In the early years of adulthood, hobbies are more or less built into our lives. But as careers develop and families begin to grow, without intentionality hobbies typically fall to the wayside. This is a huge travesty, as hobbies provide cushioning between stimulus and response, and conditioning to create separation between responsibilities and roles in our live. Both of these are vital for long-term freedom, and today's episode explains why (while offering many examples of a hobby you could begi...
Mar 18, 2022•17 min•Ep. 241
Matt Dobschuetz is a bestselling author and the host of Porn Free Radio, a top-rated self-improvement podcast with over 2 million downloads. He regularly coaches men from around the world through issues concerning business, relationships, and of course, porn addiction. In this unique interview, Matt and Sathiya take turns interviewing each other, going back and forth about their recent experiences of writing and publishing books, the importance of loving your creative works, business building, a...
Mar 17, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 240
The value of hard work cannot be overstated in today's hustle culture. We know that hard work yield great results. But hard work alone is rarely enough. If you work hard climbing the wrong ladder, it doesn't matter how hard you worked – you won't get the desired outcome. Today's episode explains the importance of discerning the "right" ladder to climb in the recovery journey, to ensure your efforts are well spent. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse ....
Mar 16, 2022•13 min•Ep. 239
If you have dealt with any degree of self-hatred before, you will understand just how taxing the experience can be. Typically self-hatred is when we explain discrepancies, uncertainties, and shortcomings in life using inner measures. While we know that self-compassion, turning to God, and finding places of belonging are important, these solutions are often executed prematurely, having minimal effect as a result. Instead, you must first address the issue of control in the situation. Today's episo...
Mar 15, 2022•18 min•Ep. 238
Today's episode explores 2 case studies from the DeepClean community with one thing in common: A major breakthrough after nearly a year of being plateaued. Both clients were struggling to move to the next level of their recovery until something shifted recently. When asked what caused the shift, both had a similar answer: nothing. Learn what they meant, and why sometimes staying immersed in a program and culture long enough eventually elicits desired outcomes. Get my blueprint to experience last...
Mar 14, 2022•14 min•Ep. 237
As social media and search engines continue to rule the day, one thing we must beware of is Big Al. Whether we like it or not, algorithms rule the digital world. The better you understand how they work, the more effectively they will serve you, rather than you serving them. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you....
Mar 11, 2022•20 min•Ep. 236
Over the past 10 years, Drew Boa has helped hundreds of men achieve freedom from porn and heal all kinds of sexual brokenness. Drew is the founder of HusbandMaterial.com, where he offers community, courses, and coaching to Christian men outgrowing porn. He is also the author of Redeemed Sexuality and the host of the Husband Material podcast. In today's interview, Drew and Sathiya deep dive into the subject of healing from childhood trauma. In this far-ranging conversation, Drew shares about the ...
Mar 10, 2022•53 min•Ep. 235
The choice to sexually misbehave never happens alone – there are many factors that influence a decision like that, one of which is alcohol. While alcohol consumption can be totally innocent, for some, it is the gateway to a series of poor choices. Today's episode gives some guidance on how to engage with alcohol during the recovery process, even if you haven't had a problem with it historically. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner...
Mar 09, 2022•17 min•Ep. 234
Furthering yesterday's discussion, today's episode shifts gears to talk about how we can support those who are directly impacted by the Russia-Ukraine war. Everyone has a responsibility in times like these – even if it is very small. We must step up, offer support, and do all we can to help. Sathiya explains how to pull this off, along with a few silver linings that we can take into account as the war continues. Get my blueprint to experience lasting freedom. Order a copy of The Last Relapse Joi...
Mar 08, 2022•16 min•Ep. 233
Cancel culture, political opinion, and algorithms seem to rule the day, especially in the midst of a global pandemic and wars. In today's episode, Sathiya shares a recent personal experience with this dynamic, and a few things he learned that might be useful for anyone trying to engage in this subject matter. While politics don't have a direct correlation to someone's addiction, often these topics can become triggering and leave you more vulnerable for slips. The better you can handle these conv...
Mar 07, 2022•19 min•Ep. 232
In the days of information overload, Sathiya has chosen to read only one book this year (he usually reads 30 minutes/day) as many times over as possible. This episode explains why he is doing an information detox and which book he has decided to read exclusively in 2022. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse . Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you....
Mar 04, 2022•18 min•Ep. 231
Ben Bennett is an author, speaker, podcast host, and the Director of Resolution Movement – a global movement overcoming hurts and struggles and thriving in life with Jesus and others. He has faced addiction, trauma, and mental health struggles in his journey toward a wholehearted life. Through many mistakes, missteps, false starts and restarts, Ben discovered proven tools and principles that have helped him overcome the hurts and struggles that hindered his journey toward wholeness. For the past...
Mar 03, 2022•56 min•Ep. 230
One of the challenging side effects of porn addiction is a contaminated imagination. The good news is that if you can learn something, you can also unlearn something – the question is how? Today's episode explores both the neurological and psychological elements of sanctifying your imagination so that it can be used in a positive, healthy manner. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just li...
Mar 02, 2022•26 min•Ep. 229
Falling short of your standards on a regular basis may have caused you to wonder if the standards are too high. As a recovering perfectionist, I can relate. Today's episode explains how to uphold high standards without being too hard on yourself when you come up short, and why this is critical for long-term recovery. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you....
Mar 01, 2022•19 min•Ep. 228
You may have heard (or even said) the statement that you have an "addictive personality." This episode breaks down the futility of this statement and addresses the sentiment that typically underlies it. 49 - Why You Should Be Careful With Personality Tests Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you....
Feb 28, 2022•15 min•Ep. 227
At some point in the recovery journey, many wonder if masturbation is really that big of a deal. Today's episode talks about three "states" that a man finds himself in the recovery journey (listed below). With this framework in mind, Sathiya explains his stance on masturbation. 1)What can I get away with? 2)What can I tolerate? 3)What is the best for me? Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom...
Feb 25, 2022•15 min•Ep. 227
Jim is a sought-after speaker and internationally known podcaster whose passionate exposition of God's Word, relational humor, and epic storytelling skills will keep you riveted to the edge of your seat. He has written numerous books, including his Amazon #1 bestselling Strong Men Dangerous Times. In this interview, Jim shares about his new book – Guts and Manhood, an exploration into the subject of courage and the 4 requirements for each man who longs to be courageous. He and Sathiya also get i...
Feb 24, 2022•42 min•Ep. 225
Today's episode explores a statement that was recently made in the DeepClean community that perfectly articulates the recovery journey. If you can truly grasp this statement and apply it to your life, you will find freedom. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you....
Feb 23, 2022•14 min•Ep. 226
Are you planning to see a counselor? Good! This is one of the best things you can do for yourself and something we recommend for everyone to do in their recovery journey. Today's episode explains three criteria to consider as you pick your counselor: 1) Be specific about WHY you are seeing them 2) Are you comfortable with online sessions vs in-person? 3) Do you trust them more than you trust yourself? 67 - How Do I Find A Professional Who Can Help Me? Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Jo...
Feb 22, 2022•17 min•Ep. 223
Today's episode tackles whether or not you should be having sex while you are recovering from porn and masturbation. Some argue that sex activates the same neural circuits you are trying to rewire away from porn and sexual misbehavior, while others argue that engaging in healthy sex is actually an important part of the healing journey. While both are valid points, today's episode explains which argument is correct. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, p...
Feb 21, 2022•17 min•Ep. 222
Nobody on this planet struggles with consistency. In fact, if you have any kind of addiction or compulsion with something damaging in your life – porn, masturbation, social media, drugs, alcohol, checking out girls, paying for sex etc. – it proves that you can in fact be consistent! The question is not how do you become more consistent, the question is why are you choosing to do something damaging on a consistent basis? Today's episode breaks down this concept in more detail and offers a practic...
Feb 18, 2022•15 min•Ep. 221
Dan Studt is the President of Freedom in Christ Ministries-USA. Through being personally impacted by Freedom in Christ Ministries in the mid-nineties to teaching the biblical principles in churches throughout the years, Dan has not only utilized the Ministry’s materials to impact many, but also applied them personally. In today's interview, Dan talks about getting caught watching porn by his aunt, the long process of getting free of sexual sin, how Bondage Breakers changed his life, and where Fr...
Feb 17, 2022•51 min•Ep. 220
It is no secret that there is an enemy and he is waging war against our souls. The question is how are we to respond? What does it look like to disarm the devil? Today's episode explains 3 primary ways the enemy tries to wreak havoc on our lives and society, each providing valuable intel on how to thwart his schemes in the first place. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you....
Feb 16, 2022•18 min•Ep. 219
Sometimes it can be hard to tell if a situation or circumstance in life is a temptation of the enemy or testing from God. Today's episode breaks down these two concepts in an easy to understand way, while providing insights on how to discern the difference. The good news is that no matter how many times you fail a test, the God of second chances will allow you to retake it until you pass. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men fro...
Feb 15, 2022•26 min•Ep. 218
The Latin word for vulnerable is a derivative "woundable" – this gives us stark insight into just how sensitive and tender vulnerability can be. While it does require vulnerability to admit a struggle with porn and masturbation, this is really skimming the surface of real transparency. Today's episode is an explanation of how pain arises as we pursue freedom and preparation for how to respond accordingly when the time comes. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle ,...
Feb 14, 2022•15 min•Ep. 217
We often throw around the term "let Jesus in" but what does that really mean? And when it happens – what can you expect? Today's episode breaks down this concept from a Biblical point of view while offering a direct application for the pursuit of freedom from pornography. When you truly let Jesus in, incredible things happen. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing freedom just like you....
Feb 11, 2022•15 min•Ep. 216
Jolene Winn is the wife of a former porn addict with a coaching practice for Christian women who have a spouse struggling with a pornography addiction. In today's episode she details her husband's unusual disclosure about his porn addiction, what it was like to suffer in silence, and how taking extreme ownership of her part in the situation eventually led to a healthy and restored marriage. If you are a man struggling and you long to understand the female side of the story, this interview was do...
Feb 10, 2022•52 min•Ep. 215
It is no secret that lockdowns, restrictions, and the rise of technology have changed the way we relate with each other – in some ways, this has been for the better. In most ways, it has been problematic. Loneliness is on the rise. But what about when you are surrounded by people and supported appropriately, but you still feel lonely? Today's episode addresses the loneliness epidemic and gives some insight as to why you might be feeling lonely EVEN IF you have lots of social interaction in your ...
Feb 09, 2022•16 min•Ep. 211
To celebrate the blazing launch of The Last Relapse, we are doing a mini-series featuring a few excerpts from the book. Today's episode focuses on the reward of pursuing intimacy with God – a mission critical concept for the recovery journey. The portion of The Last Relapse that we explore today will help you grow in intimacy with God the right way, while also featuring a rather humorous story to tie everything together. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a f...
Feb 08, 2022•16 min•Ep. 213
To celebrate the blazing launch of The Last Relapse, we are doing a mini-series featuring a few excerpts from the book. Today's episode focuses on renewing the mind and rewiring the brain – both the scriptural and scientific underpinnings of a healthy thought life. The portion of The Last Relapse that we explore today will dramatically improve your thought life. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, private community of men from around the world pursuing...
Feb 07, 2022•13 min•Ep. 212
