Recovering from addiction is about self-discovery. This is why you must be weary of cookie-cutter solutions and unidimensional strategies. The better you understand yourself, the more effectively you can employ strategies and solutions for long-term recovery. Today's episode provides guidance on how to carry this out whether you are just beginning your recovery journey or well on your way to permanent freedom. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Apr 29, 2022•14 min•Ep. 271
Stephen Thomas is a husband and father who has had sobriety from porn for over 13 years. In his personal battle he has overcome same-sex attraction, low self-esteem, anxiety & a broken marriage. He's passionate about seeing men who feel hopelessly buried by their addictions come alive and realize the strength God has placed in them. In today's interview, Stephen details his story of developing same-sex attraction, living a gay lifestyle, finding healing, getting married and now helping other...
Apr 28, 2022•52 min•Ep. 270
With the world constantly changing, the parameters for success and health also seem to change. But in reality, if you look at what has enabled people to live healthy, fulfilled lives over the years, there are usually just a few things they share in common. Today's episode explores three things every person will need in the next 20 years to thrive in their life: focus, consistency and contentment. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Apr 27, 2022•22 min•Ep. 269
Science has become supremely valued in our society, so much so that we will do irrational things that contradict our own intuition simply because of a study. Today's episode explores the difference between science-based and science-bound and why knowing the difference is so critical for someone who wants to rid themselves of an addiction, change a habit, or enhance their quality of life. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Apr 26, 2022•16 min•Ep. 268
Having standards is an important part of manhood – without them, our lives become mediocre and aimless. But is there ever a good time to reduce your standards? Today's episode explores the one circumstance where reducing your standards is not only acceptable, it's encouraged. If you find that you are too hard on yourself, or that you are overwhelmed by the standards you have set, this episode is for you. Check out my CTV Your Morning Interview Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Rel...
Apr 25, 2022•18 min•Ep. 267
You may be wondering if your situation is really "that bad" when so many others around you have it worse. While it's easy to justify minor amounts of dysfunction or addiction, today's episode explains the three indicators that you have a porn addiction. If you know you have an addiction, this episode will provide some empowerment for finding a path to freedom as well. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
Apr 22, 2022•13 min•Ep. 266
Jason Vallotton is the founder of BraveCO – a global men's movement - and overseer of the Bethel Transformation Center. He has helped thousands of men and women discover their God-given identity, find freedom, and walk out their true calling. His personal testimony, insight, and wisdom have brought powerful breakthroughs to difficult situations for both leaders and families. In today's episode, Sathiya and Jason deep dive into the role of a father in a home and society at large, how men can heal...
Apr 21, 2022•58 min•Ep. 265
Being decisive is a learned skill. Instinctively, we fear failure, disconnection, making the wrong choice, and missing out. Today's episode explains why being decisive is so valuable, how it can change your life, and practical ways to overcome the typical obstacles we face in this area. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
Apr 20, 2022•22 min•Ep. 264
"Blue Balls" (epidydymal hypertension) is a common physiological response in the PMO recovery journey. Today's episode breaks down the primarily physiological cause of blue balls, which gives profound insight into how you can craft your own solution to combat its effects. If you intend to get free one day, you will likely encounter blue balls – this episode will prepare you for when the time comes. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Apr 19, 2022•16 min•Ep. 263
Today's episode focuses on the importance of running to God when you least feel like it. During times of mistake, shortcomings, and shame is the best opportunity you get to experience unconditional love. Using personal stories and a bit of nostalgia, this episode will give you powerful insight into the breakthroughs that come when you invite God into your mess. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
Apr 18, 2022•17 min•Ep. 262
We know that sobriety and freedom are not the same thing. Sobriety is behaviorally focused, freedom is inner focused. One can be sober, but not free. Yet one who is free will eventually become sober. But when you start to have some success – how do you tell if you are sober or free? Today's episode answers this question in-depth while providing markers that indicate which side you have landed on as you pursue healing and recovery. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Apr 15, 2022•13 min•Ep. 261
Helen Taylor is the Vice President of Impact for Exodus Cry, an organization committed to abolishing sex trafficking and commercial sexual exploitation. They are known for their award-winning documentaries and wildly successful activism campaigns against exploitation in pornography. On today's episode, Helen and Sathiya discuss the intrinsic link between pornography and sex trafficking, detailing 4 specific ways that even the slightest porn consumption feeds sex trafficking around the globe. The...
Apr 14, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 260
Many men who want to be free of porn also simulataneously enjoy it. In this odd paradox, many men accuse themselves of being "perverted" or "messed up", when in reality, this is a very normal experience. Today's episode explains WHY this dynamic exists and how embracing it can actually lead to healing and strength along the way. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
Apr 13, 2022•15 min•Ep. 259
In a culture and social climate that is daily conditioning us for instant gratification, we are finding it harder and harder to embrace the uncomfortable and inconvenient. Today's episode explains the less-discussed underbelly of instant gratification and the way it is wreaking havoc on our overall quality of life. It also outlines a very simple practical step you can exercise on a daily basis that will re-condition your mind to delay gratification and make better decisions. Get a FREE copy of m...
Apr 12, 2022•16 min•Ep. 258
We know that the enemy lies and accuses us to pull us away from the truth. We know that he regularly bombard us with thoughts, schemes, and reasonings that oppose the truth of God. So instinctively, we try to identify the inciting events and heal from them. This may be trauma recovery, inner healing, etc. Today's episode explores why sometimes we can heal from traumas of our past, have moments of breakthroughs, and then fall back to where we were before. The secret sauce is in the text of Ephsia...
Apr 11, 2022•16 min•Ep. 257
In today's episode, Sathiya gives rare insight into how he vets clients for DeepClean, including a question he typically asks applicants that often evokes a strong emotional response – including tears sometimes! While it is an evocative question, it must be answered if you are a man who is serious about overcoming compulsive sexual misbehavior. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
Apr 08, 2022•16 min•Ep. 256
Tamara Rosier, PhD, is the founder of the ADHD Center of West Michigan, where she and her staff work with individuals with ADHD (and their families) to learn strategies and develop new skills to live effectively with ADHD. Dr. Rosier is also the president of the ADHD Coaches Organization (ACO). Her book, Your Brain’s Not Broken, discussed strategies for managing the emotional aspects of ADHD. In today's interview, she discusses the inextricable link between ADHD and addiction, why you must slow ...
Apr 07, 2022•56 min•Ep. 255
Relational conflict is an inevitability – as long as there are people on the planet, there will be conflicts too. Building skills to resolve conflict is one of the most preventative ways to quit porn. Many men choose to watch porn because they cannot resolve conflicts in their key relationships. Other times, it is simply the distress of ongoing on conflicts that drive compulsive sexual behavior. Today's episode explores these dynamics, and explains why resolving conflict with the intent to let t...
Apr 06, 2022•15 min•Ep. 254
The million dollar question for most Christians today is, "What's my purpose?" This episode is designed to give you an overarching concept of how to define purpose, and three critical questions that will help you acknowledge or refine the call God has placed on your life. This is a challenging subject for many, but one that must be addressed head on to experience fulfillment and freedom in life. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Apr 05, 2022•17 min•Ep. 253
You may have heard the statement "Everything happens for a reason" as consolation for a difficult experience or to provide some optimism that things will work out even though they look bleak. While this statement is typically made from a good place, it implies intent, usually on God's part. This is not only a dangerous way to think, it is wrong, and it can often leave parts of our past unresolved. Today's episode explores an alternative way to settle difficult moments and why it is so critical i...
Apr 04, 2022•15 min•Ep. 252
If you grew up with rigid rules around your behavior, you have likely been conditioned to avoid, suppress, and ignore anything that is "bad" or "negative." While this can effectively curb behavior, there is no joy in the process and the fruit of such an endeavor is often minimal. Today's episode uses a recent case study to examine the power of giving someone with a rigid upbringing permission to watch porn and how it empowered him to choose against it. If your solutions so far have been will pow...
Apr 01, 2022•13 min•Ep. 251
Samuel Abraham Perez is a former gay stripper turned whole hearted follower of Jesus. After being involved in a homosexual lifestyle and experiencing severe depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts, God found Samuel and his life has never been the same. His mission is to preach his testimony and experiences of his life in the LGBTQ community to believers and non-believers, hoping to inspire others that the love of God is transformational and correcting. Today's interview is absolutely loaded w...
Mar 31, 2022•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 250
While it may be easy to chalk up Will Smith & Chris Rock's Oscar incident to celebrity shenanigans, the reality is what took place exposed parts of our society that must be addressed. Today's episode explains the importance of men appropriately stepping into the role of protecting loved ones, and why violence never solves the problem. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse
Mar 30, 2022•17 min•Ep. 249
The word "love" is thrown around all the time, but have you ever wondered what it really means? How can you love your wife and also "love" Doritos? Today's episode deep dives into the 4 kinds of love, the difference between giving and receiving love, and why showing up in a relationship for love is very different than showing up from love. Discover Your Love Language Profile (No Charge) Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse...
Mar 29, 2022•20 min•Ep. 248
Have you ever found yourself wide awake at night even though your body is tired and you knew you needed sleep? This phenomenon is becoming commonplace for many with the rise in stress levels and screen usage amongst our many devices. Today's episode provides a novel way to condition your brain for rest on a regular basis, and why lighting control just might be the missing link in your nighttime routine. For night time routine, listen to Episode 62 - Winning The Night Get a FREE copy of my bestse...
Mar 28, 2022•17 min•Ep. 247
Communication is one of the best indicators of relationship quality. When the communication is happening often and in a healthy manner, the relationship itself is typically healthy. The same is true for miscommunications or a lack thereof. Today's episode explores healthy communications patterns in arguably the most important relationship of all – the relationship with self. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, pri...
Mar 25, 2022•16 min•Ep. 246
Richard and Brittni have been married for six years. They are parents, pastors, authors, and co-founders of LoveAlwaysMinistries.com - a ministry that helps people find freedom from porn while pursuing purity of heart. On today's interview, they sit down to talk with Sathiya about S-E-X. The good parts, challenging parts, and everything in between. Specifically, the conversation talks about what it was like for Richard to process Brittni's past as a porn star, how he explained the relationship t...
Mar 24, 2022•57 min•Ep. 245
Today's episode continues from yesterday's Episode 243 , detailing the importance of loving what you create, based on the creation story in Genesis 1. God loved what He created because He loved himself. The more you and I learn to love ourselves, the more we will love what we produce. This episode ends with a humorous story of Sathiya crying on a plane at the absolute worst time and an expert tip for the creative process. Listen to Episode 243 - Creativity For Men, pt 1 Get my blueprint to exper...
Mar 23, 2022•19 min•Ep. 271
We have made a huge mistake in our society of reducing creativity to artistry. The reality is that all are naturally creative, but few are creative naturally. Today's episode explains why this disconnect exists, and some practical ways to tap more into your creative potential. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse . Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you....
Mar 22, 2022•15 min•Ep. 243
Introspection is a beautiful thing. It allows us to understand ourselves better, piece together parts of our past, and ultimately grow. But as history often shows, you can have too much of a good thing. Today's episode explains the catch 22 of introspection – we must use it to facilitate our recovery process, yet it can hinder our recovery if it is overdone. Beware of this balancing act as you embark on the recovery journey. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Las...
Mar 21, 2022•19 min•Ep. 242
