In this episode, I talk about the virtual learning reality many of us are facing for this upcoming 2020/2021 school year due to the current Covid pandemic. First of all, last time I checked, most of us didn’t sign up to homeschool our kids or to deal with a pandemic. Therefore, we need a minute to adjust to this reality and get in a productive head space. You really have to allow yourself time to process so that you’re able to face the mindset piece b/c most likely, you didn’t volunteer to help ...
Aug 04, 2020•34 min•Season 1Ep. 126
In this LONG episode, I really ramble on about all sorts of stuff:). I really lost track of time, went off the cuff and talked about why loving pack leaders must have boundaries. Pack leadership minimizes meltdowns because it represents confidence, strength and safety. Boundaries define borders and ground the people feeling unbalanced in their nervous systems, i.e., the melting down big and little humans. I have found that many moms have a really hard time with boundaries. I believe at the core ...
Jul 28, 2020•56 min•Season 1Ep. 125
In this episode, I breakdown the concept of emotional safety; what it really looks like to have it, create it and demand it. My own little “armchair expert” theory has led me to believe that many of us were not raised in environments where it was safe to feel all the intense feelings. Humans crave to feel unconditionally loved and celebrated for the real person we were born to be. I see this time and time again when I really get to know people. I think we are born as perfect little humans and th...
Jul 21, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 124
In this week’s conversation, I’m breaking down the concept that anger is rooted in fear and when fear is on the scene, growth cannot occur. When our kids, or frankly anyone, displays meltdown behavior, the anger often feels palpable. It’s scary. Fear is directly linked to explosive meltdown moments. It’s actually quite normal to have fears. Humans are actually designed to scan our environments for danger. This is called the human negativity bias. So if you’re a person that has many fears, the bo...
Jul 14, 2020•28 min•Season 1Ep. 123
This month on the podcast, I’m talking about the roots of meltdown behavior...for all humans. We often use the term “meltdown” to describe a young child’s explosive behavior. However, I want to invite you to consider looking at your own behavior as well. When humans feel unsafe or outta control on the inside, we act out those feelings with outta control behavior on the outside. It may look like explosiveness, numbing or “over” behaviors like overeating, over drinking, over shopping, over gossipi...
Jul 07, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 122
In this episode, I’m sharing a FB Live I made in my Mastermind where I candidly discuss talking to our young teenage boys about porn and sex. Fun topic, right?!? I mean, really...can you imagine a more uncomfortable topic between a mom and a encroaching puberty? Look, if you can talk about sex and porn with your developing kids, what can’t you talk about? AND when we’re families that can have difficult conversations, our kids will be more likely to turn to us for support when they experience som...
Jun 30, 2020•28 min•Season 1Ep. 121
In this episode, I talk about this time of metamorphosis and using it to re-balance, re-calibrate and get back to the basics of bike riding, swimming and skating. Many of our kids are missing out on these basic skills and as a result are unbalanced. Go outside with your kids. Get on a bike. Lace up some blades. Get in the pool with your kids and allow yourself to get pruney. We are all going through a metamorphosis right now and it’s time to get back to the basics. We need this as humans. Enjoy!...
Jun 23, 2020•16 min•Season 1Ep. 120
In today’s episode, I’m speaking to a mom of a 4-year old about his mean behavior towards the family’s new puppy. Mom was concerned her child might be a psychopath. She asked for help in a public FB group for parents and the comments of several fellow parents made me mad. GRRRRR. They gave her incorrect info and essentially confirmed her fear that there was something wrong with her kid. Not. Helpful. The child is not a psycho killer. He’s four! He just needed different guidance to become a littl...
Jun 18, 2020•17 min•Season 1Ep. 119
In this episode, we hear from a dad in the Mastermind. You guys, I LOVE this man. I know many of you struggle with getting your man on the “Mastermind” train. I feel like this dad says the things we need for all the reluctant husbands to hear. They might not YET understand that parenting is NOT women’s work. They might still be acting like privileged men and NO, don’t tell them that. My point is that I hear your frustration. I feel it. I wanna slap some sense into all the dads out there that are...
Jun 09, 2020•23 min•Season 1Ep. 118
In this episode, I talk about my kid’s graduations. Yup. 3 kids and 3 big 2020 milestone events. Graduation from middle school, high school and college. The virtual grad ceremonies and car parades are just not the same as the real thing. Sigh. Like me, I know many of you are watching your kids go through LOTS of disappointments right now. We hate when the people are disappointed. I think many of us are so uncomfortable at the thought of our kids experiencing disappointment that we tend to fixate...
Jun 03, 2020•15 min•Season 1Ep. 117
In this episode, you’ll hear a clip I made for my newest Mastermind members about the most important beginning tool I teach, P.E.T. Present. Engaged. Time. This is where we have to start with all kids who are consistently defiant and defensive. Even though many parents want to immediately jump to the consequences to “fix” their child’s behavior, it’ll never work. We must connect before we correct. PET is how we connect. I talk about building connecting moments into all the caregiving things you’...
May 26, 2020•16 min•Season 1Ep. 116
In this episode, I’m discussing boundaries...what are they, how do we set them and how do we get other people to respect our boundaries? If you have kids that constantly invade your space or refuse to listen to your words, please listen to this one MULTIPLE times. Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in replacing the old school lectures with a tool that actually improves behavior through productive convos. Grab your problem-solving cheat she...
May 19, 2020•26 min•Season 1Ep. 115
In this episode I discuss the realities of working from home with your kids all flippin’ day long! I share 3 lessons and some immediate actionable steps you can take to create smoother days. Enjoy! Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in replacing the old school lectures with a tool that actually improves behavior through productive convos. Grab your problem-solving cheat sheet here: mastermindparenting.com/problemsolving For more help, reac...
May 12, 2020•24 min•Season 1Ep. 114
In this episode, I’m having a conversation with podcaster, Laura Max Rose and we really break down my entire framework to solve any problem with your kids. This is a longer episode than normal. You guys are going to find it jam packed with tons of tools and concepts to put into practice immediately. It is literally the best condensed version of pretty much the most important elements of Mastermind Parenting. Enjoy! Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will ...
May 07, 2020•45 min•Season 1Ep. 113
This week on the podcast we are sharing a convo with me and fellow podcaster, Laura Max Rose. Laura is a mama of 2 little girls and we discuss the REAL topics about the working vs. SAHM choice. Laura shares her struggle about this decision and we go all into this very relevant topic. Enjoy! Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in replacing the old school lectures with a tool that actually improves behavior through productive convos. Grab you...
Apr 29, 2020•59 min•Season 1Ep. 112
This episode is from a private video I made for the Mastermind where I discuss why I believe this crazy situation is upon us and what the real solution involves. What does it mean to be a grown-up? How do WE show up as the calm and clear grown-ups? When it feels like the world is in desperate need of nurturing and healing, how can we aid that effort by getting back to the basics in our own homes? You don’t need to lead a protest to make a difference in the world. Just sayin… Get my problem-solvi...
Apr 21, 2020•17 min•Season 1Ep. 111
This episode is from a FB Live I did for my private membership community. I’m sharing what I’m doing in my own household from establishing rules and systems for the week to proactive projects to clean up my mental clutter. I discuss the way it REALLY went down in my household, including dramatic reenactments of my resistant teenagers. We sat our kids down to discuss the plan for our new crazy Coronavirus normal and trust me, they weren’t exactly excited about the structure and accountability. En...
Apr 14, 2020•14 min•Season 1Ep. 110
Bringing out the big guns...I use the Mastermind NICE blocks to examine our children’s behavior during this Corona craze. We are walking through how to show up as the pack leader during this nutso time in history. Enjoy! Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in replacing the old school lectures with a tool that actually improves behavior through productive convos. Grab your problem-solving cheat sheet here: mastermindparenting.com/problemsolv...
Apr 07, 2020•28 min•Season 1Ep. 109
On the podcast this week, I’ve included a clip from a convo I had with The Styling Social Justice ladies, Rania and Donae. We talk about Coronavirus anxiety and how to talk to our kids about the uncertainty many of them are experiencing regarding this new normal right now. We walk through the SAP process and really spell out how to have a productive convo about this unprecedented time in history with your kids. If you would like to listen to the full episode of the Styling Social Justice podcast...
Apr 02, 2020•21 min•Season 1Ep. 108
In this week’s convo, I’m including a training I did recently on the MP NICE framework to solve any problem. This is one you may wanna listen to on repeat. It’s literally the exact recipe for solving ANY problem with your kiddo or frankly anyone. Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in replacing the old school lectures with a tool that actually improves behavior through productive convos. Grab your problem-solving cheat sheet here: mastermin...
Mar 25, 2020•35 min•Season 1Ep. 107
Anyone feeling anxious about pandemic safety measures and all things Coronavirus? Remember: “CALM PEOPLE SOLVE PROBLEMS”. We are the grown-ups. We must put our pack feminine leadership energy into action and nurture the people and frankly, society with loving guidance and total badassery. Move over corrupt leaders of the world...the MAMAS (and a few evolved Daddies are in the house). We. Got. This. Tips: -Practice hand washing and social distancing -Model collective and community thinking for yo...
Mar 16, 2020•19 min•Season 1Ep. 106
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about parental censorship when it comes to what your kids watch on TV. I walk through a productive convo on this topic. Enjoy! Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in replacing the old school lectures with a tool that actually improves behavior through productive convos. Grab your problem-solving cheat sheet here: mastermindparenting.com/problemsolving For more help, reach out to me for support...
Mar 10, 2020•14 min•Season 1Ep. 105
In this episode, I share a personal story that I hadn’t shared for almost 40 years until now. You’ll hear a personal story about me from when I was 9 years old. I also tell you about my process of putting the puzzle pieces of my life together and how I choose to focus on the aspects of my story that feel useful to me. This is a vulnerable episode for me. Can’t wait to hear whatcha think. Enjoy! Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in replaci...
Mar 03, 2020•21 min•Season 1Ep. 104
This week on the podcast, we have our 1st sleep segment with sleep consultant, Cory Greenberg. Cory will be on the podcast periodically answering listener questions about all things sleep-related. If you’d like to submit a question to be addressed in a future sleep segment, join our Mastermind Parenting free FB group and post your question there. Make sure to tag Randi Dunn Rubenstein when you do. Enjoy! Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you ...
Feb 25, 2020•14 min•Season 1Ep. 103
On the podcast this week, we have our inaugural kids’ edition. This is one where I speak directly to your kids by sharing a story about a 13-year-old girl. I would say that mature 6-year-olds and older will be able to connect with this story. Don’t worry parents, you can listen in as well - lots of little pearls. Please let me know if you’d like to see more kids’ editions on the future podcast line-up! Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in...
Feb 18, 2020•22 min•Season 1Ep. 102
On the podcast this week, I’m talking about a recent convo I had with a pediatrician that I think you’ll find interesting. We talked about misunderstood kiddos and how the adults in their lives can support them to feel better and ultimately behave better. We talked about medication, behavior modification and more. Can’t wait to hear whatcha think. Enjoy! For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets o...
Feb 11, 2020•13 min•Season 1Ep. 101
This episode is about creating more time in your life. I think you’ll love the tangible memory capturing tool I share in this episode called, Story of the Day . I call it Story of the Day and base it off of a practice I learned from author and speaker Matthew Dicks. This episode is filled with lots of little personal stories from my life that I’m hoping will prompt you to reflect more on the impactful moments and stories from your own life. I also discuss what’s coming up on the podcast like our...
Feb 04, 2020•27 min•Season 1Ep. 100
In this week’s episode, you’ll hear from Mastermind moms and dads about their biggest a-ha’s after becoming a Mastermind parent. I think you’ll be surprised about some of their takeaways. Hint: Not a single one of them is feeling like their kid needs to be fixed or changed. They all realize that perfection is NOT the goal. Enjoy! For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering paren...
Jan 28, 2020•19 min•Season 1Ep. 99
The podcast convo this week has to do with a concept I learned recently from author, Elizabeth Gilbert, called Tribal Shaming. I share a recent story from my life where I was guilty of doing this to my son. Shame is destructive and insidious. I can’t wait to hear whatcha think! For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Master...
Jan 21, 2020•26 min•Season 1Ep. 98
In this week’s podcast, I discuss the best things to do when your kid experiences a loss or a setback. The best thing to do is mostly S.T.F.U. Yup. You heard me correctly. I discuss more in this short FB Live free training I did. Enjoy! For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty year...
Jan 14, 2020•12 min•Season 1Ep. 97
