As a man, your reputation is a vital piece of the development puzzle. Full stop. In this mini-ep, I dig into why reputation is important, my own experiences in repairing a reputation as a lazy man, Conor McGregor, and what you can do to start examining and repairing your own notoriety. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community , and help others find the sel...
Aug 12, 2021•10 min
I've been looking forward to this one for a long time. This is a wide ranging discussion on how power (and the desire for it) shapes everything we do—from how we use social media to how we shape our identities. We get into how power is used and misused, misinterpreted, and of course, why we need to define our relationship to power. Robert Greene is the author of several New York Times bestsellers, including The 48 Laws of Power , Mastery , The 33 Strategies of War , and The Laws of Human Nature....
Aug 09, 2021•54 min•Season 1Ep. 346
You ask, I answer. I'm not a big fan of silver bullet answers, but I gave this a lot of thought after receiving several requests. If there's ONE thing you should be looking for in a woman, it's this. Like, sub, share with someone who needs the listen! Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community , and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. A...
Aug 05, 2021•12 min
Easily one of my favorite conversations this year. The depth of Bayo Akomolafe's wisdom is pretty much limitless. Listen in and be blown away. Bayo and I cover a lot of ground here, digging into the importance of ritual, the role of stories in our growth and how those stories are influenced by what's around us, the "atmosphere" of trauma, the microbiome, cripestimology, and looking for (as he calls it) the cracks in human agency. Dr. Bayo Akomolafe is a globally acclaimed lecturer, speaker, and ...
Aug 02, 2021•47 min•Season 1Ep. 345
That's it, that's the title. If you're looking to get better or change in any way, shape, or form, you're going to face resistance and rejection. From your own bad habits, your inner critic, your shadow, and maybe even friends or family. And there's not really any way around that. But how else do you learn to weather the storm? Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTal...
Jul 29, 2021•14 min
Truth, whether in men’s work or politics or science, is crucial . Sophie Zhang was fired from Facebook in 2020, and her farewell memo was leaked to Buzzfeed, went viral on Reddit, and revealed (in her words) “multiple blatant attempts by foreign national governments to abuse our platform on vast scales to mislead their own citizenry, and caused international news on multiple occasions". This is just the tip of the iceberg. We dive into what happened, the consequences of doing nothing about it, i...
Jul 26, 2021•50 min•Season 1Ep. 344
This is a short but important one. So many men out there are facing a crisis of meaning. From what I’ve seen, finding meaning in your life and becoming a man of value are connected. But value is something you’ve got to curate and develop in order to execute on. Here’s how. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community , and help others find the self-leadership ...
Jul 22, 2021•11 min
This. Was. Awesome. Want to better understand how testosterone affects everything from psychology, physicality, and even your neural circuitry? Put this in your ears like, now, and empower your knowledge. Evolutionary biologist Carole Hooven is my honored guest this week, and we dive deep into the science and stories in her incredibly well-researched book T: The Story of the Hormone that Dominates and Divides Us. Carole Hooven, PhD, is lecturer and co-director of undergraduate studies in the Dep...
Jul 19, 2021•57 min•Season 1Ep. 343
If you just want to take a break from porn, or it feels like porn is running your life, this episode is for you! Listen in for a straightforward breakdown of how our porn habits are formed, what’s happening in the body, and how to leverage the system that gets you hooked on porn to help you move away from it. Whatever side of the porn argument you’re on, it’s crucial to know what’s going on and why. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podc...
Jul 15, 2021•15 min
How do we move forward out of a life that’s unwilling to take risks? As we start really interacting with people again on something other than Zoom, I wanted to chat with a leading expert on the nature of confidence, Dr. Aziz Gazipura. He shares some specific, actionable steps for developing your confidence, and we dive into how social anxiety is a pattern, how to support a partner with social anxiety, and how consistent action pays off. Connect with Dr. Aziz: -Website: https://www.socialconfiden...
Jul 12, 2021•48 min•Season 1Ep. 342
I was recently on the Brofessional Development podcast, and it was a great chat, so I wanted to share this excerpt. We dug into something I’m extremely familiar with: what’s needed to building a thriving online community. I break it down into practical steps: what kind of community to build, how to consistently provide them value, and how to keep them engaged and connected. Gratitude to the men at Brofessional Development for having me on! Connect with Brofessional Development -Podcast: https://...
Jul 08, 2021•10 min
Every now and then we bring on an anonymous guest as a way of showing listeners how I work with clients and what shadow work looks like in real-time. These are raw, intense episodes, and this one was no exception. So, I want to take this space to express my honor and gratitude for our guest feeling safe enough to let me work with her. Thank you. I appreciate you. If you or someone you know is interested in being an anonymous guest, or if you’ve got questions, let me know on Instagram @mantalks. ...
Jul 05, 2021•51 min•Season 1Ep. 341
I'm a firm believer that we as men need to develop the capacity to validate and regulate ourselves, especially in the realm of emotionality. AKA: not offload emotional regulation onto our partners, girlfriends, wives, etc. In this vid, I look into where this (often) comes from, and how it leads straight to codependency. If you enjoyed this, comment below. Feel free to share your thoughts! Did you enjoy this episode? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It...
Jul 01, 2021•12 min
HRV (or heart rate variability) measurement is still largely unknown. But like the human guinea pig I am, I've been experimenting with it myself! Of course, I also want legit expertise. To that end, I brought on one of America's experts in the field, Leah Lagos. This is a deep dive into how to not just manage your stress, but learn how use it to your advantage. Leah Lagos, Psy.D, B.C.B., is an internationally known expert specializing in biofeedback, sport psychology, and performance psychology ...
Jun 28, 2021•50 min•Season 1Ep. 340
Inspired by a recent experience with a client. There is a transformative power in giving your all to something, even if it fails. Winning feels good, but the real growth—the real nourishment—only happens when we show up fully. Commit fully. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community , and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you look...
Jun 24, 2021•9 min
How to truly uncover lasting happiness can seem like a lofty or impossible goal. But somehow, Rupert Spira makes it seem not just possible, but as clear as glacier water. I’ve wanted him on the show for a long time now, and I’m excited to share this incredible conversation. We dig into non-duality, the nature of time, the beauty of simple awareness, and what all the great spiritual traditions of the world were pointing to. Rupert Spira is an English teacher of the "direct path", a method of spir...
Jun 21, 2021•57 min•Season 1Ep. 339
You ask, I answer. I've recently had a lot of questions on this topic. From women, it's something like, "Men keep telling me that I'm intimidating. I seem to date men that I walk all over. How do I navigate this?" And then from men, it's "She's intense. She's chaotic sometimes. She can be really overly direct or assertive or combative. What do I do? How do I navigate that?" Tell me what you'd add, if you disagree, or if you've got any questions! And don't forget to share this with someone you fe...
Jun 17, 2021•17 min
Relational boundaries, sexual boundaries, financial boundaries. Why are they all such a struggle? Honestly, let Terri Cole explain it. In this ep, Terri perfectly breaks down the different kinds of boundaries we have, why (and how) they form, how to recognize when they’ve been violated, and a lot more. This is a juicy one, so dig in! Terri Cole is a New York-based, licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, and founder of Real Love Revolution, Boundary Bootcamp, and the co-founder of Crushin...
Jun 14, 2021•58 min•Season 1Ep. 338
Order in a man’s life is a tricky subject, and something many men have a tumultuous relationship with. The title of this episode alone will probably raise a few eyebrows, but I wanted to take an honest look at the meaning of order, because it’s through order that we can create coherence, freedom, and direction. So let’s look at why order is important for a man, and how to create generative—instead of disruptive—order in your relationship. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a revie...
Jun 10, 2021•19 min
There’s no question in my mind that boys these days are navigating some incredible challenges. More and more boys are dropping out of school and college, suicide rates among younger men appear to be spiking, and it’s critical that we as a culture—and we as men specifically—look at what we can do better. Andrew Reiner and I discuss his fantastic book, what led him to this path, and how we can begin to embody a more generative, emotionally honest masculinity for the next generation. Andrew Reiner ...
Jun 07, 2021•54 min•Season 1Ep. 337
It's my opinion that a huge part of a man's journey is being able to have real conversations about the struggles we have with maleness. Some men respond by disowning as much of their maleness as they can, but leave a lot of disconnection, pain, and anger unhealed. The end result is a personality type that (in my opinion) does more harm than good. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new listeners...
Jun 03, 2021•24 min
Unless you’re living in total media blackout, you’ve got at least an awareness of the effect Christianity has on every aspect of America. What you might not know is how deep that rabbit hole goes. The brilliant history professor Kristin Du Mez does, though, so I brought her on for an exploration of evangelical Christianity, its obsession with “warrior Christ”, the contortion and cherry-picking of doctrine, and how it ties into politics and the military. Kristin Kobes Du Mez is a Professor of His...
May 31, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 336
For our last episode for Mental Health Awareness Month, I want to share some really straightforward ways to regulate your nervous system that worked for me, as well as give some info on the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems and the roles they play. Thanks so much for tuning in to these episodes. I hope you've gotten some inspiration or motivation from them to take care of yourself in the way that you need. Don’t forget to share this ep with someone you feel would find it interestin...
May 27, 2021•24 min
In a culture that seems to be fraying and coming apart at the seams, does Buddhism have any possibilities? Last week I got to chat with celebrated Buddhist teacher and mentor Ethan Nichtern, and hear a bit about Buddhist psychology, Tantric Buddhism, and how the Middle Path can help us navigate not just our own minds but the world around us. I really appreciated Ethan's expertise; he effortlessly explains complex Buddhist ideas (and Western misconceptions). Dig in, friends. Ethan Nichtern is, as...
May 24, 2021•53 min•Season 1Ep. 335
This week's mini-episode is part 3 of 4 for Mental Health Awareness Month. A look at something we all carry: a shadow. The amalgamation of everything we avoid, deny, or disown about ourselves. Despite the fact that it can be, uh, highly confronting, recognizing and revealing your shadow is (in my opinion) one of the greatest things you can do for yourself. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser . It helps us get into the ears of new...
May 20, 2021•18 min
Agriculture. Capitalism. Controversy. Biology. Viruses. This is a heavy one, my friends, and requires a bit of a preface on the cultural risks of meme-ifying the “other side”, which you’ll hear. I really hope you listen, but more than that, I hope you begin engaging in dialogue. I’ve wanted Zach on the show for a while now, and have been following his work with interest, and I’d be happy to hear your take. Zach Bush MD is a physician specializing in internal medicine, endocrinology, and hospice ...
May 17, 2021•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 334
The first few months of having a child turn your world upside down. Full stop. This week, I had my incredible wife Vienna on the show to cover all the angles of our recent entry into parenting—my experience, her experience, our experiences of each other. Our joys, concerns, projections, and all the other things we had to navigate surrounding (as Stephen Jenkinson puts it) becoming “parent-lings”. Full disclosure: This. Is. Real. Talk. Listen in and let us know what you thought! Did you enjoy the...
May 14, 2021•47 min•Season 1Ep. 333
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. As such, I want to use my platform this month to share some of the things that have shifted my own mental health in a positive direction. Wanna be clear, these aren't cure-alls—nothing is—but they are clear and deliberate steps you can take. This week, replacing unhealthy coping mechanisms with generative rituals. We’re all in this together. If this episode resonates with you, please share it or leave us a review on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher , or Podchaser ....
May 11, 2021•19 min
It’s Mental Health Awareness Month, so I’m dedicating this month’s mini-episodes to that topic. The last year has undoubtedly left a mark on the hearts and minds of uncountable millions. I feel those of us with the means and ability have a responsibility to do what they can to create what they can to help. Put another way, the end-stage of the Hero’s Journey is to bring the treasures wrestled from dragons back to the village . So this month, each mini-episode will dive into something that has ra...
May 06, 2021•18 min
This week, something unique in the ManTalks podcast's history! Shortly after my son was born, Ian MacKenzie over at The Mythic Masculine proposed we switch chairs; he'd come on the show and interview ME on my recent entry into fatherhood. We cover what it's been like so far, what I've learned, what led me and my wife to the decision of having a child, and much, much more. If you're a new parent or know someone who's "parent-curious", share this one! Ian MacKenzie is a visionary filmmaker and wri...
May 03, 2021•53 min•Season 1Ep. 332
