22, 2020•23 min
Do you operate from abundance mindset or scarcity mindset? Do you believe you have limited money or time or capability? If so, you are operating from scarcity mindset? And it’s not working for you, especially when you want to create abundance in your life. For the longest time, I was this person with scarcity mindset when it came to the time I had. I was always busy And I liked being that way because I thought it meant I was using my time wisely, using it effectively and not wasting it. I was wr...
Mar 15, 2020•23 min
We all know we get results when we take action. Most of the times, we also know what actions we need to take in order to get desired results. So the problem is not that we don’t know what to do but we don’t know how to get ourselves to do it. That’s because of all the mind drama we get caught up in that keeps us away from taking actions we need to take. What’s challenging is that this mind drama pretends to be genuine, to be important to indulge in. Yet, there is literally no benefit to indulgin...
Mar 08, 2020•21 min
What happens when you set a goal? Do you get overwhelmed thinking about the effort it will take to achieve your goals? or are you someone who experiences confusion when faced with a big goal? Or Do you let failure in one step of your journey as an evidence that you may fail in achieving the goal itself? If you can relate to any of these, what you are experiencing are the negative emotions like overwhelm, confusion and fear of failure that normally come up when we set a big goal. It doesn’t mean ...
Mar 01, 2020•24 min
No matter what goal you choose to work on, why is it that you want to achieve it can be quite revealing about you. Do you want to achieve your goal so you can avoid the negative feelings you are having now? Do you think you will be better when you achieve your goal? Well if that’s your motivation to go after your goal, not only will it be difficult for you to get yourself to take massive action to achieve that, but you are also not likely to feel any better having achieved it. In this episode I ...
Feb 23, 2020•20 min
Are you someone who is focused on past? Where do you spend your most time? What do you talk more about? – past or future. I know someone is being past focused when I hear things like.. ‘I have always been like this’ or ‘This is just how I have been’ or ‘I don’t have what it takes’ or ‘I’m 44 now’. When we are past focused, we think more about past than future, We rely on our pasts to get evidence for what our future is going to look like. The problem we don’t often realize is that this past focu...
Feb 16, 2020•21 min
Since I released this podcast, I have been asked several questions about goalsetting like why should we set goals? What if we don’t want to set goals and just go with the flow. Of course it’s your choice whether you set or don’t set goals… it depends on the kind of life experience you want to create for yourself. All I ask is that you make an informed and deliberate choice rather than defaulting to not setting it simply because you think it’s a lot of work without giving it a thorough considerat...
Feb 09, 2020•23 min
This is the concluding episode in our mini-series on the topic of life coaching. In this one, I talk about three main reasons why you should have a life coach. I go through a quick assessment to help you determine whether you will benefit from having a life coach. I talk about what causes urges in the moment to not follow through our plan even though we want to and the role coach plays in helping us manage those urges for our long term well being. I also offer a free coaching session in this epi...
Feb 02, 2020•23 min
This is the third episode in our mini-series on life coaching. In this episode, I share how life coaching has impacted me. It has been nothing short of a spiritual journey that led me deeper within myself to access my own wisdom and find answers to questions I had to help reconcile my past. I talk about two key skills I have learnt from coaching and how have they helped me create amazing outcomes in my life. I value these two skills immensely as they influence how I show up in every aspect of my...
Jan 26, 2020•25 min
Would you like to know what happens in a coaching session? How does a coach help a client achieve goals? How does this process work? Then you must listen to this episode where I show you exactly what happens in a coaching session. I break it down with help of A3 model that I have created to help my clients manage their minds. I share how I use this model to lead a coaching session. I also share an example of a real-life coaching session with my current client. Enjoy listening. Share any feedback...
Jan 19, 2020•24 min
Since I became a life coach, a number of people have reached out and asked me what is life coaching and why I made a career shift into it? I realized there isn’t much awareness about what it is. Thus, I am starting this mini-series on this topic. In next few episodes we will delve into life coaching – what it is and what it isn’t, how does it work. I will also be sharing my story of how life coaching has impacted me and what made me get into life coaching full time. Enjoy listening Drop in any c...
Jan 12, 2020•17 min
Our relationship with someone is determined by our thoughts about them. When we learn how to manage our thoughts deliberately, we can choose to have a good relationship with anybody irrespective of what that person does or behaves like. In this episode, I talk about how releasing our desire to control other people and situations leads to freedom and authenticity in relationships. And how I applied this to improve my relationships. Enjoy listening. Share feedback on mindtalespodcast@gmail.com...
Jan 05, 2020•17 min
Emotions are fuel for what we do or don’t do. Just like the right fuel helps our car drive smoothly, right emotions drive desirable actions … actions that move us forward… actions that help us grow. If we can learn the skill of generating any emotion on purpose, we can use it to drive any desirable actions. When we learn this skill, we not only take responsibility for emotions we feel in the moment but also utilise this skill to create lives we want. This is what this episode is all about … how ...
Dec 29, 2019•16 min
We spend our whole lives chasing the positive emotions and avoiding negative ones. But why? Why do we want to avoid negative emotion so desperately? What is so wrong with feeling sad, disappointed and frustrated sometimes? What if we stop trying to be happy all the time and rather focus on living a truly wholesome and authentic life by following our dreams. The willingness and the ability to feel the negative emotion rather than avoiding or resisting it is what it takes for us to achieve our dre...
Dec 22, 2019•20 min
Do you feel afraid, confused or overwhelmed while making decisions? Do you rely on others to make decisions for you? Do you find yourself wanting to make the perfect decision? Do you wonder what it would have been like had you made a different choice? Do you ever regret your decisions? If the answer is yes to any of above, then this episode is for you. In this, I talk about the importance of watching the emotion driving your decision. It will show you how to celebrate decisions vs. seeing them a...
Dec 14, 2019•22 min
What we think is what we create . All of what you have in your life .. good or bad.. is a manifestation of your thoughts and beliefs. If you think you are bad at making presentations, your brain will prove that right for you. If you think you aren’t really good at saving money .. well I guarantee your bank balance will clearly reflect that. If you think you are capable of doing difficult things.. your brain will prove that right for you. If you want to change your reality, you have to change the...
Dec 08, 2019•24 min
