Inspired by Nate Larkin, today's episode centers around the subject of accessibility and why it is superior to accountability. Accessibility is critical not only for the relationships you have, but also for the way you participate in the relationships. The greater the accessibility, the greater the healing. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Benjamin Nolot is a French American film producer, director, and writer and the CEO and Founder of Exodus Cry, a leading global anti-trafficking nonprofit organization. His films and videos have received more than 40 million views worldwide and have been screened for legislators at the highest levels of government in the US, UK, Canada, and Australia. In today's interview, he and Sathiya discuss: -Why he chose to fight human trafficking using film -5 years of studying brothels and prostitution r...
Integrity is doing the right thing, and owning your mistakes when you fall short. Using a recent vulnerable experience from Sathiya's personal life, this episode explains what it means to demonstrate integrity when you fall short, something that is often overlooked on the subject. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
This satirical episode explains the 5 ways to get addicted (and stay addicted) to pornography. Sometimes looking at things through a different lens can be helpful for gaining clarity on what is really true. Embedded in each of these faux pas are actually 5 key tenets you must have in place to successfully recover. The 5 ways to stay addicted are: 1) Tell No One 2) Set Yourself Up For Failure 3) Focus On Modifying Behavior 4) Keep God Out 5) Obtain A Victim Mentality Join DeepClean Inner Circle G...
Few things are more pleasure-inducing than novelty. Today's episode explains why new things often give us that "spark" that we are looking for in life. While this can be good in the right context, it can be incredibly toxic in the wrong context, sexuality being no exception. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
While there are a variety of ways to quit pornography, most successful stories feature two primary components. Today's episode explains why consistency and a proven system are absolute necessities if you are looking to make a lasting recovery, and why if you have one without the other, you simply delay failure. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Shane O'Neill (Proven Men Ministries & Host of Naked Gospel Podcast) returns to the podcast for an in-depth conversation with Sathiya surrounding spiritual development. This robust conversation covers a myriad of subjects, including: -The purpose of spiritual disciplines (and why many Christians miss the point) -The real reason spiritual disciplines are necessary for spiritual growth -How spiritual practices foster spiritual formation -Imago Dei and what it means to be made in God's image -T...
With the rapid development of artificial intelligence, a new set of challenges has surfaced in the porn recovery world. Today's episode explains why NOW is the time to quit, as the barrier to have highly stimulating sexual experiences diminishes and the temptation significantly increases with the development of AI. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Sathiya had the chance to attend a VIP event with Jordan Peterson recently. Regardless of how you feel about Jordan Peterson, there is much to learn from a man who is making waves on several important fronts including gender, technology regulation (especially AI), and sexuality. Today's episode features a few major takeaways from the VIP event and why Jordan Peterson embodying his message is so inspiring to the next generation of men. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling...
Inspired by an upcoming interview with Benji Nolot of Exodus Cry, Sathiya shares the 5 ways that pornography and sex trafficking intersect. While these two subjects are often discussed separately, the reality is they are inextricably linked in rather disturbing ways. By understanding the correlation between the two, you may think twice the next time you feel tempted to watch porn. 1) Predatory nature of prostitution 2) Non-consenting is the norm for prostitutes (and then the films are released o...
To commemorate passing 500 episodes of the podcast, today's episode explores the 5 more frequently asked questions in our communities surrounding recovery, including: -How do I talk to people about my struggle? -How long does it take to recover? -What does it mean to address the roots? -Should I have an internet filter while I recover? -Is it ok for my wife to be my accountability partner? Submit Your Questions to questions@sathiyasam.com - Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bests...
Shawn and Helena Bonneteau have played a helping hand in transforming over 2000 relationships through their coaching services and podcast. Both Shawn and Helena struggled with an addiction to porn and masturbation and by the grace of God are now celebrating over 5 years of freedom individually and as a couple. Shawn is a certified Inner Child Recovery Specialist and together, they are certified sexual addiction mentors and certified Husband Material coaches. In today's interview, Shawn, Helena &...
Continuing from yesterday's episode, today's episode explains why the work of Christ on the cross affords us the opportunity to be holy. When we understand that holiness is our identity, not just an instruction, rather than trying to acquire holiness we learn to uncover it. Listen to Episode 499 - Uncovering Your Holy Identity, Pt 1 Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
In part 1 of this 2-part series, Sathiya explains why holiness will be the focus of the next major move of God, and why men should be at the forefront. Today's episode defines holiness, provides a practical metaphor to understand it through a biblical lens, and explains why we must walk in holiness to truly be our best selves. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Everyone has needs – fundamental desires that must be met for our survival and success. While many men claim to have sexual "needs" that must get met in their relationships or otherwise, today's episode explains why this kind of language is not only dangerous, but damaging. When we view our sexual desires for what they really are, we are able to stay in greater control and steward our sexuality in a way that is honoring to God. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, ...
Anything can become an idol in our lives and recovery is no exception. Sparked by a recent interview with Shawn Bonneteau, Sathiya explains why we must ensure we keep Jesus at the center of all our efforts, and recovery as a second priority; never the other way around. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Bryan & Bonnie Pue are the founders of The Union Movement, an organization that helps people find wholeness by presenting a gospel-centered, holistic approach to the topics of identity, sexuality, and relationships. They regularly develop resources, speak at events, and support local churches and leaders who desire to cultivate healthy sexual cultures. In this interview, the Pues and Sathiya discuss: -What a "holistic approach" to sexuality really means -Why the Gospel focuses on body, soul ...
The beauty of technology is that it has made our lives more convenient in so many ways. We no longer to have to memorize phone numbers or directions because our devices look after these things for us. But is that really a benefit or is it making us dumber and lazier? Today's episode explains why we must remove crutches in our lives that ultimately hinder us from tapping into our full potential, and how to identify them. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last...
John Bevere is a respected Bible teacher and preacher. Sathiya had the privilege of sitting under his teaching in a private environment recently. Today's episode features some of the major takeaways from this experience, including the following: -Why you need the anointing to be effective in ALL areas of life (not just ministry) -To tolerate sin is to minimize and reduce the anointing on your life -You must fear God if you do not want to tolerate sin -The unseen gift is better than the seen; do ...
It is one thing to struggle, but it is another thing to be a struggling leader. Today's episode explains why EVERY man is a leader, and that when you are in leadership you have to take careful consideration to how you manage your responsibilities while you are in recovery. This is a nuanced topic with a lot of moving parts, but with the right guidance, it starts to become pretty clear whether or not you can lead in your respective position as you pursue recovery. Listen to 53 - Every Man Is A Le...
Unwanted-ness is one of the leading causes of all sexual misbehavior. Using a recent personal story, Sathiya explains how he is working through feelings of unwanted-ness and some of the strategies that are helping his clients in this area as well. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Dr. Robert Glover, coach, speaker, and educator is a relationship expert with over 40 years of professional experience. The author of the groundbreaking, No More Mr. Nice Guy, the best-selling Dating Essentials for Men, and the recently released, Dating Essentials for Men: Frequently Asked Questions, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of men world-wide get what they want in love, sex, and life. In today's interview, he and Sathiya discuss: -Why misunderstood Biblical concepts can lead to nice guy s...
In this thing called life, you will likely encounter a difficult season ever now and then. Today's episode talks about how we can survive difficult seasons, using James 1 as a guide text. You must not make the mistake of rushing through trial, lest you lose on the opportunity to grow character, perseverance, hope and patience. Rather, it is about learning to count it joy in all things that enables us to turn trials into fantastic victories. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bests...
Using the story of David & Goliath, today's episode explores why it is so important to find a solution that fits you. When we try to wield the weapons of others, we often become ineffective and incapable of reaching our goals in life. While it takes a bit of trial and error, when you find the right weapons, you become unstoppable. Ready to conquer whatever the Goliath may be in your life. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on I...
We've seen a lot of men make a lot of different mistakes over the years in recovery. If you are still pursuing full freedom, today's episode will help you avoid 5 of the most common mistakes that men make in this area. 1) Doing it alone 2) Monitor progress on the insignificant 3) Failing to focus on the internal 4) Getting ahead of themselves 5) Poor problem-solving Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram...
Where there is no vision, the people perish. Today's episode explains why having a vision for your life when you're porn-free is imperative for you to stay on track throughout the rather tumultuous recovery journey. Using specific examples, this podcast will help you better understand why it is so easy to lose sight of the things God has called us to, and how we can keep it our central focus no matter what recovery throws your way. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling bo...
Laura Howe is a registered Social Worker with 13 years experience as a frontline social worker offering therapy, advocacy, and addictions counseling to some of the most marginalized, ill and incredible people in her community. She started an organization called Hope Made Strong to equip the church to better address mental illness and to bridge local communities with the local church. In this conversation, Laura and Sathiya discuss: -Why the church has been slow to discuss mental health openly -T...
Continuing from Episode 484, today's episode talks about residual habits and the dangerous role they play in our recovery. Our habits, rhythms and routines must always serve a purpose. However, as seasons change, sometimes habits become irrelevant or unnecessary but we continue them without realizing it. It is important to regularly take inventory, evaluate, and assess our rhythms to ensure that our practices are aligned with the priorities of the season we are in. Without this process in place,...
In recovery, it is easy to get caught up in the tools, tactics and techniques necessary to reach a place of freedom. While they are important, often times it is the intangibles that make the greatest difference. Today's episode explains why momentum is EVERYTHING in recovery, and why you must steward it appropriately in order to reach your goals. Sometimes it may involve what some consider to be "extreme" measure, but when you view these measures in the context of pursuing momentum, not only do ...
Flatlining refers to a period of recovery where you feel numb, apathetic and lethargic. It is often time a part of the earlier phases of recovery when you begin to go longer than usual without a relapse. Today's episode explains flatlining in more detail, offers insights into what is taking place in the brain and body when it takes place, and provides you with useful ways to "leverage" what is an otherwise difficult part of the recovery journey. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my ...
