"We shouldn’t think of our struggle as a finite game, but an infinite game in which there will be many different opportunities to engage. We should be learning how to do better from our failures and our successes. Power may go back and forth over that period of time, over the years ahead of us, so don’t despair too much about whatever happens in the next couple months. Stay hopeful, stay engaged, and recognize that even if the pro-democracy movement loses some ground in this election year, we co...
Nov 21, 2024•7 min
"People also need to avoid conspiracy theories — and they need to avoid scaring people and doing the job of authoritarians for them. Political violence is a key strategy of authoritarians because it scares people, right? It scares people out of participating in the political system..." - Scot Nakagawa THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/08/anti-authoritarian-organizer-scot-nakagawa-participation-advantage-confronting-political-violence/ DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Oli...
Nov 20, 2024•11 min
Today I'm sharing some strategies on how to stay grounded during a trump presidency. THE SOURCE :https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/how-we-can-meet-challenges-of-authoritarianism/ THE OTHER SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/ AND THIS ONE: https://www.endpoliticalviolence.org/ AUTOCRACY THREAT TRACKER: https://www.justsecurity.org/92714/american-autocracy-threat-tracker/ ARTICLE ABOUT EFFECTIVE RESISTANCE STRATEGIES: https://www.theguardian.com/comment...
Nov 19, 2024•10 min
This is a re-release of episode 745: "getting out of survival mode" because I had a microphone issue and didn't want to ghost you on the final episode of the "grounding yourself after a Trump win" series. But this one felt relevant to me - and hoping it can help someone if you're feeling the same. Escaping the cycles of chronic stress... well... sucks. I often want to reach for things that further disconnect me, when in reality, the way out is through connecting more intentionally and deliberate...
Nov 17, 2024•7 min
This is a re-release of episode 888 "core beliefs" because I had a microphone issue and didn't want to ghost you on the final episode of the "grounding yourself after a Trump win" series. But this one felt relevant to me - and hoping it can help someone if you're feeling the same. For our entire lives, every single one of us has been developing a filter through which we see and interpret the world. This filter dictates the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, about other people, and the wo...
Nov 16, 2024•6 min
Today I'm sharing some strategies on how to stay grounded during a trump presidency. THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/a-new-wave-of-movements-against-trumpism-is-coming/ THE OTHER SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/ AND THIS ONE: https://www.endpoliticalviolence.org/ DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM ...
Nov 15, 2024•10 min
Today I'm sharing some strategies on how to stay grounded during a trump presidency. THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/a-new-wave-of-movements-against-trumpism-is-coming/ THE OTHER SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/ DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR B...
Nov 14, 2024•10 min
Today I'm sharing some strategies on how to stay grounded during a trump presidency. THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/a-new-wave-of-movements-against-trumpism-is-coming/ THE OTHER SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/ DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR B...
Nov 13, 2024•10 min
there's a new wave of valuable movements on the horizon, and I highly suggest you catch one. THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/a-new-wave-of-movements-against-trumpism-is-coming/ THE OTHER SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/ DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodc...
Nov 12, 2024•10 min
there's a new wave of valuable movements on the horizon, and I highly suggest you catch one. THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/a-new-wave-of-movements-against-trumpism-is-coming/ DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOUT...
Nov 11, 2024•10 min
Some of us have work to do. Some of us are terrified, but we're ready to take action. This is your reminder to do it scared. Time will pass either way, so we may as well put in a fight along the way. Rachel Maddow's Message: https://www.msnbc.com/rachel-maddow-show/maddowblog/maddow-trump-election-win-defend-democracy-rcna179201 Sophie Diener's Poem: https://www.instagram.com/sophiediener/reel/DAGaFkARf3m/?hl=en DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET ...
Nov 09, 2024•8 min
Another day of election grief ranting and some information on a "new-to-me" term: "The Glass Cliff". Links to the inspirational resources I referenced are here: Glass Cliff: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glass_cliff @imdaven on tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@imdaven?lang=en @WhaleDetective on tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whale_detective?lang=en @BlackLiturgies on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blackliturgies/?hl=en DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets...
Nov 08, 2024•10 min
Today I'm ranting about my election grief in lieu of a regular style episode. Links to the inspirational resources I referenced are here: Rebecca Solnit's Twitter: https://x.com/RebeccaSolnit ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Rebecca Solnit's Website: http://rebeccasolnit.net/ Robert Reich's Video: https://www.tiktok.com/@rbreich/video/7434148767412030763?lang=en Robert Reich's Resources: https://robertreich.org/ @YourKoreanDad's account: https://yourkoreandad.com/ Nikita Gi...
Nov 07, 2024•10 min
Today I'm sharing even more techniques using neuroscience to help us escape negative thought spirals. All this is extremely subjective and not meant to be used all at once. Pick one, try it, and give it some time and repetition. Maybe it helps, maybe you move on to the next. Don't be so hard on yourself, either way!!! Unfortunately, negative emotions have a tendency to compound, however there is building evidence that positive thoughts and behaviors (when practiced in contextually appropriate wa...
Nov 06, 2024•11 min
Today I'm sharing even more techniques using neuroscience to help us escape negative thought spirals. All this is extremely subjective and not meant to be used all at once. Pick one, try it, and give it some time and repetition. Maybe it helps, maybe you move on to the next. Don't be so hard on yourself, either way!!! RESOURCES: THE ARTICLE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/flipping-out/202207/doom-spiral-when-negative-thoughts-get-out-of-control PART 2: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us...
Nov 05, 2024•10 min
Today I'm sharing various techniques using neuroscience to help us escape negative thought spirals. All this is extremely subjective and not meant to be used all at once. Pick one, try it, and give it some time and repetition. Maybe it helps, maybe you move on to the next. Don't be so hard on yourself, either way!!! RESOURCES: Marsha Linehan's Technique: https://www.campuswell.com/cognitive-distortions/#1690237279413-809f9f34-cc86 Lisa Daino's technique: https://www.talkspace.com/mental-health/c...
Nov 04, 2024•10 min
Today we're talking about some common cognitive distortions. Not to brag or anything, but I’m kind of a professional spiraler. I have done it so well for so long that my internal anxious voice has taken me full circle and essentially become background noise. So while I have a million personal stories about me catastrophizing or spinning out about the future, I realize I don’t really have a ton of actionable solutions. So, I did what I do when I have an idea for the podcast and I spiraled into a ...
Nov 03, 2024•10 min
"Cynicism is a tool of the status quo." - Jamil Zaki "Billions of us are taught that life is a battle where winners take all and losers are everywhere. Our trust and hope are mocked as naive. By now,you know better. You can stay skeptical and avoid knee-jerk assumptions about people. You can remember that the media warps our view of one another and look for better data. Most of all, you can realize that hope is not a weakness, but a path to being less wrong and more effective. We can use that ho...
Nov 02, 2024•10 min
"I am sure that we will recognize that there are some things in our society, some things in our world, to which we should never be adjusted. There are some things concerning which we must always be maladjusted if we are to be people of good will. We must never adjust ourselves to racial discrimination and racial segregation. We must never adjust ourselves to religious bigotry. We must never adjust ourselves to economic conditions that take necessities from the many to give luxuries to the few. W...
Nov 01, 2024•11 min
Peace does not always represent justice or equity. Sometimes, it's good to be agitated. I think we can be hopeful AND angry. I truly believe there is room for both. “The challenge for us... is not to grieve over social change, but to guide it. ” - Robert Putnam RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession https://www.pbs.or...
Oct 31, 2024•9 min
"Studies reveal a recipe for disagreeing better: Good disagreers ask questions instead of making statements. They work to get underneath people’s opinions to their stories. When they spot common ground, good disagreers name it. When they are unsure about something, they say so rather than pretending to be confident. These ingredients each decrease the chance that dissent will devolve into toxic conflict. But good disagreement is more than nice; it’s powerful. In experiments, people given the rec...
Oct 30, 2024•11 min
"Ernest Hemingway once said, "The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them." He was half right. Trust doesn't just teach us about people; it changes them. It's a gift they repay. A reciprocity mindset means understanding this. Leaps of faith are actions inspired by that knowledge: deliberate bets on other people.” - Jamil Zaki RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/...
Oct 29, 2024•10 min
"Any of us can seek out more accurate, less cynical news. But don't forget that the stories you tell influence others, too. Gossip is our ancient media, and someone is probably tuned in to yours. Try to balance negative conversation with celebration of the kindness and honesty that you've witnessed. Be someone else's nourishing media.” - Jamil Zaki RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/a...
Oct 28, 2024•10 min
Researchers find that people regularly fail to realize how charitable, trustworthy, and compassionate others are. Helpers are all around; we just don’t see them. Some of these mistakes reflect how our minds are tuned. Negativity bias means people pay more attention to bad things than good. Again, this makes evolutionary sense: It’s safe to ignore a sunset, but not a tsunami. As psychologist Fred Bryant says, “Troubles kick our door in and come and find us… whereas the pleasures and the joys, the...
Oct 26, 2024•10 min
"Cynics often get people wrong, but that doesn’t mean it’s smart to put faith in everyone, all the time. Skeptics update their beliefs based hundreds of children, and then checked in with them a year later. When it came to depression and friendships, cynical children ended up the worst off, but extremely trusting kids did less well than those in the middle.Why? When judging humanity, both cynics and trusters behave like lawyers in humanity’s trial. Trusters represent the defense. They disregard ...
Oct 25, 2024•11 min
"Cynicism is the theory that people are selfish, greedy, and dishonest. Like any theory, it changes how we see reality and react to it—in this case, the social world. Cynicism changes how we think, what we do, and what we don’t do." - Jamil Zaki RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/...
Oct 24, 2024•10 min
"Cynicism is an understandable response to injustice and inequality. But in many cases, it is misplaced. Dozens of studies find that people fail to realize how kind, generous, and open-minded others really are. And cynical thinking worsens social problems: when we expect the worst in people, we often bring it out of them." - Jamil Zaki RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-fo...
Oct 23, 2024•10 min
Today, we're reading the first few tips from "Eight Habits of Effective Bridge-Builders" and discussing what it means to build these habits. RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/eight_habits_of_effective_bridge_builders DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:...
Oct 22, 2024•9 min
Today, we're reading the first few tips from "Eight Habits of Effective Bridge-Builders" and discussing what it means to build these habits. RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/eight_habits_of_effective_bridge_builders DONATE: www.pcrf.net Get Involved: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:...
Oct 21, 2024•8 min
Four Steps to Help People Feel Listened To: H = Hedge your claims , even when you feel very certain about your beliefs. It signals a recognition that there are some cases or some people who might support your opponent’s perspective. E = Emphasize agreement . Find some common ground even when you disagree on a particular topic. This does not mean compromising or changing your mind, but rather recognizing that most people in the world can find some broad ideas or values to agree on. A = Acknowledg...
Oct 20, 2024•10 min
