Some people are charged with energy when they spend time with people, others find themselves drained no matter how much they enjoy it. As an introvert, if I spend too much time in a social situation it can become too much and I’ll start shutting down. I become moody, grumpy, critical and I know I need to leave the situation asap. As a nurturer, I love to support the people around me but if I don’t take time for myself it begins to feel like an obligation and I’ll start to resent them. R...
Apr 21, 2021•20 min
In today’s episode I want to talk about something that affects everyone, limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are thoughts you continuously have so often they begin to structure your reality. In the early years of a child’s development their brains are very susceptible to the environment around them. The situations we are born into, parents, brothers and sisters, culture, religion, all these things heavily impact out development and so the beliefs we carry with us through our lives. This ...
Apr 07, 2021•19 min
Last week I ran my first manfulness masterclass just for men. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for a long time but haven’t been able to until this year. I was incredibly nervous about running this class because I wasn’t sure how many men would open up or even show up. Many men are ashamed to work on themselves, there’s embarrassment to reach out for help or learn from other people. It actually went really well; we had fifteen guys who were incredibly receptive, and we got a lot of great...
Mar 10, 2021•18 min
Women are often at a loss for how to help a man in their life to begin to work on themselves. Their efforts can be met with him becoming defensive, shutting her out, or even aggression. Most men struggle to open up about their situation and struggles, so this discussion needs to be done with care. You’re not going to get a man to do anything by forcing him, giving him an ultimatum, or going in guns blazing because this feels like an attack and will provoke a defensive state of mind. In order ...
Feb 23, 2021•22 min
When we’re in an argument with someone and we start using phrases like, “You never support me. You always put me down. You never listen to me…” If we really thought about it before coming into the conversation, how much truth is there to those statements? Does the person really never do what you’ve said, or is this a generalisation that you’re making to get your point across. Using words like “never” and “always” in my opinion, can start some of the biggest arguments. Instead of coming to the...
Feb 03, 2021•15 min
How do we help men open up? I get asked this question a lot from women waiting for the man in their life to talk about their feelings. Often out of frustration, women start nagging to get their man to share more about their inner world and needless to say, nagging isn’t the answer.In this episode, I talk about how you can help the man in your life start opening up and feel safe doing so. I share some of what I do in my men’s coaching sessions and practical tactics I use to help men share what...
Jan 26, 2021•23 min
I've crashed Erika's episode this week as it was such a good conversation and I wanted to share it with you guys here too.We got a lot of questions from you all about how Erika and I set our goals and intentions for each new year, and we wanted to give you the actionable steps that we take to refine how we want to approach a new year. In this episode Erika and I talk through our personal goals and intentions for 2021. My word for 2021 is BREATHE, and so when I look back on the year that was 2...
Jan 13, 2021•58 min
What I’ve noticed through the work that I do, especially when I’m working with couples is that the female of the relationship is good at dreaming big, setting goals, thinking about all the things that could be achieved, and the male in the relationships is more rigid. Men struggle to dream and they almost assign themselves the role of being the rational, logical one of the relationship to allow their partner to have the big dreams.I can resonate with this as this used to be the case with myse...
Jan 06, 2021•22 min
As we come towards the end of 2020 after what has been a very strange year, I wanted to share with you the questions that I like to ask myself at the end of every year. I think it’s important to ask yourself questions so that you’re able to push towards the life that you want to create for yourself and those around you over the next 365 days.So today I’m sharing with you the questions that I ask myself, in the hope that you will create questions for yourself and contemplate what 2020 has look...
Dec 15, 2020•15 min
The way I was brought up was that in order to get money, you needed to work really, really hard. You needed to get a good education and then find a job where you could work your way up, work hard and the result would be lots of money. I tried that for a long time and it never really worked out very well. Not because I wasn't earning enough, but because my money mindset was bad. I wasn't treating money with the respect that it deserved. I wasn't looking at the true value exchange that money is...
Dec 09, 2020•41 min
I have something on my mind that's bothering me, and to be honest I don't have the answer to it. But I feel it's important to voice these thoughts and perhaps start up a discussion.What's triggered me is I saw a post the other day about Harry Styles wearing a dress on the cover of Vogue and the backlash that was received. There were comments effectively saying, "Bring back the manly man". This really bothered me because it creates confusion and an intolerance that we really don't need.From th...
Dec 02, 2020•16 min
I have another interview coming up for you today and I have to say, I’m loving these sessions. It’s so great to connect with other men and have those deeper conversations. On the podcast today I’m joined by Tim Morrison. I’ve been following Tim for some time and I have been very impressed with the incredible work he is doing for men in the personal development space.Tim began his journey as a personal trainer at the age of 17 and fell in love with deep, transformational work, coaching people ...
Nov 24, 2020•1 hr 1 min
At the moment I'm seeing a lot of the same patterns through the work that I'm doing with my clients. A topic that seems to be a common struggle is boundaries, or the lack thereof. It got me thinking about the fact that as men, we're generally pretty easy going. We don't tend to think too hard about creating space for ourselves or our deeper needs. We go with the flow more, but this can cause issues because it can be misconstrued as us not needing time to ourselves.A lot of the men I'm working...
Nov 18, 2020•25 min
This is part two of my chat with Adam Edwards. If you're just tuning in now, I highly recommend starting with part one so that you get the full picture of who Adam is, what he's been through and what he has been able to achieve for himself and for those he's worked with.I absolutely love chatting to Adam and I'm thrilled to have him on the Manfulness podcast. Find Adam Edwards:Website - Instagram
Nov 10, 2020•1 hr 5 min
I used to be out and partying all the time in my hey day and during that time, I came across Adam Edwards. he owned a bars and clubs throughout Melbourne and I always found him to be really genuine, kind and a great person to be around. You can imagine, in the world of clubbing you come across a lot of superficial people, a lot of bad behaviour and not the best atmosphere in a lot of ways, but Adam never came across like that.After many years in the club scene, the industry was wearing thin o...
Nov 04, 2020•49 min
Welcome back to the second part of my chat with Dr Jimi. If you're tuning in now, I would suggest going back and listening to part 1 first (my previous episode) so that you get the full picture of our chat! Sign up for my free meditation course hereFollow me over on Instagram here Where to Find Dr JimiFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrJimiWollumbin/community/Website: http://www.doctorjimi.net/One Health Website: https://onehealthorganisation.org/One Health Twitter: ...
Oct 27, 2020•36 min
This was a really interesting conversation and I'm thrilled to introduce you to my guest today, Dr Jimi.Jimi is not a GP or an MD but a Doctor of Traditional Chinese Medicine. He is one of those rare individuals that is an expert in his field that also knows how to teach others. He has spoken at the United Nations, opened for Deepak Chopra and has even been personally insulted by the Dalai Lama. He teaches integrative doctors across America, sits on the faculty of the America Integrative Heal...
Oct 21, 2020•52 min
You may not know this about me, but I am a massive fan of horror movies. I believe it dates back to that Michael Jackson film clip for his song Thriller which was really iconic at that time. There is an interesting side to this horror genre that I wanted to talk about today. If you’ve seen horror films before, you’ll know they follow a pretty similar path. Everything always seems to be going well, the situation is fine and then just at that moment where something exciting or good is about to ...
Oct 14, 2020•25 min
We often talk about how men struggle with expressing their emotions. Or that they don't have the broad range of emotions that perhaps our female counterparts do. That we don't feel as much, we're not as sensitive and we don't really need to work on ourselves. I'm calling bullshit on that. I believe Men are sensitive beings with just as much emotion to work through, but our problem a lot of the time is that we don't really have an understanding of how to deal with our emotions.One of the most ...
Oct 07, 2020•25 min
I’ve never been that great at playing video games. My brother on the other hand, was a massive gamer. He was really good at figuring them out, and could sit there for hours really going deep into them. I’ve always loved them though and recently we bought a Nintendo Switch for the family to enjoy together. We bought a game that I remembered as a kid, Zelda. It’s obviously changed quite a lot since I was a kid, but the overall feeling of the game hasn’t changed. It’s still quest based. You’re e...
Sep 23, 2020•22 min
I've been working on a framework around what causes us to seek validation and Erika and I decided to sit down together and record the longest podcast episode ever (it was totally worth it!) to talk through it. Erika has also shared this episode on her podcast, The Confidence Chronicles this week.There have been so many lightbulb moments as I've been delving into work around validation and the interplay between the feminine and masculine energies.I challenge you to observe your behaviour and s...
Sep 18, 2020•1 hr 21 min
I love to read, and during this time I've been able to get back into reading a bit more. It's been really fulfilling and I have found myself coming back to some books that I've read almost 10 years ago. It's common for me to want to re-read books because I find that when I do that, I'm able to find new meaning within the pages, based on where I'm at currently in life.So there are a few books in my repertoire that I've read a few times that I really find to be like works of art. One of which i...
Sep 08, 2020•23 min
What an incredible conversation this is and I’m thrilled to be introducing you to my guest today, Michael McPherson. I have been wanting to dive into the topic of sex on the Manfulness podcast for quite some time, but I wasn’t really sure on the best way to go about it. Then I came across Michael McPherson and I knew he was going to be the perfect person to help explore this topic with you all.Michael grew up in a typical midwestern American household; church on Sundays, meat and potatoes for...
Sep 02, 2020•1 hr 22 min
There's no doubt that during this time life is tricky. Especially for those of us in lockdown, being around our partners all the time if we're not used to it can be a hard thing to navigate. Through the work that my wife and I do, we've been we've witnessed a lot of people in relationships that are struggling and it all comes down to communication.When we first get into a relationship with someone, how many of us sit down with them and really talk out all our values? Talk about the things tha...
Aug 26, 2020•27 min
I went for a walk the other night, and it got me thinking about how much I love the dark. I love the feeling of almost blending into my surroundings and being alone there in the dark. The more I thought about this, the more I started to see that we're always pushed towards the light and to avoid the dark. From a young age, some of us are scared of the dark. We're scared of what we might find in there and so we avoid it. We only want to be play in the light.But the dark is so important. Feelin...
Aug 18, 2020•21 min
I was watching a documentary recently and they were talking about plant medicines and how they are going through a bit of a resurgence as further research and development has been published around the positive benefits to help heal and support people in a number of ways. There was one point that was made around the importance of dose, setting and mindset when working with plant medicines to ensure a positive experience.That got me thinking about how this idea of dose, setting and mindset coul...
Aug 11, 2020•22 min
When I was growing up, the words "I love you" weren't really in my vocabulary. I didn't say them to my parents, to my brother, to my friends, or even really to my girlfriends. That phrase just really made me feel uncomfortable. My wife on the other hand, tells everyone that she loves them and she really, truly means it. It has been such an interesting thing to witness over the years.This got me thinking about those three words and why we hold onto them so tightly, as if we can't say them to a...
Aug 04, 2020•18 min
Since the start of lockdown 4 months ago, there has been a 30% increase in deaths by suicide. This is a staggering number and there's no doubt that all this isolation is causing a lot of issues for humans as we're such social beings. It got me thinking about men in particular and the conversations that I have with those that I work with. The most common struggle we have as men is that we don't feel heard. So many men tell me that they struggle to communicate how they feel. Perhaps it's becaus...
Jul 29, 2020•21 min
I feel as if guys really struggle to look at ourselves fully and recognise when it's time for us to make a change. Not just the superficial type changes like getting new clothes, getting a haircut and things like that, but the deep change from within. We're not great at recognising when we need to do that deeper excavation, look at where we're at and decide whether its serving us.There have been a few moments throughout my life where I've gone down a path that really wasn't good for me. I was...
Jul 21, 2020•21 min
We all have these transitions and transformations throughout our lives and if we don’t stop to reflect on how we’re feeling at any given time, how are we supposed to work through it? The fact is that a lot of us don’t really ever delve into why we’ve become stuck in a certain way of thinking, a pattern or a behaviour. We don’t stop to think about whether we really like that job, love our partner or are happy with how our lives are turning out. We go through the motions and as a result, we don...
Jul 14, 2020•24 min
