My guest this week and I chat about how parents can be empowered as experts on their own children. My guest today is Allana Robinson. She and I connect on so many levels and have a great conversation about some new science around parenting and what we’re learning. Allana is a parenting coach, as well as a registered early childhood educator and developmental specialist. We know now that it’s not just triggers and consequences that shape behavior. In fact, the “old school” ABA (Appiled Behavioral...
Apr 05, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 180
In this bonus episode, I’m weighing in on the Oscars drama where Will Smith slapped the shit out of Chris Rock. There are so many opinions and different angles being discussed right now and I doubt you’ve heard one like mine. Have a listen and join the conversation on social media to let us know your thoughts! Web/Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/...
Mar 31, 2022•23 min
Chances are, if you're listening to this podcast, you have a hunch that you've got a strong-willed child. In today’s episode I wanted to talk about what really constitutes a child being strong-willed. Firstly, isn't every child strong-willed at some point or another? That's what I always say to the people who come to me, that everybody's got a “strong-willed” child. The truth of the matter is that Mastermind Parenting is really for all humans. It's just that our strong-willed ones are the ones t...
Mar 29, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 179
Many of you are searching for tips on how “not to” parent. This doesn't surprise me because I've talked about this on the podcast before. Asking for the “not to’s” instead of the “how to’s” is part of our human condition. It's much easier and more natural to focus on what not to do rather than what to do. I've heard this referred to as the human negativity bias and it's something that we've carried over, it's part of our primal wiring. We're always scanning our environment for things that might ...
Mar 21, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 178
We’ve been taking some of recent episodes back to the basics, and today I’m going to unpack the three parenting styles I see most often and explain to you which one I feel is the most effective. (Spoiler alert: Mastermind Parenting, that’s the one that’s most effective.) Now, we’re all inclined to naturally gravitate toward the style we grew up with, that’s what our automatic pilot is going to guide us toward. We all have ideas on what we want to do, which if you’re listening to this podcast, I ...
Mar 08, 2022•39 min•Season 1Ep. 177
Today we are going to be talking about social media, the online world and how technology impacts kids and how parents struggle to manage it all. I have a special guest, Rania Mankarious, who wrote the book, About The Online World: What You Think You Know and What You Don’t . She wrote this book because parents were telling her how overwhelmed they feel about the online world, and kids tell her they need help and they don’t know how to talk to their parents. We all see the effects of this disconn...
Mar 01, 2022•55 min•Season 1Ep. 176
How do you discipline a strong-willed child without spanking or yelling? We’re building on the last two episodes where I started to unpack the topic of how to best discipline your child. Today I’m focusing on how to avoid spanking or yelling. Most parents know that spanking doesn’t work, and yelling doesn’t either, but most households still spank and yell. A lot of us grew up with spanking as part of our family discipline model, and yelling too, so it can be easy to fall back on these as a “go-t...
Feb 21, 2022•28 min•Season 1Ep. 175
How do you discipline a strong-willed child who just won’t listen? We’re building on last week’s episode where I unpacked the topic of how to best discipline your child, going a little deeper to tackle those stubborn kids. And the more you request they do something or change a behavior, the more they dig in and just won’t budge. So frustrating, I know. Bing ignored and dismissed when you’re supposedly the authority figure can feel demoralizing, rude, and disrespectful. It also can feel chaotic a...
Feb 15, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 174
How do you discipline your child? This is one of the most familiar challenges parents face, and one that I often see parents get wrong. It can be a struggle to get your kiddo to do what you want them to do, what is expected of them. I get it. In fact, I’m going through it all again right now, with a new puppy! Today I’m going to give you a good definition of discipline, and how it is entirely about teaching, and has nothing to do with punishment. And I know it can be tempting to use a punishment...
Feb 08, 2022•38 min•Season 1Ep. 173
In this episode, hear what I have to say to a mom who swears by the “spanking stick” to get her boys to do chores. If you want your kids to be responsible and do chores but know the spanking stick is not the answer, sign up for Mastermind Minimasters to learn the right way help kids grow into responsible family members and humans. Join the Waitlist for the FREE Video Series: How to set limits with your strong willed child without spanking timeouts or sticker charts: Mastermindparenting.com/nospa...
Feb 01, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 172
In this episode, I weigh in on a few scenarios involving extreme defiance like hitting, kicking, spitting and what to do instead of spanking, time out or sticker charts. Join the Waitlist for the FREE Video Series: How to set limits with your strong willed child without spanking timeouts or sticker charts: Mastermindparenting.com/nospanking Sign up for our Minimasters program and get access to our private podcast: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters Join our Free Facebook Group: www.face...
Jan 25, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 171
In this episode, I read a mom’s scenario about a judgey grandparent telling her to spank her son and properly discipline them. I have a lot to say about this and how to handle out of line judgey grandparents. Join the Waitlist for the FREE Video Series: How to set limits with your strong willed child without spanking timeouts or sticker charts: Mastermindparenting.com/nospanking Sign up for our Minimasters program and get access to our private podcast: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters...
Jan 18, 2022•20 min•Season 1Ep. 170
In this episode, I coach on a few problem scenarios by moms of strong willed kids, including lying and overall defiance. One mom said she felt defeated because she had a plan for parenting in a holistic way, from natural birth to breastfeeding, and now she finds herself washing her child’s mouth out with soap and spanking because gentle parenting isn’t working with her strong willed one. I made a 5-part video series about the common discipline strategies parents use and why most aren’t effective...
Jan 11, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 169
In this episode, Jenny and I unpacked so much - you guys are going to absolutely love her as much as I do! We discussed women’s health and tapping into our knowing, career shifts, finding the right fit therapist, gaslighting, boundaries, as well as seeing our own blindspots through group coaching and therapy and even more. Jennifer Friedman is a Physician, Counselor, Writer, and Teacher. She has studied and taught different forms of healing and possesses a unique understanding of the mind-body c...
Dec 28, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 168
This episode is for all you gals who have a hard time dealing with the moments when your kids are bored or disappointed. I teach a few powerful concepts through the characters in the old show, Gilmore Girls. So if you’re a Lorelai lover and even if you aren’t, you may find yourself with a surprising desire to watch this cult classic series on Netflix. Download the 3-Step Productive Conversation Cheat Sheet: https://mastermindparenting.com/productive-conversation/ Join our Free Facebook Group: ww...
Dec 21, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 167
If you are a mom who struggles with establishing rules/boundaries and then holding the people around you accountable by actually following through on what you really want to do, this episode is for you! I’m sharing my newest teaching metaphor about “Hott Todd and Brenda from homeroom”...my Mastermind Moms loved this one and I think you will too. Enjoy. Download the 3-Step Productive Conversation Cheat Sheet: https://mastermindparenting.com/productive-conversation/ Join our Free Facebook Group: w...
Dec 14, 2021•27 min•Season 1Ep. 166
This week’s episode includes a coaching clip with my daughter Avery who dropped in on one of our weekly coaching calls. Listen in as Avery shares her natural temperament, the tools you need to increase self awareness and why it’s important to understand how your kid is wired so you can best support them. Download the 3-Step Productive Conversation Cheat Sheet: https://mastermindparenting.com/productive-conversation/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks...
Nov 30, 2021•21 min•Season 1Ep. 165
This week I sat down with my son, Alec, to discuss highly sensitive kids and resistance to shots, needles and vaccines. My intention is to share Alec’s experience, the mistakes I made and hopefully help you to do better than I did. Enjoy! Download the 3-Step Productive Conversation Cheat Sheet: https://mastermindparenting.com/productive-conversation/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you...
Nov 23, 2021•37 min•Season 1Ep. 164
In this episode, I talk about adult female friendships and why figuring out who is a friend for a season, a reason or a lifetime has a direct impact on how you show up as a parent. Got a question you'd like Randi to answer? Leave us a message at: https://telb.ee/ynpys. Yours could get featured on the show! Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others c...
Nov 02, 2021•24 min•Season 1Ep. 161
On this episode I talk about how the 15-year-old boy on the show, White Lotus, inspired me to change the conversation in my own family around feeling fully ALIVE. Got a question you'd like Randi to answer? Leave us a message at: https://telb.ee/ynpys. Yours could get featured on the show! Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from ...
Oct 26, 2021•23 min•Season 1Ep. 160
In this episode, I share a few stories about girls, their changing bodies and how to help them have a healthy body image. Got a question you'd like Randi to answer? Leave us a message at: https://telb.ee/ynpys. Yours could get featured on the show! Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the soci...
Oct 12, 2021•30 min•Season 1Ep. 159
In this episode I’m sharing a tangible roadmap for how to talk to your kid’s teacher when there is a problem at school. Start by seeing the teacher’s perspective. Teachers get a lot of emails. Keep yours short and sweet. Acknowledge and respect their time. I know you are juggling a lot and your time is valuable. I’m concerned about _____ and would like to get your thoughts and/or set a time that works for you to discuss ways to support my kid at school. Listen more than you talk. Hear from the t...
Oct 05, 2021•30 min•Season 1Ep. 158
On the podcast this week is a conversation with Brooke Wise, host of the podcast, No Approval Needed. I think you’ll enjoy hearing the topics from our own unfinished business around girl world and middle school social issues to consent culture conditioning to begin teaching healthy sexual identity, after school structure, boundaries and more. And of course, I weave my 3 step SAP process for having a productive convo throughout the episode. See their perspective. Actively listen. Problem solve to...
Sep 28, 2021•1 hr 35 min•Season 1Ep. 157
In this bonus episode, I’m having a conversation with Nancy Perry, co-owner of Big Power Yoga in Houston, Live Alive Adventures and Out Here Yoga in Colorado. She’s a magical presence and I think you guys will learn a few things and maybe even change your mind about becoming a yogi yourself. Seriously, yoga has been the most practical method of trauma healing for me and it’s the ultimate self care regimen in my opinion. You deserve to feel better. I promise, you won’t regret incorporating yoga i...
Sep 21, 2021•1 hr 3 min
OOOOH I’m a little spicey today because this is a very hot topic. Colorful language alert: Listen to this one with your earbuds! Also, here’s the article that I read at the end of the episode. Enjoy! https://medium.com/@info_36262/how-to-help-kids-mask-up-877b1007d707 Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please sha...
Sep 14, 2021•36 min•Season 1Ep. 156
In this episode, I respond to worrisome scenarios presented by moms regarding the 2021 school year. There’s a lot of examples of how to help your kids during this trying time and how to handle the hard conversations that will build resilience and ultimately, set our kids up for success. I also briefly reference an article I wrote about helping kids to responsibly “mask up”: https://medium.com/@info_36262/how-to-help-kids-mask-up-877b1007d707 Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/...
Aug 24, 2021•37 min•Season 1Ep. 155
In this episode, I talk about the mindset that will help you begin the school year from a place of self awareness and pack leadership. Our kids are going back to school and the last year and a half has been hard and stressful for all of us. I included a coaching clip where I model how to gain more self awareness in a practical and fun way. I’m here for and with you during this crazy time. I believe in you. Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for liste...
Aug 10, 2021•31 min•Season 1Ep. 154
Seth and I had a candid convo about life before he was “drinking the Mastermind Parenting koolaid” and what actually helped him and his wife, Sarah, begin to parent on the same page. We talked about what got him to buy into the process and truly become part of the solution rather than accidentally adding to the tension in the family. We cover male privilege, explosive moments and how to support your partner when he/she is dysregulated and more! Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/grou...
Jul 27, 2021•39 min•Season 1Ep. 153
In this episode I told a bunch of true stories to really explore the concept of emotional dysregulation and how it informs “less than awesome” adult behavior. As we continue with the summer of balance series, it’s important to explore adult behavior and whether you and your partner are modeling the behavior you are expecting of your kids. It can be very difficult to look honestly at yourself, check in and get curious about your own patterns. Yes, this adulting thing is hard! Many of us avoid tak...
Jul 13, 2021•40 min•Season 1Ep. 152
In this episode, I discuss how often our strong willed kids show up in ways that are problematic and when the most immediate issues are resolved, sometimes the deeper issues fall through the cracks. On this episode, you’ll hear from a mom whose son was being bullied at school. I describe how this mom was able to help her son develop a critical “lagging skill” by becoming curious and going beyond the surface situation. When we look deeper, we can begin to help our kids gain new skills and ultimat...
Jun 29, 2021•30 min
