Question: What happens when I ask a robot to do my job? Answer: [Intro music plays] Host: Welcome to the "Make Your Damn Bed" podcast, where we talk about the importance of starting your day with a simple yet powerful habit of making your bed. [In-depth sound effect] Host: Today, we are going to discuss why making your bed is not just a simple task but a key to success. Our guest today is a renowned motivational speaker and best-selling author, [Guest Name]. [Guest Name], thanks for joining us t...
Feb 09, 2023•6 min
Stutz says you need to understand the three Aspects of Reality that no one — really, no one — can avoid. Those three aspects are Pain , Uncertainty and Constant Work . WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast This show is...
Feb 08, 2023•6 min
Stutz says his Tools “turn problems [in]to possibilities,” and give people the propulsive feeling that they can make big changes. In practice, the Tools are visualization exercises. In Stutz , each Tool is accompanied by cards with hand-drawn illustrations that, according to Stutz, render even the biggest, most complicated concepts into something manageable. WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/st...
Feb 07, 2023•7 min
gamifying things rocks. set timers, reward systems, get accountability partners, buy yourself treats - but don’t get too competitive at the expense of the goal of the gamification. WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast...
Feb 06, 2023•6 min
There are so many times a day that I find myself wanting to do a thing but unable to make myself actually get up to do the thing. And it’s frustrating as hell. When this happens, sometimes I benefit from making the thing as simple and accessible and cut and dry as possible. Other times, though, I prefer the opposite. I find that when I make things a whole ass event - it makes doing them more attractive. Getting enthusiastic about eating vegetables gets a hell of a lot easier when you grill those...
Feb 05, 2023•7 min
You are a beautiful collage of all of the things you've witnessed and experienced over your lifetime. You're unique. One of a kind. But if you're not feeling "aligned" there are ways to unlearn and relearn that can change the game for ya. RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-another-name-for-pain/202212/stop-looking-for-your-authentic-self WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com...
Feb 04, 2023•8 min
To hack "group flow" there are a variety of factors that come into play. We must be have clear goals, communicate effectively, feel a sense of challenge but not overwhelm, share the stage with our egos, promote a "yes, and" energy, and solid participation. Today, I break that down for ya. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mind https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/live-life-at-the-limits-how-to-hack-your-flow/ WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GE...
Feb 03, 2023•8 min
merging action + awareness is the best way to improve our access to flow. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mind https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/live-life-at-the-limits-how-to-hack-your-flow/ WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast O...
Feb 02, 2023•5 min
Researchers define flow as an “optimal state of consciousness,” a peak state where we feel our best and perform our best. Here are some ways to hack that sh*t. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mind https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/live-life-at-the-limits-how-to-hack-your-flow/ WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podca...
Feb 01, 2023•8 min
By checking in with yourself - you can be confident, even in the suffering, that you’re on the right path + doing the best you can. The idea of “Living up to your full potential” is bull shit. You’re already doing that. The thing is - if you want to “live your best life” “no regrets” this bitch, you’re gonna have to get real with what you actually think would fulfill you in the end. And remember, there’s simply not enough time to live up to your full potential. So, this really comes down to gett...
Jan 31, 2023•8 min
Ben-Shahar says that often people who experience the arrival fallacy start off unhappy, and reach for a goal that is supposed to cure their sadness . When they find that success doesn’t fix their unhappiness, not only are they disappointed, but may end up feeling hopeless and depressed. Often, the arrival fallacy only makes unhappiness and mental states worse. RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-arrival-fallacy-6561079 https://sketchyideas.co/arrival-fallacy/ WATCH : www.youtube.com/...
Jan 30, 2023•7 min
Things to say to someone experiencing anxiety: I love you, I'm here for ya, you can vent to me but you definitely don't have to explain yourself, I understand, this is hard but I believe in you, take all the time you need, it's okay to feel like shit, you're not a burden, you're doing a great job, I'm sorry you're experiencing this shit, it makes sense you feel this way, how can I support you when you feel like this? Can I bring you a meal this weekend? Can I make you a tea? Can I check in again...
Jan 29, 2023•5 min
Sit for a second, imagine your dream partner looking you in your eyes and telling you allll that shit you wanna hear. Literally what would they say to you and make you feel seen and heard and valued and loved. Now open your eyes look in the mirror and say that shit to yourself. “One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others. There was a time when I felt lousy about my over-forty body, saw myself as too fat, too thi...
Jan 28, 2023•6 min
Perks of being a cry-baby: activates parasympathetic nervous system (chilling us out), releases stress hormones, releases pain duller hormones, helps identify our values, helps us process experiences, restores our emotional equilibrium, can encourage connection. RESOURCES: https://steptohealth.com/reasons-why-its-good-to-cry/ https://www.clevelandeyeclinic.com/2022/10/05/three-types-of-tears/ https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/is-crying-good-for-you-2021030122020 https://www.healthline.com/heal...
Jan 27, 2023•6 min
Our brain is designed to make shit easier and easier until it’s no longer taking up much brain power at all. Our brain loves boredom. Boredom means safety. Safety means ease. Ease means peace. Brains love that shit. I think it’s normal to get bored with life, but the fact of the matter is - I have access to the beauty of the world in High definition from the comfort of my couch in a few clicks, I can get cuisines of different cultures for just a few bucks, I don’t even have to talk to anyone. I ...
Jan 26, 2023•5 min
For me, I still sometimes struggle with the idea of seeing to make sure I am being “useful” in order to be and feel valued. By ensuring others are happy, I can control the energy and environment AND feel like I’m doing important work. Unlearning my fear of not being productive helped me delineate between helping people for altruistic reasons and helping people as a way to avoid potential conflict or uncomfortable energy. RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-...
Jan 25, 2023•7 min
The best strategy to ensure I’m not people pleasing and I’m simply “pleasing people” that I’ve found for me is: Forcing myself to take a minute to think before doing pretty much anything. I’m a mover and a shaker. I see a need, I fill a need. I like fixing. But the problem is, I can sometimes commit to things WAY before being ready. Or I can start fixing things that weren’t my issues to fix. Taking a few seconds to really consider if 1. I want to. 2. I can. 3. I should. Has changed the game for ...
Jan 24, 2023•7 min
some ways to get started: chunk it into smaller segments, start right now (1, 2, 3 method), reward systems, accountability systems, habit stack, dopamine pair, reframe "have to" to "choose to", body doubling (have a friend sit with you), do a "bad" job on purpose. WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagra...
Jan 23, 2023•7 min
hi cutie, you been hydrating + eating + moving for fun? i love ya. WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at www.betterhelp.com/makeyo...
Jan 22, 2023•6 min
I could have every sign point to soul mate and deep down I’d without a doubt, have some doubts. Because here’s the thing - as a society we expect people to know who we want to be FOREVER by 18, and who we want to be with FOREVER by 30? I’m sorry but if - all witches willing - we live a long and beautiful life, you’d like me to commit over half of it despite only being alive for a quarter of it?? That’s unhinged behavior. Gambling with growth, knowing full well most people have been changing thei...
Jan 21, 2023•7 min
Sometimes it feels like I'm dipping my toes into several ponds at once - and sometimes... that works for me. Other times, however, I thrive in a bit of structure. Routine is something I rarely seek out, but daggone it's valuable as hell for us neuro-spicy types. WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram....
Jan 20, 2023•6 min
According to https://www.additudemag.com/how-to-improve-executive-function-adhd/ a way to improve our executive functioning is to focus in on first reducing our stress levels. Don’t be afraid to draw explicit analogies between joyful hobbies and activities with the ones you’d like to improve for work or school. Transferring skills becomes easier when we remember the concepts behind them. WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH...
Jan 19, 2023•7 min
Resources say: "You can find plenty of self-tests to help evaluate your executive function skills online, but another route to consider involves asking yourself a few key questions: Do I have trouble processing and remembering things I learn? Is it tough for me to switch from one task to another? Do I have difficulty when plans change abruptly, especially if they disrupt my regular routine? Do I find focusing and paying attention challenging? Can I get started on things easily, or do I tend to d...
Jan 18, 2023•7 min
According to my* Harvard resource: "Being able to focus, hold, and work with information in mind, filter distractions, and switch gears is like having an air traffic control system at a busy airport to manage the arrivals and departures of dozens of planes on multiple runways. In the brain, this air traffic control mechanism is called executive function.” *RESOURCES: https://www.verywellhealth.com/executive-dysfunction-5225073 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Executive_functions https://www.goodthe...
Jan 17, 2023•6 min
kickin yourself for not doing laundry doesn't get the laundry done. you're doing great, truly. remember to enjoy that part of it. WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Yo...
Jan 16, 2023•7 min
Your goals don’t always have to be productive or capitalistic or important at all. In fact, I think it’s healthy as hell to have ridiculous, goofy ass goals - just for you. If you want to watch every show or film that Melissa McCarthy has touched, set your eye on the prize, pull up that IMDB resume and write yourself up a lil bingo card. If you want to travel to every pizzeria within a 12 mile radius and rank them so you can pull out your educated suggesties at any given moment - start that list...
Jan 15, 2023•6 min
Truly, if you get into the practice of giving yourself a few conscious seconds at the end of each “segment” or “task” you approach - just to restore everything to its original state - you’ll realize how much weight and power you were giving to things that didn’t deserve them. Take control of your space by ensuring it functions for you. Set up systems to help you create practices that make tidying less dreadful of a task, and more of an integral part of the system. WATCH : www.youtube.com/julieme...
Jan 14, 2023•7 min
One way to feel less bogged down by cleaning - is to integrate it into your process. Instead of viewing the “clean up” as it’s own chore, or a separate activity, begin integrating it into the last stage of whatever activity you’ve just completed. Often, we don’t feel up to confronting our clutter because the idea of “tidying” is a distinct, intense, dreaded process that can be put off. The thing is, clutter and dust compound, so I don’t advocate for letting it pile up - since that will create ev...
Jan 13, 2023•7 min
next time you find yourself in need of validation and would like to receive that sense of deep connection within your own headspace, try getting out of yours and into someone else’s. When we share, share, share, we naturally hesitate as we await a response of some type. Depending on that response, we feel more or less connected to the people we were aiming to connect with. Which ultimately means we’re putting our well-being and value in the hands of others who are ill-equipped to handle it. This...
Jan 12, 2023•7 min
I know for me, when I fall in love, it’s so easy to want to share every little aspect of my day with my person, to let them see me experience fully, and keep me company throughout every second of it. That said, no matter how well I share my experience, it doesn’t guarantee the other person will understand fully - as it’s not their own. So, when I am craving a deeper connection with my partner, instead of offering the same information as a way to let them in, I put offers out to them to encourage...
Jan 11, 2023•6 min
