Welcome to Manifest The Big Stuff, your weekly check-in and tune-up to empower your intentional manifesting in accord with new paradigms from quantum physics.
This episode is all about manifesting great performances from a non-performative focus. Today, I'm going to make playing the inescapable reality that manifesting is very performative. I'll also unveil a quantum tool that keeps you on track despite any anxiety about everyone being able to watch your successes and failures.
And I'll let the cat out of the bag regarding how to manifest high levels of performance by learning how to not focus on performance at all.
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I'm Greg Kuhn, the Law of Attraction Science Guy, author of the life-changing, “Why Quantum Physicists” book series and your host. I'm pumped that you're joining me for this episode. Let's get started.
When I was nine, my dad took me to Cincinnati, Ohio, to see an NFL football game. It was the Minnesota Vikings, my favorite team. There was a huge crowd. It was super exciting. And as you might expect, at some point I had to go pee.
So my dad took me to a men's room, super crowded. I waited in a long line for a urinal, and when my turn finally came, I couldn’t pee, I got stage fright. It was my first brush with performance anxiety, and it wouldn't be my last.
Performing is real, of course. Others can see what you're doing and what you're not doing, which can lead to performance anxiety. When you are focused on the weight of others' eyes and ears upon you, their observations, expectations, and judgments, forgetting that others are watching you can be quite a challenge sometimes, especially because your self is always watching you too, and has expectations just like everyone else.
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A performance focus always contributes on some level to stress and worry, sometimes doubt. All that takes oxygen away from your creativity and your resilience. It's always in your best interest to forget that others are watching, especially when they are. But that can be really hard to do, especially when they are.
In fact, the easiest way to do that is to be secretive, to keep things hidden from others. If others don't know what you're doing and when you're doing it, then you're no longer performing. Problem solved, right? No more performance anxiety, no more stress, no more worry, no more doubt.
That works in a bathroom. You just have to go into a stall. But it doesn't work very well in manifesting your material reality every day on a moment-to-moment basis.
For one thing, doing something privately never stops your self from watching. And it's definitely not the best recipe for success when it comes to intentionally manifesting important parts of your reality differently. Because intentionally manifesting important parts of your reality, more in line with your desires for them, begs for accountability.
Accountability is an intentional manifestor's best friend. Making your desires and your plans, or as I call them hypotheses, to manifest those desires, public knowledge, at least to your coach, mentor, and other accountability partners puts you into what I call a positive checkmate.
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In chess, checkmate occurs when a player's king can be captured and there is no way for that king to escape. The king is trapped and there is nowhere to go. A positive checkmate occurs for intentional manifestors when you create public accountability. When you tell important allies and partners as appropriate, what you're going to do, why you're going to do it, and how you're going to do it. And then allow them to see whether or not you're doing it.
Positive checkmate is saying what you're doing and doing what you're saying. You do not want, therefore, to hide your manifesting efforts as a way to negate performance anxiety.
There is a way though, to negate performance anxiety without sacrificing accountability. Focus on satisfying yourself only.
You can have the best of both worlds when you do this. Performative results that others can see and that you can take pride in. With a private internal focus virtually free from performance anxiety.
Especially because that focus also changes how your self watches. It alters its expectations and it shifts how your self evaluates your performance.
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Here's what I'm talking about. I'm going to use running because it's such a big part of my manifesting life. If you were to run, like me, by only focusing on satisfying myself, here's how you do it.
You run for at least 150 minutes a week, more if you can. You run focused on only, in each moment, using all of your muscles, all of them, to hold you in form to hold your body up and move your body forward through time and space. And using your breath to support that to the best of your ability for 150 minutes a week. Never lie to yourself nor about you.
As you plan to run in this way. Notice I have made no mention of how many miles to run nor how fast to run them. There's no mention of how much elevation to climb. That is all irrelevant. It's interesting, it's entertaining, but that is not what you're doing for 150 minutes a week.
Now, the interesting stuff, the entertaining information that is performative. If you do this, success in many forms will manifest. It will emerge. Success you might not have expected and definitely, success that is performative, that is public facing. Success that is identifiable and recognizable.
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Whatever greatness is possible within you by running in this way for 150 minutes a week will be manifest, and others will be able to see it. In fact, you'll be able to help them see it as appropriate. Because so much of you is performative, public, a non-performative focus doesn't just work, it takes almost all the pressure off.
All you can do to influence anyone's perception and value assignment of you, is all you can do. Make sure your self is satisfied, that you are doing all you can do. That's all you can do. And it's all your self is responsible for. Just don't ever lie to or about you or yourself.
Apply this focus to any area of your reality that you desire to manifest differently, more aligned with your desires. Wealth, health, romance, the big stuff. As with running, learn the proper form that successful folks utilize to manifest those experiences and that version of reality as you desire.
And not just the mechanics, but how they support their efforts holistically. Or, put another way, learn the best practices and success habits of people manifesting your desire as you want to.
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What do successful manifestors of your desire do to manifest it and how do they support those efforts? Then give your best effort to follow that form for at least 150 minutes a week, more if you can. And support your best efforts completely with appropriate adjustments in your lifestyle.
Don't ever lie to yourself, nor about you. But, and this is important, your goal is not to manifest your desire perfectly. Your goal is to manifest it intentionally.
And now my Quantum Tip. A brief, powerful, takeaway that you can employ right now. When something isn't working right, when something isn't functioning like it's supposed to, what is the best thing to learn about that problem?
The best thing to learn is that the problem is user error. Don't ever beat yourself up when there are malfunctions and you learn that they're caused by user error. That's the simplest thing to fix and the one problem you can always correct. Celebrate user error.
Thank you for sharing your time with me today. I really appreciate your investment in Manifest the Big Stuff. And I don't take your time for granted. Would you please spend a little more of your time to be part of the show? Will you please ask me a question that I can answer and Manifest the Big Stuff?
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Your time is your most valuable possession. How you spend it is your most important decision. And I look forward to spending more of our time together again, real soon.