Ain't That a Mother

there's no civilization. Now, I don't want to discount the fact that there's a God, but I'm just saying that I came through by way of a woman. I want to give acknowledgement and praise to women all over the world because you make the world going around. So this episode twenty four is devoted and dedicated to you, happy mothers, think to all the women and the whole wide world. Lead Books has all the knowledge you want, Malik Books has all the knowledge you need. Books. Yeah, they have

all the books that the whole wild world want to read. Books. This is Belise Bookshelf and I'm recorded on the spot. Ain't Got a Mother by a Deeper Nelson. Belis bookshelf got an author and we need to hear from her right now about this wonderful comedy book coming out just before Mother's Day. So just quick tell us about the book and what you want my audience on release bookshop bringing a world together with books, culture and community to know about your wonderful book. Well, thank you so much

Withsta Malik. I don't know if I can match your energy, but I'm gonna try. So my book ain't that a mother? I'd like to call it a hilarious from through this comedy of areas we call parenthood. It's real talk about real parentsing the good, the bad and oh my god, hell no, god, you must be crazy. I tell all the secrets. I get very truthful, um. But I also bring some humor, some levity, some factual data, some historical data, um,

and humanity to parenting. Well. I think that your colors are beautiful, your cover is beautiful, and I think this is a timely book for the right time. And I got a chance to hear you talk about it real deep and personal. And so what is the most important chapter you say is in this book? Oh man? The most important chapter the end family keepsakes right? And what does that mean? Um? How we move forward when everything has been thrown at us, how do we keep going forward?

And what was your inspiration for writing this book? Um? Really just all the women that I come across who don't have a voice, whether you're a woman with a child, or woman without a child, or woman just walking through life. We've all experienced things, but we've all been told that we're not supposed to speak about them, and it's high time that we do well. I think that that is a great point, And so I have this fun, fun question to ask you. If you can sum up your

life in one word, what would it be? You're okay, this is back get someone blessed? Yes, uh, I can't. That's the only word. There's no way else to describe living through all the things that I've lived through and still being here and being here at this very moment talking to you about a book that I wrote that is out in this world, talking about the things I'm talking about. Blessed. I think that that's an excellent um

definition of the sum total of your life. And I think that you know, being blessed is important sometimes, you know, we don't see that. Sometimes things happen in our lives and we don't you know, recognized it at the end of the day that we still blessed it all joy, even the bad things, the things that go laugh, things were like, ah, are you crazy? Like are you serious

right now? Lord? Even in the end, and you turn around and look at where you're at versus where you were when X y Z happened, you realize that it had to happens that way for you to be where you are right now. So it's still a less sounds like you learn from experience. Um read the book, you'll find out well. Thank you, Thank you, Deeva Nelson. Go out and buy your copy of Ain't That a Mother? It's available everywhere because it's out. Just came out on Tuesday. Gratulations,

Thank you so much. Pleasure anniversary night, sixteen years in the game. It's been a wonderful ride. Looking forward to many more. On Melik's Bookshelf, I like to get personal. I like to talk about some things that are personal in my life without too much detail. But we like to talk, you know, we want to keep it real, we want to keep it exciting. Everything that we do at in our business Malik book, U uh, it's a derivative of our personal life as well, and it's our anniversary.

We've been together seventeen years. It's sixteen years of marriage. Um, we hit it. We're hitting to uh a nice dinner. Um. We had lunch earlier at the Getty Museum. We sat down overlooking the mountains. It was beautiful and uh, the food was wonderful, the view was wonderful. And um, now we hit into our romantic dinner this evening at at

a place at the Beverly Hills Hilton Hotel. Maybe I said the hotel wrong, that I've been known to get some names wrong, but listen, Um, we sixteen years in the game, and uh, I'm immenseally Um, I'm immensely happy as well as excited and looking forward to so many more things to come, more years to come. And yeah, I want to hear from a secret weapon. I want to hear from you know her thoughts about our sixteen

year journey. Well, sixteen year journey was just that a journey. Um. In these sixteen years, I have grown as a woman and I have learned many things about you that I have grown to love and still trying to understand. You know, being married is there's a job in itself because you after not only love and learn your your better half, but you're also happened to learn and love yourself in the process. So that's why I say a journey, because

it is a journey. It's a journey that I feel that has been worth the transition of being h a wife, mother, friend, business partner, all of it. I want you to know you my best friend. I love you, but you're really my best friend. I talked to you about everything and anything. My business partner, my best friend, my wife. Um, it could be, you know, um overwhelming simply because you're my everything. That can't be overwhelming. That can't be over No, of

course it could be overwhelming in a good way. But yeah, overwhelming for sure. You bring the best out of me. Do I bring the best out of you? You do? You bring the You bring the the best out of me, even in my my my times that I feel that I need a quiet time, is still the best out of me. Still shopping still like men shopping men, But you know what, husband and wife can shop in each other as well. I think that I've grown over the years. I've learned a lot. Um it's just you know, a

wonderful experience. But it don't come, well, you sometimes we get a little distraction, you know. Listen, I do a lot. I gotta wear a lot of hats at my league books. My wife wear a lot of hats too, and sometimes you know, we we uh, we try to get in our content, you know, wherever we can on to go. So we're trying to get some great content because it's our six team anniversary and we're excited. It's been a beautiful day. It was sunny, it was warm. We went

back to Getty Center. We met a young lady where she ain't young. She was eighty years old, eighty still living, sitting right by, telling me a little bit about her life. And I don't believe in quincidence. It was a reason why, you know, we said they set us in that place. We got a chance to talk to this young lady, This young lady. I keep saying young lady. But this just woman, my elder eighty years old and uh, she's been married, uh fifty years, fifty years, you know. So

she shared us her story. Her husband passed on and she had a significant other for fourteen more of the years and she was there waiting for another she's on the internet. Um, she was waiting for someone, but he went to the the wrong Getty. Long story short, Companionship is everything. It's not overrated all that on. I don't need a man or, I don't need a Uh that's a lie. She was eighty years old and somebody yes to talk to. Yes, friendship with Yes. And what's she's

saying about her? She said she lives in Hunted to be She said, living in that big old house is not a good thing she needs. So she wants someone. Yes, yes, Yes, it's not good, not good. Being alone is not good. Okay, And you know she coming out of the pandemic, coming out of relationship, she's trying to find companionship. She's sitting in her home all by herself. She drove all the way to hunting the beach to Getty to the Getty drove from Santa Barbro right right, So you know, don't

underestimate companionship ship. Um, that's one of the things I know that in this sixteen year journey, uh seventeen years really just sixteen years, murk Um, we've learned um that, Um. Companionship. Friendship is important, you know, confining each other, having someone that you can go to to talk to and you know, confining help me all of those things, because you know, we do everything together. Everything, We do everything together, and

it's a it's a good thing. You know, a lot of people that um I know say that's like, wow, you guys do everything again, say yes, we do everything together, and a question like how do you do it? You have to like the person. You have to like the person to give all your time and don't mind giving it. It's not like a burden, so you you really have to like the person in order to do that. Let

me tell you something. You know, beauty, Yes it's important on the outside, but it's just as portant as important, or if if not more, on the inside. And secret Weapon has a beautiful personality. She's more beautiful inside. And believe me, she's physically beautiful on the outside, she's more beautiful on the inside. Just she's a gift and a rainbow of blessings. That's why I call a secret weapon. And let me tell you this. Let me tell you this because I know, I know that beauty is in

the eye in bolder. So you know, it's all about what you like. But what's gonna sustain you? Because let me tell you something, you know, the physical movie me, don't get me, don't get it twisted. And she's very very beautiful and uh and she's looking scrumptious tonight. She's looking delicious. Yeah, you know, even earlier, even earlier when we went to the Getty, and even now when we changed up, she's looking scrumptious. She's looking edible, she's looking delicious.

She's looking all intentional, all for you, and talk to me talk doesn't fire me up? Yummy yummy and fired me up. I'm like, Lord Mercy, Yes, this is what I'm talking about. The spicest real, the spark is real. And she and she looking all day just yummy, yummy, yummy. Come on, justin baby, yummy yummy yum. Yes it was

all intentional. Oh yeah yeah yeah. So hey ladies out there, women out there, sisters out there, me tell you that, um you know, um, it's a beautiful thing when y'all go through your rit rolls and uh show your man um your beauty both hourly and em wily. It's a

beautiful thing. But yeah, so today, um, what was what what was on the menu was secret weapon ha ha ha, Yes that's the dessert I don't need do on know that she is the deserved And it's sixteen years Mary is still strong, It's still spicy, it's still wonderful, you know. Um so it's a beautiful thing. Let me tell you something, beautiful thing. So talk to me secret weapon. Give our audience, you know, something that they can hold in their relationship,

you know as they go through their journey. Well, I know this sounds katy. Shake, but don't move out of anger. Don't make movements out of if you eat, if you're upset, just sit down for a second, be quiet, get in your zen and then make a decision or then say something. Don't move out of anger because anger will mess everything up. And then you say something I've done something you can't return. So trying to move out of peace and love the emotions.

In other words, don't react out of it emotionally, you know, find a way to That's how I that's how I do it. I need quiet. I need to just be quiet because I've learned. If I react out of anger, I say things that are cruel sometimes and you can't take those back. You can't take them back, Like why did I say that? Why did I do that? That was really unnecessary? Just me. I need to just I need a quiet moment. Yeah, well I definitely dev have

learned that. Um, being silent sometimes it is the best thing. Um. Having space sometimes this is the best thing. Um. You know, we we live in a world where everything is a microwave, wanted an instant, you know, we wanted right now, and sometimes right now is not the now and we have to you know, take time space to resolve this. It don't have to be resolved right now. UM. You know, everybody's different and it's easy to rub someone the wrong way.

Everybody don't think the same, act the same, or want the same. So um, but just taking that minute to have space and time. UM, it's a very very good tip. You know. It's you know, small things can lead to big things. Tiny things can can be enormous things. And so UM I've learned to try to adapt that method as well. And UM, and you know, I'm I'm I'm

in a sixteen year married, I'm happy, I love my wife. UM. And you know everything about what we do, you know, release book shelf bringing a world together with books, culture and community. You know, it's just an extension of what we do secret weapons. It's an extension of our journey in our in our relationship as well as both personal and business. You know, Malik's bookshelf is a reflection of Malik books. It's a reflection of us. And you know, I appreciate you, I adore you, I love you, and

we're gonna celebrate our sixteen um your anniversary. I'm grateful to say that you are my husband. Thank you for giving me six and seventeen years of your life. Thank you. You're welcome. You're welcome. Well, that's concluse. I'll talk about our sixteen year journey here on release book show. I hope you enjoy. Olmar is enjoy. You know. I think that talking personal sometimes is being real, and you know,

and being personal can be helpful. You know. I can always get on here and talk about what was lit, was hot? You know. Yeah, marriage is at a year two months we made seventeen. This is lit. It is lit. They say, if you make tend you you're successful having like each other. Oh yeah, since a humor, sense of humor before I I don't talk about the sense of humor. You gotta have that to keep me. If you don't have humor and make laughter, oh my goodness. This is

I'll look at it. And in our relationship, we're gonna have to go out in this world and fighting, like go home and fight. Let's laugh, laugh and laugh at each other, laugh with each other, laugh at each other. It's okay, you know, to take life so seriously. You gotta fight when you walk out the door. You gotta put your gloves on the fight. I don't want to do that. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes yes. I've been known to, you know, being able to crack a joker too.

I never, you know, I really be. I never saw myself, you know, as having a sense of humor, but I got to say that, you know, I've been the only cracker joker too. I know I keep you laughing. She gets my corny jokes. But hey, um well, I hope you'll enjoyed this episode and have a sense of humor in your relationship. So peace. Thanks for listening to me Leek's Bookshelf where topics on the Shelf, our books, culture and community. Be sure to subscribe and leave me a review.

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