In this episode ("proud," "congrats," and "family or friends who are like family"), Adam and Danielle discuss the big milestone of their son becoming a Bar Mitzvah, and all the components that go into planning a big celebration like this. The two go into detail all about how religion impacted their upbringing, and which traditions and practices they hope to continue, and which they have decided don't hold much meaning for them. How being a part of the "sandwich generation" is tricky due to the p...
Oct 25, 2021•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 189
Original airdate: 07/30/2020. What makes a person sexy? How has Danielle and Adam's ideas of sexiness changed over the years? Turn offs? How does body image affect their sexual identity and confidence? This episode covers so many different aspects of sexiness, lust, compliments, and all the things we try to keep going throughout the years of our relationship. Plus, what's the sexiest place Danielle and Adam have ever been, sexiest movie they've ever watched, etc. Purchase the Date Night Question...
Oct 04, 2021•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 188
Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist who is on a mission to help as many women as possible achieve their first orgasm. She also wants it to feel more natural to talk about sex with your partner. Her husband, Xander, is just a "regular dude" who decided to quit his corporate job to join Vanessa in her practice. Together they have helped normalize the conversation about intimacy and help couples feel more comfortable in the bedroom. The two couples chat about everything from why women fake orgasm to d...
Sep 27, 2021•55 min•Ep. 187
Danielle sat down with friend and fellow content creator Linda Fruits to hear all about her recent journey to discovering her true sexual identity. Linda discusses how her Tik Tok "for you" page made her question herself and her sexuality. Finally, should could no longer hide from the reality that she was attracted to women. The next steps? Coming out to her husband, family, friends, and huge social media following. In this episode, she details all of these events, as well as how she and her hus...
Sep 20, 2021•49 min•Ep. 186
In an episode that Adam describes as, "one of his favorite we've ever recorded," the two discuss more concerning etiquette and how these unwritten "rules" have affected their lives. Adam goes deep into the frustration of owning a retail business and why "the customer isn't always right." Danielle talks about the workers who she thinks should be tipped ALL THE MONEY for what they are expected to do. They also talk about the hardships of teaching kids how to behave out in the world when over the l...
Sep 13, 2021•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 185
Danielle is admittedly horrible when it comes to stuff like thank you notes and RSVPing. Adam has impeccable bathroom etiquette and is much better at giving Danielle gifts than she is for him. In this fun episode, the two of them discuss everything from whether or not asking a girl's father for her hand in marriage is outdated, whether or not it's appropriate to make out in the backseat of an Uber, and whether or not partners should be ok sharing toothbrushes. Danielle shares poll results from t...
Aug 30, 2021•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 184
TRIGGER WARNINGS: In-depth discussion of miscarriage, stillbirth, postpartum, and pregnancy complications. Liz Lehmann is a postpartum doula whose own journey through pregnancies and expanding her family has been one filled with a great deal of struggle, strength, and volatility. She has since used her own experiences to advocate for mothers and make sure women get the support and nurturing they need and deserve, whatever the road to expanding their family might look like for them. Danielle and ...
Aug 23, 2021•59 min•Ep. 183
Adam and Danielle sat down and spoke with Tammy, AKA "The Cannabis Cutie" all about the science, myths, taboos, and the future of weed and the growing industry around it. Tammy talks about how she first became so passionate about cannabis, how moms should stop feeling guilty of using cannabis, all the benefits of the plant itself and so much more. Visit Tammy in instagram @thecannabiscutie Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here . Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hoste...
Aug 16, 2021•1 hr•Ep. 182
Their wedding day is not really something about which Adam and Danielle talk very much. In fact, they don't even have a picture from their wedding day anywhere in their house. During this really in depth discussion, the two of them talk about everything from how Danielle rushed Adam into getting engaged, why getting married so young presented some problems for them, how discrepancies about how money should be spent led to contention, and why they actually wouldn't go back and change a thing. Plu...
Aug 09, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 181
Andy Hill was just a regular husband and dad when he started to get really interested in finances and made a commitment to live debt and mortgage free. Fast forward to a few years, when he quit his corporate job and has done what most people think is impossible; made a living as a full time blogger and podcaster helping other people achieve financial freedom just like he and his wife did. Danielle, Adam, and Andy get real about the financial struggles and how insanely expensive it is just to liv...
Aug 02, 2021•45 min•Ep. 180
** This episode contains some discussion of childhood discipline and parental relationships. Please take care if this is a topic for which is sensitive or triggering for anyone and deciding whether or not this is a good episode for you. Adam and Danielle have just returned from a very long overdue trip, just the two of them. After vacationing in the tropical paradise of Brooklyn, the two are feeling the effects of their romantic getaway. Two two discuss how this trip compared to the same trip th...
Jul 19, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 179
During the month of June, Adam worked more hours than he has maybe ever worked. He's been exhausted all month from his job, and Danielle has been exhausted from all of the stuff going on with the kids and household. The feeling of "languishing," that feeling like you just can't seem to enjoy things or make progress in life has been overwhelming for both of them. This is the first conversation the two of them have had together in weeks, and they catch up Mia's evaluation (details in episode #166)...
Jul 06, 2021•1 hr•Ep. 178
TRIGGER WARNINGS: discussions of porn, rough sex, and other sexual acts that might be uncomfortable and/or upsetting for some people. Sara Rosen, AKA "The Kink Therapist," has made it her mission to create shame-free spaces in which people can openly discuss their kinks, fetishes and fantasies no matter how "taboo" society tells us they are. Danielle and Adam ask Sara all about her journey to becoming a kink therapist, what it is about the topic excites her so much, and why it's so important to ...
Jun 21, 2021•47 min•Ep. 177
Danielle and Dr. Traci Baxley have a candid conversation about everything from interracial marriage, to privilege, to how to handle it when people say, "agree to disagree," about social issues and race. Danielle asks how parents can implement teachings and actions to help their kids become better allies and more conscientious human beings. Have we come as far as we think concerning progress, and what do we still need to do? Follow Dr. Baxley on instagram at @socialjusticeparenting and check out ...
Jun 14, 2021•47 min•Ep. 176
Danielle has an absolute blast having girl talk with Tammin and Roxy of the Women on top podcast. She asks Tammin (Pretty Little Liars) and Red Carpet Roxy (Hollywood entertainment host) all about how the standards of Hollywood impact their views on sex, all about their sexual fantasies, and how the pandemic has impacted their sex lives. It's an hour of pure honesty, laughter, and feeling like you're chatting with three of your good friends. Check out Women on Top Podcast wherever you get your p...
Jun 11, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 175
Danielle and Adam take a fun walk down memory lane talking about everything from their first memories, to what they collected as kids, to stuff their parents did that would get them arrested today. They also discuss what they would like to replicate from the households in which they grew up, and what they're hoping to do differently. What part of the 80s and 90s are they sad that their kids won't ever experience? If you grew up in the late 70s, 80s, and 90s, this is an episode you won't want to ...
Jun 07, 2021•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 174
Last week's Guilt Episode, Revisited, uncovered a lot of questions that had gone unanswered after not talking much about this topic for the past two and a half years. Now, Adam and Danielle are breaking down Adam's feelings, giving advice to couples going through similar situations, and exploring how to trust a partner again after a period of contention. Should a spouse be allowed to go through her or his partner's social media? Is there a time limit on anger and hurt? Adam and Danielle are disc...
May 24, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 173
Laura Tremaine is an avid podcaster, writer, and reader, who has spent several years sharing all aspects of herself with her audience. Danielle wanted to sit down with Laura to discuss her new book, "Share Your Stuff, I'll Go First," because they both have similar feelings about putting it all out there in the name of others feeling less alone. This episode is truly "girl talk" at its best. The whole basis of the book is prompts for conversations with friends or other people in your life, and th...
May 21, 2021•51 min•Ep. 172
Two-and-a-half years ago, Adam and Danielle put out their most downloaded episode ever, revealing some very personal details of their marriage. To this day, it remains one of the most revealing and vulnerable episodes of any relationship podcast. Now, they're talking about all the ways they've grown and evolved since the release of that episode, and the ways in which they are still affected by those same issues. Danielle asks some questions she still has about that infamous night, and Adam tries...
May 17, 2021•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 171
In several podcast episodes, Danielle has been very open about her struggles with OCD since she was diagnosed at 19-years-old. But on today's episode, she and Alegra talk about Obsessive Compulsive disorder in a raw, deep way that can only be done by two people who have suffered from the illness firsthand. Alegra is a therapist and expert in OCD with her own specialized practice in NYC, and runs the amazing instagram account and community @obsessivelyeverafter. The two talk all about the differe...
May 10, 2021•40 min•Ep. 170
This might be Danielle and Adam's most vulnerable episode yet. What do they both feel guilt about on a daily basis, and what are the more serious issues that they struggle with concerning feelings of shame? Plus, Adam relives a night when he made one of the most horrible and humiliating mistakes in the history of their relationship. If you're a Marriage and Martinis fan, this is an episode you won't want to miss. Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here . Use code "MNMPOD...
May 03, 2021•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 169
In the third episode of their series on women's health, Adam and Danielle got a chance to ask Ovia Health specialist Christine Peter all about the different aspects of infertility: the stigmas, misconceptions, and statistics that surround this oftentimes unspoken about struggle. Check out more about Ovia's supportive platforms and FREE apps at https://info.oviahealth.com/marriage Visit this link to get 15% off your first Promescent order Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback boo...
Apr 26, 2021•55 min•Ep. 168
Danielle often feels so much guilt about the waste that occurs in her household. Over the past year, she's tried taking certain steps to become a bit "greener," but she has way more work to do trying to raise kids who care more about the planet. In this episode, Jessie helps her realize that any steps towards more sustainability is a win, and we don't have to take huge leaps in our changes, but rather can pick and choose which eco-friendly practices and products work best for us individually and...
Apr 22, 2021•48 min•Ep. 167
Danielle had the incredible pleasure of sitting down with her 15-year-old daughter, Mia, and Mia's hero, Autism advocate and wildly popular influencer, Chloe Hayden. Chloe and Mia talk about their own journeys with getting evaluated for Autism, what a diagnosis means to them, how the neurodivergent community wants to and deserves to be treated, why Autism is actually beautiful and powerful, and so much more. Not only is this conversation completely empowering, but it's informative and will make ...
Apr 19, 2021•59 min•Ep. 166
During this vulnerable (but also at times light and funny) episode, Danielle and Adam discuss their very personal experiences trying for a baby, dealing with Danielle's complicated pregnancies, miscarriage, all the lack of information they had growing up about fertility and pregnancy. Danielle discuss the very frustrating idea that pregnant women are supposed to be "glowing" and love being pregnant. As someone who greatly struggled being pregnant, this idea somehow made her feel like a failure. ...
Apr 12, 2021•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 165
Many episodes have touched on what made Danielle originally come to Adam with the idea of starting a podcast. But never have they really gone into detail about what that night was like, what made her come up with the idea, and the events that led to them to FINALLY releasing the first episode. With zero experience and no qualifications, what made the two of them think this would ever work is completely crazy. Yet, they did it anyway. Following the release of the episode, more secrets were reveal...
Apr 05, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 164
CEO Jeffrey Abraham joins Danielle and Adam in one of their most open and honest conversations about intimacy yet. Jeff, who has spent years heading Promescent, a company whose mission it is to make the bedroom a place where couples are totally free from anxiety and shame, talks about why communication is so important in relationships, why men need to open up more, and how they are committed to closing the orgasm gap. Danielle and Adam discuss personal issues and experiences they've had, and Jef...
Mar 29, 2021•59 min•Ep. 163
Anthropologist and NYT bestselling author Dr. Wednesday Martin joins Adam and Danielle for an awesome conversation about everything from how agriculture influenced the expectations for monogamous relationships, why less emphasis needs to be put on "virginity,' how "bad science" is leading to unfair assumptions about boys and girls roles and personalities, why sex ed needs to change, and so much more. The conversation starts with talk about life 12,000 years ago and winds up as a discussion about...
Mar 22, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 162
One part of the mental load that Danielle spoke about in episode #159 is all the emotional and physical burdens that are inherent in being born female; the expectations of just carrying on with life even though we may be suffering from exacerbated periods, issues getting pregnancy, being pregnant, losing a pregnancy, postpartum....the list goes on and on. Marriage and Martinis is starting a series delving into all these aspects of life and how they affect individuals, couples, and other close re...
Mar 15, 2021•59 min•Ep. 161
Danielle and Adam had a blast talking to Kim and Penn about everything from starting their business, to creating viral videos, to their most recent project, writing a book together. The two couples break down their most ridiculous fights, discuss why it's important not to hide our fights from our kids, and why it's impossible not to bring up every other past annoyance when we argue. Head to their website theholdernessfamily.com or wherever you get your books to pre-order, "Everybody Fights." Pur...
Mar 08, 2021•47 min•Ep. 160
