To celebrate the blazing launch of The Last Relapse, we are doing a mini-series featuring a few excerpts from the book. Today's episode focuses on a critical concept – balancing you emotional life. The blind spots men have emotionally often leaves them numb, disconnected and stressed. The portion of The Last Relapse that we explore today will help you hurdle those blind spots into a place of emotional fitness. Get your copy of my book The Last Relapse Join DeepClean Inner Circle , a free, privat...
Feb 04, 2022•18 min•Ep. 211
Today's interviewee is none other than yours truly, Sathiya Sam. Former Unleash The Man Within guest Shiraz Siddique switches seats with Sathiya to discuss everything about his new book, The Last Relapse, including why it was written, the writing process itself, who the book is for, the charitable component of all book sales, and why media outlets beyond the typical Christian outlets are interested in its content. Enjoy this rare opportunity to hear Sathiya in the hot seat! Find out more about N...
Feb 03, 2022•27 min•Ep. 210
With the launch of The Last Relapse today, this episode is a shake-up from our usual routine. Sathiya has chosen to give 10% of all book sales to a charity that is near to his heart. This episode features a mini-interview with Jonas Wall, the founder of Nalubale Social Center in Uganda. He explains why his ministry is different than typical missions organizations, how missions can effectively contribute to the local church and economy, and why his time as a semi-professional soccer player before...
Feb 02, 2022•23 min•Ep. 209
Do you have a hard time staying focused? Do you find yourself starting a task, only to get sidetracked only to realize eventually that you completely forgot about the initial task? We are more distracted than ever before, and the underlying causes are more closely related to porn addiction than you may think. Today's episode offers insights on why your brain is distracted and practical ways to stay focused. 30 - The Secret To Staying Focused 185 - The Reason It's So Hard To Focus During Sex, Wor...
Feb 01, 2022•20 min•Ep. 208
Your journey to freedom MUST include three recovery pillars: Self-awareness, healing, and identity. Each of these pillars comes with a mantra – a useful statement that gives you the essence of the pillar in an easy to understand (and easy to remember way). These three mantras have radically changed the lives of hundreds of men around the world, each of them are revealed in detail in today's episode. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse...
Jan 31, 2022•16 min•Ep. 207
Today's reflective episode offers insight into how your emotional life can be an incredible catalyst for worship. This concept is not new, as King David displayed it time and time again. If you are struggling to get in touch with your emotions, unsure how to connect with God on an emotional level, or find yourself drowning in a sea of overwhelming emotion, this episode will practically guide you through a simple process for rapidly growing in this area. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend ...
Jan 28, 2022•13 min•Ep. 206
Kelly is a Christ-Centered Certified Recovery, Transformation, and Life Coach, specializing in female sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. With an extensive background in the Human Services Field, Kelly’s coaching clients have extended from prisons to churches and everything in between. She currently resides in Alberta with her husband Deon, has 3 children 14, 16, and 25, and one amazingly cheeky granddaughter who is 2.5 years old. In today's interview, Kelly deep dives into her story of being ...
Jan 27, 2022•53 min•Ep. 205
This question is often asked within our communities so we decided to answer it on the podcast today. The short answer is, no. It's not a good idea, especially as you are pursuing your recovery. Your significant other should absolutely be INVOLVED, but this episode explains why it is better for you to have someone else designated as your spotter (accountability partner) that is not your wife. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse...
Jan 26, 2022•13 min•Ep. 204
By understanding the conditions that cause relapses, you can devise clever and preventative solutions moving forward. Today's episode explores the most common conditions for slips – BLT (Bored, Lonely, Tired) and practical things you can do to ensure they are not causing any more relapses. The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse...
Jan 25, 2022•18 min•Ep. 203
The biggest mistake you can make pursuing freedom from pornography is doing it alone. The second biggest mistake is pursuing freedom exclusively with others who are struggling. To truly experience freedom, you must surround yourself with "lions" – men who are fiercely pursuing and/or protecting their freedom at all costs. This will put you on the right path. Once you are surrounded, "training" then becomes the focus. This is how you expedite your recovery. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Atte...
Jan 24, 2022•16 min•Ep. 202
Making radical changes to your life comes with a cost. At some point, you will likely feel like quitting. Today's episode explains why this phenomenon exists and how to combat it as you pursue lasting freedom. Sometimes that extra push in hard times propels you into your next level of breakthrough and healing. Keep going – if you don't quit, you win. Follow Sathiya on Instagram Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Relapse...
Jan 21, 2022•13 min•Ep. 201
Ron DeHaas is the founder and CEO of Covenant Eyes, chairman of the board of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation and producer of the "Dirty Dozen." He is wildly passionate about fighting pornography and sexual exploitation of all kinds, and is the leading pioneer in the recovery space. Many do not know that Ron birthed Covenant Eyes out of tragedy. After losing his wife and kids in a fatal car accident, Ron decided to use the settlement to fund a screen accountability software in 2000! In...
Jan 20, 2022•55 min•Ep. 200
Eddie Capparucci is quickly establishing himself as a leading authority in the men's addiction recovery space. Fresh off the release of "Healing The Inner Child" which has impacted thousands of men, his newest book is titled "Why Men Struggle To Love." In this episode, Sathiya provides an overview of the book, focusing on a few areas that were particularly impactful. If you are looking for resources to accommodate your recovery, this episode will give you a better idea if Why Men Struggle To Lov...
Jan 19, 2022•17 min•Ep. 199
Modern churches are trumpeting 1 John 4:18 – Perfect love casts out fear. While this message rings true, especially for those learning their identity in Christ, is it complete? Today's episode explains while this concept is true, there are other dimensions that must be considered as well to fully understand the nature of God. A well-rounded understanding of the interplay between fear and love will position you to relate with God in a healthy way, becoming the man He made you to be in the process...
Jan 18, 2022•16 min•Ep. 198
When you embark on the recovery journey, you must push yourself out of your comfort zone. This dynamic in extreme form can lead to burnout, perfectionism, etc. The counterbalance is to give yourself grace, yet this is also has an extreme form which leads to complacency and enablement. Today's episode explains how excellence of the heart is the middle ground that you must strive for as you make pursue freedom. Listen to Episode 75 - Forming A Godly Identity Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Atte...
Jan 17, 2022•15 min•Ep. 197
Regardless of your relationship status, the truth is that we long to be attractive. We long to know we are worth of someone else's attention. Today's episode debunks the classic definitions of attractiveness, replacing them with a more Biblical definition and offering specific encouragement to live this out in your day-to-day life. Attractiveness is an attitude, not an attribute. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction...
Jan 14, 2022•12 min•Ep. 196
In 2019 Carl launched Live Free Ministries and created the Live Free Community App to help bridge the gap between millions of men who want help but lack the safe and supportive community needed to find real freedom. In 2020 he also launched Live Free Wives, a free support community, for spouses who need help as well and in 2021 became the CEO of XXXchurch.com. In this interview, Carl talks about his new book, When Shame Gets Real, and talks about what finally inspired him to write it. He also ta...
Jan 13, 2022•56 min•Ep. 195
At a recent mastermind experience, the phrase "Change your history" was coined by a consultant helping Sathiya with his business. The multi-faceted meaning of this expression has implications for you in your health and freedom. Pursuing freedom from pornography is about changing 4 different kinds of history: Browser history (clearing browser history is a real thing), addiction history, heart history and family history. Today's episode unpacks each of these in detail. Pre-Order my book The Last R...
Jan 12, 2022•18 min•Ep. 194
Ethical porn is a term that surfaced a few years ago to describe pornography that was produced under appropriate and legally sound circumstances. Often used to justify porn consumption, today's episode explores the irony of ethical porn and why it is not in fact ethical at all. If something toxic is produced under ethical circumstances, it does not alter its toxicity. Read Producing "Ethical Porn" Is Impossible by Fight The New Drug Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ul...
Jan 11, 2022•15 min•Ep. 193
Commitment issues are on the rise, in large part due to cancel culture, loose ethical and moral standards, and a plethora of other dynamics in society today. So what does true commitment look like? What's the secret to really committing and having a healthy, long-term relationship? Today's episode explores the subject using a few profound stories that have reshaped Sathiya's perspective on long-term commitment. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide ...
Jan 10, 2022•17 min•Ep. 192
Today's episode was inspired by a client who recently felt challenged by his lack of a romantic relationship. His solution was to find a relationship so his life would be better. After further prodding it became clear that a relationship would not fix the problem – there was actually a deeper need that he was looking to get met. We explain what this deeper need was and why relying on romantic relationships to save you/improve your life is a very dangerous approach. Pre-Order my book The Last Rel...
Jan 07, 2022•20 min•Ep. 197
Jonathan Daugherty is the founder and president of Be Broken Ministries and host of the weekly podcast, Pure Sex Radio. He has appeared on Oprah, ABC's Nightline, and has authored several books addressing the subject of sexual integrity. In today's episode, he discusses with Sathiya what it was like starting a podcast about healthy sex in 2005, the key to inciting heart transformation in someone looking to get free of unwanted sexual behavior, and where he sees the future of the recovery industr...
Jan 06, 2022•51 min•Ep. 190
How we handle rejection reveals how we perceive ourselves. Today's episode outlines how to handle rejection in a healthy way and how to extract the invaluable insights that rejection offers. If we can learn to leverage these experiences, we become healthier men who are confident, stable, and secure. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction...
Jan 05, 2022•15 min•Ep. 189
Men are rarely taught how to handle their emotional life in a healthy way, leaving them in one of two positions: 1) Numb and oblivious to their inner life or 2) Overwhelmed as they start to explore their emotions. Today's episode gives an account of both scenarios and offers practical ways for you to heal, learn, and master your inner emotional life. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction...
Jan 04, 2022•19 min•Ep. 188
If you are struggling with your sexual health, integrity, and development, it is very possible enmeshment is at play. Enmeshment is a form of 'symbiosis' often between a parent and child that blurs the lines of healthy relational functioning. Often masked as "overprotection" or "extremely loving", enmeshment catalyzes sexual dysfunction. Today's episode explores this reality in great detail, providing examples and several resources to help you better understand the subject. Enmeshment 101 Blog P...
Jan 03, 2022•24 min•Ep. 187
Jason Gingerich is an ordinary man with an extraordinary story. In this bonus interview, he shares about how he came to DeepClean looking to tackle porn once and for all. Little did he know resolving the root issues of pornography was just the start. During Jay's time in DeepClean, he has quit his job so he could start his own business AND boldly decided to move his family to a new country. This interview unpacks how he has experienced new levels of confidence, the deep inner work that was requi...
Jan 01, 2022•34 min•Ep. 186
Modern psychology is beginning to trumpet the importance of "being in your body." Today's episode explores this concept in greater detail, specifically applying it to our sexual well-being. Using a powerful anecdote from Dr. Nicole LePera, this episode will provide insight into why you've found it challenging to stay focused, why experiences that are normally pleasurable seem lackluster, and practical steps you can take today to combat this dynamic. The Holistic Psychologist IG Account Pre-Order...
Dec 31, 2021•23 min•Ep. 185
Matt Cline is the director of Restored Ministries, an international ministry helping men and women live free from sexual bondage and the effects of sexual betrayal. In today's interview, Matt shares on the importance of cultivating intimacy with God on a personal level, how it impacts the recovery journey, truth about masturbation from a biblical perspective, and the challenges that come in a marriage when you lead an organization that revolves around the subject of sexuality. Follow Restored Mi...
Dec 30, 2021•55 min•Ep. 184
If you grew up in the church, you were taught that sex is for marriage. The numbers are clear that this standard has been a challenge to uphold, which can often lead to shame, self-loathing, and a feeling of being "damaged goods." Today's episode gives practical advice for how to respond if you've had sex outside of marriage and want to make things right. The mistake itself is not the end of the world, it is the response that is make or break. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free cop...
Dec 29, 2021•24 min•Ep. 183
For people who have finally achieved freedom, the question is what's next? There are both psychological and practical steps that are necessary to capitalize on the freedom you've obtained, they are explained in detail in today's episode. This is worth a listen even if you haven't experience freedom yet, as it will prepare you for when the time comes. Ep 133 - The Day After Freedom Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction...
Dec 28, 2021•17 min•Ep. 182
