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episode nineteen. Well, everybody's talking about the Will Smith slap. I had to get in on that conversation. You know, I have my thoughts about that, so I'd like to share it. That segment is called man Cole the Will Smith Slap on Chris Rock. The other segment on this episode that I have is talking about what's going on in the community and what's going on in the community is affecting everybody today. Gas prices are too high, books

or gas. And the last segment I have on this episode is an interview I did with an author, an independent author by the name of Tasha Bird, who wrote or is part of a collective four books called Blessed Not Broken, The Power of letting Go, kind of similar to a book review I did last episode on the Sublime are are not giving it? So stay tuned for that interview with Tasha Bird. What's happening in the community. Well,

I tell you what's happening. High gas prices. It took a hundred and twenty dollars to fill up my car work out a beatle and it costs sevent to fill a beatle up. So the question is books or gas? Books or gas? Well, this is going to be a challenge and people have to have disposable income to buy the things that they want. Gas is a necessity, not a one. People gotta go to work. People need to have gas to go to work more. I mean a

lot of people drive cars, especially in California. Everything is far books, oh yas right now, these gas prices are outrageous and it's typing into everyone's pocket and everyone's business. Now, I want people to see books as essential, and books are essential and we have to maintain. You know, everything you want to be, you're gonna have to you find in a book. Anything you want to beat, you gotta read a book. So books are essential. Now I'm not

sure the recession proof but they are essential. But gas, that's really essential. Books or gas. These prices are outrageous and unacceptable, unacceptable that you know, we talked about community here on Relics bookshelf. Right now, this gas prices affecting the community right now. People are suffering at because when you can't you can't spend paying a hundred or some dollars for your car, You can't spend. I was at the gas station. I was putting gays in the beatle.

Pay second five dollars. The guy he just shout it out and I just spent eighty dollars and fill this up. He wasn't happy about that. And I don't care. Um. You know, with these prices the way they are continue to go up. Um, there's no end to this that we can see far and near. Um. People are going to fill it and they're gonna have to make decisions. And they got to decide what's um they need to do.

And I'll tell you what you need to do. You need to get a good book and stay at a get a good book and stay at all because you don't want to run around and spend all your gas. And they gotta go with some more and it's expensive. So if you want to save some money, guess what, go get up up, go get up up books or gas. I say get a book. I say get a book. So that's my recommendation. I think that you should get a book, stay at home, do a backyard bookie party

at home. You gotta find ways to cut money. Well, hey, my suggestion, get a good read, get a good book. Come to Malik's books. We got plenty. Come to the website, we got plenty. Because guess what, you gotta find ways to save money. You gotta find ways to save money. Books can help you do that. That's right behind. A book can help you do that. So my suggestion, get a good book, get a good read, kick it at the house, kicking in the backyard, kicking amongst your pool,

go to the part. Whatever you need to do, get a good book because and kick it at the house or wherever you want to be. That's my recommendation because this is all about community. And that's what I think about. What's happening in the community, disaffecting the community is these gas prices. Where you know, on the Leak Book Show, I love the interview a new author. In this case, they got four books though, so I'm lead in the game. I have tisher Bird with me right now at my

leak books. So guess what I'm gonna take this opportunity to interview her about Blessing not Broke in the power of letting Go. And look, this is supposed to be the fourth book. This is the fourth volume, the fourth volume. I'm late in the game, so tell us about one to three and then four. Yes, so I am a

new published author. Um. It was myself and five other young ladies where we opened up and shared our obstacles and triumphs and victories and heartache and pain, and we just experienced, uh, letting go and being able to share our experiences with everyone and hopefully will be a great encouragement, wonderful, wonderful. So all four books I have the same title. No, well, Blessed not Broken like we had transformation, we had you know, it's three other ones, but this one here is the

power of letting go, letting go. You know. My last I guess book we view that I've done was called The Sublime Art of Not Giving an f And what that book was about was let go, realizing it Sometimes things are just what left up. So you just have to accept it and know how to process this and let it go and move forward. So is that what this book is all about. That's what all five of

our six of our stories are. I shared actually three different experiences in my life that had held me back for so many years, and UM the whole process of um allowing myself to sit in it, acknowledge it, accepted, and also move on, forgive and live. That's the title of my chapter. Well, you know, I found that letting goes it could be a difficult thing. Ver I've held it since uh at a good age of like twelve, twelve fifteen, I had an experience and I had a

experience in my twenties with my now husband. Well you know, I thought they say experience is the best teacher, and someone who has ever experience, I think has the richness to offer someone to make that transcend to get through so they can learn to let go. Because like I said, it's difficult. Grief is real very much so it's it is a process. But I learned to appreciate the process.

I've grown from it to sit in my stuff, to be accountable and also to for the main thing I forgave myself when I learned to forgive myself, because I have a forgiving heart towards others quicker than myself, and I think a few of us go through that experience. But when I learned to forgive myself and accept, you know, gave myself some grace, I was able to let go. Well, I think that you should tell us three of the richest points and highlights of this series. Wow, three of

my own chapter or just overall overall. Well, you know, we have one young lady she experienced UM cancer and UM her experience through the cancer, being UH coached, being supported, being loved through that transition, but finding it finding love for herself that was a process for her. Then we have another young lady her process of being fatherless and going through that process, and UM for myself. We had another another young lady struggling with suicidal thoughts, you know.

And then myself, I had it's generational curses. Is that's my main focus because I learned that with those three main experiences that I share with you guys, if I had more structure coming up, if I had more support, guidance, encouragement, higher self esteem within myself, I wouldn't have went through that deep. We're all gonna go through some stuff, go that deep. And I promise you was a boy the grace of God. I made it out without games, without drugs,

without prostitution, without homelessness, without crying, killing somebody. I made it through all of that, made it through. And I like the fact that you're willing to give God the globe of course. Yeah, you know, start there and move down. I thank God so much, exactly. But it's been a blessing. How you just stopped buying Malik books. And I just wanted to take this opportunity and talk to you about your wonderful book and do you share it with us?

And I just want you to sell a million copies and if we can help you try to move something. I'm glad you're coming on board with Independent bookstore Day April thirty. Wonderful what we're gonna We're featuring at least twenty independent authors, So you're coming on board. Appreciate you. We're gonna turn up that day. It was gonna be let that day. We got Terry Crewe's headline in that day. We're gonna have twenty authors. We're gonna have free giveaways.

We're gonna have music and it's gonna be fun. Festival event at westforld CO City Mall April thirtieth. Come on through and so thank you Tasha Bird. Appreciate the interview. Appreciate you taking your time out to talk. We're leaked look shelf bringing a world together with books, culture and community. Thank you. This Will Smith slapped on Chris Rock has went viral, and I mean worldwide viral. I gotta say something about it because a lot of other people had

a lot to say. But it comes down to the man cold. The reality is this. You can talk about all the laws in a fault and all the laws and in place for men, has a natural man cold And one of the strongest natural emotions of a man is his duty to protect his wife. And when you feel your wife has been assaulted verbally or otherwise, something comes up in you. More wars have been fought over women in the last six thousand years. So let's not try to tiptoe das because oh, he assaulted Chris Rock.

What about the verbal Saulce being a comedian and telling jokes about somebody's wife is not a justification for insulting a person verbally. That's the reality. And if a man feel that his wife has been assaulted, he has a duty to defend the honor and respect of his wife. Wife are off limits in most cases, and that's what men who want to tell jokes on somebody's wife need to understand. Whys are off limits. And if you cross that line, and it is a line, a red line

in the sand, there are consequences. People say, oh, he assaulted, but he's not gonna press your Yeah, you're right, you shouldn't because if you're man enough to talk about a man's wife and then hide it under the jokes, and then you should be mad enough to take it to the alley. Sometimes you got to deal with the reality. Men are men first, and laws don't stop the fight. That a man got to be a man, and no man should allow no one to insult his wife and

hide behind a joke. And then I can if it's okay, Yeah, we live in a civilized world. But let me tell you something. Their laws also that said, don't provoke a person to act aggressively on you. You can debate that and go back and forth and show different points of view, but in the end of the day. If you feel you offended somebody, if someone feels you offended their wife,

then you got this man up and take the consequences. Now, I don't know if Chris watters A just was a coward and didn't respond when a man walked up to him and not, or he showed just great restraint. I don't know. I don't know what was in his mind at that moment. But most men would have retaliated, that's all I'm saying. Most men would have reacted if they got hit. Regardless whatever reason. Chris didn't respond. He responded in a way and made a joke out of it.

You know, showed great restraint. He showed that he chose to use his words. Yeah two, make laughter and refuse the situation. And that's noble. That's noble. And it takes curs to do that because of some people they look at this cowardness. But I think that words matter and that we should choose the path of peace and words before we act upon in an aggressive a matter of physically. But sometimes the red line has been drawn. And let me tell you something, when you talk about somebody's wife,

even if you're joking, I might not receive it. That way, and you might not know what's going on in my life personally, so you gotta prepare for the consequences. And that's what happens. Man cold, man cold. They're dudes. And don't I think wives hours limits. I think wives are off limits. I don't think that men should talk about people. Why because I think there are red lines drawn in the sine. I mean, gotta protect this and secure his family. So we all you know, so you can look at

it any way you want. You can say, oh, right, this right right wrong, this way right, this way wrong, and you can look at it all you went. At the end of the day. Um, feelings are real, and somebody feelings felt a certain weight, and when they went, they go in that direction. You can forget about laws, you can get about civility, you can forget about hey, you know, be all America the law. You know, this is a land of laws. Don't stop this country from

you know, it's history. They had laws on the book, and they still did slavery, They still was violent, they still did octs against humanity. H Now, let's not forget that. We quit the point of finger. We clicked the point of finger. All kind of valid things have happened all over this world and in this country, and we try to justify rationalize it. What happened during the rods during the summer, right, someone I love well? People got hurt,

people got robbed, things got burnt down. Were they justified? And you worried about Will Smith slapping somebody who defended his wife. He was defending his wife. He feels his wife was verbally assaulted, and you worried about that. They are bigger things going on, wars going on. Are you're sitting over here hind behind these laws and accolade. You could put a bear up against the wall, grizzly and then because if you know they're not gonna retaliate, let's

stop being hypocritical and put the double standard down. Man cold, there's man cold and wives are off limits. There's man code and wives are off limits. Everybody else has something to say. Right, if I felt my wife's being a type or verbally, physically or mentally, spiritual or whatever, man I got a duty to defend her. You understand, I don't care if it's on TV. That's the whole that's the reality that we live in. Yeah, we got to

have great restraint. We have to. You know, we don't get to where we got because of not having great restraint. Will Smith had great restrength his whole life. But then that was that moment. You know what I'm saying, Does that make him bigg I know he defended his wife, like her to leave it, like her to leave it. It's no telling jokes verb star somebody's wife. There's no past, they said, because you go to the comedy show and

might sit in the front row and you get joked on. Well, hey, a lot of people got beat down on that too, so don't act like that. It's never happened. Their lines to the drone. You need to know that before you take it upon yourself to do certain things. Is consequences for actions, all right. Sometimes you meet the wrong person at the wrong time and they're going through something. You hit you you hit a nerve, Hey, there you go.

Consequences the one actors, if you know that you could just say and do whatever you want without consequence, they're still consequences. And what we saw was consequences for your words, for your actions, all right, whether it's right or wrong. The reality is that at the end of the day, you gotta live with your with your actions. You got live with it. And I think Will Smith was wasn't live with his actions that you know, that's the reality.

You gotta live with your actions. I'm sure that they're going on apology tour, but at the end of the day, it's man coat and beware what you say, beware how you said, and don't think because you're telling the joke that is gonna be received as such, their consequences man code. So that's my thoughts. Man Cold. Upcoming community events that will be hosted at Malik Books is the one and

only the Beautiful pop Culture Garcel. You know, the actress that on The Beverly Hills Real Beverly Hills Housewives as well as the show called The Real or Guess What. She's gonna be doing a book signy at Malik Books April eleven at six thirty pm her new book called Love Me As I Am signy hosts of that Malik Books in the Westfield Cover City Mall and on April thirty and planning a big event around independent booksellers. They were gonna have twenty authors and our headliner is Terry Crows.

He's gonna be headline independent books store day, so you want to come. Mom's Fun for the families all ages. April thirty from twelve to seven is the event. Now it's a free of rent, but you got a register for the Terry Crews book signing his book Tough My Journey to True Power. Tough My Journey Through True Power by Terry crew Book signing April thirty, Independent book store Day. Bus rs repeat. Go to Malik books dot com under events and register for the Terry Crews book signing at

Malik Books on April thirty, Independent book store Day. My book review for this episode is a book by someone that we had the pleasure of meeting on social media and through emails and d m s we begin a relationship that culminated into this book being the number one best selling book at Malak Books for two thousand and twenty one, and it continues to sell really brisk in.

I can't thank this author enough for selecting a small independent bookstore as Malik Books and willing into existence and in putting into the universe the manifestation of supporting the local and buying from small independent bookstores, particularly during the pandemic. The book that I'm going to be doing my book review about is called how to Do the Work Recognizing Your Patterns, Healed from your Past and Create Yourself by

Dr Nicole Lapere. She's known all over social media, particularly Instagram, where she had millions of followers. She goes by the name the Horlistic Psychologists. Dr Nicole has hit a core subject matter which involves trauma dealing with mental health. There's mental health is plaguing communities all across this country and

Dr Nicole has devoted. She's a psychologist who graduated from Publie Cornell University and so with all of her studying and researching and consulting and therapy um with her clients, she created this self healing movement. The self healing movement is all about you healing yourself from your path, addressing the trauma or mental health issues that's holding you back, helping you to recognize those patterns, heal from your past

and create a new self. That's what this book is about, how to do the work, and this movement has exploded. This book has been one of the best sellers on New York Times and I know for a fact is the number one best seller at Malique Books. In one it continues to sell well. Even in How to Do the Work, hit all run because it's a core subject matter. There's some issue. A lot of people have mental health issues.

I know in the communities that I live in, I see it all the time, and all through this nation you find a lot of people needing a vice advice to help turn their life around. Well, this book How to Do the Work is an excellent choice to try to recognize, you know, issues that are plaguing you and how to heal from them and how to create a

new self. Some of the content you can find in How to Do the Work is subject matters like you are the best healer, the conscious self, becoming aware, a new theory of trauma, mind body healing practices, emotional maturity, independence, and of course boundaries setting those boundaries. Oftentimes, when we don't set boundaries, then we let people walk in and out of our space that cause conflict. And so how to set these boundaries in order to create a more

peaceful and meaningful relationship with self and others. So the contents in this book is just a good read, and it's an excellent book, and it's a book to address a very timely subject. And if you're looking for advice well, How to Do the Work is an excellent book that gives you an overwhelming amount of advice to help change and transform your life. So pick up a copy of How to Do the Work. Recognizing your Patterns, Healing from

your past, and Creating Yourself by Dr Laco. The peris Thanks for listening to Melik's Bookshelf where topics on the Shelf, our books, culture and community. Be sure to subscribe and leave me a review. Check out my Instagram at Melik Books. See you next time.