If you've ever engaged in pornography, you know that it can be a slippery slope. Thresholds for pleasure and content intensity can increase, leading us to places we never imagined were possible. It is important to know that for starters, you are not defined by what you watch, no matter how dark/intense it may be. There are neurological concepts at play that often drive us to these places, namely: 1) Novelty enhances pleasure 2) Neural associations form in moments of curiosity Today's episode dee...
Nov 15, 2021•22 min•Ep. 151
A lot of the messaging in this podcast and DeepClean can come across as "anti-filter", when in reality, internet filters can have an essential place in the porn recovery process. The mistake men commonly make is relying exlusively on the filter – this can lead to disastrous outcomes. When a filter is supplementary to an inner transformation process (program, counseling, coaching, etc), it can be highly beneficial, provided it is used appropriately. Today's episode explains exactly how you can do...
Nov 12, 2021•18 min•Ep. 150
Shawn Bonneteau is a passionate speaker, certified mentor and founder of Secret Habit with his wife Helena. His mission is to help men struggling with pornography addiction, erectile dysfunction, and ultimately, sexual brokenness. He has been a guest speaker/writer with X3 Church, Bravehearts, Husband Material, Family Life Canada, and many more. In this candid interview, Shawn details his experience with porn-induced erectile dysfunction AND a classic case of erectile dysfunction as well, detail...
Nov 11, 2021•1 hr•Ep. 151
Today's episode distills a fundamental neurological concept that more or less explains the essence of all addiction. When we are highly motivated, we will do things that even surprise us – sometimes good, sometimes bad. You will understand what is happening in your brain when you are motivated, and how to harness it for your good. While some of the terms and concepts around this matter are complex, this episode is purpose conveyed in simple-to-understand language that will give you a better unde...
Nov 10, 2021•26 min•Ep. 148
Generally speaking, people are quick to lump sexual interests, orientation and identity into one, when in reality these are three distinct subjects. Today's podcasts provides an overview of each concept while explaining how they can work separately and in conjunction with one another. A few important takeaways: -Sexual interests are conditioned and changeable -Just because you watch same sex porn doesn't mean you are homosexual -Novelty and anxiety enhance pleasure - they do not necessarily indi...
Nov 09, 2021•21 min•Ep. 147
A majority of this world believes pornography is harmless and in some cases, useful. It is only a matter of time before you encounter people of this opinion, and today's episode focuses on equipping you with conversational tools to handle these situations effectively. Specifically, we talk about having the goal of understanding, the power of listening first, and sharing your story. These are universal principles for effective conversation around any controversial subject, porn included. Be a par...
Nov 08, 2021•24 min•Ep. 146
You can only truly remedy pain and discomfort by embracing them – both persist as long as they are ignored or simply tolerated. Today's episode uses personal examples to explain the power of surrender and its necessity for breakthrough and growth. While logic tells us to simply endure pain, exercise willpower, or devise tactics to make it through, embracing pain head on goes a much further way to bringing about the results we want in any area of our personal development. Buy The 7 Habits of High...
Nov 05, 2021•17 min•Ep. 145
Dr. Eddie Capparucci is a licensed professional counselor who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction and the author of the book, Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction. In short, he is a legend in this space of porn and sex addiction recovery and this interview did not disappoint. Dr. Capparucci explains how he found this calling in the first place, why honoring God first allows you to see women the way He does, all while providing practical examples of h...
Nov 04, 2021•56 min•Ep. 144
Today's episode is inspired by Stephen covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, touching on the importance of understanding process and letting people into your specific place in a process. Male tendency is to put on a façade making it appear that we know more/are further ahead than we really are. As a result, we rob ourselves of gaining the knowledge necessary to simply move to the next step in the process, ultimately hindering our growth. When we embrace humility and learn to honestly ...
Nov 03, 2021•22 min•Ep. 143
Proverbs is often quoted for the famous saying, "where there is no vision, the people perish." While typically applied in a leadership and success environment, this same statement has major ramifications for our relationships. Today's episode explains the power of vision in selecting a future spouse, and the important role it plays in long-term success for a marriage. If you are high-profile, high-income and looking to get help with pornography, visit https://www.sathiyasam.com/mindset-coaching ...
Nov 02, 2021•23 min•Ep. 142
Today marks day one of our newly branded podcast, Unleash The Man Within. Not to worry, this is merely an optics rebrand, the content, scheduling and cadence of the podcast will continue as it was previously. In this episode, Sathiya gives an overview of the podcast so far – including some milestones along the way, explains the embarassing story that led to the rebrand, and casts vision for the podcast moving forward. This is a highly recommended listen if you've found this podcast useful in the...
Nov 01, 2021•25 min•Ep. 141
Chris (USA) was given an ultimatum: The love of his life or porn. He knew he needed help, but now the pressure was on. It was time to fight for the girl he had waited almost 4 decades for. After working through wounds from the past, and working hard on his identity, Chris barely recognizes himself today - he truly is a new man. In this bonus episode, Sathiya sits down with Chris to hear more about his remarkable recovery through DeepClean. Become a DeepClean VIP Member Book A FREE Strategy Call ...
Oct 29, 2021•30 min•Ep. 140
Many well-intentioned men have introduced artificial consequences to curb their behavior. Sadly, they never work. Today's episode explains why, while offering an alternative approach that has a much higher chance of success. Become a DeepClean VIP Member Book A FREE Strategy Call - www.sathiyasam.com/case-study Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG ) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiyasam.c...
Oct 28, 2021•20 min•Ep. 139
A common mistake men make getting free of pornography is giving up too quickly. Today's episode uses a very Canadian metaphor to explain the recovery journey and why you just might be one step away from your next big breakthrough. Become a DeepClean VIP Member Book A FREE Strategy Call - www.sathiyasam.com/case-study Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG ) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www.sathiy...
Oct 27, 2021•13 min•Ep. 138
An often-overlooked fruit of spirit, self-control is maybe the most important of them all, especially in the journey to freedom from pornography. Today's episode looks at the concept of self-control through a biblical and anecdotal lens, offering fresh insights and perspective to help you grow in this area. Become a DeepClean VIP Member Book A FREE Strategy Call - www.sathiyasam.com/case-study Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG ) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive...
Oct 26, 2021•27 min•Ep. 137
Highly regarded as one of the pioneers of the men’s ministry movement in America, Steve started one of the first ministries in the country for the growing church population at Elmbrook Church in Brookfield, Wisconsin. In 1994, he began the annual No Regrets Men’s Conference which today draws thousands of men across the country and around the world. Steve regularly consults churches on leadership issues and leads seminars helping to develop men’s ministries both in the US and abroad. He has a bac...
Oct 25, 2021•54 min•Ep. 136
Today, Sathiya tackles classic questions about where to draw lines for sexual intimacy in a marriage. The main questions tackled are: 1) Is porn ever OK in a marriage? 2) Is masturbation OK if you fantasize about your wife? 3) What about sexts/images with your wife? 4) Which positions/forms of sexual activity are acceptable? Whether you're single, in a relationship, or married, if you've ever wondered any of these questions this episode is for you! Book A FREE Strategy Call www.sathiyasam.com/ca...
Oct 22, 2021•22 min•Ep. 135
Fear of rejection is always undergirded by a lie that usually starts with "I Am...". Examples: I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy of love. Today's episode breaks down the fallacy of rejection/fear of rejection, offering practical encouragement to see your value regardless of how the people around you respond. Book A FREE Strategy Call www.sathiyasam.com/case-study Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights and inspirati...
Oct 21, 2021•17 min•Ep. 134
A client recently asked what you're supposed to do once you experience freedom from pornography? How do you move forward and press on? today's episode outlines that in clear detail, offering two very practical things that ensure you enter your new life with confidence. Book A FREE Strategy Call www.sathiyasam.com/case-study Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for my newsletter at www....
Oct 20, 2021•15 min•Ep. 133
Today's episode discusses the issue of perfectionism, a subject that frequently comes up in the pursuit of sexual integrity. While the subject can come up covertly and overtly, perfectionism will rob you of joy, peace, and gratitude. Receive a simple encouragement from Sathiya today, reminding you of your true value and worth because of who God says you are. For more practical ways to resolve perfectionism, check out Episode 17 - Killing Your Inner Perfectionist Book A FREE Strategy Call www.sat...
Oct 19, 2021•21 min•Ep. 132
Paul Louis Cole, D.Th., is a noted speaker, pastor, author and one of the world’s foremost experts on men’s issues. His mission is to rescue families, defeat fatherlessness and end child abuse by providing leadership tools and strategies to bring a clear and defining word to men. He has conducted seminars on wisdom, parenting and manhood in over 70 nations. In today's in-depth and personal interview, Paul details his process for staying grounded while handling prominence, why men get tripped up ...
Oct 18, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 131
Toxic masculinity is the notion that all men should be tough, aggressive, antifeminine, and dominant. These characteristics can be true of men, but they are not a requirement, which is why they have been termed as 'toxic.' However, in response, a new male prototype has been created – one that is highly sensitive, feminine, soft, and passive. This pendulum swing has been equally problematic. Today's episode explores these concepts in greater detail while offering a different definition for mascul...
Oct 15, 2021•18 min•Ep. 130
Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages have been monumental for many men in the DeepClean coaching community. But what happens when physical touch is your primary love language and you're single? Today's episode offers two trains of thought for handling this scenario (and other scenarios like it) to ensure that your love tank stays full even when your primary love language cannot be fully satisfied. 83 - How The 5 Love Languages Are Helping Guys Get Free Book A FREE Strategy Call - www.sathiyasam.co...
Oct 14, 2021•15 min•Ep. 129
Whether it's a new stage of life, new location, new job, new church, or just a new shirt, life has this way of keeping us on our toes. While some revel in transition, others dread it. Regardless of your stance, today's episode explores a few keys for handling transition in a healthy way. Book A FREE Strategy Call - www.sathiyasam.com/case-study Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights and inspiration by signing up for ...
Oct 13, 2021•28 min•Ep. 128
While they sound the same, a choice and a decision are in fact quite different. Choices are reversible, decisions are not. Choices leave options behind, decisions eliminate them. Today's episode explores this concept in greater detail, offering specific insights into the journey to freedom from sexual misbehavior. Book A FREE Strategy Call - www.sathiyasam.com/case-study Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights and ins...
Oct 12, 2021•18 min•Ep. 127
Dean Brenton became the President of Impactus | Promise Keepers Canada in January 2021, after serving for 30 years in pastoral ministry and denominational executive leadership. In today's interview, Dean explains what it was like taking over a prominent ministry during the pandemic while moving across the country, what it's like being the only male in a 5-person household, and how men can get resourced to walk further in their callings. This interview is especially for any guy who is currently a...
Oct 11, 2021•43 min•Ep. 126
The stats are clear that pastors are struggling just as much as everyone else – in many cases, even moreso. In today's episode, Sathiya shares about his own struggles with porn as a pastor, the experience of being in a congregation led by a struggling pastor, and ultimately, what is required of pastors to get the help they deserve. While in many ways, pastors are ordinary people like everyone else, there are nuances to their role that must be handled with care in the recovery process. Book A FRE...
Oct 08, 2021•23 min•Ep. 125
If I asked you what is the one thing a man must do to be successful in his relationships, how would you answer? There is no right or wrong, but in today's episode Sathiya explains the fundamental requirement for all men in relationships to apply for long-term success. If you are in a relationship, this episode is for you. Book A FREE Strategy Call - www.sathiyasam.com/case-study Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights...
Oct 07, 2021•18 min•Ep. 124
Following yesterday's episode, Sathiya offers a practical and applicable strategy for evaluating whether a belief, action, decision or lifestyle is morally appropriate. If you live by these two gauges, you are guaranteed to make good decisions and experience long-term success in the areas that they are applied. Book A FREE Strategy Call - www.sathiyasam.com/case-study Download The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addiction (URG) at www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com Receive weekly insights and inspir...
Oct 06, 2021•23 min•Ep. 123
Ethical relativism is the mantra of today's society, leading to the popularization of phrases like "do you." Although seemingly harmless, the philosophies behind these concepts are dangerous to our understanding of morality. Today's episode cautions against the fallacies of ethical relativism and provides a stark reminder to stand firm on the morals and values of the Bible. Episode 107 - Is Purity Culture Really That Bad? Episode 111 - Dan Martin (pureHOPE) on Talking To Kids About Sex, Dismantl...
Oct 05, 2021•27 min•Ep. 122
