Talking points: growing up gay, LGBTQ+ issues, trans issues, culture Fair warning, this is a different kind of episode than the ones I usually put out. I encourage you to listen to it fully. Thanks to Amir for his candor and willingness to come on the show. Amir Odom takes time every week to reflect on…well, anything that’s been on his mind that week. Sometimes it’s current events, sometimes it’s a story from 10 years ago, sometimes it’s a conspiracy theory and sometimes it’s his alter ego “Jama...
May 01, 2023•56 min•Ep. 437
Talking points: marriage, relationships With marriage rates seemingly at an all-time low, and most of the old reasons for marriage largely defunct, it's a question many men are asking. It was something I wrestled with too. So...why bother with marriage? And why did I get married? [00:00] - Statistics on marriage and some of the reasons we used to get married [06:56] - Why I chose marriage This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and s...
Apr 27, 2023•13 min
Talking points: masculinity, femininity, achievement, dating, psychedelics, competition, culture, truth, what men and women want (and what they get wrong) Wow. Danica and I covered a LOT of territory in this conversation. Like, top 3 widest-ranging conversations I’ve had on the podcast. Listen in for everything from masculine/feminine dynamics, to the nature of truth, to sharing psychedelic stories, to what men get wrong about women (and vice versa). This is a brilliant episode to dig into if yo...
Apr 24, 2023•1 hr 35 min•Ep. 436
Shorter episode today, but something I'd love to get your thoughts on. This came from a recent conversation between Lex Friedman and Aella, a sex researcher, writer, and sex worker. She surveyed her followers on what men and women actually want in the bedroom, and noticed an interesting discrepancy. I polled my own followers and found something similar. Listen in! Check out Aella's work here: https://knowingless.com/ This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's scienc...
Apr 20, 2023•10 min
Talking points: masculinity, men, death, porn, education There's few things I like more than wide-ranging yet deep conversations. This is one of them. Grateful to Richard for his time, eloquence, and commitment to men. This is a great episode if you're curious about some of the challenges young men face. Reeves is data-driven, open-minded, personable, and thorough, so check the time stamps to see more of what we explore. 00:03:41.500 - Richard’s defining moment, and how he and his family handled...
Apr 17, 2023•59 min•Ep. 435
Talking points: breathwork, calm, emotional volatility I've talked pretty often about leading in a relationship, but a session with a recent client inspired me to dig into one of the more key components: regulating yourself and staying level-headed while your partner is upset. What does this mean, how do you do it, and why? Listen in. 02:02 - What it means to regulate 05:24 - Why the "take a deep breath" cliche actually works 08:33 - Women don't want to have to validate your emotions This podcas...
Apr 13, 2023•11 min
Talking points: male isolation and "lostness", dating, dating apps, relationships, redpill, AI AJ, John and I covered a lot of ground, my friends. I've been following along with their work for a while and was recently on their podcast, The Art of Charm. Check the timestamps to see just how wide the net is! This is a great episode to listen to if you're wondering about some of the challenges younger men seem to be facing, what's shifted for them compared to the GenX and millennial experience, and...
Apr 10, 2023•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 434
Talking points: masculinity, discipline, purpose How's that for a spicy title? This is a look at some common behaviors and patterns I've seen in men overall, clients I've worked with, and my own life. Patterns that erode our capacity to truly live, lead, and love. 01:31 - We lack impulse control 04:06 - We chase p***y over purpose 08:42 - We don’t clarify our values, and we don’t say no to ourselves 09:35 - We pick the wrong partner 12:26 - We settle for an “okay” career or business 17:10 - We l...
Apr 06, 2023•34 min
Talking points: gender, gender equality, alpha males, alpha females, violence, culture, psychology I’ve been following Frans’ work for a while, and have admired how dedicated he is to his work and to uncovering the complexity of primates. This was such an enjoyable and fascinating conversation! This episode is a compelling look at just how complex and nuanced something like gender can be, from one of THE world’s top primatologists. With more and more pressure to outsource your opinions, your arg...
Apr 03, 2023•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 433
Talking points: dating apps, selection preferences, statistics, what to do I don't know the specific number of people actually satisfied with the modern dating scene, but given what I've read and researched, it's a VERY small number. What happened, and what can men do? In this mini-ep, I dig into some statistics around modern dating, how it's been a growing shift for a while now, and what young men can do about it instead of giving in to cynicism, misogyny, or victimhood. [00:00] The stats and w...
Mar 30, 2023•19 min
Talking points: vision quests, initiation, culture, ritual Do things like vision quests and ceremony actually DO anything? Should they? What does it mean to "connect to a place"? What happens to a man when he's immersed in nature—without a phone or a to-do list or even a destination? These are some of the wonderings I had with Mr. Darren Silver in this fascinating and enjoyable conversation. I'm a big believer in getting everything, not just men, out into the wild occasionally to reconnect with ...
Mar 27, 2023•51 min•Ep. 432
One of biggest traps in anyone's healing journey is the idea that it's linear and rational. Yeah, you need tactics and plans, but if you go in thinking healing of ANY kind is like a recipe for cookies, you're not gonna have a good time. This is where the archetypal and symbolic power of myth comes in. Have a listen. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next ...
Mar 23, 2023•12 min
Talking points: breath work, balance, burnout, stress and the brain, hustle culture, children, digital detoxing It's a very demanding jungle out there. In a culture that seems to thrive on your being burnt out, how do you fight back? Can you? I sat down with my old friend Adam Hart this week to cover exactly that. Many of Adam's clients compare his work to a finding the “Fountain of Youth” as they regularly break free from self sabotage, fatigue and unhealthy behaviours that they have been stuck...
Mar 20, 2023•48 min•Ep. 431
Cue "Sweet Little Lies" by Fleetwood Mac, please. Why DO we self-sabotage? Why do we spend the money we don't have, break down the gym routine or go for the nastiest fast food—even after we've decided we're stopping? I think one of the most popular reasons we're given is actually pretty...wrong. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next here: https://www.org...
Mar 16, 2023•8 min
Talking points: working in/with the wild, initiation, trauma, what nature teaches you, masculinity This has been one of my most anticipated guests of all time. Like, years. An incredible storyteller, a man with a mighty heart and passion for everything wilderness, this is an episode I encourage you to share with the men in your life. Seriously. The wildlife and literacy activist Boyd Varty, author of the memoir Cathedral of the Wild, had an unconventional upbringing. Born to a family of conserva...
Mar 13, 2023•54 min•Ep. 430
My son turns two in just a couple of weeks, so this topic has been on my mind: in what ways do we prepare our young boys? What do we teach them? To start, here are some things I wish I'd known a long time ago. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To...
Mar 09, 2023•14 min
Talking points: dad life, parenting, teenagers, masculinity Very excited to share this conversation. I've found Dr. Shefali's approach to parenting both fascinating and helpful. This week over Zoom, we dug into what kids and parents are facing these days, and how parents and parenting culture can best support children. Dr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings togeth...
Mar 06, 2023•42 min•Ep. 429
This one might ruffle some feathers. I've hesitated to fully dive into things like redpill, the "manosphere", etc. over the years—mostly because all I see are misconceptions and infighting. But maybe it's time to look a little deeper. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand-new book, Men's W...
Mar 02, 2023•19 min
Talking points: porn, masculinity, male decline, radicalization Listeners, this one has been a long time coming. I've been a big fan of Scott's work for a long time, and love his no-nonsense approach, particularly when it comes to what's going on with men and modern culture. Not only that, but Scott has the science to back it up, something I deeply appreciate. Men, share this with your friends. Ladies, share this with your men. This is important stuff. Scott Galloway is a Professor of Marketing ...
Feb 27, 2023•1 hr
Now of course, not all men care, but I wanted to answer this question because it's something I get asked about a LOT—and almost always from women. It's a complex topic, too, but I wanted to be as succinct as possible. DM on Instagram if there's anything you'd like to add, what you agree or disagree with, or any other thoughts! This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off...
Feb 23, 2023•10 min
Talking points: internal family systems, origin stories, wounding, sleep deprived or sleep depraved? Folks, I am so deeply proud of my wife, and very excited to have her on the show once more to dive deep into her book, The Origins of You. We look at origin stories, aka how family patterns also create patterns in ourselves—that then impact our lives and relationships in so many different ways. This is definitely an episode to share with someone, or to listen alongside your partner! Connect with ...
Feb 20, 2023•1 hr 24 min•Ep. 427
As many of you already know, I'm inspired a lot by Jung's work. This week, I wanted to cover seven Jung terms as I understand them, because I see them mentioned a lot out there; from the collective unconscious and the shadow, to the persona and the animus. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my b...
Feb 16, 2023•15 min
Talking points: Mormon religion, porn, infidelity, fitness You can tell right away Mr. Drew Manning is a kind and open man. We sat down recently to discuss talk about his journey of gaining and losing 75 pounds on purpose to better understand his clients, but it became so much more, including his departure from the religion he grew up with and how that felt, how he overcame shame, what it's like to enter the dating scene as a single dad, and much more. Health and fitness expert Drew Manning is t...
Feb 13, 2023•55 min•Ep. 426
Whenever you commit to a long-term goal, there's going to be a ton of learning—usually the hard kind. This week, as I celebrate the recent launch of my book, Men's Work , I wanted to share five powerful lessons I learned while writing it. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand-new book, Men...
Feb 09, 2023•19 min
This episode is selections from a Zoom panel discussion I hosted on Jan 31 titled "Modern Masculinity and WTF Is Men's Work". For a couple years now, myself and these eight other men have gathered privately to talk about, well, everything. To celebrate the launch of my new book, Men's Work, we decided to make one of our talks public. About 900 people signed up, and I just want to say I'm so grateful for everyone who joined. You'll hear from: -Mark Groves: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove/...
Feb 06, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 425
It might sound odd, but I think there are significant differences between the two, and it's important to train ourselves to understand those differences. Why? Because if you know how to work with them, they're not going to hinder your progress or damage your relationships. It's that simple. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next here: https://www.organifi...
Feb 02, 2023•13 min
Talking points: transition, moving from the Congo to America, equality, masculinity, and relationships. This was a phenomenal conversation. Full stop. Jeremie and I cover a lot of ground, and I'm grateful to have his insight and perspective on men's work. It's nuanced, clear, and deeply authentic. Jeremie Lotemo is a transformation coach helping clients create lasting change by examining the stories and beliefs that influence them on an unconscious level. He works to help them reestablish safety...
Jan 30, 2023•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 424
What if you didn't need outside validation? What if you could actually celebrate your own achievements? In a decade of working with men, I've noticed a lot of us struggle with this (myself included) and that hinders our capacity to contribute to the world the way we want to. So here are some ways to develop better self-recognition skills—and why. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up ...
Jan 26, 2023•13 min
All you newcomers to the podcast, this one is for you! Every now and then, we like to take segments from previous episodes that were particularly insightful, informative, or moving, and showcase them under theme. That way, you get a solid look at what we offer. In this episode: James Hollis on how the landscape of male culture has changed in his lifetime Owen Marcus on emotional intelligence Ben Goresky on what modern men seem to be facing John Wineland on the "integrated masculine" and embodime...
Jan 23, 2023•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 423
I'm sure you've heard the joke: men will start five separate podcasts before they go to therapy. There are lots of reasons why the stereotype exists, but it's my job to take it seriously. Here's my take on one of the deeper reasons why many men avoid seeing a counselor, a coach, a psychiatrist, or a psychotherapist. This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next ...
Jan 19, 2023•8 min
