You Don't Need to Place Blame to Solve a Problem

A couple does not need to place blame in order to solve a problem. Instead of focusing on who’s to blame, they can focus on solutions. It is helpful to keep a calm voice. It is also helpful to spend time trying to understand their partner. If a person does place blame, that are at risk for triggering past memories and trauma in their partner that may be very unpleasant for them. The partner will then be reacting to your blame in a visceral manner.