All right, so speaking of stress, one thing that drives me crazy is the perpetual lie that everyone got stress is just like, you know, she believes it's time to start that epidemic and except the struggle that we caught it. What it is, it's BS. So today I'm super excited because I have expertise. ology is enologist show explain to to you what that means. Me honeycombe She has a secret to share how she can help you achieving far more enjoyable life and have a stress proof
stress. provable stress provable life. I'm having a good time up here. But I don't want to just be on the stage by myself without having her joining me. So I'm gonna bring you onto the show so that she can speak more about what she does as an ecologist. Alright, that's welcome, Amy. I mean, it was a mouthful for me to to, to say is ologists. So tell me about these ologists? Well, tell us about you i.
So I am an ecologist and I am an expert in helping people find create and can consistently use their essential and sustainable enjoyment. That is basically, without a lot of stress. That is the essential part of who we are meant to be. We are designed as humans to actually operate in a really happy content relaxed, and a state of ease. And most of us 99.9% of the world is still working on trying to be all stressed out every day, and they don't even know it.
Are you? Are you someone who is who has always been like taking an E taking a stand back? And you know, what everything is? About what? How did you? How did you get started?
So you know, the interesting thing is, and by the way, can I just say that, that loss of an hour in the daylight savings time, I'm totally with you on that, like, I woke up that Sunday morning, my husband informed me that it was daylight saving time, and I was like
crap. So, um, so thank you for at least sharing that because it's one of those little moments where you kind of like, oh, I felt the tension of that experience rise very quickly, and try to figure out how he's going to make use of that next hour, right. So I would love to be able to say that I have always been a really laid back person of ease, like my life has been completely stress less. But that would be a complete lie, because that is not the way that
the world works. And it's not the way that I was actually conditioned to work for a long time. I would say that in my history, one of the things that if I take myself back, I was a competitive athlete in college championship level. And this was the place where I would have to say, I started really putting two and two together about what stress started to look like and how it was impacting me at that time. And I found myself on the edge of my my national championship, and I had earned
my way there. And I have been very prolific, very successful in my career as a competitive athlete. And what I found myself feeling like something was missing, and I was desperate to figure it out. Like I knew if I went to this this championship without getting what I needed, I was screwed somehow. So stress is a little high. But the reality of what that was, was that I was questioning, how do
you believe in yourself? And all of the things that had gotten me there as far as successful, right, good student, following lots of rules very, there were a lot of things in my life that were seemingly as people would say, going really well. They were successful. But there was this level of tension, this level of disbelief kind of doubt, this, this element of push and struggle that was constant, and it was considered
normal. And I went to ask people around me, I'm like, how do you believe in yourself? person after person after person would just say, oh, you know, you just just do it. And I was so confused by that, because I thought, they're not telling me how to do it. And they don't look any different than I do. Needless to say, that was the beginning of me starting this journey of of what stress was looking like and I was launching into my life as a young woman then leaving college Having a
family living life. Eventually I essentially became a massage therapist. And my I've been a massage therapist now for more than 20 years. And it's been the combination of experiencing things in my life for my betterment. And the combination of being in my practice watching, and learning the language and the wisdom of the body, that I started to see a very different view of what stress does, how does it impact
us. And I started to see it in so many different ways that I started experimenting with myself, I was using a lot of these things, I was watching what was happening with my clients, I was kind of using myself as a self experiment, really in stress and figuring out, could I work with individuals and work with myself and find ways to relieve this
kind of stress. And there was a moment that happened in my life, where I literally kind of came face to face with being able to have that conversation with what I felt was the deepest part of stress, which for me happened to be a really strong critical inner voice. And I call it my dragon, like it was always breathing down my neck, right. And, and I have to say that there was a moment in this world of things in the experiment that
I was doing of my life. And in my work that it kind of all came to a to a place of new awareness, I have actually felt the experience of my own ease. In a way I had never experienced it before. And it was as if I literally didn't even know it existed. It was that brand new in my own being. And it was like, it was like crack. It was addictive. It felt so good. It felt so simple. And it didn't take having to become a monk for 20 years to try and figure it
out. It didn't take right I started to experiment with my clients. And I started realizing I could actually help them get to this place of ease. And the more that I learned about it, the more I started to change my perspective, that stress is not life stress is not norm, that I started to uncover what is stress and how to unlock it for people so that it doesn't show up in their world in ways that are symptoms, but not the root
cause. So I myself started to live and breathe and walk and talk and kind of start to embody this idea. Like, what if I lived my life more in that and I started to actually condition myself to balance that and I have access to a state of ease that is much more at my own command. And in a way, it allows me to have access to my resources, that truly creates what feels like, I'm able to stress proof because stress is not running me. I can choose to be in my stress in different
capacities. And I'm much better at being able to have my life not be run by stress.
I think what's interesting to me is that, you know, a lot of us, especially I think women, and even men, too, we are very competitive in our life. And no matter which field that we're in, we're constantly thinking about doing things. And I was actually just on another call. And one of the guy a gentleman actually said that, oh, you know, I have to find out a way to do something, do more
of what I already do. And I'm thinking that like, where does that idea come from that we have this need of doing something more, and not recognizing the fact that we're already doing it. So good being that competitor, being that competitive mode, it really creates a lot of tension and stress for us. So I'm curious, what were some of the things that really truly show up for you as you started to recognize that stress has been the, the the underlying there's a root cause. Yes, that stress.
So as I watched my clients because that they were like the best experiment ever that nobody knows they signed up for right? But I could I got the privilege of being able to work with people and be able to see the different varieties. What was the stress? And what were the symptoms that people seem to be focused on? And these are the symptoms that I like to say these are symptoms of struggle. And when we're in the symptoms of struggle, we are actually in
the place of being stressed. And oftentimes what I've noticed is that comparison is one it's conditioned into our culture. We learn everything, even as a child, right? This is an apple, this is an orange, we compare the two, we don't focus on the fact that they're fruit. We're, we're looking at how they're different and compare, right? And so we get very conditioned in our experience in our culture. And the way that we work, even stress. It's, I'm, excuse me, even success itself.
Is, is created to be a huge comparative, right? It's first place. Or if you're second, then you're the first loser, right? Like, I think Ricky Bobby taught me that Talladega Nights the movie isn't really funny. But the whole point of reference is, is that everything about even trying to achieve our own success becomes this level of as right you say, people don't recognize what they're already
doing. They don't see this the success that they're having, they're not noticing the part of the Progress, or the process that they're in. And why is because things like this will show up. It tell me whether or not any of these are familiar, like, ah, feeling kind of out of balance. You mentioned you're feeling tension right here in your neck. Right? The physical tension in your body is actually an expression of being in a
state of fight or flight. The How about feeling pressure or like uncomfortable headaches, right? Low back pain is very common headaches and low back pain in the United States. Next to blood pressure medication and heart disease are pretty much what everybody goes to the doctor for, right? I mean, it's hysterical. And rather than give them a pill, we need to actually get them out of stress. So how about some things like kind of a gloomy mood, everything is kind of like, you can't really figure
stuff out? I don't know, treadmill, right. When you're stuck on this place where it's indecision? I don't know, what's the right thing to do? I don't know where? How about things like, oh, has anybody ever told you being too emotional about something?
I am ready to slap them when they tell me that.
You're like, You're being too emotional, right? Oh, here's a good one. It's really common. Procrastination for people. Procrastination is a sign you are in a stressful conflict within yourself, right? The feeling of like a loss of motivation, or a lack of passion, or even a sense of like, you feel lonely, even though you're around people. These are portions, these are expressions, these are characteristics that show up and their symptoms, but they're not
the root cause. And oftentimes people the saddest part about it is we have a tendency to blame ourselves or view ourselves as broken or not enough or not being able to, we don't have what it takes, right? So we're not only being kind of in a way, there's a whole there's a whole mindset that is a shaming, success mindset. Like if you don't burn the boats and make
progress, right. But my question is, when you can't step off the cliff, are you are you really honestly doing yourself a disservice by not stepping off the cliff?
We got to get ready to jump all the time.
People are ready. Yeah, people are on the edge, one legs dangling, and they're not really sure what they're doing. But they feel the loss of stability, right. But they're what they're not recognizing is that there is a root cause. And if you are locked in your stress pattern, which most humans in our culture happen to be, we drive for it, we sit we we live and breathe as if it's a badge of honor that, you know, being stressed out and
overwhelmed, is just normal. And it's actually not it really, if we are to actually look at the biology of the human, as it sits in its arm, right? Our adrenals are literally only the size of walnuts, they're like this big. They sit on our on our kidneys, those adrenals are supposed to help us run from the tiger to survive. Right? But 99% of the time, people are working those adrenals because they're running from the tiger all the time. Right? But I want you to imagine
something. And this is good for for anyone but particularly and especially for your your audience, right? They're achievers, they they want to make an impact. But the reality of where you are, oftentimes is that in the process of you seeking your success. I want you to imagine this as if it's a movie right? You are trying to sit down and underneath the pressure Tree and you're trying to eat a turkey sandwich and really enjoy it right? But you're running for the tiger at
the same time. Now, it does that even make sense? Can you do those two things? One, you could probably choke because that would my mother always say don't eat and run, right? So the challenge is, is that we are actually biologically designed
to only run from that tiger. On rare occasions, the vast majority of the time that our nervous system is actually created and designed physiologically is so that we actually can sit underneath of the tree, ponder the world have a happy content, really enjoy that turkey sandwich noticing the ladybugs and the birds and the shapes of the clouds. But isn't it strange that we push, push, push, and don't recognize that what we're doing is conditioning, a fight or flight
stress factor. And we're really never giving ourselves an opportunity to take a break, and be able to actually have the moment. So enjoying where we are when people are in comparison, it can be really difficult, because you're not going to see that as well. Why? Because it's not the priority. When you're running from the tiger. We're not sitting around saying oh, hey, how's that sandwich? No, we're running for our stinking lives trying to make sure that we're getting done what we need
to get done. Right. And that's why there's this element that it's almost laughable that we are human beings. And the one thing that most people discount is our actual human being our own physiology in the process. We're listening to this thought these these voices in our head, right, this monkey mind a lot. But we're not actually present in our body. We're not actually able to feel our whole body and do what we're doing at the same time. Because we're in fight or flight,
and how do we get how do we get to the root? Cause? I think you know, a lot of those, you know, I recognize that I got stress and recognizing, acknowledging my overwhelming feeling, but how do I find what is really causing distress.
So there's a really, my first suggestion is that it's time for you to actually experience your own ease. Like you actually have to give yourself an opportunity to switch yourself out of that nervous system and come into the nervous system of ease, which is rest and rejuvenation. Healing happens only in that nervous system. Right. So how about would you be willing to be a little experiment? Right? Okay, let's, my signature. I have what I call is a volley compass stalking. And I want to do this
with you. Because one, it will give you an opportunity to experience it for yourself and your audience will be able to kind of come along with this and experience it for themselves, I don't have to convince anybody, I just want you to find your own actual nervous system that works for you instead of working against it, right. So I want you to sit on the edge of your table, I was sorry, the edge of your seat if you were to sit on the table. Alright, so I want you to sit on the on the edge of
your chair. But I want you to put your heels of your feet out in front of your knees. So like if you look down at the back of your knees, just make sure that the heels are in front of your knees further away from you. Right and have your feet about shoulder width apart for me. So now do you notice that you can feel the bones in your butt really well? Yeah, okay, those are the places where that I want you to use those to or to use those as a point of reference
right. Now I want you to put your hands on the sides of your hip bone. So I want you to just feel the sides of your hips so that you know where they are and push it. And now what you want to do is I want you to imagine there's a bowl of water that you're making with this hippo. Okay, and what we're gonna do is we're going to rock that bowl of water forward so that your shoulders stay up towards the ceiling, but your pelvis is going to rock towards the floor.
So it's your belly button is going to want to fall out and you're going to make a big giant breath. Okay, and then we're going to exhale, and you're going to pull the belly button back in and you're going to roll that bowl of water and spill water out the back. your tailbone is going to tuck underneath of you, you're going to kind of sink, right. So as we breathe in, we're going to come up over those bones and we're gonna roll to the front of those bones again, and you're gonna
breathe in. The belly button just falls to the floor opens up, right? Exhale, we're gonna pull that belly button back in and you're gonna rock that pelvis back, tucking that tail underneath of you. So notice how I'm going up. Right, so breathe in. Good. Exhale, pull that belly button in, tuck that tail under. One more time for me, we're gonna rock that pelvis spill water off. front all the way out the front tailbone up in the back like a Duck Butt,
right? And then we're going to tuck it back, spill water out the back, good exhaling. And now this time I want you to breathe in. And I want you to come to right over those sits bones where you think you're right in the middle. And notice you sink right onto them, right? Good clue is you're gonna feel them into the surface, right? But now you're starting to feel, do you notice that your shoulders dropped? Did you notice that your elbows get heavy? Did you notice that your head just kind
of sits there? Right now put your hands just palms up. Just put your hands on your thighs. Right. I want you to notice. What are your feet feel like? They feel heavy. Can you actually feel your feet on the floor?
It feels grounded. They feel grounded,
don't they? Yeah, it's like it feels like everything in your lower half feels really solid, doesn't it? Yeah, it's like it's there. Now do you notice what's happening? And I want to tell you why this is powerful. What's happening in your upper body? Do you notice that you actually feel like just it's really easy to sit there? Yeah, you don't have to actually try and you know, like, hold myself up. You're not trying to hold yourself up, right? But I want
you to notice something else. Do you notice that your mind like it's kind of quiet? Huh? Yeah. Do you notice that it got really just quiet like there's not a lot? Now watch what happens here. I want to I want you to close your eyes. And I want you to imagine I'm going to say something and I want you to imagine what I tell you. And I want you to notice your response. Right? Okay, Michelle, there's a tiger coming. Did you feel a sense of urgency to like, open your eyes and figure it
out? No. What did you feel? What did you notice? Oh, wait, okay. Right. You ever just missed acknowledgement? It's like, it's almost no, let me see if this rings true. Does it feel kind of like, okay, well, I'll figure out if that's a problem. And if it is a problem, see if this rings true. I'm pretty capable of handling it. I'll notice when that Tigers coming? Yes. You noticed that? How? Well is this? Because this is letting you know, you have essentially just like, okay, and I don't I? It's
coffee, it feels good. Do you notice now that the lower half of your body, like your whole body is starting to actually wake up. You can feel like you start to tingle or feel warm, or like there's different sensations that people describe. But you're you're not thinking a whole lot more, you're actually feeling more of yourself. And you feel actually it feels kind of good, doesn't it? It just is easy. It's almost effortless.
Yes. And he feels very relaxed, it feels that you are able to be in that present moment. Yes. You know, it's interesting, because we're doing interview right now. And there's like an agenda I'm going through and in every single moment during this conversation. So Right. It feels like as I'm doing the exercise, it feels like oh, let me just sit back and sink in. Right? Did you anything and things will just go as the way that it should be?
Okay, so does that feel like less stress to you?
For sure. I mean, what's also interesting is if I feel that my shoulder just all of a sudden he just like released,
that's what I was gonna ask you is like, tell me how that shoulder feels back there. Like do you feel the tension relief of that muscle? Right response actually getting some ease. Now here's the best part. And this is why I want to tell you why
this is happening. Because you know, when you stand on a beach and you're in the waves, and while you stand on the beach, although those sand granules are like pulling out from underneath of you, and you feel like oh, I might fall on my fall, I might fall and then boom, you feel the bottom and you're like, oh, okay, I got this right. Same thing your body is feeling gravity. This is what I this is
a superior biohack people. This is me helping you use your own biology to essentially work with yourself instead of against it. We're working with your natural process your natural reflexes to give the body the feedback that it needs to know that it is solid, it is on ground, it feels the structure stacked and just like when you put a blouse on a hanger, you can relax because it has structure to hang on. Right? Your body now can relax because it has the foundation has showed
up. The right nervous system of being relaxed is actually activated and Your body responds without a blip, it goes right into it. And the most beautiful part of this is that this has been within you the whole time, since the moment you were created. Your nervous system is the solution to you living, nearly stress proof of life. It's whether or not you know how to access it, condition it and keep it consistent, so that you're living your life in what is essentially a sustainable
state of enjoyment. And that my friends, is a powerful, powerful gift to yourself.
Oh my gosh. Oh, my listening to you here I am going on my heart just like, oh, wow, this is powerful shit that you're offering.
This is amazing work. I every human on the planet, I just my heart that I have a message to share that this alone is something that is simple. And yet it leverages your ability to function in life in such a way that it is transformative. It is absolutely transformative. And it and the best part is, it is anchored in ease and enjoyment. And those are two things. I particularly like a lot.
How do you how do you work with clients? Like how do you wait, where is their first step?
Oh, my gosh, first step so they can email me because I have a couple of pieces. I have a couple of things that I would love. One is I have a PDF about biohacking that specifically will give you some introductory bio hacks that I love to use. Right. And so this little PDF biohacking the shortcuts to shift stress in just minutes,
right. And this little bugger here is it's a quick read, it's just a little mini ebook, but it's chock full of at least four powerful bio hacks that start with these and you enter these into your daily practice. And I promise you, you will see gains immediately, immediately in just being able to have the opportunity to give yourself a chance to rest and be in the right nervous system. So emailing me at my Let's see, oh, there it is. I see it below here, Amy at body compass method
calm. I work with people individually, and I'm working towards a group program. But I also have a really wise and very insightful quiz that people can take. And so the other is, my question is, Are you stressed proof, right. And so learning your stress proof quotient, literally, literally is going to be a game changer for you.
Because knowing whether or not you are able to stress proof your life, or whether you're still fighting and you're in fight or flight, and you're just locked in, we've got to get you unlocked. And this my friends is is a is a great place to find out where your hidden stress factors are, so that you can actually start the path of getting yourself into a freer, easier, happier life.
And and so I'm assuming both of them both copies, they can just email you, you know which one to get.
Okay, yes, just say, Hey, I saw you on Michelle's podcast, or is that we're doing we're podcasting.
Yeah, we're doing a podcast in the live show.
I saw you on the shells. I'd love to have the resource. And I will send them directly to you. And then if there's I work with people individually, and it's a very unique opportunity to be able to help people literally break free from the very thing that's being created within themselves. It Yeah, it's a gift. And I I love I love what I do. And I love the ability to help people come home to themselves in a way that they actually you know, but that's
the whole point. Like when you come home doesn't it always feel good to come home? And like your bed your pillow? Like there's just the comfort of it. That's what it should be like to be who you are. There should just be that ease. Like, okay, I'm good.
That's how I felt earlier. I'm like,
I'm good. Right? Yeah. Carry on. I just went, Okay, so I wanted to the thing I want most people to see is is like, I it gets addicting. And it's it takes a moment to be addicted to it. Because it just feels so good to be at ease and to be that comfortable to be in the right nervous system.
Yeah. Oh, I think one of the biggest struggle that a lot of people have is that we're all aware that this is actually a source of stress. And you know, we're all like doing doing doing even though a lot of us we practice self care, we know that taking that moment to relax. But yet, there's still that underlying struggle that we're experiencing in our life where I don't even know where it came from. And it's that moment.
And what I'm hearing is by downloading these PDFs, or getting these PDF from you, they actually have that level of awareness to really look at where am I stress? And how do I how do I actually use this score? To assess myself and how to how can I improve? So I love the fact that you're creating and bringing that awareness to to your clients?
Thank you. And I'm happy to do it. Because one person less stressed is a better world. Let me tell you,
yeah, so So again, they can find you at Amy at body compass. method.com. And I will make sure to have that in the Episode Notes. So anyone who's a listener can go and just hit you up with an email and just ask you for these free resources that you have.
Please do please, please, please, you will, you will be better for it. I promise you.
Any last word of advice for our listeners.
Um, the value is his life does not have to be stressful, and it is bullshit that everyone's got stress. We don't all got stress, we create the stress. And we can get to the root cause and actually live a life that is naturally supportive of being a much more enjoyable and stress provable life. And that's what I want to help people achieve.
Love it, love it. And I can hear your energy coming through this episode. And I would love to see get more people getting your PDF because I've seen it and I actually experienced it during this episode. So yeah,
that's why you knew that your neck was stress.
My neck and I feel more at ease, right?
Yeah. Yeah, thank you for having me.
All right, I'm gonna put you to go backstage so I can close up the show. Hi, everyone. Alright, ladies, if you will have been stressing out and wondering what to create on
your next piece of content. Here it is with Amy's ease, expert ease ologists Amy Honeycutt, hopefully she had given you some great, great tips on how you can identify that root cause of, of stress where it came from, and also go and get a copy of her three resource so that you can learn more about your stress score and how do you how do you improve upon that, and I will have all the information in the Episode Notes. Until next time, bye now.