Shawn Hondorp, PhD, ABPP is a board-certified Clinical Health Psychologist and health behavior expert. She earned her doctorate from Drexel University in Philadelphia and completed her pre-doctoral internship and fellowship in Health Psychology at Rush University Medical Center in Chicago. She has a top-rated podcast called Motivation Made Easy: Body Respect, True Health where she outlines effective approaches to improve health and well-being by looking at how research and real-world experience ...
Oct 04, 2022•1 hr 27 min•Ep. 206
I have a little treat for you this week. I am including a coaching clip where I was coaching some parents who have a very strong willed seven-year-old son, and these people are like beautiful people. They adopted this child from another country, and he didn't come to them until he was three years old, and they've just kind of been at a loss. He's dysregulated a lot of the time and they are incredibly patient, loving people. When I started digging into their story early on, I figured out that the...
Sep 27, 2022•20 min•Ep. 205
This week we are going to be talking about the kid that just won't stop playing. Which sounds sweet… but as we listen to this mom's scenario, we discover it's not so sweet. She asks, “Do I just ignore the behavior that arises when I give a consequence or enforce a boundary? They always get angry and then act out.” Apparently, it was time to leave the house in the morning and after prior warnings such as, “We are leaving in 5 minutes…” when it was time to go her child REFUSED to stop playing with...
Sep 20, 2022•22 min•Ep. 204
Hi guys, I have Lynyetta Willis with me today. She is a psychologist and family empowerment coach, and she helps frustrated families stop Stable Misery cycles or unhelpful patterns that keep them stuck so they can create more joy in their parenting or partnerships. Her Triggered to Transformed parent coaching program has helped parents all over the world to confidently deal with their triggers so they can pass on the best parts of themselves and enjoy parenting. Dr. Willis believes that in order...
Sep 13, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 203
This month I'm doing a little series called The Kid That Just Won't. The kid that just won't follow simple requests, like getting their freaking shoes on and getting ready for school. Or sitting down and eating their breakfast. Or coming out of their room, having their teeth brushed, having their hair brushed, having their clothes on their body… the kid that just won't follow simple requests. The kid that won't stop space invading, those kids that are just everywhere you are, just next to you al...
Sep 06, 2022•30 min•Ep. 202
Welcome to the last episode of our series about Bullying, Boundaries and Back-to-School. We haven't talked about any back-to-school typical things, like this is how to set up your binders and this is how to make sure your kids do all their summer work. Anyway, this month we have been following through some of these posts by this woman that I've been calling Marie, who has been posting about her strong-willed children. And we feel bad for Marie and many of us identify with aspects of Marie. We wa...
Aug 30, 2022•26 min•Ep. 201
This seems like an appropriate conversation for episode 200. Again, we are talking this month about Bullying, Boundaries, and Back-to-School. And I think that hopefully you understand that my point with back-to-school is way more than making sure your kids have the right school supplies. If you want to prepare your kids for back-to-school, the best thing in the world you could do is dig into boundaries, badgering, behavior, accountability, and getting to the root of the real source of the misbeh...
Aug 25, 2022•30 min•Ep. 200
Welcome to this episode. We are still going to be continuing with our theme of Bullying, Boundaries, and Back-to-School. The title is The Kid Just Won’t… and I'm going to continue reading some social posts from a mom seeking tips for a strong-willed four-year-old who won't cooperate. We’ve all been there, right? When your child refuses to do what you want them to do. And it tends to escalate, and they become stubborn, and it grows into a big deal when you just want them to pick up some toys. Lis...
Aug 23, 2022•19 min•Ep. 199
We are going to continue with our lovely theme of bullying and boundaries and all things back to school. I know these are not fun topics. I've been working with some different parents, and I just feel like it seems that when things really seem to go south, most of these parents are kicking themselves, and blaming themselves. And they feel like there were lots of warning signs and they put their heads in the sand. I always have only compassion and never judgment. I know it's an impossible positio...
Aug 18, 2022•36 min•Ep. 198
Our theme for the rest of the month is Bullies, Boundaries, and Back-to-School and I have something kind of fun in store. I'm going to feature social media posts from my Strong-Willed Kids group, which are parents of strong-willed kids. And there's maybe 5,000 people in this group, and sometimes I'll into the group, and I'll just read posts by the parents. Because I just want to see what people are struggling with currently. I've read scenarios here before, and for the next several episodes I’ll...
Aug 16, 2022•35 min•Ep. 197
I have somebody special on the podcast this week. Her name is Allie Danziger, and she has a heartfelt passion for helping ambitious people succeed. In 2009, Allie started one of Texas's top marketing agencies. And let me just say this as y'all will hear in the episode, she was all of 24 years old. She is very hard working, and she loves what she does. Allie also really cares about being an amazing mom and sister and wife and friend and daughter. I find her story to be extremely inspirational and...
Aug 02, 2022•43 min•Ep. 195
We are going back to an episode where I really talk about what I think high sensitivity means to me. I read the book The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron and I've read many articles and I've studied this for a while. The acronym is HSP for highly sensitive person. I know many people are familiar with it these days. I just thought it would be helpful because I refer to HSP quite often. And so if you have heard this term, or maybe you haven't heard this term, and you're curious about it, list...
Jul 19, 2022•22 min•Ep. 194
Welcome to this episode with Christina Furnival, a San Diego based wife, mom to two young children, licensed psychotherapist, writer and children's book author. Christina has over a decade of experience in the mental health field and she's helped countless families work through anxiety, depression, behavior challenges, and big life changes. Christina uses her personal and professional experience in her articles and books to support adults and children around the world. Christina's passionate abo...
Jul 12, 2022•52 min•Ep. 193
I just celebrated my daughter's 21st birthday. We're out in San Diego because she is doing some internships here and we decided to relocate to California for a while. So, I've been working from here. And I have been with my daughter a lot lately. She goes to school in Santa Barbara and we went back to Santa Barbara last weekend to celebrate her birthday and have a whole special weekend. We had a lot of time on the road together, and over the weekend we were processing what is happening in our co...
Jul 05, 2022•32 min•Season 1Ep. 192
Here is another conversation that I had with one of the moms in my Mastermind Parenting community. I was doing these live sessions, these live report card sessions, where we were just assessing where you were, where you are, where you're going. It's a big part of the process that involves changing behaviors, right? We can't expect our kids to change their behaviors if we're not changing our behaviors. When you have a kid that presents as “strong-willed,” quite often they may just be feeling misu...
Jun 28, 2022•49 min
I have a fun conversation for you this week. I have been doing these live report card sessions with some of my current moms, and I had scheduled one with Michelle and Liz. They have been in my program for a long time. They’re just amazing women and we were doing our session as a Facebook live, and there were a few technical difficulties and so whatever it was fine, Michelle and I ended up being live and then Liz was just kind of chiming in and commenting. But then she left us a follow up message...
Jun 21, 2022•44 min•Ep. 190
Today I am going to give you a little preview of what we do inside of our Mastermind with what I call a live report card session. Now I explain why it's really important to do these report card type assessments. And what I want to tell you is anytime you're trying to change a behavior, whether it’s in your parenting or exercise and food, there's a real reason why most of us fall off the wagon, because behavior changes hard. One thing I've studied over the years, along with parenting, is how do p...
Jun 14, 2022•42 min•Ep. 189
Parents, learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts with this 5-part video training series and 3 days of live coaching. Welcome to Part 5 as we wrap up this amazing series! We review the three big topics: Spanking, Time Outs, and Sticker Charts. None of these are ideal strategies for setting boundaries and you’ll learn why. Listen to this episode and you’ll get some tips on what you can do differently. To sign up for series announcements and coaching updates, and to l...
Jun 10, 2022•25 min
Parents, learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts with this 5-part video training series and 3 days of live coaching. Welcome to Part 4 of this strategy-packed series! This might be a little controversial, because so many parents and teachers use sticker charts, but I’m going to explain why they aren’t a good strategy. Using sticker charts inhibits intrinsic motivation and inspires entitlement. Listen in today as I show you why sticker charts should be avoided, and ...
Jun 09, 2022•18 min
Parents, learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts with this 5-part video training series and 3 days of live coaching. Welcome to Part 3 of this series packed full of great tips! Today we are covering Time Outs. While not as violent and traumatizing as spanking, time outs are still not a desirable approach to setting boundaries with your kids. They can increase lying and rebellion among other things. Listen in as I unpack why you should avoid time outs. To sign up fo...
Jun 08, 2022•23 min
Parents, learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts with this 5-part video training series and 3 days of live coaching. Welcome to Part 2 of this powerful series! Today we are covering a huge “NO,” spanking. Listen in to learn why spanking should never be used as a discipline solution, and strategies you can use instead. To sign up for series announcements and coaching updates, and to learn more about this special bonus series, go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/s...
Jun 07, 2022•31 min
Parents, learn how to set limits without spanking, time outs, or sticker charts with this 5-part video training series and 3 days of live coaching. Welcome to Part 1 of this powerful series! To sign up for series announcements and coaching updates, and to learn more about this special bonus series, go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/settinglimits You may be asking yourself, “What should I do when the kids are acting out, fighting, or won’t take “No” for an answer?” You’ve tried time-outs, pu...
Jun 06, 2022•30 min
The last couple of episodes, I've been hitting on some heavy topics. I’ve also been sharing a little bit about my process and that I'm testing some hypotheses right now in preparation for a book I'm writing with my friend Sarah Miller. And I've been picking a lot of moms' brains about just what we're most worried about. One of the biggies that comes up… What do you do if your kid has a diagnosis or a label? Is my child going to be like this forever? Is this just a phase? Is it “normal” for kids ...
May 31, 2022•39 min•Season 1Ep. 188
I am continuing the conversation from last week, so if you haven't listened to Episode 186, go and check it out. As I mentioned last week, I'm currently doing some research and planning, because I'm writing a book with a pediatrician and fellow Mastermind Mom, Sarah Miller. We're testing out some different hypotheses. It's going to be a book that is written and sort of conversational between the two of us, looking at the doctor's perspective when we as parents are seeking their advice and their ...
May 24, 2022•35 min•Season 1Ep. 187
I'm doing a bunch of research right now because I have just started writing my second book! And this one's going to be a collaboration with my friend and fellow Mastermind Mom, Sarah Miller. She is a doctor who is a pediatrician about half the time, and half the time internal medicine. We're having a lot of fun, and we're just in the outlining, planning it out phase right now. And we're testing a hypothesis. So, the hypothesis is basically that when you have a child who, from a very young age, i...
May 17, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 186
Do you want your kids to be successful in school? I know most of us want our kids to grow up to be the kind of people that have the skills to manage their time and frankly, their lives AND unfortunately, because many of us struggle with these skills ourselves, we can feel overwhelmed by this topic. I sat down with a true expert academic coach with a background in organizational psychology. Evan Weinberger is the owner of Staying Ahead of the Game, an worldwide academic coaching and tutoring comp...
May 10, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 185
This week is a big episode for me, and you don’t want to miss every morsel of this conversation with the author, Michaeleen Doucleff. She wrote Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans . I make her fascinating book required reading for every parent I work with in my private programs. This book is not like other parenting books - it reads like a fascinating anthropological study of human behavior. The oldest cultures in th...
May 03, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Season 1Ep. 184
In this episode, I sat down with Josh, a dad that sort of reluctantly became a Mastermind parent. I hear from moms ALL THE TIME that their husband is not willing to learn new parenting tools and may even think it’s unnecessary and foolish. Well, this might be an episode you INSIST your husband listens to because Josh was also “Mastermind Parenting resistant” not so long ago. He questioned my credibility and “real” qualifications to do what I do, but his badass wife, Ali, wouldn’t take no for an ...
Apr 26, 2022•51 min•Season 1Ep. 183
So, what constitutes a difficult child? I think we need to start with that and that's even a hard thing to say, because nobody wants to call their kid difficult. Right? I get it. We have a kid that's struggling. Our household feels anything but peaceful. We have a dream that we want our kids to be at peace. We want a calm environment. We want that household that maybe we didn’t have but desired when we were growing up. We have all these hopes and dreams. And now you have a child who is “difficul...
Apr 19, 2022•35 min•Season 1Ep. 182
What do you do when you and your partner disagree on parenting styles and strategies? Unfortunately, this is the case with most of my moms. In this episode I unpack a story that is all too common. It’s a story of a volatile household, “To-Do List Sex,” and constant stress. The mom in this story has stuck with the Mastermind Parenting program and learned new methods of parenting. She stayed in her own lane, kept slogging along, and made mistakes along the way. But she’s done her own work, created...
Apr 12, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 181
