Episode #189

Welcome to the Mastering Midlife Podcast, where we talk about all the crazy fun things that happen when you are a midlife mama. I'm your host, Heather London. Let's dig in.

Hey friends! Hola amigas! I am back. I have just this most delightful story that I wanted to tell you. The other day I was out for a walk with my boys. Both my boys are back at home. And we go for a daily walk or in the morning to try to get the sunrise light in your eyes or the sunset light in your eyes for your circadian rhythm. It is so powerful. Anyway.

I was going for a walk with my boys which I absolutely love to do and all of a sudden we could hear like a kid screaming and yelling and it's like oh we both we all the three of us we all stop and we look and we can see it's time.

for the kids to get out of school and come home from school and there's this path that these kids come down to get to where we live and there was it looked like a bigger brother who was probably in grade i don't know like one or two maybe he was like okay maybe he was yeah eight or something like that and then another little boy like a little boy who didn't even look old enough to be in school and he was laughing but he was behind the

the bigger boy, we're going to call them brothers. And he was laughing and skipping and the older brother was in front and the younger one was behind and he was trying to catch him and laughing and having a great old time. And then all of a sudden, like, like. that in a heartbeat it turned into like tears and moms we all know what that is like you're like having the time of your life as a kid and then one second later it's all hell and it's horrible

And the next thing you know, this kid is throwing a fit. He's screaming at the top of his leg. He's so devastated. He's so distraught. And he's screaming. And it's because his brother... isn't waiting for him and he's too far in front of him but the interesting thing is every time the big brother would stop the little kid would stop too and then he would just keep crying and screaming and yelling and it was like

oh my god my heart hurt because i felt bad i felt so bad for the little brother even though the big brother wasn't doing anything wrong that's just It's just how we roll. You know what I mean? Like when we're siblings or family members, we know what it takes to get a reaction or what you want out of that family member.

he was screaming like he was so distraught and then eventually they met up and i can't remember how if finally like the big brother stopped and the little brother actually caught up to him But it was so fascinating because they... sat there and i don't know what they were saying because they were across the street they were kind of they were really far away we were just watching this from afar but we the three of us stopped and watched this whole thing play out and the

The one little brother finally caught up to the big brother and then all of a sudden the big brother like hugged the little brother and they were talking.

and then they turned after their little talk they turned and started to walk away and they held hands like the big brother grabbed the little brother's hand and it was so oh my gosh the three of us just melted we're like oh what did we just see it was so insane like the whole thing was insane and powerful on many many levels like just there was so much to unwrap but it really

It just filled my heart with joy to witness that and to see that. And the same as my boys. And I wanted to share that with you because it was just like, holy cow, what a powerful moment.

I also wanted to share with you something else that really was a great awareness for me because I'm always talking about staying strong in midlife and the key to having a really good life.

as you get older is mobility like i swear that is the key for many many reasons first of all because you're independent second of all because you can go and do social activities because the key to living a happy life is connection with community And if you're not mobile, you lose that connection with community and it gets harder and harder to go out and connect and do things and stay active.

as I look at the next generation of women in my life like just people that are in my life who are that next generation I just really am noticing this really really really strong connection to something very specific and how they live their life, whether they're living a good next set of like the last years of their life or if it's not so good.

And the one thing that really sets people apart, the people that are really enjoying themselves to the fullest and the ones that aren't is strength. And I know that seems really crazy, but it just... This light switch went on for me because I see these people as they're getting older, these women as they're getting older. And when you hit 80, 83, this is according to my mom and her friend.

83 things really changed like it was it's a tough year your body changes you can't do the things they used to do like i think over time that that happens for every year but 83 was just boom it's gonna like slap you in the face and and really you're gonna

have to sit up and take notice and the one thing that makes somebody in those years really having a good life is strength and not just internal strength and fortitude i'm talking about physical strength physical strength and this is why you know weightlifting is so important because it's building those muscles so that you have the ability to be mobile meaning you can get up and you can go anywhere and do anything all on your own whenever however

with whoever you want that is the key to living a really good long life but the interesting part about it is that ladies it starts now like us in our 50s well it started a long time ago but because we're in our 50s it's like let's just talk about where we're at shall we and that means we got to lift those weights we got to be strong the the person with the biggest legs with the strongest legs will win will win the

a good life at an old age contest because those legs will take you wherever you want to go. And I'm saying this because I notice as my mom gets older. she's shrinking and then as she's shrinking is she's it's hard for her to get around like her balance is a thing that's the biggest thing for her and she's tough as nails and she just goes goes and does everything but her balance is what's

her down and she also exercises she has been swimming three times a week for her whole entire life she's a really good swimmer but swimming isn't building muscle that's the key and as she shrinks it's because her muscles aren't as strong her bones aren't as strong from impact impact

activities and sports or workouts or any kind of physical activity that really builds muscle. And I'm taking note because ladies, if we want to know what we're going to look like or what our lives are going to be like we just take a look at our mothers so i'm really really taking notes when it comes to this and thinking because i am lifting weights three times a week but i don't like it but it just encourages encourages

me to do it more and be like girl you're on the right path because strength is the key and then another interesting fact is it's always the men that go first so now you have all these women that are outliving their husbands and we need to unite as a group and not only unite but we need to be strong we need to build strength we need to build muscles so that we can still live a happy full life that is the key

If you are living a fulfilled life, you can live till you're 150. But if you're not, then what's the point? It makes everything so hard. It makes life hard. So I want to try to inspire you to build strength in a way that works for you. Like I said, I don't like lifting weights, but in my mind, I know how important it is. So I shall be lifting weights. I'm going to be lifting all the weights.

Because I want to really be mobile. I want to be taking myself wherever I want, whenever I want as I get older. And that's really what I wanted to share with you today is how important strength is. And it's funny because before, you know, when we're new moms and stuff, we're doing it just for our sanity. And before that, we were doing it just for our looks. We just wanted to like look in shape and be looking good.

And it's funny how things are always changing now. It's just straight up mobility. Like we just want to function. And that's why it's so important. Take this and think about what could you do to build strength, to help build some muscles so that you can be super mobile as you age and get older and that you are still large and in charge.

And no matter what age you are, you are living your best life. Yeah, and it could be a sport. It could be so many things. But impact is really important. Building those bones, building those muscles. So that's my rah-rah for today. But also I wanted to say I haven't been around much because I've been doing some, you know, new things and that. And I'm here to say that I am.

totally and completely changing up my life and I love it I love every second of it and I am off traveling again and I was thinking long and hard whether I was just gonna do it Or if I was going to share it with you guys. Because life is really, really short. And what I've decided is I'm going to share it with you guys. I'm traveling again and I'm taking you with me. I'm taking you with me because I feel like, although I'm not taking new clients and I'm not going to be coaching, I really feel...

Like if I can live my best life and just share that with other midlife women, like all the knowledge that I've learned over the years and from all the certificates that I have and trainings I've done. If what I share helps one person with one thing, then that's a win. And that is why I'm going to take you traveling with me. So you guys pack your bags. We're going. Actually, we're here. You can see right now.

This is my new background because I am in Tokyo. So I'm traveling through Southeast Asia and I am taking you ladies with me.

Thank you for listening. I hope you get something out of this. I'm going to be sharing my travel stories. I'm going to be, hopefully, my mission in life is to inspire you to live your best life when you're in midlife. Whatever that looks like. And I'm telling you what I do because I want you to go like, if she can do it, I can do it. But yours is going to be something different. Yours might not be traveling.

throughout Southeast Asia or whatever that is but whatever that is whatever that dream is in your heart want you to go out there and do it and I want to inspire you to do it so if this helps you in any way shape or form mmm then that's a win for me and that's a win for you so as always Thank you for listening. Always, always, always love yourself first and have an amazing day.