Our convo this week is about diffusing a potential meltdown when your kid is starting to spiral. This is a clip from a FB Live free training I made. I think you’ll enjoy the story about my crazy person moment from a trip last summer when some other hotel guests were making a mother truckload amount of noise in the hallway at 6 am. I become crazy when you wake my sleeping babies because guess who’s gonna have to deal with their foul moods all day. Me! That’s who. My teenagers are far from cranky ...
Jan 07, 2020•20 min•Season 1Ep. 96
On the podcast this week, I talk about getting into the driver’s seat of your life and what I’ve found to be the most effective way to change behaviors and get different results. Isn’t it time for you and your family to truly THRIVE. Enough already. You want more. You deserve more. It’s the beginning of a new decade. Just think, where will you be in 2030 if you stop waiting and take real action steps today to create the life you crave? What. Are. You. Waiting. For. 54321 GO! (Thanks Mel Robbins ...
Dec 31, 2019•24 min•Season 1Ep. 95
On the podcast this week, I talk about how difficult the holiday season can be with our challenging kids. They ARE harder to parent. Period. I discuss what our strong-willed kiddos truly need to show up as the best versions of themselves...structure and follow-through handled in a non-shaming way. There is a formula to achieve this along with a LOT more peace in your household. Whether you choose to follow the methods I teach in Mastermind Parenting or to reach out to a conscious parenting exper...
Dec 23, 2019•17 min•Season 1Ep. 94
On the podcast this week, I’m sharing an audio I made for my Mastermind about a talk I had just attended where Gloria Steinem spoke. It’s stream of consciousness style and it really got me thinking about how prevalent the threads of “control” are within our society. I think you’ll particularly like my personal story about a recent time when I found myself being a controlling mom. Enjoy! For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide...
Dec 17, 2019•14 min•Season 1Ep. 93
In this week’s convo, I tackle the lovely topic of judgment from snarky relatives...especially prevalent during the holiday season. Oy. I teach my “go to” mind mastery tool that will bubble wrap and protect when other people’s negativity and insecurity attempt to hijack your holiday. Enjoy! For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my sig...
Dec 10, 2019•23 min•Season 1Ep. 92
This week I’m sharing a personal story about my 18 yr old daughter dealing with college pressure and the strategy I used to help her. My bestie, Allison, said hearing this story really helped her in supporting her daughter so I thought I’d share it with you guys too. The tool I used can be applied to kids of all ages that have pressure when it comes to school, sports, societal norms, etc...i.e. Uhhhh, I think that’s everyone! Would love to know whatcha think! For more help, reach out to me for s...
Dec 03, 2019•15 min•Season 1Ep. 91
Today, I’m complaining about the problem of complaining. I’m not here to pretend that I don’t do it or act sugary sweet and barfy as if I’m so above it. I just want to share some of my thoughts, learning and ongoing love/hate relationship with complaining about things I wanna change... in other people mostly :). For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've ...
Nov 26, 2019•17 min•Season 1Ep. 90
This week’s convo is about parenting hypocrisy. Recently, a mom shared with me all the “aha’s” she and her husband were having re: their expectations for their kids and the realization that they weren’t holding themselves to the same standard. As I like to say, “Model the behavior you seek”, and this mom was able to have a truly self-aware moment. More frequently than she’d probably care to admit, she was not modeling the calm reasonable behavior she expected from her kids. What about you? It ta...
Nov 19, 2019•8 min•Season 1Ep. 89
Our convo this week includes a clip from my Mastermind where I discuss a 1968 study done in a school called the Pygmalion Effect. The Pygmalion effect is the phenomenon whereby others' expectations of a person affect the person's performance. The bottom line is that what we think and say about a child has the ability to greatly impact their future success. So remember, your words have power...when you speak unkindly about your kids, it represents what you’re really thinking or worried about and ...
Nov 12, 2019•18 min•Season 1Ep. 88
I’m leveling in a big way on the podcast this week about what’s really going on with your strong-willed kid. I use the term Defense Zone to describe this state of high alert where many of these kids live so much of the time. These kiddos need our help learning new skills. AND, we have to remember to connect before we can effectively correct. Enjoy! For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my m...
Nov 05, 2019•12 min•Season 1Ep. 87
In this episode, I’m sharing an audio of me coaching a mom in the Mastermind whose 17month old was starting to display aggression towards her. I role play in this clip how to focus on the skill-building rather than the mistake or misbehavior. Remember, what we focus on grows. We want to uncover the root of the behavior to effectively teach new skills rather than putting the emphasis on the problem and accidentally reinforcing the negative behavior. Enjoy! To discuss whether the Mastermind is a f...
Oct 29, 2019•19 min•Season 1Ep. 86
In this week’s conversation, I talk about the big difference between staying stuck vs. how to truly create the life and family you know you’re meant to have. This is a concept that you can apply to pretty much any area of your life where you don’t yet have the outcome you want...from peace in your family, to the career or even your version of your ideal body and appearance. Yes, I like to feel and look great. I believe that we all deserve to love our lives. This episode will help you get started...
Oct 22, 2019•22 min•Season 1Ep. 85
This week we’re talking about preparing for the teen years with a strong-willed kiddo...and if you’re already there, you’ll still find great takeaways to begin seeing your situation differently and improving your relationship with your child. This is a must-listen for every parent that has or will one day be a teenager. To discuss whether the Mastermind is a fit for you, book a call with Lindsey , Mama Success Manager, on my team. For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstei...
Oct 15, 2019•21 min•Season 1Ep. 84
On the podcast this week I have another helpful clip from a coaching call in the Mastermind. I talk about a 5-year old that needed to be pried off of Mom every morning at kindergarten drop off. We cover separation anxiety, having a productive convo to change the routine and what following through looks like for realz. For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe....
Oct 08, 2019•15 min•Season 1Ep. 83
In this episode, I share some in the trenches Mama tips with my Mastermind moms. The mom that I was coaching was frustrated with the afternoon environment in her home. The boys were overtired and there was a lot of fighting, crying and tension. I walked Mom through a realistic plan, some practical tips and helpful ways to shift her mindset and embrace her reality. So often it’s more a mindset shift than anything else. It’s about learning to stop “resisting what is” that will allow you to create ...
Oct 01, 2019•12 min•Season 1Ep. 82
This week’s episode is a clip from a coaching call in the Mastermind. I talk about how it affects your kids when you’re going through a hard time like divorce, a cheating spouse, health problems...unfortunate stuff adults go through. I discuss tactics to use and how to have a useful mindset when “life happens”. We cover the yin/yang in life, building resilience and grit and the goal of teaching our kids that difficult moments in time won’t break us. For more help, reach out to me for support: ht...
Sep 24, 2019•13 min•Season 1Ep. 81
In this episode, you’ll hear me coaching one of my Mastermind Mamas about her almost 3 year old who has suddenly become “destructo” girlie. I use Mastermind Parenting Pillar 2: All Behavior is Communication as the foundation to get curious and problem solve with her and uncover the root to little sister’s sudden troublesome actions (like throwing all the dinner napkins on the ground and knocking down older brother’s Lego creation). I think you’ll enjoy hearing how we spin the scenario to see it ...
Sep 17, 2019•14 min•Season 1Ep. 80
In this episode, I sat down with author, speaker, Stanford grad and professor, Nir Eyal. I had the pleasure of reading a pre-released copy of his latest book, Indistractable. It’s a must-read for anyone, like me, that has trouble putting your phone down. We can’t expect our kids to have a handle on the screen thing unless we hold ourselves accountable too. My family’s screen use and struggles have been reduced by half because of Nir's impact. You guys are going to love him. Enjoy! NirAndFar.com/...
Sep 10, 2019•46 min•Season 1Ep. 79
In this episode, I discuss the common pattern that exists in many families involving kids that seem to have no quit when it comes to demanding what they want when they want it. Sound familiar? If so, I think you’ll find the show very insightful and helpful. Enjoy! Topics Covered: Mom guilt Pattern Repetition Demanding behavior Lack of boundaries Mind mastery Listening to your body whispers Typical reactions to badgering behavior Why the badgering behavior continues For more help, reach out to me...
Sep 04, 2019•20 min•Season 1Ep. 78
Lying drives us nuts for obvious reasons. I want you to ask yourself the simple question, “Is your goal to be right or to be happy?” In this short and sweet episode, I discuss that you may be fighting unnecessary battles? My thoughts may leave you with a few aha’s. Topics Covered: Lying Pick your battles Parenting and playfulness Little kids create their own reality Little kids live in the present moment For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free...
Aug 27, 2019•9 min•Season 1Ep. 77
In this episode, I talk about a mom who resonated with a line from a book about not raising jerks. I go into the details about how not to raise a future jerk. Enjoy! For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not ...
Aug 21, 2019•12 min•Season 1Ep. 76
In this episode, I’m hooking y’all up with the big mistake and 3 tips so that you can set the tone for a productive and awesome school year. You’re welcome. Topics and Tips: Big Mistake: The big mistake is not having a PRODUCTIVE convo ahead of time and establishing the plan and the consequences. Top tips to spell out during the convo: No devices in car rule Establish how many return to school trips per semester Back to school bedtime/wake up plan begins 3 days before school begins For more help...
Aug 13, 2019•19 min•Season 1Ep. 75
In this episode, we have a situation involving a boy who confided in his mom about a fear he’d been having for over a year. Tune in to hear coaching clips from our convo. Enjoy! For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has th...
Aug 06, 2019•11 min•Season 1Ep. 74
Q: My mom gets really upset when my kids refuse to hug and kiss her hello or goodbye? Should I make them? My answer combines old school values about respecting your elders with a new fresh approach on the summer series. Do you have any questions you’d like me to address in upcoming episodes? Reply to this email and ask away: randi@randirubenstein.com For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my...
Jul 30, 2019•10 min•Season 1Ep. 73
Recently I had a mom ask about her 6 year old’s penis touching “habit”. When you're a family that talks about EVERYTHING… Sometimes touchy subjects arise. In this summer VLOG, I combine some old school common sense with a newer age method to help this mama have a productive penis convo:) I think you’re gonna find it helpful as you begin to tackle these things with your own kiddos… AND yes, you’re allowed to have some fun with it! Enjoy. For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirub...
Jul 23, 2019•11 min•Season 1Ep. 72
Happy Summer! Most of us want our kids to have good manners. We want them to grow up to be responsible citizens of the world. We want them to NOT embarrass us in front of grandparents. I consider these old school basics. Unfortunately, many of the old school values were taught in a way that ended up shaming, berating and belittling kids. So how do we support our kiddos in learning all the “things"? I believe it’s a dance that combines these old school values with new age methods that don’t mutil...
Jul 16, 2019•10 min•Season 1Ep. 71
Is your kiddo quick-tempered and even "defiant" more often than you’d care to admit? If you’re nodding hell to the yessssss… I think you’ll find this week’s short podcast helpful. For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has ...
Jul 09, 2019•7 min•Season 1Ep. 70
Are you sick of reminding your kids about EVERYTHING?! You may even find yourself doing the "things" for them that you know they can do for themselves. And even though it feels sometimes like your life is not your own, you continue to do the "things" for them. Because you're tired. Tired of reminding. Tired of arguing. Tired of power struggling. Tired of them procrastinating. I mean just take a FREAKING bath already and get ready for bed. So you oversee and assist and it usually ends in a scream...
Jul 02, 2019•8 min•Season 1Ep. 69
My daughter’s 18th birthday is in 5 days. I can’t believe I blinked and we are entering her 18th summer. On the podcast this week, I discuss my feelings as a mom of an almost grown and flown daughter. I also give the deets on the backstory of choosing whether or not to hold her back as a kid with a summer bday. For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've b...
Jun 25, 2019•7 min•Season 1Ep. 68
This week on the summer "Mastermind Mascot" convo, I’m talking about sleepaway camp and homesickness. My 3 tips that I discuss are: 1. Meet them where they are. 2. What you focus on grows. 3. Check yourself before you wreck yourself. For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years a...
Jun 18, 2019•9 min•Season 1Ep. 67
