The Gospel truth is what makes the world go round – providing us security, comfort, and unconditional acceptance. Today's episode explains why porn is a pseudo-gospel, and how this reality offers us a unique insight into the recovery journey. If we can truly grapple and grasp the Gospel, our hearts reform and we begin to heal. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle...
Jun 10, 2022•15 min•Ep. 301
Sam Tielemans is a licensed marriage and family therapist that specializes in helping couples overcome the effect of pornography addiction in their relationship. After working with couples for over a decade, he has developed an approach to help couples restore their marriage, rebuild trust, and improve their sexual intimacy after betrayal. In this in-depth interview, Sam and Sathiya discuss the necessary elements for restoring a relationship after porn addiction. Sam explains why getting free of...
Jun 09, 2022•55 min•Ep. 300
While many pursue programs, podcasts, teachings, and prayers to become more self-disciplined, scripture suggests that we are self-disciplined by default. Today's episode explores this subject in greater detail, extrapolating from 2 Timothy 1:7. Self-discipline is not something to be attained or acquired, rather it is something to be revealed. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle...
Jun 08, 2022•13 min•Ep. 299
Using a different type of addiction as a contrast, today's episode explains why sobriety and freedom are so impactful. It's not just the relationships or the confidence, it is the brave and bold authenticity that results. When we are able to make courageous choices to handle insecurities, discomforts, and difficulties of life (without the aid of a substance), we are the most powerful. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean I...
Jun 07, 2022•17 min•Ep. 298
How do you maintain intimacy with friends you don't share about your struggle with porn? Should you cut them off? Or try to share anyway? Today's episode talks about how to handle friendships of all kinds while you recover, including a few rookie mistakes you should avoid along the way. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle...
Jun 06, 2022•17 min•Ep. 297
Today's episode addresses a vital skill for joy and success in life: Knowing Your Season. While it is not a commonly discussed concept, the innate ability to know your season can help identify priorities, thwart comparison and criticism, and provide confidence as you step further into the calling God has placed on your life. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle...
Jun 03, 2022•18 min•Ep. 296
Nick Stumbo is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries International, author of two books, and an ordained minister with the Christian and Missionary Alliance. After facing his own addiction to pornography, Nick and his wife, Michelle, found hope and healing through the counseling and group ministries of Pure Desire. Today, Nick continues to believe that the Church can become a place of healing and that Pure Desire is leading the way. In today's episode, he details his recovery story as...
Jun 02, 2022•51 min•Ep. 295
While obtaining freedom from pornography is incredible exciting, it can be anxiety inducing as well. Today's episode explains why this dynamic exists, and what can be done to thwart the anxiety that often comes as you pursue freedom. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle...
Jun 01, 2022•20 min•Ep. 294
Today's episode breaks down the surprising link between your financial well-being and freedom from pornography. Porn affects many areas of your life – relationships, spirituality, mental health, etc. But few address the financial implications of a porn addiction. You may think watching free content means there has been no financial impact, but a closer look reveals that a porn addiction is VERY costly in ways you may not expect. Book A FREE Strategy Call With Sathiya Get a FREE copy of my bestse...
May 31, 2022•22 min•Ep. 293
Patric Young had it all – popularity, money, and women at his beck and call. He knew it wasn't what God called him to, but at least he wasn't as far gone as his peers. The thrill of his lifestyle came to a grinding halt when he found out the woman of his dreams considered pornography to be cheating! This 'come to Jesus' moment made him realize that something had to change. In today's interview, Patric shares about what it was like learning to experience God as an unconditionally loving father, h...
May 30, 2022•35 min•Ep. 292
If I could offer you a lifeline that would guarantee a solution, answer and outcome every time you encountered a problem, would you take it? We all long for a 'magic pill' or 'lifeline' that secures a resolve in every situation, and while it may sound like a far-fetched pipedream, the reality is such a lifeline exists. Today's episode explains why an emotional, dynamic connection with God is the world's greatest lifeline that will see you through all of the ups and downs of recovery. Get a FREE ...
May 27, 2022•17 min•Ep. 291
Geoff Steurer is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 24 years of experience helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, and partner betrayal trauma. He is also the the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity" and the host of the weekly recovery podcast, "From Crisis to Connection" In today's episode, he and Sathiya discuss the healing journey from start to finish for a coupl...
May 26, 2022•59 min•Ep. 290
After coming under fire for some of his views on accountability, in today's episode Sathiya explains why traditional accountability systems fail while offering a novel approach that has proven to be more successful in the long run. If you are looking to get others involved in your recovery process, this episode is for you. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)...
May 25, 2022•19 min•Ep. 289
Today's episode explores a bizarre story from Genesis 30 that uniquely demonstrates the power of focus. Somehow, the things we concentrate on flavor what we produce. This is important in recovery, as many get too bogged down in the struggles, relapses and challenges, often leading to more difficulty. Adjusting your focus is the name of the game and as you fixate on growth, healthy, and recovery, it begins to flavor your decisions, actions, and thoughts. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, Th...
May 24, 2022•15 min•Ep. 288
Whether it's God, a spouse, colleague, sibling, parent, friend or acquaintance, there are always 4 concepts that determine the quality of the relationship. Today's episode explains why emotional connection, transparency, understanding and humility are critical for success and health in each and every relationship, offering practical ways to establish each one. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)...
May 23, 2022•15 min•Ep. 286
Any man would agree that getting free of porn would catalyze greater self worth and confidence. While many eagerly away getting free so they can see these improvements, the reality is that pursuing these improvements is that leads to freedom. Today's episode explains what it looks like to pursue stable self-worth. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)...
May 20, 2022•13 min•Ep. 291
Brad & Lisa Valencia had a normal marriage – kids, cars, a house, and regular church attenders. Ten years in, it became clear that their marriage was anything but normal as a text intended for Brad's mistress was sent to his wife instead. Divorce looked like the only option until God intervened, leading Brad and Lisa into a journey of radical reconciliation. Another 10 years later, they have built Unrelenting Pursuit – a ministry that serves other couples looking to restore hope and strength...
May 19, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 285
Inspired by a recent client's decision to 'break up with technology', today's episode explains the basics of attachment theory, why we are always forming attachments whether we realize or not, and how to change your attachment with something in your life that is problematic. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle (Insert link to FB group)...
May 18, 2022•17 min•Ep. 284
Boredom is often mistaken as not having anything to do, when in reality boredom is having an unmet desire to do something. While boredom leads to many slips, for the self-aware man, boredom is an invitation to better understand self. Today's episode explores this concept in great detail, while offering practical ways to handle those tricky moments of boredom. Episode 203 - The Surprising Link Between BLTs & Porn Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Ci...
May 17, 2022•19 min•Ep. 283
A continuation from Episode 277 , today's episode dives into the armor of God concept from Ephesians 6, going part-by-part while offering a practical application in the context of sexual integrity. Being able to execute this critical piece of scripture will allow you to win the spiritual aspect of recovery and walk into the fullness God has for your life. Episode 277 - How To Win The Spiritual "Battle" For Sexual Integrity Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean I...
May 16, 2022•21 min•Ep. 282
Healing from parent wounds is a critical part of lasting freedom. Today's episode explains why, using a personal example, and the difference between healing and reconciling. While healing is necessary, reconciling is optional and often case-dependent. If you know that addressing wounds from your parent relationships will be necessary for a full recovery, this episode is for you. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle...
May 13, 2022•20 min•Ep. 281
Ray De La Nuez is a men's life coach, speaker, writer and host of the Becoming Men Podcast. He is an active duty Marine Corps Officer with more than a decade of experience in leading and helping men around the world become more authentic, confident, disciplined and faithful. In today's interview, Ray explains the wake up call he got early in marriage that caused him to mature spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. He also explains how one mentor quite literally changed his life and why everyone...
May 12, 2022•56 min•Ep. 280
Too many men make the mistake of sharing ONLY relapses with their wife while they recover. In reality, transparency includes both the highs AND lows of recovery. Today's episode explains why your wife must be let in on the small victories and improvements, in addition to relapses, while you recover so that she receives an accurate picture of your journey. This improves your relationship in the process, but it also enhances your recovery by solidifying the inner stories you tell yourself. Get a F...
May 11, 2022•18 min•Ep. 279
Many questionable conversations happen in male-centric environments today. This episode explains the clear boundaries you must draw in the conversations and content you engage with while you are recovering, and at what point you can consider 'participating' in locker room talk. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
May 10, 2022•17 min•Ep. 278
Today's episode talks about the spiritual aspect of recovery including why this is not a battle, the supernatural realities of porn addiction, and why hyper-focusing on your connection with God will always be the plumbline for lasting freedom. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
May 09, 2022•21 min•Ep. 277
It seems that on a weekly basis moral failures are surfacing from some of the world's most respected Christian pastors and leaders. A few in particular recently have caused Sathiya to re-think local church ministry as a whole, and explore why so many trusted leaders continue to fall despite demonstrating godly character throughout their careers. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
May 06, 2022•18 min•Ep. 276
Keith and Sheila Gregoire have a passion for marriage and healthy sex, and debunking common misnomers around them in a Christian context. Sheila is the author of The Great Sex Rescue and Keith is a well-respected pediatrician. Together they impact thousands of lives on a regular basis. In today's interview, Keith & Sheila do a deep dive into their latest findings, which includes data from a survey of over 25,000 people. They discuss why frequency of sex is a surface-level indicator, the simi...
May 05, 2022•55 min•Ep. 275
Cravings and appetite are often used interchangeably. When we experience either, we simply say that we are "aroused", "triggered", or "turned on". The reality is that appetite is biological, cravings are psychological, and a majority of our sexual experiences are the latter. Today's episode delves deeper into this concept, and offers practical ways to handle with cravings that may arise as you pursue recovery. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
May 04, 2022•18 min•Ep. 274
Attraction is God-given, but where is the line? Is all attraction simply innate? What about a pedophile who is drawn to children? What about a Christian man with same-sex attraction? Today's episode explores the multi-faceted nature of attraction, provides some clear parameters for when attraction goes too far, and offers Beauty and Honor as the lenses that we are to view humanity through to ensure we manage our attraction in a godly way. Join DeepClean Inner Circle...
May 03, 2022•23 min•Ep. 273
A typical issue men run into as they pursue freedom is distrust from their partner, even though they are healing and changing as a person. Today's episode explains why this dynamic exists, and practical ways that you can win back her trust AS you heal and AFTER you recover. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
May 02, 2022•16 min•Ep. 272
